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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey there been here for soo long. Tried loads of different ways to connect with someone... No luck just wondering is it due to my location or something wrong with my profile? Would appreciate any hints. Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders.....

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders....."

I've just been trying to work out what's on the floor behind him. Is it slats from a vertical blind?

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders.....

I've just been trying to work out what's on the floor behind him. Is it slats from a vertical blind? "

I wouldn't set foot in that room...it's bringing me out in hives.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Never ever ever post photos of yourself in front of a toilet, with loo-roll on the floor.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire


"Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders.....

I've just been trying to work out what's on the floor behind him. Is it slats from a vertical blind?

I wouldn't set foot in that room...it's bringing me out in hives.

"

I've gone back for another look and I've noticed an empty curtain rail but no blind runner. Which I guess answers why the slats aren't hanging up.

But why are they on the floor?

Was the rail ever adorned with a sumptuous pair of curtains hanging elegantly?

Is OP in a black hole of interior decor despair and was subconsciously hoping a kind forum member would ride in on a grey crushed velvet pony to transform his humble abode?

It's a mystery for the ages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was decorating room while I took pictures. Already changed them but it's not many public now

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Oh fucking hell.

Second picture there's a pregnancy pillow on the bed and what I *think* is baby scan photos in one of the frames on the wall.

Ffs.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Your profile is pretty boring really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile is pretty boring really. "

Well I know that

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Your profile is pretty boring really.

Well I know that "

So do something about it then instead of moaning you can’t meet anyone.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Although you've put all your pics on private, OP, I hope the responses you've got give you some ideas.

Your profile, not just photos, needs a lot of work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile is pretty boring really.

Well I know that

So do something about it then instead of moaning you can’t meet anyone. "

Problem is that I'm not a good writer tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Although you've put all your pics on private, OP, I hope the responses you've got give you some ideas.

Your profile, not just photos, needs a lot of work.

"

I've deleted them... And thanks everyone for advices. I think I'll look through website for photo ideas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Unless you lovely people give me some ideas for photos...

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Look at other mens profiles for ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would advise you to take out the bit about " not much experience", that may put people off. Maybe put a bit in about what you enjoy sexually. For instance if you like giving oral then you could put that.

I think some of the above comments are quite harsh to be honest. The members could have given you photo advice without being so condescending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless you lovely people give me some ideas for photos..."

I would advise not too many cock photos, maybe a bare bum shot and an underpants shot.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Unless you lovely people give me some ideas for photos..."

- Pay attention to the background

- Include some black and white

- You seem to have the figure for it, so I think jeans and undone white shirt would look good

- No toilet photos

- No photos with socks

- Outside photos can be appealing

- Not too many cock pics

Hope that gives you some ideas. You can always blur your face if you want to and have a photo of e.g. you in a suit.

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"Although you've put all your pics on private, OP, I hope the responses you've got give you some ideas.

Your profile, not just photos, needs a lot of work.

I've deleted them... And thanks everyone for advices. I think I'll look through website for photo ideas "

Dont have loads of cock pics, maybe full body one, some with clothes on tidy room and absolutely none standing or sitting on the shitter=)

Attend organised socials go in chat rooms be polite dont be a stalker.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders.....

I've just been trying to work out what's on the floor behind him. Is it slats from a vertical blind?

I wouldn't set foot in that room...it's bringing me out in hives.

I've gone back for another look and I've noticed an empty curtain rail but no blind runner. Which I guess answers why the slats aren't hanging up.

But why are they on the floor?

Was the rail ever adorned with a sumptuous pair of curtains hanging elegantly?

Is OP in a black hole of interior decor despair and was subconsciously hoping a kind forum member would ride in on a grey crushed velvet pony to transform his humble abode?

It's a mystery for the ages.

"

I've been on the phone to DIY SOS

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Can't believe I got to this thread too late and missed these apparently legendary photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your 3rd photo looks like you are standing in the middle of a jumble sale in your punders.....

I've just been trying to work out what's on the floor behind him. Is it slats from a vertical blind?

I wouldn't set foot in that room...it's bringing me out in hives.

I've gone back for another look and I've noticed an empty curtain rail but no blind runner. Which I guess answers why the slats aren't hanging up.

But why are they on the floor?

Was the rail ever adorned with a sumptuous pair of curtains hanging elegantly?

Is OP in a black hole of interior decor despair and was subconsciously hoping a kind forum member would ride in on a grey crushed velvet pony to transform his humble abode?

It's a mystery for the ages.

I've been on the phone to DIY SOS"

It is sorted now haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't believe I got to this thread too late and missed these apparently legendary photos"

Haha now it will stay as a Legend

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

So does your pregnant partner know you're on here or..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So does your pregnant partner know you're on here or..?"

Maybe my partner maybe not, maybe she knows maybe not... You are last person to know it... Wanna know come and chat privately...

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"So does your pregnant partner know you're on here or..?

Maybe my partner maybe not, maybe she knows maybe not... You are last person to know it... Wanna know come and chat privately..."

Oh dear op. I hope there isn’t a pregnant partner because if there is then your an assh0le

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was decorating room while I took pictures. Already changed them but it's not many public now "

No pictures is no good you need to have some pics. Just take decent ones without all the clutter and poor back grounds.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Brutal yet constructive and helpful I’m in awe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would advise you to take out the bit about " not much experience", that may put people off. Maybe put a bit in about what you enjoy sexually. For instance if you like giving oral then you could put that.

I think some of the above comments are quite harsh to be honest. The members could have given you photo advice without being so condescending.

"

Agree there's giving constructive advice then there are comments like some of those on here. So the guy made mistakes, does he need to be ridiculed over it?

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"So does your pregnant partner know you're on here or..?

Maybe my partner maybe not, maybe she knows maybe not... You are last person to know it... Wanna know come and chat privately..."

Sooo….basically she’s unaware. Got it. Next!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brutal yet constructive and helpful I’m in awe "

Even brutal comment gave me something

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would advise you to take out the bit about " not much experience", that may put people off. Maybe put a bit in about what you enjoy sexually. For instance if you like giving oral then you could put that.

I think some of the above comments are quite harsh to be honest. The members could have given you photo advice without being so condescending.

Agree there's giving constructive advice then there are comments like some of those on here. So the guy made mistakes, does he need to be ridiculed over it? "

That's typical humanity... Step on others for mistakes they made. Don't look at yours... Perfect people in a perfect world...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shadow avatar and friends only pictures usually means married or attached but even if it’s not that who wants to connect with he invisible man?

Certainly not us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shadow avatar and friends only pictures usually means married or attached but even if it’s not that who wants to connect with he invisible man?

Certainly not us. "

Certainly on the bottom it says pic on request... Had 100s msg from guys near me whitch I don't see attractive... Im trying to avoid their look while passing me on street. Weymouth is a small town

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By *rincess1988Woman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire


"Shadow avatar and friends only pictures usually means married or attached but even if it’s not that who wants to connect with he invisible man?

Certainly not us.

Certainly on the bottom it says pic on request... Had 100s msg from guys near me whitch I don't see attractive... Im trying to avoid their look while passing me on street. Weymouth is a small town "

No one will request your pics unless you struck a conversation with someone.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Certainly on the bottom it says pic on request..."

Surely you're smart enough to know that it doesn't work like that?

You've gone from bad photos to zero photos. How do you imagine that getting you the messages you want?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

There's a filter to block pictures-less profiles so you have absolutely no chance of being successful on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shadow avatar and friends only pictures usually means married or attached but even if it’s not that who wants to connect with he invisible man?

Certainly not us.

Certainly on the bottom it says pic on request... Had 100s msg from guys near me whitch I don't see attractive... Im trying to avoid their look while passing me on street. Weymouth is a small town "

No one is ever going to request a picture except the guys pretending to be women.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Had 100s msg from guys near me whitch I don't see attractive... "

Why don't you block single men from messaging you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had 100s msg from guys near me whitch I don't see attractive...

Why don't you block single men from messaging you ?"

I always wonder this! "Loads of blokes interested but that isn't what I'm looking for" then block what you aren't looking for

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Hey there been here for soo long. "

OP..you've been here for 6 months.

That is literally no time at all here.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If I received a message from you I would think from your user name that you are a voyeur and not looking to play

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

From your one public pic I would immediately assume you are married or in a relationship. Very few single men have teeny tiny butterflies on their walls.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"So does your pregnant partner know you're on here or..?

Maybe my partner maybe not, maybe she knows maybe not... You are last person to know it... Wanna know come and chat privately..."

Good lord

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost everyone you message will check out your profilebefore even thinking about opening it, but most will be viewing in mode, so you'll know nothing about it.

If they're not bowled over by your profile, they're unlikely to be interested in reading your message, let alone responding.

You need to ask yourselfcwhat your expectations were when joining fab.

This is not dial-a-shag as many single men seem to think it is.

You'll likely appeal to a hanful of people - and sods law dictates that you'll probably not be attracted to most of them.

Just like in the real world really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did chat to some guy one evening but every message was like a one word answer. Hard work so just gave up.

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