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Does Strapon Sex/Pegging have to involve sub/dom?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

As a D/s couple we find that pegging has nothing at all to do with our kink lifestyle and is probably the most vanilla we get with eachother as Luna doesn't have a dominant bone in her body.

Mr Hayes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my man enjoy pegging as part of our normal private sex life

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?"

The culprit here is the widespread cultural belief that penetrating=active=dominant and being penetrated=passive=submissive. Adding to it, it is (still) taboo for men to be penetrated. Typically straight people will stick to these outlines, so the man who bends over is passive is submissive. It doesn't take a genius to think outside of this though. Yes sure a woman can penetrate a man and it be loving, sensual, romantic, or whatever you both want it to be.

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge


"(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?

The culprit here is the widespread cultural belief that penetrating=active=dominant and being penetrated=passive=submissive. Adding to it, it is (still) taboo for men to be penetrated. Typically straight people will stick to these outlines, so the man who bends over is passive is submissive. It doesn't take a genius to think outside of this though. Yes sure a woman can penetrate a man and it be loving, sensual, romantic, or whatever you both want it to be."

Couldn’t agree more. I really enjoy being penetrated but not in an aggressive bdsm situation. Loving, sensual, intimate and yes passionate does it for me every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. I think it’s a common misconception that the penetrated partner is always submissive and the penetrating partner is always dominant. This isn’t the case. There are a lot of female dommes who would love to let you know they can be dominant while being penetrated!

Personally I like to top/peg and while I’m definitely dominant I don’t have to be topping to be dominant, if you see what I mean. I can be in charge while also being penetrated.

A male dom could order his sub to peg him and still be dominating the interaction.

And two people can just be enjoying penetrative sex without any dominant or submissive elements.

I get men messaging me saying they want to try being submissive, and what they usually mean is that they want to be penetrated. The two are not the same.

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

The more vanilla way as you put it is quite common, probably more so than in a sub/dom arrangement.

There can be something very sensual about it aswell rather than firmer.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Not in my head. I do it to please my partner if they like it so it’s about equal fun. Plus I think it looks great.

V x

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Absolutely nothing to do with sub/dom play. It can just be a sex act and fun, the same way you can still do all kinds a bdsm and kinky stuff and it still has nothing to do with being submissive or dominan. It's only this if you want it to be.

It's a bit like saying because you are on top in missionary you are dominating the other person. Crazy

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city

We enjoy it within both sub/domme and vanilla fun

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?

The culprit here is the widespread cultural belief that penetrating=active=dominant and being penetrated=passive=submissive. Adding to it, it is (still) taboo for men to be penetrated. Typically straight people will stick to these outlines, so the man who bends over is passive is submissive. It doesn't take a genius to think outside of this though. Yes sure a woman can penetrate a man and it be loving, sensual, romantic, or whatever you both want it to be.

Couldn’t agree more. I really enjoy being penetrated but not in an aggressive bdsm situation. Loving, sensual, intimate and yes passionate does it for me every time. "

This

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Pegging is part of our normal sexlife. I like to flip roles on times. Not as in a D/s sense as he is the dominant in our relationship. But more taking turns taking the lead in sex sinarios if that makes sense op.Joanne.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only tried it once but really enjoyed it. I asked my now ex girlfriend to do it to me. It wasn’t a sub dom thing. Trouble is I haven’t found anyone since that is interested.

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

Not at all. I've enjoyed a spot of pegging and never saw it as a D/s thing - for me it was just another way of pleasing the partner with a different sensation. The recipient was actually very much in control of how they wanted to receive it.

It was a super intimate thing, and I've only ever done it with one person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I think it can but it depends on the mood

It's hot to have a dominant woman

But I for one love being pegged sensually with loads of foreplay and touching etc

Like I'm being made love too not just fucked but I find there aren't that many women who enjoy that side of pegging

But that could just be me being unlucky!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

No

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

Pegging can be both, sensual or dominant

Personly I find a lady with a strap on very erotic,, no ned to be dom but her being in control at that point is a turn on so I guess for me both work depending on the scenario, its all very sexy

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"Pegging can be both, sensual or dominant

Personly I find a lady with a strap on very erotic,, no ned to be dom but her being in control at that point is a turn on so I guess for me both work depending on the scenario, its all very sexy "

What this man said. Took the words right out of my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it doesnt need to but its a bonus

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By *uer MalusMan
over a year ago

Narnia


"(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?

The culprit here is the widespread cultural belief that penetrating=active=dominant and being penetrated=passive=submissive. Adding to it, it is (still) taboo for men to be penetrated. Typically straight people will stick to these outlines, so the man who bends over is passive is submissive. It doesn't take a genius to think outside of this though. Yes sure a woman can penetrate a man and it be loving, sensual, romantic, or whatever you both want it to be."

Love this reply! Many need to be challenged about their preconceived view. Again, love this note

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By *uer MalusMan
over a year ago

Narnia


"Absolutely not. I think it’s a common misconception that the penetrated partner is always submissive and the penetrating partner is always dominant. This isn’t the case. There are a lot of female dommes who would love to let you know they can be dominant while being penetrated!

Personally I like to top/peg and while I’m definitely dominant I don’t have to be topping to be dominant, if you see what I mean. I can be in charge while also being penetrated.

A male dom could order his sub to peg him and still be dominating the interaction.

And two people can just be enjoying penetrative sex without any dominant or submissive elements.

I get men messaging me saying they want to try being submissive, and what they usually mean is that they want to be penetrated. The two are not the same. "

Again, great response.

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By *atchmeibiteMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No is the short answerr

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Not at all

, just a nice sexy event

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am not into the whole sub/dom thing but I love pegging certain men

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We enjoy pegging and sometimes do involve the dom/sub dynamic but it definitely doesn't have to.

There is going to be some degree of submission on the M's half I suppose but more so in the respect of "taking" as opposed to adopting a submissive approach.

Whatever it is though, the power dynamic switch is very sexy and I absolutely love when A pegs me

C x

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By *ummerfield94Man
over a year ago

falkirk

Like anything it's something you can do both in a kink environment but it does not have to be. It's all about how you want it to happen. It's one of the things I look forward to trying as I think the power exchange is exciting.

As long as you have fun and play safe when doing it that's all that really matters.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Doesn't have to be sub/dom, that's like saying all girls that have a cock inside them are sub. Sometimes I like a cock in my arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case, I’m a very dominant guy in the bedroom, so when I’m getting pegged I like the roles to be reversed and be dominated,

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex


"Pegging can be both, sensual or dominant

Personly I find a lady with a strap on very erotic,, no ned to be dom but her being in control at that point is a turn on so I guess for me both work depending on the scenario, its all very sexy

What this man said. Took the words right out of my mouth."

Thank you appreciate your kind words x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why pegging and sub/dom tend to go hand in hand but there’s no reason why you can’t have one without the other. I actually can imagine it being more fun being done in a tender way than in a Dom way ( maybe that’s because I’m a terrible dom anyway lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn has created the impression you speak of; in porn every lady pegging a guy is a harsh, laughing dominatrix sneering at the guy beneath her, which presumably fulfills many men's fantasy. In fact the only couple I know that do it for pleasure and mutual enjoyment in porn are 'CosmicBroccoli'

Look them up, very enjoyable.

Also if you enjoy pegging or chastity play as a couple for relationship reasons rather than a fetish I strongly recommend reading https://evolvingyourman.com

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"(This isn't another "I'm looking for someone to peg me" topic).

Do any M/F couples who enjoy pegging do this in a more "vanilla" way?

I know, it sounds like an oxymoron as pegging is inherently kinky, but I'm wondering if there as a such thing as strapon sex between M and F which doesn't heavily involve Sub/Dom? Just something with role reversal?

The culprit here is the widespread cultural belief that penetrating=active=dominant and being penetrated=passive=submissive. Adding to it, it is (still) taboo for men to be penetrated. Typically straight people will stick to these outlines, so the man who bends over is passive is submissive. It doesn't take a genius to think outside of this though. Yes sure a woman can penetrate a man and it be loving, sensual, romantic, or whatever you both want it to be."

This answered everything you need to know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose from my perspective it seems like strapon sex is non-existant outside relationships apart from paid escòrts/"dommes" (which I have no interest in).

And porn caters to the lowest common denominator so any involving M/F strapon sex is almost always femdom porn.

I don't mind role reversal or someone taking the lead, I just have no interest in "femdom" that's usually attributed to it in porn

Thanks for the replies everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think the Peg Police are gonna come and arrest you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree she just pegs me and that’s it although you do feel a little sub x

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire


"You think the Peg Police are gonna come and arrest you?"

I'll get the handcuffs.

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