FabSwingers.com forum: Having absolutely no luck lol

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all! I am really struggling to get responses on this site, I don’t know what it is. I’m don’t say anything rude etc in my opening messages or send dick pics without consent. Other apps like tinder etc completely fine, meeting women in bars etc also completely no problem, it just seems to be this site in particular I am doing something wrong. Can anyone offer any advice on what a first message should be like on here, do I need to post better pictures etc? Thanks for the help and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After having a few profiles on fab it is safe to say the site became known for rude replies and vanity.

I have been on and off for 4 years and its only got worse.

You are rude you get called out, you are not rude they are rude back and ignore

Most profiles do not even visit or read the bio due to the volume they get.

Some of the men do not read and the women become more rude year on year

Good luck

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Depends what you mean by luck, you may not get meets but at the same time haven't banged your little toe walking past the coffee table either ??

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Your profile is practically non-existent.

Most people you message will - if they read your message at all - check your profile before replying. And I'm guessing they would want a little more to go on.

And would you really meet 99 year olds?

Also, there are threads like this practically every day in the forum. If you search, you should find some good answers.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

And would you really meet 99 year olds?."

Glynis Johns yea

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

If you're getting all the fanny you can handle on other apps and in bars then why bother with here?

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

There's no cure or quick fix it's a long patient game dude you'll get a meet one day

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By *omeoplaysMan
over a year ago

London / Hertfordshire

Try out a club or a social. Best way to meet people in my opinion

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

This is a swinging site. Not a dating site. There aren't that many women up for meeting single men solo. There are hundreds of single men for every woman interested in meeting them.

If you're after FWB or dating then tinder is much better than fab. So many men seem to think fab is full of single nymphos just wanting casual fucks with single men. It really isn't! It's more couples than singles (as it's a swinging site) and the women wanting to meet solo have the pick of hundreds to choose from.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Nice pics but no bio! Lots of good advice here

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hey all! I am really struggling to get responses on this site, I don’t know what it is. I’m don’t say anything rude etc in my opening messages or send dick pics without consent. Other apps like tinder etc completely fine, meeting women in bars etc also completely no problem, it just seems to be this site in particular I am doing something wrong. Can anyone offer any advice on what a first message should be like on here, do I need to post better pictures etc? Thanks for the help and happy swinging "

You've written absolutely nothing about yourself, what your looking for or why to pick you, pics are ok but you need to write a bio.

Age range 18-99 is also off-putting

Mrs

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

You need to improve your profile, as most women will decide to reply to your message on that basis. A one line of a couple words won’t cut it, even if you craft a brilliant message.

Take a look at other successful male profiles for ideas. Don’t copy and paste, as it’s got to reflect the person you are.

If you’re looking for a FWB, perhaps find someone outside of fab - on the other apps.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We wouldn’t meet you.

Your profile currently has three words.

Your only veri is from another single guy who doesn’t display any veri’s.

You get out of Fab what you put in. If you want to meet people, get to a club or a social and get a deserved reputation as someone people can trust and enjoy spending time with.

But first, redo your profile.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

This enquiring thread post 94 words.

Your biog, your shop window to who you are, what you offer and what you seek, the place where you sell yourself to potential meets, 3 words.

Add to that the site is vastly looking for swinging meets, what you're looking for is one fish in the world's largest ocean.

I'd suggest your expectations of what Fab would provide for you are unrealistic.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a swinging site. Not a dating site. There aren't that many women up for meeting single men solo. There are hundreds of single men for every woman interested in meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does your profile look like on the other sites?

Why are you on Fab if the other sites work for you? What do you think Fab is?

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

You have put almost no effort into your profile which won’t help. There are thousands of men all wanting the same thing and tbh I for one get fed up with them all complaining they can’t get sex and just go to clubs now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I read this and thought... Seems like a nice guy... Saw your pictures and thought... Good looking... Then went to read about who you and what you are looking for... Nothing there, so would be a delete for me..

I think if you take some time to write a bio in some detail about yourself and what you'd like in a friend with benefits it would really help. I see your one line as you saying you've no interest in who you sleep with, more that anyone will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with everyone above. The bio really tells people what your about and what your looking for, as well as the fact that most people are bombarded with single men who message, you need to stand out x

Also try a club at an event or socials as face to face is always more effective as you can let your personality shine through! We've met guys at clubs we played with who we ignored on fab because they were cool in person so you never know haha x

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It sounds like you've joined expecting swinging to be about quick hook ups when it's very different.....your bio is less than a sentence!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

You’re a good looking lad (and I say that in a completely straight-guy appreciative way), and at the age of 28, I would advise you to stick with ‘normal’ bars and clubs, and apps like tinder. There really are so few single ladies in here, or the swinger clubs, so unless you’re extremely patient, go and fill your boots in the real world

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If you do well on other sites and in the real world why bother with this one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Understandable question but I just find this one to be more specific. When I say I am successful in other areas I mean yes I find it relatively easy to pick up on a night out, or on tinder etc I get a lot of success with matches, chats and dates, but with my line of work I don’t always have the time to go on loads of tinder dates that eventually don’t fulfill the desire, and I thought it would be easier on here to find people on the same wave length you know?

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Go to an organised social

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Understandable question but I just find this one to be more specific. When I say I am successful in other areas I mean yes I find it relatively straight forward to pick up on a night out, or on tinder etc I get a lot of success with matches, chats and dates, but with my line of work I don’t always have the time to go on loads of tinder dates that eventually don’t fulfill the desire, and I thought it would be not necessarily easier on here, but easier in a sense to find people on the same wave length you know? It’s not about just finding sex, I don’t struggle with that. But I am here hoping to find a different lifestyle experience as opposed to what you find elsewhere, like I’m not going to mention certain desires or fantasies to someone in a bar etc, know what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Understandable question but I just find this one to be more specific. When I say I am successful in other areas I mean yes I find it relatively straight forward to pick up on a night out, or on tinder etc I get a lot of success with matches, chats and dates, but with my line of work I don’t always have the time to go on loads of tinder dates that eventually don’t fulfill the desire, and I thought it would be not necessarily easier on here, but easier in a sense to find people on the same wave length you know? It’s not about just finding sex, I don’t struggle with that. But I am here hoping to find a different lifestyle experience as opposed to what you find elsewhere, like I’m not going to mention certain desires or fantasies to someone in a bar etc, know what I mean?"

Yeah this makes sense to me.

Most women still want to be talked to like a human being on here though. Chatting to find out compatibility.

Too many men on here think that if a woman wants to chat or have a social she wants to date.....

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

Up your effort, extend your patience, broaden your horizons, lower your expectations.

Use every "tool" the site provides. Right now, you're not even using the most basic and fundamental one.

Winston

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"This is a swinging site. Not a dating site. There aren't that many women up for meeting single men solo. There are hundreds of single men for every woman interested in meeting them.

Rubbish. I only date here because I like it here.

To the OP it’s not luck.

V x

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By *oupleSouthEast69Couple
over a year ago

brighton

"This is a swinging site. Not a dating site. There aren't that many women up for meeting single men solo. There are hundreds of single men for every woman interested in meeting them.

Rubbish. I only date here because I like it here.

To the OP it’s not luck.

V x "

It's not rubbish, you're one of the minority! I didn't say single women don't exist on fab but you're called unicorns for a reason!

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"This is a swinging site. Not a dating site. There aren't that many women up for meeting single men solo. There are hundreds of single men for every woman interested in meeting them.

Rubbish. I only date here because I like it here.

To the OP it’s not luck.

V x

It's not rubbish, you're one of the minority! I didn't say single women don't exist on fab but you're called unicorns for a reason!

It’s not a swinging site. It’s a whatever you want it to be site. There are plenty that seek relationships in many different forms, and this is a perfect place to do it assuming you can cut through the crap, of which there is plenty.

Ps. I’m not a unicorn.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Very much appreciate the feedback, take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP on the Ireland section of the forum you'll find a list of local events which might allow you to make connections better, especially as you've now updated your bio. There's also a "Help a Fabber Out thread" which you might find useful. If you can't find the relevant threads just post on there and I'm sure someone will bump the threads for you.

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By *andyrod1Man
over a year ago

St Margaret's at Cliffe

I too struggle to get a response from females and couples, l have had a threesome with a couple via here but they were not verified so we couldn't verify each other!

I now mainly use the site for browsing some very sexy photos and videos although I do get a lot of attention from other men, sadly my interests lie elsewhere currently.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I too struggle to get a response from females and couples, l have had a threesome with a couple via here but they were not verified so we couldn't verify each other!

I now mainly use the site for browsing some very sexy photos and videos although I do get a lot of attention from other men, sadly my interests lie elsewhere currently."

Maybe you need to look at your profile

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Most people here are looking to service their fantasies and desires, hence they’re going to be very specific about who or what they want.

Couples already have each other, so they’re not going to be desperate. Women can have their pick of the bunch, but are often fed up of the ceaseless bombardment from rabid guys and consequently even more selective.

Keep doing what you’re doing, you will be ‘someone’s cup of tea’, just accept you’ll meet more coffee drinkers than not.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Well done OP.. I didn't see you one line profile, but this gives a much clearer picture of who you are and what you are looking for. The only part that I'm not sure about, is suggesting that you'd love to find a partner to go to clubs with and then add another couple into the mix. Personally I'd take it one step at a time. It's more likely that a single woman would want to get to know you and have fun just the two of you, before even considering the idea of partner swaps etc. Good to mention it if that's would be your ideal, long term goal, but maybe word it differently. But much better than prior to when you asked for help.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Well done OP.. I didn't see you one line profile, but this gives a much clearer picture of who you are and what you are looking for. The only part that I'm not sure about, is suggesting that you'd love to find a partner to go to clubs with and then add another couple into the mix. Personally I'd take it one step at a time. It's more likely that a single woman would want to get to know you and have fun just the two of you, before even considering the idea of partner swaps etc. Good to mention it if that's would be your ideal, long term goal, but maybe word it differently. But much better than prior to when you asked for help.

Yep nice meaty profile

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By *andyrod1Man
over a year ago

St Margaret's at Cliffe

"I too struggle to get a response from females and couples, l have had a threesome with a couple via here but they were not verified so we couldn't verify each other!

I now mainly use the site for browsing some very sexy photos and videos although I do get a lot of attention from other men, sadly my interests lie elsewhere currently.

Maybe you need to look at your profile "

Any tips on improving it for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I too struggle to get a response from females and couples, l have had a threesome with a couple via here but they were not verified so we couldn't verify each other!

I now mainly use the site for browsing some very sexy photos and videos although I do get a lot of attention from other men, sadly my interests lie elsewhere currently.

Maybe you need to look at your profile

Any tips on improving it for me?"

Start by posting your own profile feedback thread as opposed to hijacking somebody else's thread buddy.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You obviously took the advice! That makes a change.

If you sent me a msg, and were actually local, I'd go on a social.

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By *andyrod1Man
over a year ago

St Margaret's at Cliffe

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Hate to say this buddy, but you have no pictures and almost zero information on your bio. Give people at least something to look at rather than blaming the women.

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