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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Anything unusual, i.e. not your typical Penis in Vagina penetration using a standard position.

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Anything unusual, i.e. not your typical Penis in Vagina penetration using a standard position."

Yes, beginning with the very mild. We've done the ol' blindfolds, simple bondage, whips, double ended dildo, dp, dv, fisting etc yet some want much more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not easy to apply an objective description to a subjective concept. We all have our own interpretation of 'kinky'

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"not easy to apply an objective description to a subjective concept. We all have our own interpretation of 'kinky'"

Exactly the problem when someone asks if you're into kinky sex...

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By *evlishduncMan
over a year ago

north suffolk south norfolk

Prefer to reframe the discussion around limits, that seems to move the conversation away from subjective terms to something that both parties understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I hate it when a guy asks if I’m “kinky” because you just know he has an idea in his mind that’s not yours.

I like some things that are kinky, but I’m not into BDSM type kink which is what I think a lot of guys assume.

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Prefer to reframe the discussion around limits, that seems to move the conversation away from subjective terms to something that both parties understand. "

Yes one way of handling the conversation. One lady wanted us to degrade and humiliate her. Not our thing at all !

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Honestly I hate it when a guy asks if I’m “kinky” because you just know he has an idea in his mind that’s not yours.

I like some things that are kinky, but I’m not into BDSM type kink which is what I think a lot of guys assume. "

Absolutely, got to be careful out there !

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By *valiceslutTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Watersports and hardsports

Over me / in me / fucking with / snogging with / playing with

Male / female / and all in between

Yumyum

That’s kinky for me xxxx mmmm

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

Sexy is using a feather.

Kinky is using the whole chicken.

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Watersports and hardsports

Over me / in me / fucking with / snogging with / playing with

Male / female / and all in between

Yumyum

That’s kinky for me xxxx mmmm

"

Hardsports ?

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"Sexy is using a feather.

Kinky is using the whole chicken."

Lol !

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By *valiceslutTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Watersports and hardsports

Over me / in me / fucking with / snogging with / playing with

Male / female / and all in between

Yumyum

That’s kinky for me xxxx mmmm

Hardsports ?"

Google but NSFW x

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"

Hardsports ?

Google but NSFW x"

definitely not us lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ? "

You hit the nail on the head. I've had partners for whom kinky was my plain vanilla. I would like to be filmed though, that would make anything kinkier for me.

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ?

You hit the nail on the head. I've had partners for whom kinky was my plain vanilla. I would like to be filmed though, that would make anything kinkier for me."

Been there, was a real passion killer. Bright lights, others watching, her partner with video camera on a stand ... We'd much prefer low lighting, candles, comfy and warm environment then watch out ! Lol. We have done the odd short video with others in the heat of the moment, good memories. One couple wanted ff play with Cherry videoing for her absent partner, I wasn't allowed to join in, so frustrating

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ? "

Unconventional sexual preferences or behavior.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!"

A kink is different to a fetish.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!

A kink is different to a fetish. "

This is true....hence the "or"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!"

There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!

There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain. "

That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!

I answered the question, as in what it means to us

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By *queakyclean69erCouple
over a year ago

Torquay / Fleet

Someone’s kink is someone else’s norm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!

There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain.

That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!

I answered the question, as in what it means to us "

True, sorry if I misinterpreted!!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!

There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain.

That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!

I answered the question, as in what it means to us

True, sorry if I misinterpreted!! "

I am extremely good at coming across poorly, don't you worry Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One man's vanilla is another man's kink.

It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.

Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"One man's vanilla is another man's kink.

It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.

Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer. "

This is a super important point actually. Due to my previous health condition which still sometimes rears its head, things like fisting would be something I avoid. Penetration size isn't something I'd be experimenting with in a swinging capacity, whearas a lot of folks would probably immediately assume someone wants to go big or go home!

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I’ve had sex in the kitchen once , doesn’t it count ?

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"One man's vanilla is another man's kink.

It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.

Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer. "

Exactly . Shame when your chatting with someone, everything looks perfect and you want to meet, then a bombshell is then thrown in

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By *herryEaters OP   Couple
over a year ago

East Cheshire


"I’ve had sex in the kitchen once , doesn’t it count ?"

Lol to some YES, especially if the neighbours were watching

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ? "

We always try and make clear from the start what stuff we’re into. We make a point of never kink shaming someone, we’d just say not for us

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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

I list a few of the kinky things I love on my profile. Maybe you can add things as you discover them?

The list of 'interests' on here is limited when it comes to adding kinks but if someone has SM or spanking listed, it tends to mean they're kinky (as opposed to into hardcore S&M). That might help you find likeminded people. Have fun!! X

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