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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

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By *ames5169Man
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?"

I see a queue forming !!

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?"

If he wants to see you he will wait no problem. I would definitely wait to see you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would wait too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?"

Exactly this, at the mo they taking longer to arrive and a lot longer to process trust us

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By *r Magic Fingers78Man
over a year ago

Preston

if he's interested he will wait as long as it takes. as i would

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?"

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?"

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

What’s the difference between you and the guy then meeting on fab and trusting sounds like you have trust issues.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


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So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

You can't.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

What’s the difference between you and the guy then meeting on fab and trusting sounds like you have trust issues. "

Haven't we all if we're honest about ourselves? Tbf, I just can't see a man waiting for a woman he never slept with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, if someone is not willing to wait while tests are done, then forget it. Health is more important than a quick fumble.

There are other things that can be done, like getting to know each other bit more, phone sex, cam sex together, going out and doing dares etc, talking about fantasise to turn each other on and masturbating in front of each other.

You look amazing so the guy would be stupid to blow it by not waiting for you.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

Trust is a two-way street. Women can get sex far more easily through Fab than solo guys, so it’s a bigger statement from the guy, saying he is happy to wait for test results…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

How can you trust anyone who says they have done an sti test?

Many people don't bother getting tested if their bits aren't green.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"To be honest, if someone is not willing to wait while tests are done, then forget it. Health is more important than a quick fumble.

There are other things that can be done, like getting to know each other bit more, phone sex, cam sex together, going out and doing dares etc, talking about fantasise to turn each other on and masturbating in front of each other.

You look amazing so the guy would be stupid to blow it by not waiting for you."

That be nice to find someone who interested in other things than a quick bang

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

It’s your choice.

Is it just sex, or is it something else?

Sure some people won’t wait.

It just boils down to your risk appetite. Is the lure of getting noshed off by someone worth getting an STI?

If yes, have at it.

If no, wait.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"That be nice to find someone who interested in other things than a quick bang"

Its not hard to find someone like that in all honesty.

It’s finding someone where you both feel that way about each other thats difficult.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I mean if you feel like you can't trust them to wait and get tested then you probably can't trust them at at all.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

How can you trust anyone who says they have done an sti test?

Many people don't bother getting tested if their bits aren't green."

The NHS send you a headed text which is dated. This is easily forwarded to a prospective partner. Free, and get the results within 5 days, so not long to wait with bated breath and hard-on…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?"

You appear to have trust issues with men so I’d abstain if I were you

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP I am amazed that your tests take that long. In Cheltenham you can order the tests online, they will arrive the next day and then it is probably another day or two before you receive a text and an online notification to your test status. My last test was ordered and right through to results in a couple of days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

How can you trust anyone who says they have done an sti test?

Many people don't bother getting tested if their bits aren't green.

The NHS send you a headed text which is dated. This is easily forwarded to a prospective partner. Free, and get the results within 5 days, so not long to wait with bated breath and hard-on….. "

We don't get results via text here. They only contact you if there's an issue. So no proof. Hard on will be sore

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

How can you trust anyone who says they have done an sti test?

Many people don't bother getting tested if their bits aren't green.

The NHS send you a headed text which is dated. This is easily forwarded to a prospective partner. Free, and get the results within 5 days, so not long to wait with bated breath and hard-on…..

We don't get results via text here. They only contact you if there's an issue. So no proof. Hard on will be sore "

I use the Gillinggate Clinic in Kendal, it wouldn’t be too much of a drive for you? Very much like me driving over to one of the NE clubs (time wise) in fact……

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"I been waiting for over a week for my test kit to arrive and read it takes 2 weeks to process. In the meantime, how would it work if the men who say they do safe sex, will be clear for us to do oral sex together without a condom? Will a man wait for weeks for a woman?

It depends on the man.

However, whats more important is your position.

Would you be happy to carry out unprotected oral sex that could lead to you catching an STI based on what someone says?

Remember some STI’s can be asymptomatic and you or they could have them without showing signs or symptoms.

If they don’t take their sexual health seriously, why will they do the same for yours?

So we both have to wait for sti results to arrive and abstain from sexual activity until then? I just can't see men doing that for one woman. And if I met them off fab how can I trust them to take a test and abstain from sex?

How can you trust anyone who says they have done an sti test?

Many people don't bother getting tested if their bits aren't green.

The NHS send you a headed text which is dated. This is easily forwarded to a prospective partner. Free, and get the results within 5 days, so not long to wait with bated breath and hard-on…..

We don't get results via text here. They only contact you if there's an issue. So no proof. Hard on will be sore

I use the Gillinggate Clinic in Kendal, it wouldn’t be too much of a drive for you? Very much like me driving over to one of the NE clubs (time wise) in fact…… "

I still get results from Durham, and my friends in Newcastle use New Croft Centre, who send texts that your test results are all clear.

Though i am now convinced I need a day trip to the lakes…

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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago

west edinburgh

here in Edinburgh its a automated telephone system to call to get your results

its really stressful waiting for each result to be read out really... slowly... by... an... automated..... voice.

i once used the private GP service "better to know" and i had to call for my results and the receptionist read them out over the phone to me, presumably with a waiting room full of patients listening

For the OP , there usually seems to be a 4 week turnaround where i am for results (2-3 weeks for an appointment, 1-2 weeks for results). So there will always be a small window of time where you've been tested, but not had the results. Also for some conditions like syphilis, you wont get a positive result for up to 12 weeks after exposure so it might not get caught by a test if you test very soon after exposure.

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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago

west edinburgh

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I still haven't received the test kit yet. It's been over 2 weeks now

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"here in Edinburgh its a automated telephone system to call to get your results

its really stressful waiting for each result to be read out really... slowly... by... an... automated..... voice.

i once used the private GP service "better to know" and i had to call for my results and the receptionist read them out over the phone to me, presumably with a waiting room full of patients listening

For the OP , there usually seems to be a 4 week turnaround where i am for results (2-3 weeks for an appointment, 1-2 weeks for results). So there will always be a small window of time where you've been tested, but not had the results. Also for some conditions like syphilis, you wont get a positive result for up to 12 weeks after exposure so it might not get caught by a test if you test very soon after exposure."

I think probably alot of people don't test because so much faff but i rather know than not

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
over a year ago

South Birmingham


"I still haven't received the test kit yet. It's been over 2 weeks now "

you better off going to a gum clinic (very early) and they do the test there, they will ask a few questions about yourself and last about 10-15 to take samples.

this is completely independant to your GP and not linked in anyway shape or form.

result will be with you within a few days after all sent by text.

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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago

west edinburgh


"I still haven't received the test kit yet. It's been over 2 weeks now

you better off going to a gum clinic (very early) and they do the test there, they will ask a few questions about yourself and last about 10-15 to take samples.

this is completely independant to your GP and not linked in anyway shape or form.

result will be with you within a few days after all sent by text."

If you have access to a drop-in clinic thats great and its the easiest way.

Where I am the drop-in clinics still haven't been reinstated after lockdown, and its all being done by appointment only. I believe the main gum clinic in Edinburgh also makes 50 self test kits a day available which are given out first come first served each day by phone - its a scrum trying to get one on any given day. I've known someone not get one after a week of trying

Theyre using my local sexual health department as a covid vaccination centre - I had a winter booster there 2 weeks ago in the same room where i've previously had a gum checkup. i dont think gum clinics will go back to normal here until covid testing/vaccination is wound down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks is a very long wait, mine just arrived and I ordered it last Thursday and that was with postal strikes. I agree if you can get to a gum clinic that will be your best bet.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I just received mine but it looks really daunting to do. Like there's room for error

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?

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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago

west edinburgh


"Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?"

You're fine to do a urine test while on your period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?"

Swab isn't effected according to leaflet that was in mine.

The blood test was fun....I bruise really easily and now have a very tender and purple finger tip.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?"

According to the place we use you can still swab if on your period. The blood generally does not affect the test. If there are any concerns they should contact you to repeat the test.

Ms x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"2 weeks is a very long wait, mine just arrived and I ordered it last Thursday and that was with postal strikes. I agree if you can get to a gum clinic that will be your best bet."
if anything like my clinics... they are nearly all only for if you have symptoms or under 25.

Op the test is not affected if on your period xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine arrived really quickly, sent it off on the Wednesday and got the results back before the weekend.

Two weeks to arrive seems a long time.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"2 weeks is a very long wait, mine just arrived and I ordered it last Thursday and that was with postal strikes. I agree if you can get to a gum clinic that will be your best bet. if anything like my clinics... they are nearly all only for if you have symptoms or under 25.

Op the test is not affected if on your period xx"

Oh that's good to know. I'm going to attempt to do it correctly. The content of the kit looks confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?

Swab isn't effected according to leaflet that was in mine.

The blood test was fun....I bruise really easily and now have a very tender and purple finger tip. "

I can never get the 4/6ml required for the blood vial. Last one I did I held a hot water bottle for 5 minutes to warm my hand up, I filled up the vial in seconds with no bruising x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I write the results will not be accurate if on your period?

Swab isn't effected according to leaflet that was in mine.

The blood test was fun....I bruise really easily and now have a very tender and purple finger tip.

I can never get the 4/6ml required for the blood vial. Last one I did I held a hot water bottle for 5 minutes to warm my hand up, I filled up the vial in seconds with no bruising x"

I managed to get the amount required on the second attempt. I am terrible for bruising though, I'd say around 90% of the time.I have no idea how I got them.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I waited for mine to come back for my Miss and any serious match for you should do the same. Know your worth.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Worth having is worth waiting for!

Nuff said!!!

Mr xx

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By *bwlady123Woman
over a year ago

private

I always go to a clinic for sti testing. Doesn’t take that long to get an appointment and I’ve always had my results back in less than a day. Hope your arrives quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my results back really fast! Within a week

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I had bit of a nightmare doing my test. Hope it's ok. Just posted it today. I was on my period when i did it and didn't manage the 600 blood mark, just below so hoping i still get some results

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