FabSwingers.com forum: Instant meets

By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

So I’m intrigued, is it the norm to receive one liner messages asking for basically an instant meet or something mainly tgirls receive with the assumption that we don’t have standards and happy to just go from pillar to post? I’m assuming it’s all women/couples and t girls that experience this but interested to know. Gets rather tiresome but that’s the nature of the beast lol.

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

You're definitely not being singled out lovely. Those kind of messages are quite standard in my inbox too.

Fair enough that might work for some ladies but I make it quite clear my profile it's not for me.

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

The wife and our profile get a few of these not that many to be fair. As our profile is set to just couples and single ladies only, it's usually only the male half of a couple who I in the area for the night and would we like to meet him by we I mean her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insta meet requests more often than not come from guys with one line no effort no photo or one photo of a cock profiles. We find these guys to be quite amusing in terms of their understanding of swinging and of course for their ingrained sense of entitlement so amusing in fact that they get an insta delete..

Funnier still is when they send a 2nd message saying... Not interested... Why not? That results in an insta block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to bet that the vast majority of single guys that send out messages begging for instant meets won’t go through with meeting up.

I’d either ignore them or string them along, safe in the knowledge that they are all pretty much time wasters.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I get these all the time.

I've also been told by a few men that if I'm showing as online I should be ready to meet straight away.

I'm not sure what planet some of these guys are on.

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By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

Haha yes had a few of those ‘not interested, why not?’… you’d thought I’d be common sense right?!

Thanks everyone, figured it’s pretty wide spread. Hopefully some will see this thread and get the hint that they need to change their attitude to swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even me... get these messages off men. And im aware of my non oil painting qualities.

Yes my profile says im into men. Im not but im open to conversation with anyone who can hold a conversation.

Makes me appreciate how bad it must be for your ladies... for every request i get you must get 250

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By *etteeMan
over a year ago

Larne

I can't believe how some people think? and would get off on no chemistry or thoughts or safety in mind.

Mind boggles sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d either ignore them or string them along, safe in the knowledge that they are all pretty much time wasters.

Doesn't that make you exactly what you claim they are, I fail to see a difference tbh

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I get these sometimes from low effort women who think I’ll just drop everything at once to go get some pussy, due to being a single guy.

Easy to just delete and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get it from guys and years ago when i was here alone used to get them from ladies all of the time

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

yep the Bog standard

Hi, Do ya wanna meet

usually from someone 200 miles away

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's not just you op,it's normal

People think you're online so you're gagging to meet them there and then.

I'm a night worker and there's been nights in wide awake so online & people offer me meets now at 3am.

Just makes me think anyone would do for them since they've never seen a face or spoken to me before.

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By *4G-GBBukCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Profile-Not meeting currently, wouldn't meet at a drop of a hat anyway

Message "hi u ok. Looking for now?"

Makes life easy just to block them, but if they just had a think for a few minutes instead of chancing their arm, it would be better for everyone.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I get it quite often too, always couples, usually staying in a nearby hotel (I live in a popular touristy area), the wife has had enough alcohol to lose her inhibitions enough to meet a random cock readily available to drop what he's doing and get over to their hotel while she's in the mood.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I’m intrigued, is it the norm to receive one liner messages asking for basically an instant meet or something mainly tgirls receive with the assumption that we don’t have standards and happy to just go from pillar to post? I’m assuming it’s all women/couples and t girls that experience this but interested to know. Gets rather tiresome but that’s the nature of the beast lol.

Really common. I get loads.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Very common

Anything like that gets no response and an instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably 70% of our messages are looking for an immediate or meet today / tonight.

The more persistent or aggressive ones we like to use for sport.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Get loads.

Just say yes, OK, I'm waiting and watch them run for cover.

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

I've had quite a few. Got sick of it turned my account to straight for a week or two and they slowed down.

Also the one worded 'Hi' to which I now just reply with one word no.

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By *obby3264Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Probably 70% of our messages are looking for an immediate or meet today / tonight.

The more persistent or aggressive ones we like to use for sport. "

Haha nice

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I've had quite a few. Got sick of it turned my account to straight for a week or two and they slowed down.

Also the one worded 'Hi' to which I now just reply with one word no. "

Even though I am straight, I had to block all guys messaging me, as the instant meet offers of blowjobs really grew tiresome (not one offer from a female I might add), but the final straw was the message which simply said;

Wank/suck fun?

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By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

All of these failed attempts and yet they persist. I mean somebody must be giving in and going through with a meet…right?!

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Even I get lots of them

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"All of these failed attempts and yet they persist. I mean somebody must be giving in and going through with a meet…right?!

Yes I do believe a subset of users operate on spontaneous meeting, whether to keep things simple (haven't we all waited for weeks for a meeting that had to be postponed/cancelled!), or because they prefer instant gratification, or because they are opportunistic in their approach (cheaters and those who compartmentalise to the extreme fit in this category).

What poster above described about intoxicated couples with insta requests is a story I hear from my male contacts a bit. Then there are the people that only ever sign on when they're horny, so assume everyone else is chomping at the bit to have a go too. Again poster above who was told she should be ready to meet if she's on, very typical, frankly shows so little understanding of the breadth of human sexuality.

I've been tempted by last minute requests a few times, as they came from people I was interested in already or piqued my fantasy. However I really am not a spontaneous or impulsive person. On my single fem profile I got a coffee request one morning from a woman and I did push through my comfort zone as I couldn't live with myself to have turned that down. I never met with her again though cos...she was into the rush of impulsive meets and adventuring without a plan and I wasn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the occasional message telling me how they want to such me dry, the fact I'm straight apparently turns them on more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work night shifts and if I log on whilst on my break which is usually some ungodly hour I will frequently get messages saying “meet now” or “you free now” Nothing more, no hello, nadda.

Yes of course I’ll meet you, I’m in my scrubs, look like hell and probably don’t smell too good but I’m on my way.

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By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

That one made me laugh! I can just imagine you dropping everything and going running to their door!

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am going to offer a counterbalance to all the insta meet negativity that seems to pervade this thread. I have had more than a few times when couples have been reached out for an “instant” meet. I have never had a time when a wife has been d*unk on an ”instant” meet as observed by others.

Almost all the quick meets I have taken up have come from couples that I know have looked at my profile fairly frequently in the past and they are almost always people who are from outside my area but are here for a couple of days and have found themselves free. They decided to reach out and say hello.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Actually saw one this morning in my 'local updates', from a verified couple, looking for a meet "next 40 mins to hr" - it was posted sometime between 4.00-5.00AM!

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By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

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By *harlotteBrooke9 OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Warwickshire

"I am going to offer a counterbalance to all the insta meet negativity that seems to pervade this thread. I have had more than a few times when couples have been reached out for an “instant” meet. I have never had a time when a wife has been d*unk on an ”instant” meet as observed by others.

Yes that’s fair, I guess there are times when you find yourself in the mood and available unexpectedly x

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Have never had or sent a "meet now" message. Must be doing something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get any one liners...

Oh ok, I get bloody loads of em, usually from single males who insist they are 100% straight and will only meet if I dress up for them and I can accommodate NOW

makes it pretty easy to spot the ones sat at their keyboard etc with a box of kleenex at the ready

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By *pace DoubtMan
over a year ago

Ilford

We get them all the time, and they're always the users who haven't read a word of the profile.

There's a huge amount of really thick people in the world. It frustrates me to no end. By thick, I don't mean those with legit difficulties (eg Dyslexia), I'm just talking about the lazy minded.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Luckily I block single guys - but as I stay in hotels in Manchester. The amount of tv / single guys that look at profile does increase

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I guess an advantage of clubs is you can have instant meets then and there. Knowing already you have the space at hand and that all parties are real and there ready to go. No risk of time wasters. All in a safe environment with the added advantage you can far better judge attraction and chemistry from face to face interaction rather than from a message and a profile.

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By *etteeMan
over a year ago

Larne

Personally you can leave yourself open to anything, not for me, prefer to build up on things and get to know someone, other than just a quick meet, not for me what so ever.

Happy New Year thou everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know there will be a number of couples in our local updates looking for cock between 11pm to 5am tonight. Especially as it's New Year.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

^I had an abrasively toned opinion on the type of men who request instant meets from t-girls, but I ultimately decided it was unwise to publish it & was better keeping my thoughts to myself.

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By *amesnj007Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Never actually had even a reply but you never know.

Not even sure if anyone is even seeing this post lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point earlier providing a counter balance to the thread, it’s not just single males looking for insta meets , I get a lot from couples , I’ve also had them from ladies too.

Couples I find the rudest in their response when rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I used to find it insulting. Now I find it a reflection of the sender. Cest la vie....

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By *ingerie whoreTV/TS
over a year ago

kirk hammerton

I get my share of those requests and usually spelt with the least amount of letters possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only done it once with a guy, turn up onetime but turn out to have a very small cock. So I couldn't wank and suck him. Gutted

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Happens constantly, and usually straight guys who haven't read my profile either.

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley

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yes get loads every single day, only got to come online and they are on my case

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

I prefer the chase ascend results usually much better. Mind you have done a blindfold wife meet and her not knowing me. Was very horny. Was her hub who dropped me a message

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley

"Happens constantly, and usually straight guys who haven't read my profile either.

XX"
I’ve sat talking to my friend and we have had the same person messaging at the same time sending exactly the same photos asking to meet, seems to me that they are just a load of chancers. Hope you are keeping well It’s been a long time would be nice to catch up with you again sometime x

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yeah, loads and they just get deleted straight away. If they send another message they get blocked. I just find them rude and disrespectful.

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Common messages we recieve as a couple when it clearly states our availability in our profile....

Fancy a quick one

Can i pop n give her one?

Free now!

Be at yours in 5?

Can I pop n have a go on her?

Im out now, I'll call in!

Horny now need my cock suking, be there in 5.

She looks hot send me your address ill come now.

You can imagine the replies! Then people wonder why they get blocked.

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS
over a year ago

Tetbury

Yes, standard one liners, are you free, can you accommodate, need my dick sucking, on and on, block block block.

I am very rarely dressed, maybe 2 hours a week if I am lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Common messages we recieve as a couple when it clearly states our availability in our profile....

Fancy a quick one

Can i pop n give her one?

Free now!

Be at yours in 5?

Can I pop n have a go on her?

Im out now, I'll call in!

Horny now need my cock suking, be there in 5.

She looks hot send me your address ill come now.

You can imagine the replies! Then people wonder why they get blocked. "

That's truly awful but I hope they haven't really said "can I have a go on her"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes a meet message first then a nasty one if you say no or delete .

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

I dont mind them when im out for a dressed drive.

I went to a guys once and sucked his huge dick as I looked at pics of his gf and played with her knickers.

He covered me in cum and I had to drive home like that, felt cheap and used and loved it!

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By *untime40Man
over a year ago

Currently in Sevenoaks

Hi all

Sorry i have to admit im one of those meet now, today or tomorrow guys Purley because multiple times meetings have been arranged weeks in advance plans changed and then get ghosted 5min before the meeting

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants

"Even me... get these messages off men. And im aware of my non oil painting qualities.

Yes my profile says im into men. Im not but im open to conversation with anyone who can hold a conversation.

Makes me appreciate how bad it must be for your ladies... for every request i get you must get 250"

Although says on my profile im straight i also receive these messages from men. I just reply sorry but im str8

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Although says on my profile im straight i also receive these messages from men. I just reply sorry but im str8"

Similar here, in that I get quite a few messages and winks from bi guys and TV/TS accounts - I've learned to not reply, but delete and block, after one kept repeatedly sending winks...

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

I think this is something we all experience… though I get less so now as I’ve blocked all single men … partially because of this!

My profile clearly says I can’t meet at the drop of a hat, … so clearly they haven’t read the narrative!, and there is probably a belief I am sat around fully ‘dressed’ waiting for their call!!

I don’t block so much … just ignore!

R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say that I ABSOLUTELY LOVE one line instant fuck requests as life is so short and precious that such a clear indicator of needing to press the block and delete buttons saves wasting so much precious time.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I only once sent this kind of message when a couple who lived locally put on their page theybhad been let down that day and I offered saying I was available. They came to mine that day, and a good time was had by all. That I was a one off. I message offering to chat first and meet socially. I very much doubt most people's lives can accommodate an instant meet.

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By *amesnj007Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Well I'm no longer a message Virgin had 3 recently

Not getting too excited verifying myself is hopefully next

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Literally 20 minutes ago someone is really asking me if I'm coming outside to meet right now at 4am

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Despite saying it clearly on my profile it get these types of messages ALL the time. Just a few moments ago ...... opening liner: "want my cream, Gail?"

FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, the only meets Iv had the woman has asked if I was free now, this was after messaging them a couple hours before! But maybe that was the 1% of woman on this site loool

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

I’ve only ever experienced it once from a single female a few years back out of the many that I’ve spoken to over the years

I couldn’t do the instant meet….. needless to say I didn’t hear from her again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite saying it clearly on my profile it get these types of messages ALL the time. Just a few moments ago ...... opening liner: "want my cream, Gail?"

FFS"

I bet they are a swinging player with that gem

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

"Literally 20 minutes ago someone is really asking me if I'm coming outside to meet right now at 4am "

I wonder if they’ve had any success with that approach? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those kind of messages come thick and fast.

I think some dudes think because it's a swinging site were easy.

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