FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting Couples

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm unsure if I'm overthinking it a little but many couples profiles dont show the male, or just a close up cock pic, I'm not a size queen I don't care really, but we're still couple swapping virgins, mainly because I (Mrs) don't want to commit to conversations I can't see the male half, we get lots of winks off couples but again I can't wink back when I'm unsure.

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

I don't want to be that person who has a chat for a few days, sees a pic and then has to do a polite thanks but not for me. In very visual and attraction is a must (that maybe makes me shallow but I don't care it's got to be someone I'm attracted to)

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone we're interested in we either send a face pic with first message or if they won't just move on. It's very hard to find four way attraction, clubs are good it saves on the backwards and forwards of messages

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If thats what you are looking for then no its not over thinking or being picky.

If you aren’t enticed by what’s being presented then why would you stop to investigate more?

It can just mean that your “options” are limited or that you need to accept losing time to engage with others only to have to disengage later!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Anyone we're interested in we either send a face pic with first message or if they won't just move on. It's very hard to find four way attraction, clubs are good it saves on the backwards and forwards of messages

I think clubs/socials are a good shout, we attended the Manchester social and it was so much easier meeting people at face value.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We completely understand your point. Close up cock pics certainly don't help as it's about the physical and mental attraction.

The polite no thanks afterwards can be quite awkward!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"If thats what you are looking for then no its not over thinking or being picky.

If you aren’t enticed by what’s being presented then why would you stop to investigate more?

It can just mean that your “options” are limited or that you need to accept losing time to engage with others only to have to disengage later!"

I'm one of those who finds saying no hard so it's easier not to communicate if I'm not sure than try to see and have to do the awkward no.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We completely understand your point. Close up cock pics certainly don't help as it's about the physical and mental attraction.

The polite no thanks afterwards can be quite awkward!

It really is so awkward, hence why I've not messaged or responded to winks etc, we chatted to one couple but I was pregnant and totally off men (I wasn't meeting at the time) I felt so bad having to say I'm not into the male sorry that we've not chatted to anyone since.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Utterly agree!!! We made the effort to not do the same from the start..

If we message first it'll always include face pics, the number of couple's stipulating this on their bio, only for us having to ask for one after they contact us....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We just won't interact if we can't see the male in the couple. I find it hugely disrespectful that they'd think I'm not worth being given the choice.

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By *quirt1810Woman
over a year ago

Boston

Whenever I chat to couples at clubs etc, I always mention this very issue

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester

"I'm unsure if I'm overthinking it a little but many couples profiles dont show the male, or just a close up cock pic, I'm not a size queen I don't care really, but we're still couple swapping virgins, mainly because I (Mrs) don't want to commit to conversations I can't see the male half, we get lots of winks off couples but again I can't wink back when I'm unsure.

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

Share and request face pictures in the first message , I truly set out exactly what I’m looking to explore from the start.

I ask that people are direct with me too over what they can / can’t offer

Nobody has time for fannying around

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

We agree, we generally just go to clubs although the odd exception has been made but like you say say we have to see alot more than a close up of a cock first ( as nice as they are lol ) at least with clubs, if there is no connection with either party, there plenty of other options available to try lol xx

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

The vast majority of our pics are just Char, though we think there's enough of me to give people an idea what I look like.

However I don't play with other women, just the occasional guy if he's bi, but more there for seeing Char enjoy herself. So in essence, what I look like isn't quite to important in our case.

If you're looking for full swap then completely understandable that you need to see clear pics of both beforehand.

(Bry)

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We just won't interact if we can't see the male in the couple. I find it hugely disrespectful that they'd think I'm not worth being given the choice. "

This is exactly where I am, we just don't interact, I'm just unsure if I'm taking the right approach, I'm not liking the idea of blind date.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

No, it's perfectly understandable and right to be picky. Your profile indicates a couple who looks after themselves and you would automatically aspire to meeting people of a similar standard. Whilst we're not here to form relationships or fall in love with people we still have to be attracted to those who we choose to play with. You can't determine this without sharing decent face pictures and full body pictures. With you 100% on this x

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

I suppose it is because the guy set up the profile.. And Fab being Fab, and guys being guys. means that there is a fair chance that a] she doesn't even know she is on the profile! Or that they have a profile.. b] She knows, but is rather less keen than him.. So while he takes plenty of photos of her, she doesn't take any of him c] The guy is punching.

Another sub-genre of suspicious couples profiles.. is the 'couples profile' with two pictures of a cock being wanked..

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated."

My only suggestion would be to request face pics after they wink or message. Many couples, ourselves included, don't show face pics in their public gallery.

And I can't talk for other couples, but I am not at all offended (or surprised!) when we receive a "Sorry, you're not relly what we're looking for" message.

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By *himp_KittenCouple
over a year ago

Preston

Nope not over thinking it, we find the male half just as important as the female half of the couple.. who wants to take one for the team and risk having no attraction at all to the other half of the couple.

We've always found genuine and decent couples would share more pics of the male if you simply ask to see some so you know if there's a mutual spark, and most will respect it if you're honest and just say they're not what you're looking for attraction wise.

Our profile is definitely female pic heavy, purely as Chimp hates his photo being taken however we've always got private pics to share on request as we'd never want anyone meeting us without having some initial attraction xx

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

If we have interest we usually send a pic of us both pretty quickly if not we just thank them for the offer but no thanks. Lots of people I'm sure for different reasons don't do manners lol. No matter how busy we are we always try to be polite unless the person is a knob shammy

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

"Nope not over thinking it, we find the male half just as important as the female half of the couple.. who wants to take one for the team and risk having no attraction at all to the other half of the couple.

Your pics look great. Of both of you..

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By *uff and FruitCouple
over a year ago

ely

For me, Fruit, I want to perve over the male pictures without a doubt. Yes I adore ladies but the guy is just as important xxx

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By *urreyNotSoNewbiesCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Totally agree, drives us mad. So many couple profiles with no pics of the male or from years and years ago. Starting to prefer clubs now for that very reason - less faffing and time wasting. It’s awkward asking for pics when messaging then explaining that it’s not going to go any further.

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By *upidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Our profile is mainly edited and photos added by the female, she is in charge at all times. We've sent pics on request, then been ignored and the same people then ask for pics again a few weeks later

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We send face pics of us together from our first message if we are interested, saves a lot of time in the long (and short!) run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

Not overtaking this at all.

We as a couple are here for sexy fun with people we attracted too. Face pics are a must when starting to chat to new couples, We have them in our friends pics but not on our main profile. But we do send them 90% of the time with our 1st message

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

No pics of the man other than a cock close-up one of our pet hates and a warning signal. Not always game over and if we start chatting and they share some pics of the man it is fine. Apart from wanting to see the man and feeling like their might be some compatibility it also makes us worried that actual meet and sex will be more about the f than than m which would not be for us. Some clearly state this which is fine (hot wife type scenarios) but others don't and it just sort of goes that way.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"I suppose it is because the guy set up the profile.. And Fab being Fab, and guys being guys. means that there is a fair chance that a] she doesn't even know she is on the profile! Or that they have a profile.. b] She knows, but is rather less keen than him.. So while he takes plenty of photos of her, she doesn't take any of him c] The guy is punching.

Another sub-genre of suspicious couples profiles.. is the 'couples profile' with two pictures of a cock being wanked.. "

Think c is quite common especially older couples where the man has let himself go a bit.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

Another sub-genre of suspicious couples profiles.. is the 'couples profile' with two pictures of a cock being wanked..

Think c is quite common especially older couples where the man has let himself go a bit. "

Yup.. We do sometimes exchange face pics and I [the male] think to myself.. 'well, I'm ok here... But I can't in all honesty expect J to go to bed with him' which feels mean.. And is a shame.. But ultimately we all have what we like, and don't like..

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We didn't realise this was a thing in the early days when we joined and then we had quite a few comments from other couples and ladies thanking us for having a good mix of us both on our profile. We just thought that as we are a couple why wouldn't we put pics of us both on! We see it so often now where its mainly the female.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Think c is quite common especially older couples where the man has let himself go a bit. "

We haven't all let ourselves go. Some of us always looked this bad!

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Always been a frustration for us too, and whilst there are more pictures of Mrs S&S, there are also a fair few of Mr S&S. We have deliberately tried to not be too explicit either (there are no surprises otherwise!)

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By *eather_and_Lace5463Couple
over a year ago

Ramsey

We have a mixture of pics in our profile albeit more of lace than leather, but as of yet there are no explicit pics. This is purely down to our preference. We prefer to see people as a whole so to speak and not just cock or pussy pics. And we have face pics on our public profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a few of me on our profile but Aurelia is the star of our show and we only get to play usually because she gets hit on.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We don't bother interacting with profiles really where it's all the female.

Too much hassle to find out what the bloke looks like.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks all I'm pleased it's not just me, I might have to start being brave and just asking for photos rather than avoiding 90% of the profiles.

I must say those who commented here have some great pics and it's refreshing to see the Males too.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

We don’t entertain communicating with couples who only have photos of the woman because the man matters just as much to us. We need to see both bodies and expect face pics of both once we’ve swapped a few messages.

C x

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We were discussing this the other day as I get put off by profiles where you just get dick pics, I like to see a torso shot, but since we have come back onto the site recently we have realised our profile is just as bad. Mostly our pics are of me and we don't have enough pictures of Mr up to give other people an idea of what he looks like so something we need to sort. We do ask that people who are interested in us send a face pic to see if there is some interest there and we will send one back in return. Would rather be upfront with it.

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By *olvespairCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

We don't normally arrange meets off fab anymore. We prefer going to clubs and meeting in person, then you know if there's and attraction. Plus it's difficult to get a connection via email/message. Normally use fab as a way of keeping in touch with people we've already met in person x

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Hmm, we are guilty of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds very much like how we do things, although we do also arrange socials with couples (with a lot of difficulty) and have arranged to meet couples in clubs in advance so there's a little bit more to strike a conversation from. A lot of this stemmed from couples having no pictures of the male half of the couple at all.

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By *un and Frolics 1Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I played with my husband I was usually the profile pic but we sent a couple pic if anyone requested. And we would ask for a picture of the other half too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to ensure there's reasonable pics of both of us on our profile. Though hubby doesn't get many Fabs on his....well not from women anyway.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"We try to ensure there's reasonable pics of both of us on our profile. Though hubby doesn't get many Fabs on his....well not from women anyway.

N is waaaaaaaay fitter than me (in every sense of the word!) and he gets far less fabs. I think it’s just the nature of fab with there being a lot of hetero guys and bi women fabbing pics of women and fewer women in general who fab pics of guys.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's fit as fuck, although you're both very attractive from pics. Even as a straight male I do fab pictures of good looking guys as it feels like such a tragedy that straight men can't openly compliment a good looking guy!

However, I am now very careful in fabbing pictures of men as we've had a problem where we've fabbed pics of men and then resulted in us getting a message from the guy expecting more because we fabbed a photo...

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

He’s an absolute God of a man! I find it mad his pics don’t get more fabs but I can see why and how it happens. In real life he gets far more looks than I do and he’s been hit on repeatedly throughout our relationship - I’ve never been hit on! We both fab pics, more for ideas of photos we want to take inspiration from but also when we see something we really like and think is hot. We’ve had single guys message after one of us has fabbed, N will fab pics of fit guys and big cocks for the same reason as you.

C x

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"N is waaaaaaaay fitter than me (in every sense of the word!) and he gets far less fabs. I think it’s just the nature of fab with there being a lot of hetero guys and bi women fabbing pics of women and fewer women in general who fab pics of guys.

C x "

He is unreasonably attractive! This is bloody ridiculous. Are there not rules about this sort of thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

Totally agree with this op, it's especially annoying when the unseen male is the also the one who does all of the fabmin

very strange but so common

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Sadly we are very guilty of this. I the male half hate having my photo taken and yes M does know we have a profile!!!!

Older but like to think not completely gone to seed.

I do most of the admin and hand over to M after I feel she would be interested.

The beauty of fab is we are all very different yes we may miss out with couples on fab but I prefer clubs, I find it a more natural environment.

Hope to have fought the rubbish profile corner just a little bit.

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

We try and keep our profile pretty balanced, but do end up with more close ups, mainly because we want to hide tattoos/maintain some anonymity until we get speaking to people.

One thing we'd say is in the flip side we don't always send face pics immediately as we like know the people we're sending to are legit. xx

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Hope to have fought the rubbish profile corner just a little bit."

Your rubbish profile has been on our hotlist for ages

(Bry)

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over a year ago

Am I just too picky or overthinking the situation too much?

Anyway thanks for reading me ramble, any suggestions/advice much appreciated.

Mrs"

Lots couples do this and then be on the forums complaining why women won't meet them

I don't understand, it's a COUPLE profile and you want people to be interested in you as a COUPLE so it would make sense to show both of you and not just the fem?

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

C x

He is unreasonably attractive! This is bloody ridiculous. Are there not rules about this sort of thing?

Riiiiiiiiight?!?!?!

C x

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

C x

He is unreasonably attractive! This is bloody ridiculous. Are there not rules about this sort of thing?

Riiiiiiiiight?!?!?!

C x"

Have to concur with opinion, very hot profile and pictures of Mr N and that is an appreciation from Mr Skyblue

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We’ve met people before now that had loads of pics on profile plus sent us loads and it was pointless as they looked nothing like their pictures.Even dick pics can be deceiving with the right camera angles.

We only meet couples now at clubs and organised group socials.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

C x

He is unreasonably attractive! This is bloody ridiculous. Are there not rules about this sort of thing?

Riiiiiiiiight?!?!?!

C x

Have to concur with opinion, very hot profile and pictures of Mr N and that is an appreciation from Mr Skyblue "

Lots of foxy couples popping up on this thread... empirical evidence that there can be equality regarding photocounts..

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By *rolicUsCouple
over a year ago

Alluringly mysterious

I think it’s easy to take pics of yourself as a woman in nice undies, men seem to be (sweeping generalisation ahead- please prepare yourselves) less into that aspect and have fewer accoutrements to display in terms of varied lingerie etc.

We deliberately have added more of my sexy husband so people know we come as a pair and that he’s a very desirable part of that.

Men will always get fewer fabs due to stats but I’m certainly attracted by seeing a decent range of photos of the man of the couple- including up to date and not overly filtered ones.

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over a year ago

"I think it’s easy to take pics of yourself as a woman in nice undies, men seem to be (sweeping generalisation ahead- please prepare yourselves) less into that aspect and have fewer accoutrements to display in terms of varied lingerie etc.

I’ve always found it interesting that gay men seem to have a much more varied collection of underwear, club outfits etc. For some reason jockstraps etc are seen as “gay” underwear (underwear doesn’t have a sexuality!). But I love seeing men in harnesses, jocks, chains etc. I love to actively ogle men and as a result I mostly consume sexy pics aimed at gay men

If men can dress up for other men they can dress up for women!

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Got a few pairs of sexy pants and some lacy party shirts. Agree gay men make more effort. Not gay here but love dressing up a touch. Few pics in profile

On pic Fabs we don’t really care but amusing today. Added people of pics/vids of me. Got loads of profile views and 120 Fabs this afternoon. Only one was for my new pics. All the rest were men Fabbing our old pics mostly of Hells

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Means he doesn't play.

They want the meet to be all about their female

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Means he doesn't play.

They want the meet to be all about their female"

Most that we have had approach us they both play, just no male in sight.

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By *upidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Means he doesn't play.

They want the meet to be all about their female"

I can assure you both of us play here as you can see from verifications, sadly Hero is away a lot so as much as we'd love to add more pics it doesn't seem to happen

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"Means he doesn't play.

They want the meet to be all about their female

I can assure you both of us play here as you can see from verifications, sadly Hero is away a lot so as much as we'd love to add more pics it doesn't seem to happen "

He can take pics himself or on one of your meets. Its really not that hard to have more than a cock close-up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say your not a size queen but every cock in your pics are over size ????

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

We both play and I wouldn’t want it to be all about me but he’s not a fan of photos and I love taking sexy pics there’s nothing more too it! If someone wanted a face pic of him I’d send one no problem but he doesn’t want as many photos as me there’s no reason he just isn’t into taking pictures of himself very often I have to bribe him for a selfie together haha! That’s why we meet in clubs you can see the person and get to know them. I’m surprised how many men I’ve found attractive in person but not so much from their profile! X

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"You say your not a size queen but every cock in your pics are over size ????"

I can't change my man's cock

it's all the same cock in my pics

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"We both play and I wouldn’t want it to be all about me but he’s not a fan of photos and I love taking sexy pics there’s nothing more too it! If someone wanted a face pic of him I’d send one no problem but he doesn’t want as many photos as me there’s no reason he just isn’t into taking pictures of himself very often I have to bribe him for a selfie together haha! That’s why we meet in clubs you can see the person and get to know them. I’m surprised how many men I’ve found attractive in person but not so much from their profile! X "

Your profile is fine as some pics of him. It's not about things being even but just something of the man beyond a cock close-up and you have that something

But as you say if you meet in clubs mainly then much less of an issue anyway. Pics more of an issue for those of us (many) who mainly meet away from clubs.

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

Your profile is fine as some pics of him. It's not about things being even but just something of the man beyond a cock close-up and you have that something

But as you say if you meet in clubs mainly then much less of an issue anyway. Pics more of an issue for those of us (many) who mainly meet away from clubs. "

Yeah I see what you mean! We have never met someone just from pictures and messages so I wouldn’t know. I wonder if the male just assumes if the female is attractive how he looks doesn’t matter as much?! I imagine straight single guys meeting couples are only interested in the females looks. I don’t know but yeah it’s strange if your going to meet from fab you should be showing the people/person your letting what you look like! X

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By *randmrsc30Couple
over a year ago

East Riding

Meeting*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say your not a size queen but every cock in your pics are over size ????"

Such a strange response

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

"Hope to have fought the rubbish profile corner just a little bit.

Your rubbish profile has been on our hotlist for ages

(Bry)"

Thank you for that

one for rubbish male representation.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We do have photos of both of us on our profile, but there are definitely more of me in the public gallery for a number of reasons.

We aren't comfortable doing naked or action shots (this is totally personal choice and not a commentary of those who do) so male photo options are limited.

We did try to put a good selection of both of us on at the start of the year when we first started meeting, but now I'm at home more often and will sometimes take a photo to send to Rob that I will later upload to fab.

However, there are loads in our friends gallery! We tend to pop photos up of what we are up to (pride, club night, 80's weekender) in the friends only section, I think they show a bit of personality and are much more even in numbers.

I always send a selection of these when we message first, and would only be reluctant to send when requested if someone was unverified or lived less than 5 miles from us.

I am quite jealous of you guys who have all these beautiful artistic photos in your galleries, unfortunately selfies are about as far as my "photography talent" stretches, maybe we should do a boudoir shoot next year....

K x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Good question op.

I'm half a couple and find the same problem ,I'm straight so seeing the male is obviously most important for me, as we do partner swap only

We've been here over 6 years as a couple & from past experience we no longer engage with couple profiles with none of him or just a cock.

Why? Because in the past we did and then when I finally got to see the man of the couple,often I didn't fancy him at all.Some couples were reluctant to show him and that's a flag for me.

It's a waste of all our time chatting for ages and finding no attraction ,so unless they send a pic of him with a message or there's clear body shots of the man on the profile too,we delete any mail.

It's also part of the reason we run our Separate profiles ,we met here so kept them and just hid them.Its hard to meet couples who want to play straight only & then you've to get 4 way attraction in the mix and availability.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"You say your not a size queen but every cock in your pics are over size ????

Such a strange response "

I thought that too, I've asked the Mr to remove a few inches

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We do have photos of both of us on our profile, but there are definitely more of me in the public gallery for a number of reasons.

We aren't comfortable doing naked or action shots (this is totally personal choice and not a commentary of those who do) so male photo options are limited.

I always send a selection of these when we message first, and would only be reluctant to send when requested if someone was unverified or lived less than 5 miles from us.

K x"

You've a great mix of photos, thanks for the compliment ours are generally done using a tripod and Bluetooth clicker, it's much easier to take photos with and only a few pound off eBay, generally we just get it on and click away, except some of the posed forum challenge ones, I'd definitely recommend one if you want to be able to have more versatility.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

C x

He is unreasonably attractive! This is bloody ridiculous. Are there not rules about this sort of thing?

Riiiiiiiiight?!?!?!

C x

Have to concur with opinion, very hot profile and pictures of Mr N and that is an appreciation from Mr Skyblue "

Thanking you

C x

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By *plash85Couple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You're definitely not overthinking. If there's no attraction then there's no attraction. We generally send a face pic in our first message and if people like then happy days. There has been occasions where we've had to say someone isn't for us but that's life, we've had the same said to us. I do however think that some people can be quick to judge but that's just me

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"We just won't interact if we can't see the male in the couple. I find it hugely disrespectful that they'd think I'm not worth being given the choice.

This is exactly where I am, we just don't interact, I'm just unsure if I'm taking the right approach, I'm not liking the idea of blind date."

You can be clear without rude.

If they have photos of both of you and haven't given back just say.

Instead of chit chat. Just say can they send a couple photo .

Any genuine people will understand.

Any who take offense.. really are you that bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Just jumping back in for a browse, it's great to see profiles showing both

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I really don't see it as being a problem or rude to ask politely for pictures of both of them early on in any chat with view to finding a physical meet. Obviously providing your willing to do the same. If they get offending at this request I would say forget about it. After all its not blind date, we are all here for our mutual pleasure and none of us want to be wasting valuable time. We're all adults, it shouldn't be a big deal to ask or to be asked.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Reality check ...

there is nothing more off putting , when there is a couples profile, and the female has zero interest... The husband just posting pics of his wife .... he s just looking to suck guys off ..

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Hi,

I'm trying to find some fun with couples, I'm looking for mmf couple. I think its as hard as finding single Ladies. so many single guys they have the choice. I have a lot to offer, even though i have anxiety, I love kinky play, and very much like sucking male off infront of female. I also good at massage for both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reality check ...

there is nothing more off putting , when there is a couples profile, and the female has zero interest... The husband just posting pics of his wife .... he s just looking to suck guys off ..

If the husband is “just posting pics of his wife” then why would you think he’s “just looking to suck guys off” ?

A lot of profiles I’ve met are mainly run by the male half.

How would you know she has zero interest?

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By *exyFusionCouple
over a year ago

Near to you

I don't think it's overthinking either. In our experience it's the female half that says yay or nay, so unless the female half is only into women, a profile with no decent photos of the guy is rather pointless.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Reality check ...

there is nothing more off putting , when there is a couples profile, and the female has zero interest... The husband just posting pics of his wife .... he s just looking to suck guys off ..

That's some kind of conclusion to get to

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By *sh8286Couple
over a year ago

Guildford

Completely agree! So much time could be saved if there were photos of both on the profile. Hubby does most of the messaging and I've told him not to bother if there aren't pics of both and I've put a comment requesting pics of the guy on our profile.

Our own gallery needs an overhaul, it's actually gone the other way and is mostly hubby as he loves taking pics while I'm doing stuff to him. So when we next get a chance we need a photo sesh to rebalance!

Also I'm not happy to send face pics until I'm confident we might want to meet (obviously I know that can change once face pics have been swapped) but I wouldn't want to send them straight off. I've been recognised by someone on here already

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Completely agree! So much time could be saved if there were photos of both on the profile. Hubby does most of the messaging and I've told him not to bother if there aren't pics of both and I've put a comment requesting pics of the guy on our profile.

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We got recognised yesterday with a cryptic message that made me uneasy, I figured out who it was eventually and blocked but I don't like the idea they found all our photos, it is slightly off-putting isn't it.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

But that's the point they are on here as well.

You also know that the face pic is anig thing so I don't see the point of holding off sending that until you think you will meet then it becomes a no

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By *sh8286Couple
over a year ago

Guildford

Yes it really rattled me. We've blocked and nailed down our profile a bit more since.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

When I see a couples profile, where it's pretty obviously them same cock, if it floats my boat and Fab the pictures I sometimes message as well, but always compliment the cock as well if they are Bi. It's only fair.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I don’t really mind if their profile is a little light on the male pictures.If we are interested we will ask them for some face pics and add them to our friends as we have our face pics on friends.

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By *ave05Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford Essex

It is equally frustrating for the bisexual male / female profiles which I am interested in. It’s very rare to see the male body pics alongside the lady.

Maybe I should politely ask for the male profile pics more if I feel a connection has been established. . I am not into the club scene so wanted to establish a small circle of bisexual friends but will keep searching.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

This is our biggest gripe when looking at couples profiles. Yes, the woman is more appealing visually and she’s more often than not has got to appeal to both the man and woman but surely the woman wants to see pics of the man just as much.

Some profiles have both pics but I’d say 80 - 90% of couples profiles have a generic pic (or just a cock pic) of a man and much more of the woman.

It’s one of the reasons we tend to meet singles as trying to get pics of a guy in a couples profile, that’s not centred around his cock is nigh on impossible.

It’s fine if the dynamics of the couple are just the woman meeting or the guy watches but it makes sense to have full body pics of both. Saves time and effort then.

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By *iggstimpyCouple
over a year ago

South East

We have given up asking for a pic of the guy. It’s rare that a hot guy with a good body won’t have his photo included from the outset so if the guy is missing, we know all we need to know and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We send and also ask for face pics as it’s not blind date

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So advice above taken, message and ask for pics.

Well so far not so good, out of the profiles that messaged or winked only 1 replied with a photo of the Mr, the rest either ignored the request, carried on wanting to meet regardless of not seeing the man or just replied "ok".

I think I'll stick to the avoid couples with no pics of the male as it's like pulling teeth trying to get one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So advice above taken, message and ask for pics.

I think I'll stick to the avoid couples with no pics of the male as it's like pulling teeth trying to get one."

We would imagine that if someone’s not keen to be seen they’re probably sporting dirty joggers and a beer belly.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"So advice above taken, message and ask for pics.

I think I'll stick to the avoid couples with no pics of the male as it's like pulling teeth trying to get one."

Yeah, if a couple are making it hard work to even send pics of the male then it’s not a good start.

We’ve given up asking now as we’ve never been surprised in a good way if pics are then sent

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"We have given up asking for a pic of the guy. It’s rare that a hot guy with a good body won’t have his photo included from the outset so if the guy is missing, we know all we need to know and move on.

This I think. Though I don't have a good body so maybe I should take pics down

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By *art time deviantsCouple
over a year ago

The mighty fax

It's not been picky or shallow it's your profile you can run it how you want and pick whoever you wish to meet.....

Ours is mostly Mrs ptd as we mostly meet men.... but now and again meet couples so it works best for us

If you are unsure maybe wink back and see what thier message is like then go from there..... Mrs ptd is the same does t like telling people no so makes me do it lolol

If we get knocked back we say its a selection not a rejection lololol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"So advice above taken, message and ask for pics.

I think I'll stick to the avoid couples with no pics of the male as it's like pulling teeth trying to get one.

We would imagine that if someone’s not keen to be seen they’re probably sporting dirty joggers and a beer belly. "

Yes I'm starting to think this, if they can't send 1 photo something must be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm starting to think this, if they can't send 1 photo something must be wrong."

We are always happy to show photos to prove we are a couple, generally only to couples though as that’s what we are looking for x

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