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Clubs - How do they work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all, we are looking at attending a club (Townhouse Wirral to be precise) but have no idea how this scene works.

We are only interested in an additional female to join us, aren't interested in swapping or males to join but we have absolutely no idea if this would even be the right place to go.

What happens in these places (other than the obvious). How would we decline males/couple swaps without coming across as rude as it's just not something that we are wanting.

Are there rules on who you approach, any way of knowing what someone is looking for? We are just completely in the dark about the whole thing so any help would be greatly appreciated to put our minds at rest.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Exciting that you are giving it a try. I would suggest treating it like a bar or club. Go chat enjoy yourselves and relax , people will/may approach you, chatting is nice flirting is fun,but it’s also ok to politely decline if they are not what you are looking for. No harm at all in declining guys or couple/Swaps because you are looking for a single fem and telling them that’s why.

Watch what goes on and what other couples do and certainly ask a few who have been there before how it all works and you will soon get the hang of it. Be firm and friendly and polite and if anyone gets the wrong idea let the management know, town house has a brilliant reputation for being a civilised environment though I haven’t yet been.

Most clubs have many more single guys, unless you attend on a couples an single fems only night (not a bad idea for your first time). Some of them may wander round cock in hand and hopeful but hey once you’ve seen one you have seen them all, right.

Most of all be curious and enjoy the environment. Single fems are often few and far between so best of luck and remember the second time you go you will have a great feel for how it operates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey and welcome to the club scene!

Just treat them no different from other vanilla clubs and pubs with the exception that they have spaces where you can have sex. Be prepared to see action going on as this can be a bit of a shock the first time you go.

Is always good to ask if you can be shown around the club and maybe be introduced to some regulars as this helps to break the ice.

Best thing is to go with no expectations other than have a good time and anything extra that happens is a bonus. Have your ideas clear and know what you want and please don't be scared of turning people down. Just ask yourself if you would do something you don't want to just for not being rude. I would rather come across as rude.

You can just say something like "I'm really sorry but I don't think we are a good match" People that goes to clubs knows well how to handle rejection and it's not frowned upon.

As in how to find a single girl well realistically the vast majority of couples and single men here are looking for the same as you and actually there aren't as many out there as couples and single men that makes it a bit hard. However I think usually there tends to be more single ladies on nights where there is single males than on couples and single ladies only nights.

Lastly townhouse is a really good club and the owners always take good care of newbies from what I have seen here and when we went there.

Hope all this helps!!

C xx

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

It seems you would be best to go to a couple, single female event. It's not rude to decline anyone as no should do anything they don't want to do. Go with no expectation. Go to socialise, maybe watch and see how you feel. Set boundaries for yourself as a couple. Have a code word for keen or not interested. One of you may fancy a lady but the other may not. Only you know what each other once. There is no rush to play

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Welcome to the club scene.

I've been to the Townhouse once, with my other half.

You' be in good hands. Just email the staff and ask to be introduced to the regulars after you've had your tour.

I'ts not a sex club, thing more of a snooker club, you know, don't just grab a cue and start smacking the balls without asking: it's rude. Smile a lot and sit down stairs at the bar area and just watch the people walk by.

Say hello and start a vanilla conversation, as that's what people want a connection, get to mingle with different people and be seen to be having a nice time, then as the night wears on, you'll get a feel for it then, go with the flow. Have a dance or a wander around the 3 floors, go easy on those killer heels and dress down when it feels right for you.

Random but genuine compliments are good ice breakers.

Try to speak to the club regulars first, as they'll know the people and club much better than me.

Put on your profile/meets page lloking to meet...and post some pictures so people can recognise you, if face pics are a no no, then a picture of that night's outfits will help. Ships that pass in the night, miss out on all of the fun.

"Thanks, but no thank you."

A clear nod of the head, if it's too loud on the dance floor, for example will be enough.

No means no, all clubs have this room and will step in, if you tell them ASAP.

It's meant to be safe and fun. Couples' rooms and private rooms are really useful if you are nervous.

Locked doors mean no entry. Ask if unsure, when you get the tour.

Lay of the booze if you can't say no after a drink. having a drink , a laugh and play is sexy. Getting bladdered, taking drugs (goes without saying), falling asleep and being a pest or vulnerable isn't.

The is zero tolerance on spoiling the fun and that rule applies to everyone. Bans exist for this reason.

Let's party!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, you made it seem less scary than we first imagined (getting cock slapped in the face left, right and centre).

We have decided to book so will be attending the Couples and single ladies night on the 12th of this month as mentioned that this would be beginner friendly.

Does all play happen behind closed doors or are you likely to see people getting nailed to the middle of the dancefloor? Not that it would bother either of us, it would just be handy to know what to expect before going haha.

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

We have not been to townhouse but have been to quite a few clubs around uk and the general rule usually is that u can have sex anywhere you want except for the hot tubs ( Chameleons you can ) although most people use the rooms, there are usually a variety private and open rooms.

We would agree with all of the above but would also advise to be on the look out and try and get it into conversation with couples if the female is a hotwife/vxn and if the male likes to join in or just watch

Only because unicorns are hard to find but there is alot more couples where the male is more than happy to watch his Mrs have fun with others

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Thanks everyone, you made it seem less scary than we first imagined (getting cock slapped in the face left, right and centre).

We have decided to book so will be attending the Couples and single ladies night on the 12th of this month as mentioned that this would be beginner friendly.

Does all play happen behind closed doors or are you likely to see people getting nailed to the middle of the dancefloor? Not that it would bother either of us, it would just be handy to know what to expect before going haha."

The nights, typically start of as sober affairs, as people have made an effort to get dressed after faffing around to figure out what to wear, then as the evening blossums, the place hots up and the inhibitions are slowly shed, like that autumnal leaves, slowly and before you know it, it's midnight, there is more naked people that clothed ones and as the clock hits 12, the time really flies and before you know it, writhing wriggly and sweaty bodies are in full flow, to and from the wet rooms, showers and replacing lost fluids at the bar. With lots of friendly goodbyes.

Don't forget to exchange FAB names and leave a review, as people and clubs really enjoy good feedback.

I can't guarantee what your night be will like, but give it a go. You might make some great friends and wear a smile all week.

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