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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know what I'm doing wrong nobody EVER replies. They hardly even read my messages and when they do, nothing. I've had the odd one word reply and nothing. I've tried a variety of difference types of messages, and I don't hound women or send multiple messages or get arsy with anyone.....so what am I doing wrong? Never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year.

It's knocked my confidence badly to be honest, my friend who is female gets meets any time she wants, sometimes multiple over a weekend and is loving the site.

Any advice would be really helpful, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is hidden so that's likely why.

Also no one can give you advice is they can't see your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd only hidden it last night. It's open again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to make a better profile, add more text with some of your sexual interests in it. A couple of naughty photos, maybe your female friend could take some for you.

You need to sell yourself and let ladies know why they should meet you...

Be aware you will never get the level of messages/meets your female friend does, due to the amount of competition you have.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

You profile is very basic. The first thing most women do when they get a message is look at the profile of the sender before even opening the message.

You will be judged on this rather than your message content.

Get some more text on there about yourself, what you are looking for what you enjoy and what you can bring to the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a meet verification from June so I’m not sure why you state you’ve never met anyone through Fab.

I’d imagine the most off putting thing is that you live in a van. I can’t see many women finding that appealing tbh.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sell yourself op and make yourself stand out

What can you offer a meet & what sort of things are you into.

People don't tend to ask,they just skip onto the next profile.

Your current profile doesn't tell the reader much .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you I will have a look and try and do some better text


"You need to make a better profile, add more text with some of your sexual interests in it. A couple of naughty photos, maybe your female friend could take some for you.

You need to sell yourself and let ladies know why they should meet you...

Be aware you will never get the level of messages/meets your female friend does, due to the amount of competition you have."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you I will redo my text, appreciate the input
"You profile is very basic. The first thing most women do when they get a message is look at the profile of the sender before even opening the message.

You will be judged on this rather than your message content.

Get some more text on there about yourself, what you are looking for what you enjoy and what you can bring to the meet. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was a verification from someone I met off fab but who is obviously on fab.

And my van is lush by the way :D


"You have a meet verification from June so I’m not sure why you state you’ve never met anyone through Fab.

I’d imagine the most off putting thing is that you live in a van. I can’t see many women finding that appealing tbh."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really appreciate your input, thank you - I was nieve to think we would talk about all that stuff in messages haha, I will redo the text, thank you
"Sell yourself op and make yourself stand out

What can you offer a meet & what sort of things are you into.

People don't tend to ask,they just skip onto the next profile.

Your current profile doesn't tell the reader much ."

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

As you've mentioned that you have been here on/off before what was your experience before what did you do differently or not and what might you be doing different now was past successful

To try and help you a little their is plenty of helpful advice among the pile of threads from previous folk whom asked similar as yourself it's a useful tool providing loads of helpful advice by users offering help. So my suggestion would be search the forum profile help advice so your able to create something that fits around you personally and hopefully assist you

Good luck pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know what I'm doing wrong nobody EVER replies. They hardly even read my messages and when they do, nothing. I've had the odd one word reply and nothing. I've tried a variety of difference types of messages, and I don't hound women or send multiple messages or get arsy with anyone.....so what am I doing wrong? Never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year.

It's knocked my confidence badly to be honest, my friend who is female gets meets any time she wants, sometimes multiple over a weekend and is loving the site.

Any advice would be really helpful, thank you "

112 words in this post, 17 in your biog.

You've put more effort into your question than the very thing people look for when looking at a potential meet.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had someone messaging me asking for proper face pictures and they said they were fake after I sent them

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think you could improve on your profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had someone messaging me asking for proper face pictures and they said they were fake after I sent them "

Seems they may have been right….

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"I don't know what I'm doing wrong nobody EVER replies. They hardly even read my messages and when they do, nothing. I've had the odd one word reply and nothing. I've tried a variety of difference types of messages, and I don't hound women or send multiple messages or get arsy with anyone.....so what am I doing wrong? Never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year.

It's knocked my confidence badly to be honest, my friend who is female gets meets any time she wants, sometimes multiple over a weekend and is loving the site.

Any advice would be really helpful, thank you "
you don't have a profile for them to read, your pics are honest, you've had a meet and you're verified but to be honest men outweigh women by 105 to 1 so personality comes to fore or go to clubs clubs require personality too but your dicks more important there, they want instant sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my type but your pictures look acceptable

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

You said you “never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year” but you have a meet verification?

What else could you possibly lie about?

Sometimes it’s all in details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You said you “never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year” but you have a meet verification?

What else could you possibly lie about?

Sometimes it’s all in details.

"

He said he had met someone away from fab but they are on here too so gave him a verification...

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"

You said you “never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year” but you have a meet verification?

What else could you possibly lie about?

Sometimes it’s all in details.

He said he had met someone away from fab but they are on here too so gave him a verification... "

That doesn’t sound good either but maybe I’m just being snappy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are thousands of guys to each female. So get real. Boohoo!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Men's wellbeing here is really helped by having realistic expectations. I'd recommend that for you OP.

Secondly, as you've picked up from other posts, investing effort into your presentation here is highly valuable. Consider what we'd like or need to see, before we're going to become more interested or certain of your potential matching to us. We'll be interested in your physique and looks, amongst other things. It's great that you have face pics . Use really clear pics that show you off positively.

As well as the text selling you, consider adding where you'd meet details.

You can do well here. Just a focus on how and what you're communicating will help you. Read through some of the many posts from single men struggling and see what resonates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate these kind of threads because it just seems like a ploy for attention. Fab is what you make it tbh.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It amazes us that so many guys just don't understand or realise that they outnumber women & couples by such a huge margin and then ask why they aren't getting meet when they have almost blank profile.

You've got to at least make an effort with your bio to even stand an ounce of chance, plus you aren't going to meet any 99 year olds on here!

Oh and as your female friend having no problems getting a meet, we'll let you work that one out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was a verification from someone I met off fab but who is obviously on fab.

And my van is lush by the way :D

"

The term Van doesn't tend to make many people think of terms like lush etc.

If your Van is a high end custom job (like one of my mates has done) then maybe take some quality pictures of you in your Van showing off some of its lush facilities? (they could be a decent body photo it doesn't need to be your face).

Turn into a potential Unique Selling Point.

Also get along to some clubs I'm sure living in your Van will give you more travel and sleep over options than the average person has. Same with social events.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You said you “never had a meet on FAB and been here on and off for over a year” but you have a meet verification?

What else could you possibly lie about?

Sometimes it’s all in details.

He said he had met someone away from fab but they are on here too so gave him a verification...

That doesn’t sound good either but maybe I’m just being snappy."

He met someone on another site and then discovered they were on here so was able to be verified by them whats not sounding good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the wonderful world of fab.

Think about it this way, you know those takeaway menus that get posted through your door?

Do you respond to any of them?

I'm guessing you already have prefered businesses so they probably all go in the bin.

You haven't asked for them to be randomly posted through your door.

If any catch your eye, you might look over them or maybe even give one of them a try.

But you're not obliged to.

Same with messages on here.

Many women browse in stealth mode, so you won't even know they've looked at you.

So, when you send your message, they might check put your profile first before even thinking about reading your message, and, as others have said, there's not a lot to go on with your profile, so that may be where your problem lies.

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By *arkandlovelyWoman
over a year ago

South Derbyshire

Yeah the van thing would freak me out.

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