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By *inkyfun2013 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Our club experiences to date haven't been great. We haven't clicked with anyone at couples events, and Mrs K is put off events that allow single men because she doesn't like guys just following couples and wanking over them. What's the best club around London to avoid the wanking dead, and does it reduce their numbers or eliminate them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know anything about London clubs. My clubs of choice are all in the Midlands, but in 13+ years of visiting clubs I've only experienced this a handful of times.

Maybe you have been unlucky......or maybe I'm not appealing enough to follow round while having a wank

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't some clubs do couples only nights?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally me and My Girl have found this is vastly reduced on couples nights. Still occasionally get a guy or two who's parted from the lady their with, but no gangs of guys. Also different clubs/nights/times seems to be better or worse (don't know the London scene so can't advise).

As to how to avoid them not real advice apart from digression and sneaking off to a play room without them spotting you. It's a bit like a life zombie role play. However we have been in clubs where there is loads of single guys and few couples. In this scenario we've found they very quickly become aware of your no longer being around in the social area and flock off in hopeful search for you. Sometimes we'll run off, find a space and just have a private conversation. Sure another the guys find us, realise we're just having a mundane conversation and leave. Then once they walk away we fuck the shit out of each other.

It's not that we mind being watched. What bothers us is them all just trying to help them selves to a piece of our actions or one or two of them trying to push their way in. Or something it's the distracting comments or cringy noises being made or the heckling. That's annoying and distracting. Most guys are great but it's just one or two who ruin things and prevent you from being ablebto enjoy the club care free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our club experiences to date haven't been great. We haven't clicked with anyone at couples events, and Mrs K is put off events that allow single men because she doesn't like guys just following couples and wanking over them. What's the best club around London to avoid the wanking dead, and does it reduce their numbers or eliminate them? "

If you are interested in things beyond swingers clubs, Klub Verboten does not allow solo wankers. It’s a kinky queer rave with a playroom, as opposed to a swingers club, but you can have sex there (it doesn’t have to be BDSM sex although they have BDSM equipment). Solo people are allowed in the playroom but if anyone touches themselves while not being involved in a scene, they get removed.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

We don't know the London clubs, however of the seven clubs we've been to we've not had problems with guys. We go to a club that allows single men, we go and play in a lockable room, sometimes with a voyeur window so we can be watched (but you can't see them). Some men will indeed watch some action and play with themselves, however we've never heard of anyone who's been wanked over that didn't want it!

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By *inkyfun2013 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

Thanks everyone for the helpful answers. Our problem may be that we like some single men, but not the rest - and we don't know which ones they are until afterwards!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

need to be pointed out its not just single guys alot of them are one half of couples too ..

also to be fair its not all clubs that this happens and there are guys who do know how to control themselves ..

we find those who follow and wank are the ones who never play and more often than not are the guys who go very regular i dont think they want to play they just want to see and wank ...but its easy to say no to them most of them back off when you say no even if you have to say it a bit louder ...

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"Personally me and My Girl have found this is vastly reduced on couples nights. Still occasionally get a guy or two who's parted from the lady their with, but no gangs of guys. Also different clubs/nights/times seems to be better or worse (don't know the London scene so can't advise).

As to how to avoid them not real advice apart from digression and sneaking off to a play room without them spotting you. It's a bit like a life zombie role play. However we have been in clubs where there is loads of single guys and few couples. In this scenario we've found they very quickly become aware of your no longer being around in the social area and flock off in hopeful search for you. Sometimes we'll run off, find a space and just have a private conversation. Sure another the guys find us, realise we're just having a mundane conversation and leave. Then once they walk away we fuck the shit out of each other.

It's not that we mind being watched. What bothers us is them all just trying to help them selves to a piece of our actions or one or two of them trying to push their way in. Or something it's the distracting comments or cringy noises being made or the heckling. That's annoying and distracting. Most guys are great but it's just one or two who ruin things and prevent you from being ablebto enjoy the club care free."

Er, when you say creepy noises and heckling, what do you mean?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Personally me and My Girl have found this is vastly reduced on couples nights. Still occasionally get a guy or two who's parted from the lady their with, but no gangs of guys. Also different clubs/nights/times seems to be better or worse (don't know the London scene so can't advise).

As to how to avoid them not real advice apart from digression and sneaking off to a play room without them spotting you. It's a bit like a life zombie role play. However we have been in clubs where there is loads of single guys and few couples. In this scenario we've found they very quickly become aware of your no longer being around in the social area and flock off in hopeful search for you. Sometimes we'll run off, find a space and just have a private conversation. Sure another the guys find us, realise we're just having a mundane conversation and leave. Then once they walk away we fuck the shit out of each other.

It's not that we mind being watched. What bothers us is them all just trying to help them selves to a piece of our actions or one or two of them trying to push their way in. Or something it's the distracting comments or cringy noises being made or the heckling. That's annoying and distracting. Most guys are great but it's just one or two who ruin things and prevent you from being ablebto enjoy the club care free.

Er, when you say creepy noises and heckling, what do you mean?"

Cringy comments more than creepy (granted cringe is subjective). That sort of cometary out loud some guys make. And not always just the words they say but how they say them (if that makes sense). Or sometimes those strange random sex noises sent in our direction. I know everyone is there to do their thing. But personally just prefer people to enjoy watching and keeping their comments to them self rather that giving out running commentary and opinion. Just seems bad form/etiquette to me. And yes we've heard what I'd describe as heckling in the past. Although to be fair when I think about it the worse heckling I've heard in my time have both been from women. The worse was two very young d*unk women who also threw their empty cans through the cage door. And the second worse was by a lady (we know to be a regular) who likes to e centre of attention and her freind. I suspect the heckling was because this time she was not centre of attention as our freinds were playing with us not her or her freind. We were all not impressed by their dickish behaviour and left the room. So to be fair when I think about sometimes the worse behaviour has been women.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"Thanks everyone for the helpful answers. Our problem may be that we like some single men, but not the rest - and we don't know which ones they are until afterwards!"

My line is that if they can’t be bothered with me in the bar, I can’t be bothered in the playroom. I won’t engage with someone I don’t recognise now. That’s cut my drama back 90% or so.

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By *arcteggMan
over a year ago

grays

I’ve been to eureka as a single guy and a couple - I was fascinated my first time , I was on own , I found myself saying “look at all those guys following the women and couples around ..,I’m better than that . But …As soon as I saw a single lady roaming ,I was following -if I saw a couple in a room I was desperately trying to get them to notice or watch .

It didn’t occur to me how I was acting until I went with a partner, and received the same attention .

It put me off going as a single guy tbh , but I did go back and tried to control myself … Still it inevitably got the better of me . I walked by a room to watch , and was invited in !

It’s a difficult feeling to control if alone .

That being said , it’s down to having respect - if you can tell the cpl or single lady is not interested then walk away . Or go on a couples only evening .

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By *ammitlizzieCouple
over a year ago

Sutton

Hilarious title!

We find this too at clubs. I guess with single guys paying 2/3 times as much as a couple I guess they feel like they are owed a show. It really kills the vibe though.

We just sit there and stare at them unresponsive till they go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all single men do this. I stay at the bar, chatting and hoping to be invited to play. Hasn’t happened yet, but I’m forever optimistic.

Maybe the problem is I wait to be invited and I should be more forceful. But I like to think of myself as respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To deal with wanking dead... One must deliver a striking blow to the head

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By *erandhimstaffsCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

try a couples and single females night at a club or some clubs have rooms or floors that they’re not allowed in

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Don’t go to Rios!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"Don’t go to Rios! "

We've heard that its a bit like the Wild West but without the firearms for protection. A predatory is vibe. Only a place for the very assertive and the cock greedy is the impression we get.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Don’t go to Rios! "

Yep this was a bit like that for us. Same for Gems.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"We don't know the London clubs, however of the seven clubs we've been to we've not had problems with guys. We go to a club that allows single men, we go and play in a lockable room, sometimes with a voyeur window so we can be watched (but you can't see them). Some men will indeed watch some action and play with themselves, however we've never heard of anyone who's been wanked over that didn't want it!"

Some do try to get in the Naked Room rather than watching through the window at the Attic, but a death stare from one of the group usually is enough to repel them

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

We like single guys.. Y's quite the exhibitionist, but we've experienced similar on nights when the less respectful men were in attendance..

It's very off putting to lift your head and some guy, you've not even spoke to is stroking it less than 2 feet from your face!!

Have only done organised events or couple's only nights since..

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"We like single guys.. Y's quite the exhibitionist, but we've experienced similar on nights when the less respectful men were in attendance..

It's very off putting to lift your head and some guy, you've not even spoke to is stroking it less than 2 feet from your face!!

Have only done organised events or couple's only nights since.."

This happened to me while Mr Fox had his head somewhere he couldn't see from, next time I'd speak up for myself!

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"We like single guys.. Y's quite the exhibitionist, but we've experienced similar on nights when the less respectful men were in attendance..

It's very off putting to lift your head and some guy, you've not even spoke to is stroking it less than 2 feet from your face!!

Have only done organised events or couple's only nights since.."

This is why 6 in a room is fun, at least one person isn't face-deep in someone else to act as guard dog

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"We like single guys.. Y's quite the exhibitionist, but we've experienced similar on nights when the less respectful men were in attendance..

It's very off putting to lift your head and some guy, you've not even spoke to is stroking it less than 2 feet from your face!!

Have only done organised events or couple's only nights since..

This happened to me while Mr Fox had his head somewhere he couldn't see from, next time I'd speak up for myself!"

Oh Y's more than capable of telling anyone to fuck off .. It just spoiled the show for others observing, lol.. We've no issue with being watched at all, quite enjoy it. But there's limit's

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By *rincess Peach xxCouple
over a year ago

leeds


"Our club experiences to date haven't been great. We haven't clicked with anyone at couples events, and Mrs K is put off events that allow single men because she doesn't like guys just following couples and wanking over them. What's the best club around London to avoid the wanking dead, and does it reduce their numbers or eliminate them? "

Wanking dead. That’s genius. We get a lot of messages off the wanking dead

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot

We go to clubs and like to meet single guys there

The guys stand more chance of being invited to go in a room with either Jess on her own or a threesum with both of us by engaging in conversation with both of us

Guy’s following us around wanking don’t stand a chance with us

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

The wanking dead.. Quite a known term, also 'Stealth bomber' uninvited touching or worse from an individual hoping you are otherwise engaged and won't notice..

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"We go to clubs and like to meet single guys there

The guys stand more chance of being invited to go in a room with either Jess on her own or a threesum with both of us by engaging in conversation with both of us

Guy’s following us around wanking don’t stand a chance with us"

Absolutely!! Some are so persistent too! Like a continued annoyance will result in a 'Oh go on then..' #PalmFace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We go to clubs and like to meet single guys there

The guys stand more chance of being invited to go in a room with either Jess on her own or a threesum with both of us by engaging in conversation with both of us

Guy’s following us around wanking don’t stand a chance with us"

No banter = no interest

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot


"We go to clubs and like to meet single guys there

The guys stand more chance of being invited to go in a room with either Jess on her own or a threesum with both of us by engaging in conversation with both of us

Guy’s following us around wanking don’t stand a chance with us

Absolutely!! Some are so persistent too! Like a continued annoyance will result in a 'Oh go on then..' #PalmFace "

Yea am sure some think like that lol

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot


"We go to clubs and like to meet single guys there

The guys stand more chance of being invited to go in a room with either Jess on her own or a threesum with both of us by engaging in conversation with both of us

Guy’s following us around wanking don’t stand a chance with us

No banter = no interest "

That’s so true

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

So annoying. It’s on of the things thats put me off taking girlfriends to swinging clubs.

Not just being followed by men, but feeling hordes of eyes on you and constantly being approached by single men fuck hunting isn’t every woman or couples idea of fun. There should be some clubs with clear rules against this

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Boils down to, how would you approach someone in vanilla life? A lack of respect and creepy behavior wouldn't work then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So annoying. It’s on of the things thats put me off taking girlfriends to swinging clubs.

Not just being followed by men, but feeling hordes of eyes on you and constantly being approached by single men fuck hunting isn’t every woman or couples idea of fun. There should be some clubs with clear rules against this "

I'm pretty sure they have some clear rules about it at Jaydees and from what I remember reading on one of the posters on the wall it says anyone caught bothering someone doing it will get kicked out, I still find the odd guy lurking around the private rooms asking to join as you go in with someone but they normally go away when you say no

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"We like single guys.. Y's quite the exhibitionist, but we've experienced similar on nights when the less respectful men were in attendance..

It's very off putting to lift your head and some guy, you've not even spoke to is stroking it less than 2 feet from your face!!

Have only done organised events or couple's only nights since..

This happened to me while Mr Fox had his head somewhere he couldn't see from, next time I'd speak up for myself!

Oh Y's more than capable of telling anyone to fuck off .. It just spoiled the show for others observing, lol.. We've no issue with being watched at all, quite enjoy it. But there's limit's "

Absolutely! I'm annoyed I didn't speak up as it was very unsettling

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester


"I don't know anything about London clubs. My clubs of choice are all in the Midlands, but in 13+ years of visiting clubs I've only experienced this a handful of times.

Maybe you have been unlucky......or maybe I'm not appealing enough to follow round while having a wank "

We tend to go to clubs in midlands and it does seem the guys are more respectable although I'm still surprised they haven't had a wank over you x

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London


"When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it "

Cock Conga lol

That's a new one!

I call it The Benny Hill Strut! Lol

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Our club experiences to date haven't been great. We haven't clicked with anyone at couples events, and Mrs K is put off events that allow single men because she doesn't like guys just following couples and wanking over them. What's the best club around London to avoid the wanking dead, and does it reduce their numbers or eliminate them?

If you are interested in things beyond swingers clubs, Klub Verboten does not allow solo wankers. It’s a kinky queer rave with a playroom, as opposed to a swingers club, but you can have sex there (it doesn’t have to be BDSM sex although they have BDSM equipment). Solo people are allowed in the playroom but if anyone touches themselves while not being involved in a scene, they get removed. "

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Our club experiences to date haven't been great. We haven't clicked with anyone at couples events, and Mrs K is put off events that allow single men because she doesn't like guys just following couples and wanking over them. What's the best club around London to avoid the wanking dead, and does it reduce their numbers or eliminate them? "

No clue about London, but Dangerous Curves nights at Liberty Elite and Curvaceous Creatures at Purple Mamba don't get them at all really....which is a big part of why I (a single guy myself) go to both. Neither tolerate disrespectful tossers (of any description!).

It doesn't just apply to single guys though - we all get a bad rep. die to the dickheads, but there are couples and single females who also behave badly in clubs.

To be fair there are plenty of places/nights where us single fellas are completely unwelcome - and those where we get sneered at, no matter whether we're good guys or not.

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I find this wanking dead thing really weird. Just had my first club night, as a single male, and went with two other couples who are friends. Although we mainly stayed as a group, and played, I also had a wander round, seeing what the score was, watching some people playing etc. At no point did I feel like getting him out and waving it around like some sexual predator. I watched smiled and moved on. I was amazed when I saw a young woman walk past and groups of guys turned, like zombies, and started to follow her, they didn’t have a clue where she was going, or what she was doing, but off they went, like they were under a spell. Are all clubs like this? No wonder us single guys have such a bad reputation

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Personally me and My Girl have found this is vastly reduced on couples nights. Still occasionally get a guy or two who's parted from the lady their with, but no gangs of guys. Also different clubs/nights/times seems to be better or worse (don't know the London scene so can't advise).

As to how to avoid them not real advice apart from digression and sneaking off to a play room without them spotting you. It's a bit like a life zombie role play. However we have been in clubs where there is loads of single guys and few couples. In this scenario we've found they very quickly become aware of your no longer being around in the social area and flock off in hopeful search for you. Sometimes we'll run off, find a space and just have a private conversation. Sure another the guys find us, realise we're just having a mundane conversation and leave. Then once they walk away we fuck the shit out of each other.

It's not that we mind being watched. What bothers us is them all just trying to help them selves to a piece of our actions or one or two of them trying to push their way in. Or something it's the distracting comments or cringy noises being made or the heckling. That's annoying and distracting. Most guys are great but it's just one or two who ruin things and prevent you from being ablebto enjoy the club care free."

You're definitely going to the wrong places then - sounds awful! I'd avoid places like that, even as a single guy myself!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Thanks everyone for the helpful answers. Our problem may be that we like some single men, but not the rest - and we don't know which ones they are until afterwards!

My line is that if they can’t be bothered with me in the bar, I can’t be bothered in the playroom. I won’t engage with someone I don’t recognise now. That’s cut my drama back 90% or so. "

Excellent approach!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it "

I had this in chams. One guy id say was late 70's kept following me to the toilet and locker room. Became quite creepy. Jo

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I find this wanking dead thing really weird. Just had my first club night, as a single male, and went with two other couples who are friends. Although we mainly stayed as a group, and played, I also had a wander round, seeing what the score was, watching some people playing etc. At no point did I feel like getting him out and waving it around like some sexual predator. I watched smiled and moved on. I was amazed when I saw a young woman walk past and groups of guys turned, like zombies, and started to follow her, they didn’t have a clue where she was going, or what she was doing, but off they went, like they were under a spell. Are all clubs like this? No wonder us single guys have such a bad reputation "

Couldn't have put it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes yu think people wish to wxnk over you I don't for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Would it be frowned upon to tell them to fuck off and leave you alone?

This is what puts me off going to a club

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"Would it be frowned upon to tell them to fuck off and leave you alone?

This is what puts me off going to a club "

Absolutely not!!!! Any ambiguity is often confused for consent so crack on! x

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"I find this wanking dead thing really weird. Just had my first club night, as a single male, and went with two other couples who are friends. Although we mainly stayed as a group, and played, I also had a wander round, seeing what the score was, watching some people playing etc. At no point did I feel like getting him out and waving it around like some sexual predator. I watched smiled and moved on. I was amazed when I saw a young woman walk past and groups of guys turned, like zombies, and started to follow her, they didn’t have a clue where she was going, or what she was doing, but off they went, like they were under a spell. Are all clubs like this? No wonder us single guys have such a bad reputation "

D has been a single guy within the lifestyle before and has the same opinion But as always the minority spoil it for all..

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Would it be frowned upon to tell them to fuck off and leave you alone?

This is what puts me off going to a club "

I want to do this next time but Mr Fox would probably faint for fear of me offending someone

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By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

I often meet my FWB at kestrels and guys following you is a regular issue but if we want privacy we go to a private room. We are both at heart exhibitionists so we often enjoy them watching and if anyone steps over the mark we are both good at letting them know.

If you don’t want them there at all then I would suggest a couples only night or like us go for a private room

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don’t think I’d mind too much if I found them attractive and also part of the turn on is putting on a bit of a show, but I wouldn’t want them anywhere near me or within my space if not?

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By *isionofdignityWoman
over a year ago

reading

I’ve had many examples of the wanking dead or as I call them the wanking paparazzi.

Bloody annoying and I have become so much more direct and outspoken to them when they take advantage .

Those that practically hand you their cock because you have a ‘spare’ hand, group block you into a corner , invite themselves into a room with no chat whatsoever . Idiots

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it

I had this in chams. One guy id say was late 70's kept following me to the toilet and locker room. Became quite creepy. Jo"

I'm a fainter and so for daytime events usually take a few snacks with me. I was sat in the locker room eating a sandwich one time. A bloke that had been following me for quite a while was stood in the door watching me eat. He asked me if I wanted to fuck, I said I'm eating a butty.... He said I can wait and was going to just stand there and watch me I presume Had to say no thanks

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here


"To deal with wanking dead... One must deliver a striking blow to the head"

It nearly came to that at a recent club visit....we had a persistent Zombie wanker removed

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it

I had this in chams. One guy id say was late 70's kept following me to the toilet and locker room. Became quite creepy. Jo

I'm a fainter and so for daytime events usually take a few snacks with me. I was sat in the locker room eating a sandwich one time. A bloke that had been following me for quite a while was stood in the door watching me eat. He asked me if I wanted to fuck, I said I'm eating a butty.... He said I can wait and was going to just stand there and watch me I presume Had to say no thanks "

Good lord what is wrong with people??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great title.

As a single guy I do find it funny watching a line of guys following a woman/couple to watch and wank (never understood this, I might as well be at home watching porn - easier to clean up too).

Did see one woman decide she wanted to be watched, it was like when bees have a predator in their hive, the guys swarmed her hoping she'd touch them and vice versa. Couldn't even see her. Spoke to a couple in the same state of bewilderment and when did go to a room together later.

Some guys seem to think that paying for entry = guaranteed action.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"When I used to go to clubs as soon as I left to go the loo, or for a walk round, I was followed like the Pied Piper but not with rats just by what I used to call the Cock Conga. Thought it was something I had to put up with til a member of staff saw them and soon put a stop to it

I had this in chams. One guy id say was late 70's kept following me to the toilet and locker room. Became quite creepy. Jo

I'm a fainter and so for daytime events usually take a few snacks with me. I was sat in the locker room eating a sandwich one time. A bloke that had been following me for quite a while was stood in the door watching me eat. He asked me if I wanted to fuck, I said I'm eating a butty.... He said I can wait and was going to just stand there and watch me I presume Had to say no thanks

Good lord what is wrong with people?? "

I was thinking the same… absolutely vile

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By *become1Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Pandoras Leeds top floor couples only, sorted

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

I remember when walking to the dungeon area of old Abfab you'd know if nothing was going on as the wanking dead would be trudging back to the house soon as me and the the wife walked past they would spin and follow us back to the dungeon, we'd do a check to see if anyone else was there then go back to the house where they would turn and follow us.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Never been concerned about telling anyone to piss off if I'm receiving unwanted attention.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

" wanking dead " ????? creepy comments ...

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"" wanking dead " ????? creepy comments ..."

It's creepy behaviour.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"" wanking dead " ????? creepy comments ...

It's creepy behaviour."

Agreed

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"" wanking dead " ????? creepy comments ...

It's creepy behaviour.

Agreed "

Yep

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"Never been concerned about telling anyone to piss off if I'm receiving unwanted attention.

"

this 100% no one likes a rasied voice in a swingers club when and if i get followed by the hoards im loud in telling them to back off aka fuck off ...it works nicely

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By *C79Man
over a year ago

Caterham

Uurgh, the wanking dead are the enemy to everyone. I'm a single guy & I enjoy going to social events but I am naturally quite shy when it comes to starting conversations. Because of the way the WD behave, I either end up looking like one because I'm walking around trying to find a way to join in with a conversation or If I actively approach anyone, their first thought is probably "oh no, here comes another one". Anyone who proves they are not part of the zombie wankers should be allowed to carry a rubber X stamp to plonk on any offender's forehead. XXX and they go home

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here


"Uurgh, the wanking dead are the enemy to everyone. I'm a single guy & I enjoy going to social events but I am naturally quite shy when it comes to starting conversations. Because of the way the WD behave, I either end up looking like one because I'm walking around trying to find a way to join in with a conversation or If I actively approach anyone, their first thought is probably "oh no, here comes another one". Anyone who proves they are not part of the zombie wankers should be allowed to carry a rubber X stamp to plonk on any offender's forehead. XXX and they go home "

Brilliant

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Uurgh, the wanking dead are the enemy to everyone. I'm a single guy & I enjoy going to social events but I am naturally quite shy when it comes to starting conversations. Because of the way the WD behave, I either end up looking like one because I'm walking around trying to find a way to join in with a conversation or If I actively approach anyone, their first thought is probably "oh no, here comes another one". Anyone who proves they are not part of the zombie wankers should be allowed to carry a rubber X stamp to plonk on any offender's forehead. XXX and they go home "

Loving your thought processes! I have no doubt all the good, considerate guys feel pretty much the same.

The actions of those guys (sometimes the male half of a couple!) make me feel very aware of being a single guy who's potentially under scrutiny in any club. That being said it was a female crossing the line repeatedly last Friday at Libs, who I suspect will be getting a ban!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had the wanking dead follow us around at Quest.,and any other couple for that matter.

Their loss, as we will never go back there again.

This seems to be common at many clubs, and more stringent rules clearly need to be in place.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I'm thankful for this thread, it's confirmed that people won't consider it rude if I/we tell the wanking dead to back off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve never been to a club, we’d really like to though, but stuff like this is off putting.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

The events I go to have 'tours' for any newbies - to include 'does and don'ts'. If these kind of things happen the perpetrator is banned, never to return. Not difficult. As a result the only single guys (or anyone else for that matter) that go are ones with excellent reputations that grow over time, with them being very welcome on the nights.....which is often a rare thing in itself, with so many clubs just treating single guys as a cash cow to keep the clubs open. Let's not forget there's a flip side to this. Not all single guys are morons, with the good ones loathing the ones who misbehave just as much as everyone else, not forgetting it's not always just single fellas who are the badly behaved.

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By *ouple8889Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've found hosted nights with a strict guestlist are the best nights to avoid this problem. We've met some lovely guys at events like Hot Wives Club and Dark Desires. We also went to Vanilla Alternative on Friday who only allow 10 single guys in and they must be members and apply in advance. Again we had a great night and met a lovely guy with no hassle whatsoever barring the odd stare which we don't mind anyway. It certainly depends on the club/event. Do your homework and go for it, you'll love it we did and still do.

X

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By *izzyRascalWoman
over a year ago

North Hants


" If you are interested in things beyond swingers clubs, Klub Verboten does not allow solo wankers. It’s a kinky queer rave with a playroom, as opposed to a swingers club, but you can have sex there (it doesn’t have to be BDSM sex although they have BDSM equipment). Solo people are allowed in the playroom but if anyone touches themselves while not being involved in a scene, they get removed. "

A kinky queer rave?! Where do I sign up?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Let's not forget there's a flip side to this. Not all single guys are morons, with the good ones loathing the ones who misbehave just as much as everyone else, not forgetting it's not always just single fellas who are the badly behaved."

When I was single I always thought the badly behaved guys made the good guys stand out like a beacon in a sea of darkness

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By *ocusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"

If you are interested in things beyond swingers clubs, Klub Verboten does not allow solo wankers. It’s a kinky queer rave with a playroom, as opposed to a swingers club, but you can have sex there (it doesn’t have to be BDSM sex although they have BDSM equipment). Solo people are allowed in the playroom but if anyone touches themselves while not being involved in a scene, they get removed. "

I’ve heard very good things about Club Verboten. I’d love to get there one day.

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here


"I'm thankful for this thread, it's confirmed that people won't consider it rude if I/we tell the wanking dead to back off!!"

We are very forthright in our opinions we don't say "back off" the first word does end in ck and the first two letters are fu

They are getting out of hand

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"I'm thankful for this thread, it's confirmed that people won't consider it rude if I/we tell the wanking dead to back off!!"

There's no loyalty amongst single guys - in an argument between you and a single guy they'll want to be on your side.

It's like sharks - once one is injured the others all turn on him.

Having said that, I agree that the way to reduce this is for clubs to treat guys with more respect, and exclude the ones that aren't up to standard.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Any club worth their salt will deal with it for you

I had it at a club once. I was being persistently followed by my two guys who were friends. They even waited outside the toilet for me coming out. I told them in no uncertain terms that I was not interested, but still everywhere I went there they were.

I spoke to the lady on the main desk, and they were out the door as quick as a flash.

If you have a problem with a persistent zombie wanker, any decent club will sort it out .

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"We've found hosted nights with a strict guestlist are the best nights to avoid this problem. We've met some lovely guys at events like Hot Wives Club and Dark Desires. We also went to Vanilla Alternative on Friday who only allow 10 single guys in and they must be members and apply in advance. Again we had a great night and met a lovely guy with no hassle whatsoever barring the odd stare which we don't mind anyway. It certainly depends on the club/event. Do your homework and go for it, you'll love it we did and still do.

X"

100%!

I was one of the ten on Friday. There's no better event and no better way of ensuring things go well for all. Proud to be a regular in that ten!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Let's not forget there's a flip side to this. Not all single guys are morons, with the good ones loathing the ones who misbehave just as much as everyone else, not forgetting it's not always just single fellas who are the badly behaved.

When I was single I always thought the badly behaved guys made the good guys stand out like a beacon in a sea of darkness "

Thank you for that! x

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

The club should do more and by this, I mean more private lockable rooms the guys are not a problem the lack of privacy is.

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here


"The club should do more and by this, I mean more private lockable rooms the guys are not a problem the lack of privacy is. "

True....but when your wife is hassled when waiting for me to come out of the toilet no lockable

door will sort that

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"Personally me and My Girl have found this is vastly reduced on couples nights. Still occasionally get a guy or two who's parted from the lady their with, but no gangs of guys. Also different clubs/nights/times seems to be better or worse (don't know the London scene so can't advise).

As to how to avoid them not real advice apart from digression and sneaking off to a play room without them spotting you. It's a bit like a life zombie role play. However we have been in clubs where there is loads of single guys and few couples. In this scenario we've found they very quickly become aware of your no longer being around in the social area and flock off in hopeful search for you. Sometimes we'll run off, find a space and just have a private conversation. Sure another the guys find us, realise we're just having a mundane conversation and leave. Then once they walk away we fuck the shit out of each other.

It's not that we mind being watched. What bothers us is them all just trying to help them selves to a piece of our actions or one or two of them trying to push their way in. Or something it's the distracting comments or cringy noises being made or the heckling. That's annoying and distracting. Most guys are great but it's just one or two who ruin things and prevent you from being ablebto enjoy the club care free."

Heckling is the worse.

I was mid scene with two women when someone loudly started commenting and critiquing my performance.

Handily, I was using a large flogger, so with a bit of back swing I was able to create some space!

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I wish someone would come up with a better name for the fraternity.

Nearly all are wanking but none are anywhere near dead!

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