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By *orldSeller0 OP   Man
over a year ago

Craigavon

Come to the realisation that casual meets/sex just dosent motivate or do it for me anymore... Not that ive had tons of partners but the for the handful that i have been with it feels good in the moment and there is a bit of a thrill about the whole meeting process but i just cant help feeling like empty and kinda dirty afterwards.

To me it has just stopped being worth the effort required, so yeah like the title says anyone else feel similar?

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Come to the realisation that casual meets/sex just dosent motivate or do it for me anymore... Not that ive had tons of partners but the for the handful that i have been with it feels good in the moment and there is a bit of a thrill about the whole meeting process but i just cant help feeling like empty and kinda dirty afterwards.

To me it has just stopped being worth the effort required, so yeah like the title says anyone else feel similar?"

I know what you mean but it's the grind of trying to get a meet that's wearing me down.

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By *ibertine_LifestyleCouple
over a year ago

Sheerness

Kind of! I definitely now prefer the social side and having fun with our swinger friends. We have regular chats teasing each other until we can next meet up and then it is just explosive

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By *evlishduncMan
over a year ago

north suffolk south norfolk

It depends ... After some meets its a bit, well, Ho-hum and after others, it's OMG, got a do that again. It all boils down to chemistry on the day I think.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I was never a prolific meeter ,but mostly I just can't be arsed nowadays unless I had a real connection and attraction to someone.

I think COVID killed my meet mojo & maybe it's different for me as I'm half a couple ,so not meeting doesn't really bother me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I understand what you're saying. I don't feel that way personally but I think the attitude of the people you meet can affect how you feel. If I get the feeling that I'm no more than a means to an end I avoid because I like to take care of my self esteem.

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I absolutely need a connection to someone to want to meet and that's a large part which puts me off. I find a lot of people are less than honest or are simply not what I'm looking for.

I did go through a spell of meeting a lot of people, what I wanted then and what I felt would be good at that time isn't what I want now.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich (just for Sat)


"Kind of! I definitely now prefer the social side and having fun with our swinger friends. We have regular chats teasing each other until we can next meet up and then it is just explosive "

The social side is so important to swinging and we wouldn't do it if there wasn't one.

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By *ellaluaWoman
over a year ago

Camberley


"Come to the realisation that casual meets/sex just dosent motivate or do it for me anymore... Not that ive had tons of partners but the for the handful that i have been with it feels good in the moment and there is a bit of a thrill about the whole meeting process but i just cant help feeling like empty and kinda dirty afterwards.

To me it has just stopped being worth the effort required, so yeah like the title says anyone else feel similar?"

I feel like this sometimes.

I think it's because I want a bigger connection, a relationship.

I really enjoy meeting new people and love having sex with the guys I feel I connect with in some way but as a single it can be a rollercoaster of highs and lows, social meets that lead to sex and then going home alone and starting all over again or wondering when the next meet will be.

I enjoy having different sex with different people but it can also be a lonely affair at times x

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Come to the realisation that casual meets/sex just dosent motivate or do it for me anymore... Not that ive had tons of partners but the for the handful that i have been with it feels good in the moment and there is a bit of a thrill about the whole meeting process but i just cant help feeling like empty and kinda dirty afterwards.

To me it has just stopped being worth the effort required, so yeah like the title says anyone else feel similar?

I feel like this sometimes.

I think it's because I want a bigger connection, a relationship.

I really enjoy meeting new people and love having sex with the guys I feel I connect with in some way but as a single it can be a rollercoaster of highs and lows, social meets that lead to sex and then going home alone and starting all over again or wondering when the next meet will be.

I enjoy having different sex with different people but it can also be a lonely affair at times x

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See if you can put the feelers out in a club for a couple to see if you can form a throuple. I got my million to one shot and I have never been happier, I get to form real and deep connection. Plus, occasionally inviting a 4 to the group allows us to be a bit naughty with new people as well.

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

I feel exactly the same. The validation that comes from being sexually desired is only a brief sticking plaster for the emotional rejection that comes from being unlovable.

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