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By *ovelybum OP Couple
over a year ago
Tunbridge Wells |
We have been in the lifestyle for over 4 years and been through some great, not so great, sexy, unsexy, fun, unfun, highs and lows and we feel honoured when we are approached by new couples showing the courage to open what must seem like a very scary door to a new world. We will never forget our first party where we were the new couple and T was literally pounced upon by the dominant males of the group. We were wise and strong enough to get ourselves out of such an aggressive situation and we learnt from our experience not to mention countless other pushy situations. New couples have a right to feel nervous and wary and we must respect that and not be condescending just because we have seen it and done it. We wondered how others felt and what wisdom they could impart on new couples who are either too sacred, too shy or too nervous about starting this wonderful journey. A very recent example and they shall remain nameless was a beautiful young couple who were newbies at a party we attended. They both were nervous as hell yet had the courage and conviction to attend as total newbies.T having been through this took the female aside, put her arm around her, gave a gentle kiss and said to her quote "all the guys in this party want to fuck you but if one of them lays a finger on you without your permission they will have me to deal with" We spent the entire party with them making sure they never felt alone or out of place, sharing our experiences and making them understand this is about having fun at their pace and NEVER let anyone take from you or ever feel obliged to have sex! NEVER, if anything you will feel more stronger and empowered as a couple when YOU decide is the right time. Aways remain in control and be the ones who decides who, where and what you do as a couple. We always share this story with them whenever we meet up and we call them our great friends. we hope we can inspire others to take the lead and open doors for others and not let the harsh brutal way we learnt from our 1st experience. Needless to say we were wrong enough to stand up for ourselves but how many countless couples never made it past the 1st bad date, the groping single male, the pushy couple etc etc. Let your actions inspire others as much as your words. |
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