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By *i015 OP   Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to message them and make it intresting maybe a bit about yourself if they have info on their profile about what they want suggest what your interested in if you like their pics etc etc their I'd s world of endless possibilities also make the message personal to them and not a transferable message. I may not have many verifications but was on the site as a couple before and know what they look for and try making it fun maybe funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you read the profile and fit what they are looking for before messaging.

Then in your first message introduce yourself, tell the person why you think you are compatible, an insight into your likes, attach a face picture.

Good luck

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"Make sure you read the profile and fit what they are looking for before messaging.

Then in your first message introduce yourself, tell the person why you think you are compatible, an insight into your likes, attach a face picture.

Good luck "

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yeah 'nice tits' or 'how are you' are just deleted. Lol.

I prefer a quick hello, introduction, maybe if I can gauge they've got a sense of humour, not an essay, and not a detailed description of what they want to do to me that's like a copied page out of 50 bloody shades!! Urgh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea. "

Hi

wanna fuck ?

Nice 2 liner there for you

Honestly there's no one good way of doing anything on here as what might be good for one won't be for another and you're never going to know until you send it... and watch it get deleted without being opened

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Makes no odds in my experience. I have spent ages writing a thoughtful polite informative introduction, picking out points in their profile and POOF 'deleted' with no response... You will never win but keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time it won't make any difference how well worded or thought out the message is - for one simple reason :- unless we are actually looking for a meet we normally ignore random messages .

Why is that ?

Simple really , just because we are on this site it doesn't mean we want to be replying to every message 24/7 do we ?

Kids , work and everyday life always take priority - so although we read most messages we only reply when we are looking for potential meets which means it's pot luck , whatever the initial message

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Makes no odds in my experience. I have spent ages writing a thoughtful polite informative introduction, picking out points in their profile and POOF 'deleted' with no response... You will never win but keep trying "

Did you save it for next time?

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Nope... cut and paste though time saving gets you nowhere.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Most of the time it won't make any difference how well worded or thought out the message is - for one simple reason :- unless we are actually looking for a meet we normally ignore random messages .

Why is that ?

Simple really , just because we are on this site it doesn't mean we want to be replying to every message 24/7 do we ?

Kids , work and everyday life always take priority - so although we read most messages we only reply when we are looking for potential meets which means it's pot luck , whatever the initial message "

Yeah this is exactly right. It's harsh I know but it's the way it goes x

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby


"Most of the time it won't make any difference how well worded or thought out the message is - for one simple reason :- unless we are actually looking for a meet we normally ignore random messages .

Why is that ?

Simple really , just because we are on this site it doesn't mean we want to be replying to every message 24/7 do we ?

Kids , work and everyday life always take priority - so although we read most messages we only reply when we are looking for potential meets which means it's pot luck , whatever the initial message

Yeah this is exactly right. It's harsh I know but it's the way it goes x "

You could be missing out on something

Maybe if you get a message from someone that looks interesting you should reply saying you are not looking to play at the moment but will keep you in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea. "

I just don't get why we should have to tell people what to say to us

if YOU are sending a message, it's YOUR message, it reflects YOUR personality (or sadly in some cases the lack of it) Why do you ask people what YOUR personality should be? Just be you, if yer dull, you'll eventually find someone just as dull to shag... not saying you're dull of course, just using it as an example

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Most of the time it won't make any difference how well worded or thought out the message is - for one simple reason :- unless we are actually looking for a meet we normally ignore random messages .

Why is that ?

Simple really , just because we are on this site it doesn't mean we want to be replying to every message 24/7 do we ?

Kids , work and everyday life always take priority - so although we read most messages we only reply when we are looking for potential meets which means it's pot luck , whatever the initial message

Yeah this is exactly right. It's harsh I know but it's the way it goes x

You could be missing out on something

Maybe if you get a message from someone that looks interesting you should reply saying you are not looking to play at the moment but will keep you in mind "

I have done exactly that and I keep the messages so I can contact the people when that happens x

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea. "

The message has to engage the person people you re messagiing, so theres no formula because each and everyone is different, flip the coin,, what would you want t o receive in a message to yourself, ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time it won't make any difference how well worded or thought out the message is - for one simple reason :- unless we are actually looking for a meet we normally ignore random messages .

Why is that ?

Simple really , just because we are on this site it doesn't mean we want to be replying to every message 24/7 do we ?

Kids , work and everyday life always take priority - so although we read most messages we only reply when we are looking for potential meets which means it's pot luck , whatever the initial message

Yeah this is exactly right. It's harsh I know but it's the way it goes x

You could be missing out on something

Maybe if you get a message from someone that looks interesting you should reply saying you are not looking to play at the moment but will keep you in mind "

That's a fair point , and we have been known to do just that .

However , in the context of the original post - the fact is that most of the time it doesn't really matter how good the original message was

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea. "

That is impossible to answer. Everyone will be different. Some people will like getting certain type of messages some people won'. For example some women you message may enjoy getting a message with you telling them a little bit about yourself, what you like about their profile etc. While some women will find that type of message boring. Some women like reading a message describing what you would like to do with them if you were to meet. However some women would find that type of message boring or a massive turn off. Some women would love a funny not serious type of introduction message. However other woman may find that type of message boring and not funny. Humour is subjective after all.

Then best thing to do is read the whole profile. See what the woman or couple are looking for. See if you match. Make any message you send individual to the person you are messaging. Show you have read the whole profile and not just looked at the pictures. Never be pushy and if your message gets deleted take it as polite no thank you. Resist the urge to ask why not when told no thank you as you may not like the answer. Join in the forums to get to know people, go in the chat rooms, go to socials etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen lots of profiles that say "One liners will be ignored/deleted"

Apart from saying hello or hi, what do you expect others to say in the first message.

just brief descriptions of what you expect in the message just to give others an idea.

That is impossible to answer. Everyone will be different. Some people will like getting certain type of messages some people won'. For example some women you message may enjoy getting a message with you telling them a little bit about yourself, what you like about their profile etc. While some women will find that type of message boring. Some women like reading a message describing what you would like to do with them if you were to meet. However some women would find that type of message boring or a massive turn off. Some women would love a funny not serious type of introduction message. However other woman may find that type of message boring and not funny. Humour is subjective after all.

Then best thing to do is read the whole profile. See what the woman or couple are looking for. See if you match. Make any message you send individual to the person you are messaging. Show you have read the whole profile and not just looked at the pictures. Never be pushy and if your message gets deleted take it as polite no thank you. Resist the urge to ask why not when told no thank you as you may not like the answer. Join in the forums to get to know people, go in the chat rooms, go to socials etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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