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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon


"Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

"

Your "getting ready" plan looks fine, but you need to change point 0.5 "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play" to "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady".

Forget about play. If it happens then bonus, but go there with no more hopes than meeting some nice people and having a pleasant evening with them. You'll enjoy yourself a lot more, trust me.

As for icebreakers, just chat to people about anything, don't go straight in asking to get a room. If they like you chances are they'll ask you. Compliments are always received well. Don't ignore anyone, be friendly and open. Mingle. And always ask before touching anything or anyone!

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Just get about and try to start up friendly conversation

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Don’t go with the mindset your going to play as the reality may disappoint

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"

Your "getting ready" plan looks fine, but you need to change point 0.5 "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play" to "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady".

Forget about play. If it happens then bonus, but go there with no more hopes than meeting some nice people and having a pleasant evening with them. You'll enjoy yourself a lot more, trust me.

As for icebreakers, just chat to people about anything, don't go straight in asking to get a room. If they like you chances are they'll ask you. Compliments are always received well. Don't ignore anyone, be friendly and open. Mingle. And always ask before touching anything or anyone!"

Thank you so much

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Just get about and try to start up friendly conversation "

Thank you,

Out of curiosity if there is a couple I'm talking to and we are getting on as in a social and friendly manner,

My thought is if they decide to go to a room to play, rather than come out with

Something seedy.

I was going g to just say "Would you like some company?" And as always NO is NO

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Just get about and try to start up friendly conversation

Thank you,

Out of curiosity if there is a couple I'm talking to and we are getting on as in a social and friendly manner,

My thought is if they decide to go to a room to play, rather than come out with

Something seedy.

I was going g to just say "Would you like some company?" And as always NO is NO "

They will invite you if they want too

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"Just get about and try to start up friendly conversation

Thank you,

Out of curiosity if there is a couple I'm talking to and we are getting on as in a social and friendly manner,

My thought is if they decide to go to a room to play, rather than come out with

Something seedy.

I was going g to just say "Would you like some company?" And as always NO is NO "

Can’t see anything wrong with asking them that

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

"

Amigos seems to be a genuinely friendly and inclusive club, just be yourself, and enjoy the atmosphere. Let the evening work itself out

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

Amigos seems to be a genuinely friendly and inclusive club, just be yourself, and enjoy the atmosphere. Let the evening work itself out "

6. Packed lunch. Well, snacks anyway to replenish strength at end of evening.

7. Spare knickers in case you lose yours somewhere in the club or one of the ladies takes them as a souvenir...

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Two golden rules of going to a club.

Go without any expectations

&

No means no.

Have good time!

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Hi all,

I'm frequenting a club tomorrow night for the first time (as a member)

I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play.

My "getting ready plan" is.

1- purchase condoms

2- purchase lube.

3- Iron clothes (shirt trousers etc)

4- gym

5- shower, shave etc

Now once there I don't want to come across as a pest, but I'm a little unsure how to as a couple or a lady if they'd like company.

Any advice please

Your "getting ready" plan looks fine, but you need to change point 0.5 "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady to play" to "I'm hoping to meet a couple or single lady".

Forget about play. If it happens then bonus, but go there with no more hopes than meeting some nice people and having a pleasant evening with them. You'll enjoy yourself a lot more, trust me.

As for icebreakers, just chat to people about anything, don't go straight in asking to get a room. If they like you chances are they'll ask you. Compliments are always received well. Don't ignore anyone, be friendly and open. Mingle. And always ask before touching anything or anyone!"

This is excellent advice !!

Should be printed out and given to all attendees

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Our main advice is don't go with any expectations of playing, at the least you should be able to view some sexy fun. Many Men go home disappointed because they go expecting some fun. Say hello to people, some will be up for a chat, unfortunately some won't be. Amigos is a very small club, you'll see the same people throughout the night and maybe able to engage in conversation. If you go regularly you'll see people you've seen before and can get yourself known at the club, you'll maybe increase your chances of play or least find people will have a chat. The main point again, DON'T go with expectations to play, it's a mistake many make and not just single guys. Good luck

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

When I attend clubs as a single man, I go with a view of just going to an adult club for a good night out

If I happen to be luckily enough to meet a compatible person or couple it's a bonus, just the same way you would in a normal pub

Going as a couple we appreciate polite gents who can go with tge flow and if play is fancied we always invite as for me it's embarrassing having to say no

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

How did it go

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

The advice given was really good

Also soemtimes clubs are a waiting game. I haven’t played with people 3’or 4 times seeing them then randomly you end up in a scenario

Get yourself known

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By *etsplay90 OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Well it went amazingly,

Firstly all yhe prep was done (I always take pride in my appearance, force of habit)

Well decided as it's a non licensed premises i brought my own (non-alcoholic larger (driving and not the right environment to get d*unk)

Walked in, chatted to bar staff who remembered me,

There were a few couples I recognised and some spare seats, so I walked over and asked if I could join them (social area)

And it went from there, chatted, laughed, made fun of everyone and everything, nearly got whipped,

I was nervous of getting in a towel but one of the couples said the hot tub was empty and asked if I wanted a dip,

So I took the plunge and we had a great conversation.

Met a guy who used to be in the same line of work as me and we talked for hours.

Did I play - no

Am I disappointed- yes, in the fact I didn't take the plunge and join earlier.

When people left made a point of coming over and said see you soon.

Really enjoyed it x

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE EVERYONE

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for letting us know how it went. Pleased you had a good time.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Well it went amazingly,

Firstly all yhe prep was done (I always take pride in my appearance, force of habit)

Well decided as it's a non licensed premises i brought my own (non-alcoholic larger (driving and not the right environment to get d*unk)

Walked in, chatted to bar staff who remembered me,

There were a few couples I recognised and some spare seats, so I walked over and asked if I could join them (social area)

And it went from there, chatted, laughed, made fun of everyone and everything, nearly got whipped,

I was nervous of getting in a towel but one of the couples said the hot tub was empty and asked if I wanted a dip,

So I took the plunge and we had a great conversation.

Met a guy who used to be in the same line of work as me and we talked for hours.

Did I play - no

Am I disappointed- yes, in the fact I didn't take the plunge and join earlier.

When people left made a point of coming over and said see you soon.

Really enjoyed it x

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE EVERYONE"

You should always join for a dip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well it went amazingly,

Firstly all yhe prep was done (I always take pride in my appearance, force of habit)

Well decided as it's a non licensed premises i brought my own (non-alcoholic larger (driving and not the right environment to get d*unk)

Walked in, chatted to bar staff who remembered me,

There were a few couples I recognised and some spare seats, so I walked over and asked if I could join them (social area)

And it went from there, chatted, laughed, made fun of everyone and everything, nearly got whipped,

I was nervous of getting in a towel but one of the couples said the hot tub was empty and asked if I wanted a dip,

So I took the plunge and we had a great conversation.

Met a guy who used to be in the same line of work as me and we talked for hours.

Did I play - no

Am I disappointed- yes, in the fact I didn't take the plunge and join earlier.

When people left made a point of coming over and said see you soon.

Really enjoyed it x

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE EVERYONE"

Sounds like a good first foray.

Something from our experience?

If we ask a guy to join us in a hot tub we’re almost certainly interested in him so maybe explore that a bit further if it occurs again?

Whilst it’s nice to chat with another guy rather than be stood on your own we wouldn’t approach two guys chatting together.

Good luck with your next visit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some threads in here are comedy gold. Lol.

Just be yourself mate... But

.. always polish your shoes.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Well it went amazingly,

Firstly all yhe prep was done (I always take pride in my appearance, force of habit)

Well decided as it's a non licensed premises i brought my own (non-alcoholic larger (driving and not the right environment to get d*unk)

Walked in, chatted to bar staff who remembered me,

There were a few couples I recognised and some spare seats, so I walked over and asked if I could join them (social area)

And it went from there, chatted, laughed, made fun of everyone and everything, nearly got whipped,

I was nervous of getting in a towel but one of the couples said the hot tub was empty and asked if I wanted a dip,

So I took the plunge and we had a great conversation.

Met a guy who used to be in the same line of work as me and we talked for hours.

Did I play - no

Am I disappointed- yes, in the fact I didn't take the plunge and join earlier.

When people left made a point of coming over and said see you soon.

Really enjoyed it x

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE EVERYONE"

Good to hear you enjoyed your night, and felt welcome in the place! Believe me, this isn’t the case in every club!

I’m sure you’ll be making lots of new friends in there as time goes on, and thank you for the honest feedback on Amigos

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