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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem

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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago

blackpool/preston/normandy france

Putting this on the virus page doesn't help

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By *lder funCouple
over a year ago

tottenham

Would help if you posted in the right section on the forums for a start

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

[Removed by poster at 15/11/22 09:22:29]

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

No photos and to us your profile days "married man cheating" rightly or wrongly

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem "

Look out for organised socials in pubs etc. you’ll get a few veris if you attend them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attend a local social. A profile pic of some description and a green tick are key

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really not good with the site how have I managed that then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shadow avatar and friends only pictures.

Can’t your wife verify you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sliding into my DMs asking advice then asking me to verify you. Dude not cool!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Go to a different forum area and ask there, if the forum moderators don't move this.look for tips for 'single' men. A profile for them is always key to success. Including photos, so people can tell if they like you. Go to socials and clubs to get verified.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

How does a single guy partake in same/separate room swapping?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I report him for asking to verify him when I haven’t met him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I not a married man cheating Ime just a discreet man who likes to keep this life separate from my business and family/friends life

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think you struggle to get replies because you don't have a profile pic or any public pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was asking to come on cam to verify me what’s your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was asking to come on cam to verify me what’s your problem "

Then go on cam with someone and not chase down those who reply here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said OP perhaps add a public photo to your profile. A veri isn't the be all and end all either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always say, you should treat your profile like a shop window.

If there's nothing in the window to see and encourage people to want to explore more, then they're just going to walk on by

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I was asking to come on cam to verify me what’s your problem "

You know cam veries for a single guy are worth about as much as a politicians promise, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP keep it in the forums.

I’ve replied to your PM but that’s the last time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok no worries thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok no worries thanks "

If you reply "Quote" people will know which message you're responding to.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Get a nice picture up. Doesn’t have to be of your face

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile reads just like on a dating site so if friends/family/work saw it what have you got to worry about ?

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Put some pics up.

You mention family, are you married etc, if so, say so, lots of guys on here cheating.

Try to be open and honest, you'll get found out if you tell those little porkies !!!

Go along to a social in your area or a club.

Try a swingers holiday, there are loads of ways to get noticed and gain verification but it just takes a little bit of effort.

Good luck.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Would you respond to your profile and no pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As well as all of the above, you make it sound like verifications are your end goal rather than meeting people for who they are and who you genuinely want to meet. Being used as a stepping stone will put many off.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

My first veri was a webcam wank.

The next was a club visit.

All the rest were club visits.

I haven't arranged a single meet through Fab, you need to get out an meet real people, if you chat and have fun - even if it's just sociable and a laugh - give them your Fab name on a bit of paper and ask if you can veri each other.

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

I replied to your previous thread which is almost identical - there is a Chester social group that you can locate in the meets section of the forum.

Only thing for the organised socials though, the ones I’m familiar with have set expectations for your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I report him for asking to verify him when I haven’t met him? "

Absolutely. Asking for fake verifications is against site rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As well as all of the above, you make it sound like verifications are your end goal rather than meeting people for who they are and who you genuinely want to meet. Being used as a stepping stone will put many off."

A point which I made in his identical post in the Swingers Chat forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem "

Simple, go to a club or social and chat to people, show people who you are in real life, no matter how good you make your profile it will never truly portray who you really are.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem "

Where in the Canary Islands are you staying, we too fly there this Thursday.

Can't wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem

Where in the Canary Islands are you staying, we too fly there this Thursday.

Can't wait."

Wrong post?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, as others have said, get yourself to a club or organised socials, chat to people there and let your personality shine.

Also, look at your profile as your shop window. Are you really presenting yourself in the best possible light?

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Add a profile photo. No one's saying you have to add a picture of your face, but I know I wouldn't even read a message from a shadow profile.

Make sure your messages are relevant and easy to read.

Go to clubs or socials to break into some social circles. Also check out the diary for people looking for social meet ups near you.

Go on cam in the chat rooms.

I don't think verifications necessarily mean you're more likely to get further with your fab journey, but if you think they might then maybe try a few of the above suggestions x

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

have nice photos, write a witty bio... go to clubs/socials, send interesting messages with face pics, accept frequent failure with no loss of enthusiasm.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem

Where in the Canary Islands are you staying, we too fly there this Thursday.

Can't wait.

Wrong post? "

No, well maybe.

He sent me a message saying they are in Canaries same time as us, put the reply by mistake on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem

Where in the Canary Islands are you staying, we too fly there this Thursday.

Can't wait.

Wrong post?

No, well maybe.

He sent me a message saying they are in Canaries same time as us, put the reply by mistake on here. "

He seems keen on sending everyone DM’s

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok no worries thanks

If you reply "Quote" people will know which message you're responding to. "

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Ok no worries thanks

If you reply "Quote" people will know which message you're responding to. "

With a comment, too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile reads just like on a dating site so if friends/family/work saw it what have you got to worry about ?"

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By *REEPALESTINEMan
over a year ago

derby

Go to clubs

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

What you have to remember OP is that when you send a message to a woman, often the first thing she will do is check your profile before even reading the message.

You have no pics and for a lot of people that is an instant delete without even going any further.

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Hi I just wondering if anyone can give me some advice,I message really nice messages to people trying to get a chat or a social to prove I am a genuinely nice guy,no one ever replies so i am thinking have I got something set up wrong or is the site just useless as I’ve spent a lot of time on here to get absolutely no where it’s so annoying,so how do I manage to get verifications if no one will communicate,would appreciate the help if anyone as the answer to the problem "

We have a few but we attend clubs and meet and greets whenever the opportunity arises xx

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It amazes us that so many picture-less profiles can't understand why they aren't getting any replies.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Attend clubs, parties, meet people?

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"It amazes us that so many picture-less profiles can't understand why they aren't getting any replies."

I fucking LOVE your profile, the raccoon heads are next level genius. I could live a hundred lifetime and not be as funny and sexy as you two

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Don’t blame the site!

It provides all the tools necessary for you to be successful on here…gives you access to thousands of people, cams, forums…lets you know where socials are being held, club nights…you can also post meets.

How you sell yourself is your part…

So like I say don’t blame the site if you’re not doing well on here…

K

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