FabSwingers.com forum: some advice....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The OH has said I can go to a party tonight on my own (hes not big on crowds he doesnt know, where I can overcome the shyness enough myself) hes positive hes ok with it and finds it kinkily a turn on... I feel ok with it but at the same time Im unsure of it... as it feels wrong as we always said we would play together. But we turning each other on by discussing it and what woukld happen after.... what advice do others have for us? Angel xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only advice is to do what's best for you. Only you can decide if its a route you want to go down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OH has said I can go to a party tonight on my own (hes not big on crowds he doesnt know, where I can overcome the shyness enough myself) hes positive hes ok with it and finds it kinkily a turn on... I feel ok with it but at the same time Im unsure of it... as it feels wrong as we always said we would play together. But we turning each other on by discussing it and what woukld happen after.... what advice do others have for us? Angel xxx"

You have to do what feels right for you, if you are having doubts maybe you should talk with your partner some more.

Try and assess how open your relationship is by imagining you staying at home and your partner partying, how would you feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make absolutely sure you are both comfortable with the arrangement,check again to make sure...if its all cool.go have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In all honesty I would rather play with him... but he really dislikes crowds, but he seems really turned on by it. I would be jelous if it was the other way round but I have let him play alone before and it surprisingly doesn't bother me. It feels wrong, but its made me so horny its unreal.

Thanks for the input guys xxx

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

It's not something that I would do alone, but it is something that I would be ok with him doing alone. As long as you have discussed it at great length and all ok with it then go for it

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Try it once and discuss it afterwards to see whether you are both comfortable enough to do it again.

If not - don't.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

personally wudnt go down this road myself even if my bloke said he was happy for me to do it but hope it works out for u guys what eva u choose to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you have alway said you'll play together only ...why change now it may cause problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can always come home if you feel uncomfy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i wouldnt but from past stuff = i feel safe with him about

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

the wife goes to clubs occasionally on her own, she prefers to go as a couple but its ok every once in a while as something different. I'm cool with it as we play as singles when were at clubs anyway. You both seem up for the idea, and you don't have to do it every week, and don't panic if you don't like it.

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