FabSwingers.com forum: Not feeling attractive

By *erto94 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Single guys outnumber Women/couples by 100-1 so it's always going to be tough. Having a profile of gym pics and a bio that's basically just useless disclaimer that nobody will ever read is not going to help you to stand out.

Another option is, is to go to club, but don't go if your just looking for an easy hook up.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm bald, a little chub, average cock and I went to a club and just chatted to people, kept a respectful distance and my hands to myself. Now I have an owner couple and a circle of the best and sexiest friends, just being myself.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

Cheer up hunk, you're plenty attractive. Struggling to get replies/meets is just the nature of the fabs beast.

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By *erto94 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Don't worry, I'm sure lots of us, including myself lacks confidence. But there's someone for everyone. Just got to focus on your talents and be a gentleman. Women will see this and definitely want to be with you

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By *erto94 OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Just wanna say thank you guys for the advice and support

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Don't worry, I'm sure lots of us, including myself lacks confidence. But there's someone for everyone. Just got to focus on your talents and be a gentleman. Women will see this and definitely want to be with you

If only he was closer to Oxford

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

I would put your 16 June pic as your profile avatar, and just have your 24 July cock pic in your public gallery for now. Hide all the other pics in your friends gallery, and take some pics using the timer function on your phone, rather than using bathroom mirrors. Also, when it comes to attracting women, less is more, so try to make your pics teasing, with some clothing, and smiles, women love smiles

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

You're very attractive! Defo remove disclaimer because it's pointless, maybe say a bit more about your fantasies?

Also most guys claim to love giving oral, so unfortunately it's not something that makes fellas stand out (to me anyway) - Xeno x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Tbh we all go through the not feeling attractive moments at times -

I went through it a few weeks back but then someone said to me uour nice looking on Saturday buzzing

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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago

Ryde, Isle of Wight

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

It's not stupid at all. I think everyone struggles with self-image at one time or another. I struggle with it terribly and have days when I loathe myself and how I look.

Also, remember that single men are in the vast majority on this site. Don't take it personally if you don't always find it easy to get a meet.

And FYI, your body looks lush and your veri is lovely

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

You've more characters on your profile from that disclaimer. Why is it there? Do you know what it means? That specific US law you've mentioned seems to be about Commercial and Business transactions. It's total nonsense.

When we want to meet, we unhide pics, and relax filters. We then get around 200 messages in about an hour, which is fine, and expected but to whittle it down we will be ruthless and stuff like disclaimers with no real thought is the kinda thing that leads to us deleting messages. It sounds a bit mean spirited but it's likely the reality for many here.

Try work on your profile, lose all the rubbish (male half skim reads fast!) and use the space to sell yourself. What can you provide? What can you do? What do you like?

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort your photos out. They're mostly all the same. And like others have said. Exclude the lame disclaimer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you like ‘eating’ pussy..not the best way to describe you’re a lover of oral but that’s just my opinion

Good luck all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all go through the motions - Take a break come back refreshed, enjoy yourself / treat yourself. Do things that make you happy

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By *ockyroad666Man
over a year ago

Maesteg

Get to socials and chat to people

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By *ease2017Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Take a step back, look at what you do have rather than what other people do. Lifes to short to worry about the little things in life. There are alot of males for females to pick from. Just try to make your 1st messages a good one make it count. Its hard for people to pick from messages and photos alone. Keep you chin up pal

happy fabbing pal

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

For what it's worth, I think you are good looking

Like other people have said we all go through periods of self-doubt. I think your profile probably the issue and not your physical appearance.

Be kind to yourself xx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Don't rely on fab, or any website, to be the source of your wellbeing. If it impacts you negatively, step back and work out how you could stop this, as well as how you could develop it, in the wider world.

Single men have to work very hard here, to try to get traction and become established. The single most emphasised focus is for them to invest in their profiles and how they are getting to know others. Socials and swinging clubs are ideal places to get to know more people. Don't assume that they are instant sex jackpot arenas though.

People here like a huge range of others. You are not unattractive. I don't get all of my partners from fab, it's much better not to have all eggs in 1 basket. It could be better for you to flirt and find partners everywhere, so that lack of results here, isn't too much for you to bare.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"I'm bald, a little chub, average cock and I went to a club and just chatted to people, kept a respectful distance and my hands to myself. Now I have an owner couple and a circle of the best and sexiest friends, just being myself."

What's an owner couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "
I find it hard to meet because of my age, lots of women and couples have a low age range.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Not sure that looks matter that much in the end. Be friendly, be charming, be humble, be brave and take action and get chatting to as many people as you can. Best of luck you are plenty good looking enough to swing

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

What's an owner couple?"

I'll tell you in private

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

What's an owner couple?"

Actually, I can't, message me and I'll reply

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Not sure that looks matter that much in the end. Be friendly, be charming, be humble, be brave and take action and get chatting to as many people as you can. Best of luck you are plenty good looking enough to swing

Looks is irrelevant as I'm seen plenty of swingers on here with plenty of positive verifications, looking like they're having a great time but not the conventional super model or pornstar look

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Looks is irrelevant as I'm seen plenty of swingers on here with plenty of positive verifications, looking like they're having a great time but not the conventional super model or pornstar look"

I had a few people that said to me at weekend you look nice - this kinda made me feel a little in edge as I am chunky guy, no tats, average sized cock

I ended up having a great weeekeed

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me"

I heartily agree

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By *ustintime69Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Oh most of the time on Fab I feel unattractive but given my age, lack of recent verifications, questionable looks, overly long and complicated profile and spending too much time chatting shit and undermining myself in the politics forum, then I think I am lucky to get any attention at all

Don’t get too bothered by fab as it’s a harsh environment at times and just remind yourself that if it’s not working for you then taking a break from it for a week or three is always a good plan

God luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club! You do kinda become immune to it after a while though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me"

Clubs are the best way to meet people, especially for single guys and couples.

Always will be the best way.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Agreed most of my meets been though club scene

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By *reedy JamesMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I'm not your target audience, but you are very attractive

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By *umbiyaMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Surprised you're struggling. Your body is absolutely fine and you look like what a lot of women would be interested in. Only issue is being under 6ft, which is a deal-breaker for most women here.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me

Clubs are the best way to meet people, especially for single guys and couples.

Always will be the best way.

I cannot agree with this statement, speaking as a single guy who has been to several clubs.

Clubs do work well for couples though

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

We all have days like that and fab can be a hard place god guys as you outnumber women

You look real good from what I can see, keep with it

Better still , go to a club and mingle

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP,

This site is littered with posts such as this one and so few of those people take the advice they seek. However, it's good to see that you have already taken some of the advice given to you by previous posters.

The only thing we could possibly add is to remember that it isn't just you. Many people struggle to find meets, even more so if you have limited availability like us. Rejection happens to everyone, it's not just you, so try not to take rejection personally.

Think of it this way, if you walked down the street and passed a thousand people, how many of them in the split second they walked past you, do you think would want to have sex with you? Realistically that number is likely to be very small indeed. Being on Fab is no different, you have a split second to make a good impression and for people to want to take it further. Those that make the best first impression will always stand out from the other 999.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel overly attractive, very conscious of my slim body shape, can't be everyone's cup of tea but everyone has their preferred type.

Lee

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

You have to have a Teflon skin on here.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We actually had to have a big conversation this week because I’m super self conscious and have times when I literally think I’m hideous and just feel so inferior and constantly compare myself to others. I’m mentally really unkind to myself some times and it really gets me down when I do it. I struggle to get out of my own head, I think on here is easy because I choose which photos and videos to share and I take most of the photos of myself so I can position myself better etc. We love clubs but on a couple of occasions I’ve been completely in my own head comparing myself and ripping myself to shreds which then makes it impossible to approach other people and actually spoils things for both of us, it isn’t sexy to hear your wife insulting herself! Sexiness stems so much from confidence and how you carry yourself, when you feel good, others see and sense it and it makes you more appealing. I’m trying to work on my confidence, but you also need to remember that you aren’t ever going to be everyone’s type.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single for ten years now an I'm only 41. I no what I look like I no I'm a 3 out of ten and I've expected it because that's what I've been told my hole life. so I thought on hear it might be different. Well it's different now I don't get laughed at I just get ignored all I want is a friend. but tomorrow is another day. any advice on how to make friends and get to talk to people would be very appreciated. thanks everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been single for ten years now an I'm only 41. I no what I look like I no I'm a 3 out of ten and I've expected it because that's what I've been told my hole life. so I thought on hear it might be different. Well it's different now I don't get laughed at I just get ignored all I want is a friend. but tomorrow is another day. any advice on how to make friends and get to talk to people would be very appreciated. thanks everyone."

You are more of a 7 out of 10.. don't put yourself down because others have in your past. You are a good looking man ..

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I never feel attractive but it's nice when men give me compliments, whether they genuinely mean it or not.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

Did you get your confidence boost in the end OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the op was fat and pretty ordinary the comments would be quite different

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"If the op was fat and pretty ordinary the comments would be quite different

In what way apart from stating the obvious about his looks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

The world of internet dating/swinging/hook ups/whatever is a strange one. It’s challenging to make meaningful connections with like minded people, I think…just be yourself and don’t take it personally when people aren’t interested. It’s their loss at the end of the day

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me

Clubs are the best way to meet people, especially for single guys and couples.

Always will be the best way.

I totally disagree. Clubs are not for everyone and it does annoy me people keep selling it like it's a taste of pure heaven. In reality, it's just a big minefield like fab is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling OP, Fab can be cruel at times. It's no reflection on you, don't let it get you down. I quit because I felt the same way and took a break. I found clubs work for me rather than the site itself, it's not a sure thing but might be worth a try? Go well

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me

Clubs are the best way to meet people, especially for single guys and couples.

Always will be the best way.

I totally disagree. Clubs are not for everyone and it does annoy me people keep selling it like it's a taste of pure heaven. In reality, it's just a big minefield like fab is."

Hear here!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

It's very hard for single guys on here as you've got a massive amount of competition from other guys, many well verified. Some say go to a club, some say otherwise! Many Men do well in clubs, they've all got something in common. It's not their looks, they've all got a bit of chat. The ones that sit on their own (Couples included) or just walk without chatting to people are less likely to have fun. In August we had a friendly chatty guy talk to us and we ended up in a room together. So OP and other guys, there's great fun to be had in clubs but you need to be chatty.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

Yup under no illusion I’m an ugly cunt. Other folk have a harder life so I just don’t care most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel unattractive? Is it because of a lack of messages/replies? Why are you basing your attractiveness on that?

Men outnumber women on here by a mile. Women get tons of messages a day, so even the good ones often get overlooked because of the bombardment.

That’s doesn’t mean you’re unattractive, you’re just in a pool with a lot of other men so it’s harder to stand out!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

Maybe they just don’t like your profile?

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago

Live Sussex, Work London

I don’t feel attractive from who I see look back at me in the mirror. The number of messages I get here has no impact on how I feel looking at myself.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

You are good looking guy. If you feel unattractive just because of fab, pause it for a while till you get your confidence back.

If it’s in general, it mental issue, get professional help either from coach or therapist. Nothing to be a shamed of getting professional help. If you have teeth ache you’d go to a dentist, why not to apply same approach.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Here to echo the great advice on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same,feel like my wife doesn't desire me anymore which makes me feel unattractive lost my mojo put on weight generally not in a good place

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

You are good looking guy. If you feel unattractive just because of fab, pause it for a while till you get your confidence back.

I looked into therapy. Dam it's expensive and wish I was a therapist if that's the money they're making per hour lol

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid "

Everybody has their own hang ups! Mrs here btw I’m the same my face is over my account but I honestly lack so much self confidence xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey there i know this sounds super stupid but i feel really unattractive and like i struggle to meet anyone off her is me that im just not good looking or am i just being stupid

Apart from this, it really is a numbers game in Fab! The handful of ladies local to you will have hundreds of guys to choose from, you just need to stand out from the crowd.

Most in here will advise you visit clubs, but those who shout “Whoop whoop yay! Clubs!” usually have a vested interest in the business, so try to ask other single guys for unbiased club advice

Keep the faith!

I tried clubs and it wasn't for me. It's very expensive venture trying out clubs so I wouldn't recommend it unless you live locally to one and not as fussy as me

Clubs are the best way to meet people, especially for single guys and couples.

Always will be the best way.

I totally disagree. Clubs are not for everyone and it does annoy me people keep selling it like it's a taste of pure heaven. In reality, it's just a big minefield like fab is."

I agree with you about clubs

Mrs

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