FabSwingers.com forum: Sorry sorry. I know these posts must be a pain

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd welcome some feedback from Females and couples (MF) I have been here a while and and have had a few great meets but recently I keep getting rejection after rejection (even from people that I thought would jump at the chance of a meet). Be grateful if you would let me know is there anything in my profile off putting or my photos?

I'm a big boy now and can handle rejection but just like to know what I could possibly change on my profile, although I draw the line at plastic surgery !! Lol

Thanks

Paddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your last meet was in November, so not as unsuccessful as you think.

You need to bear in mind there's thousands single guys on here for women/couples to choose from, so that factor alone narrows your chances.

Do you goto clubs, maybe worth going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet your last verification is from the 2nd November

you are not guaranteed a shag every month so not sure why the post? The other thing is that your post is longer than your profile!

Christmas can be difficult as people with families won't necessarily have the time to meet with anyone. Check out the introductions forum for help with profiles as a lot has been given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity, who are "people you thought would jump at the chance"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, who are "people you thought would jump at the chance""

I was thinking the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, who are "people you thought would jump at the chance""

Lol. People who I fit their requirements and have chatted on messages etc and seemed very keen. Suppose everyone is free to change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to all who have taken the time to reply to me. It is very much appreciated. Really.

P x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Personally I think the cock pic isn't very appealing. The one with you housing it it ok but the other one is awful. Lol.

Bulk out your profile a bit and get some more varied pics up. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I think the cock pic isn't very appealing. The one with you housing it it ok but the other one is awful. Lol.

Bulk out your profile a bit and get some more varied pics up. X "

Hi Andrea.

Thanks for feedback. Ill have a look at that. Though what does housing mean?

Pix

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Personally I think the cock pic isn't very appealing. The one with you housing it it ok but the other one is awful. Lol.

Bulk out your profile a bit and get some more varied pics up. X

Hi Andrea.

Thanks for feedback. Ill have a look at that. Though what does housing mean?

Pix "

Sorry I meant holding. Bloody phone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest you come across to me as bit desperate even though you recently had a meet. Relax matey if meant to happen it will.

As others mention the non singles can pick and choose from a vast amount of single males so odds are meets will be hard to get regular. Patience is key along with respecting others choices to meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest you come across to me as bit desperate even though you recently had a meet. Relax matey if meant to happen it will.

Hi tippy toe.

Lol no not desparate. Just wanted to know what people thought I was doing wrong. Thanks for the reply. It nice to see people take the time to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 months and 2 meets is hardly bad going. Maybe it's your sense of expectation that needs adjusting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 months and 2 meets is hardly bad going. Maybe it's your sense of expectation that needs adjusting?"

that rate seems to be not far off the norm, for sure.

I'd say just keep doing what you're doing

Obviously you've got something right to have had those meets.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"4 months and 2 meets is hardly bad going. Maybe it's your sense of expectation that needs adjusting?"

I think your right there. 22 1/2 years in the military. I still expect results quickly. Have to relax more it seems. Lol

Thank you for reply. Your Mrs is beautiful by the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"4 months and 2 meets is hardly bad going. Maybe it's your sense of expectation that needs adjusting?

that rate seems to be not far off the norm, for sure.

I'd say just keep doing what you're doing

Obviously you've got something right to have had those meets.

Wolf

Cheers Wolf.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Three meet requests for today plus the status line does make you look desperate. Perhaps look at who else is looking for a meet in the area as well as posting just one?

The number of mesages for a quick meet seems to increase at this time of year. Plus the men asking for someone to accompany them to a club or party. Real life also cranks up the number of things you have to do so the combination is likely to make it more difficult to get a yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would say you are doing ok . I have not had a meet since September .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one thing - one of your veris shows as being from a guy (I KNOW if you read the veri it says it was an MF couple) and just that on a 'straight' guys profile will be enough to put some people off. We do read them..... hard to believe, but true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm, I have never thought ANYONE would jump at the chance of a meet with me,

I've always considered it a privilige, not a right

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

seems like an ok profile .. not sure why you have 3 different locations on your profile though .. bit confusing maybe. If its to do with traveling with work I would be inclined to just update profile to a new location for the duration of my stay there and then change it back later. Not keen on the cock pic either and the 5 'meet todays' listed seems a little excessive.

anyway best of luck with the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is one thing - one of your veris shows as being from a guy (I KNOW if you read the veri it says it was an MF couple) and just that on a 'straight' guys profile will be enough to put some people off. We do read them..... hard to believe, but true...

an thats one thing thatd annoy me..I have straight veri's..its nothing but a courtesy some decide to leave and likewise.The people who cant read...well...pretty simple...they can fuck off lol

to the Op I dont think there is much else about ur profile that needs help..but as others are suggesting..ur doing ok for the meets uve had already..no need to get greedy.

I often wonder about others, especuially people on my friends list..with a meet up everyday...I'd find it actually a bit embarrassing...and only every done it once(with no joy)...thats put me off it forever lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to everyone that has replies so far. I have already amended profile with some recommendations off folk. Thank you.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

" I'd welcome some feedback from Females and couples (MF) I have been here a while and and have had a few great meets but recently I keep getting rejection after rejection (even from people that I thought would jump at the chance of a meet). Be grateful if you would let me know is there anything in my profile off putting or my photos?

I'm a big boy now and can handle rejection but just like to know what I could possibly change on my profile, although I draw the line at plastic surgery !! Lol

Thanks

Paddy

Your sense of expectation seems like desperation!

Find another hobby!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"good luck"

Cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a big boy now and can handle rejection but just like to know what I could possibly change on my profile, although I draw the line at plastic surgery !! Lol

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Paddy

Your sense of expectation seems like desperation!

Find another hobby!"

Thank you for your valued feedback.... Unfortunately for you i am not looking to meet men only...........

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By *tra vidaCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

As it happens you sent us a message yesterday and we haven't got round to responding in the negative yet. So might be helpful to answer and explain here.

You say in your message that it is not one of those cut and pasted ones but it sure sounds like one; no reference to us, our pictures or anything in our profile. Also find it a bit presumptious in saying 'I know you get loads of messages' to prefix the cut and paste line.

And, we know the military angle works for many but it is a turn off to mention it for us. As is skin colour, fireman, the dreaded use of the 'genuine' word and any other number of tired old stereotypes.

Just our thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Otra_vida

Thank you for the feedback. Hence why I have asked for advise on here. Everyone apart from one male who obviously didn't read my opening message where it says feedback from females or couples has given me good food for thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Otra_vida

Erjm...gave u some feedback...I thought it was positive.Unfortunately, as its an open forum...most wuill give u feedback...I dont want to fuck u for fucks sake...u should be open to suggestions from any sex when asking for help...

dunno if u should be showing ur arrogant side to be honest...thats never gonna win u much help.

*I'd say the very same to a cpl asking for help, then dismissing men for their _iewpoint.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Otra_vida

dunno if u should be showing ur arrogant side to be honest...thats never gonna win u much help.

*I'd say the very same to a cpl asking for help, then dismissing men for their _iewpoint."

I wasn't on about you mate. Your feedback was much appreciated... Read through and you will see who is was on about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Otra_vida

dunno if u should be showing ur arrogant side to be honest...thats never gonna win u much help.

*I'd say the very same to a cpl asking for help, then dismissing men for their _iewpoint.

I wasn't on about you mate. Your feedback was much appreciated... Read through and you will see who is was on about.

lol cheers..I have though..its a bit like me saying right now....pls dont post a thanks back...u arent what I'm looking for.

its only forum messages lol...unless ur specifically asked if u wanna suck cock or take it up the arse, then u can assume theres more to the thread answers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm not a single male but your attitude to the ones that politely commented on here has just made you look arrogant I'm afraid

I too looked at your profile and would have been put off by the number of meets today and verification by single man

And yes I know I can 'fuck off' if I can't read but if a couple is meeting they should have a couples profile not a single mans one

Just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I'm not a single male but your attitude to the ones that politely commented on here has just made you look arrogant I'm afraid

I too looked at your profile and would have been put off by the number of meets today and verification by single man

And yes I know I can 'fuck off' if I can't read but if a couple is meeting they should have a couples profile not a single mans one

Just my opinion

Hey. I was only commenting on one male if you read what I put after. All the others have been helpful. Cheers

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm a bi male, looked at your profile and have commented in here. My opinion like it or not is that you just had a recent meet so seemed to be doing ok. Putting a post up here asking for advice suggests lack of confidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a bi male, looked at your profile and have commented in here. My opinion like it or not is that you just had a recent meet so seemed to be doing ok. Putting a post up here asking for advice suggests lack of confidence. "

Hi Steve

I think your right mate.

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By *ornishBiLoverMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Its easy, you're not bi. You should be bi you know, having a peek at your manhood (after reading the profile) I really think you should become bisexual lol.

Heehee, only kidding. You got no worries fella, just be patient, chilled, laid back and relaxed about it all. People are here to have fun in their own time and not rush around thinking "OMG-I-havent-shagged... for at least a.... a... a-WEEK!!!)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol cheers Plymouth. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all who gave positive feedback. Took heed and must have done something right. Had a invite to meet a great a great couple last night.

Cheers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all who gave positive feedback. Took heed and must have done something right. Had a invite to meet a great a great couple last night.

Cheers.

Woo hoo!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Thanks all who gave positive feedback. Took heed and must have done something right. Had a invite to meet a great a great couple last night.

Cheers.

And more confident I bet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks all who gave positive feedback. Took heed and must have done something right. Had a invite to meet a great a great couple last night.

Cheers.

And more confident I bet!

Hmmm to be confirmed. Lol.

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