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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a young single male it has become so hard to get meets. Last one being April. The best way to swing is to just turn up at a club (as a member if course) and have fun that way because if your on this site you are doing it the very hard way. Iv been looking for meets since April now I'm a good looking guy not being big headed. But i no i can get women.For instance I went dogging couple Friday and seen a foursum and only managed to join in. That's what most the guys want on here not just endless messaging and spending days after days looking for a meet. Does anyone else find it hard on here to get fun?

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By *andCCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Does anyone else find it hard on here to get fun? "

No

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"That's what most the guys want on here not just endless messaging and spending days after days looking for a meet. Does anyone else find it hard on here to get fun? "

I dont think your generalisation of 'most guys on here' is true. Most guys ive come across (in forum) have been looking for more than just a dogging experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok as a couple you wouldn't as most guys on fab including the forum are after sex.fact

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Ok as a couple you wouldn't as most guys on fab including the forum are after sex.fact"

Agree its a site for meeting people for sex.......but after that fact you have lost me????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok as a couple you wouldn't as most guys on fab including the forum are after sex.fact

Agree its a site for meeting people for sex.......but after that fact you have lost me????"
just saying if your relying on this site then don't clubs are best way to meet people as a young single guy, meant no offence to anyone just my thoughts

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Ok as a couple you wouldn't as most guys on fab including the forum are after sex.fact

Agree its a site for meeting people for sex.......but after that fact you have lost me???? just saying if your relying on this site then don't clubs are best way to meet people as a young single guy, meant no offence to anyone just my thoughts "

Then stick to clubs. I also prefer clubs for meeting, but I meet one on one too.

Thats the good thing about Fab. We can use it to our benefit and preferences. Crazy but true!

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool


"Ok as a couple you wouldn't as most guys on fab including the forum are after sex.fact

Agree its a site for meeting people for sex.......but after that fact you have lost me???? just saying if your relying on this site then don't clubs are best way to meet people as a young single guy, meant no offence to anyone just my thoughts "

No offence taken, just lost the thread of the convo. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry I did baffle on abit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do clubs.

I can't complain about any of the people I've met or the fun I've had via Fab.

Generalisations are never a good idea!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

"
I have totally took your point in.dont get what I said in the post wrong or cocky but I do get alot of attention in wine bars etc, I'm not sure why i get drawn into swinging think its the fact it's a thrill love to watch sex push boundaries etc, not on here to shag the whole site. Clubs are just expensive for single males 50 60 even 70 quid for a night,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never visited a club but believe there is no guarentee ur get any action there

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"As a young single male it has become so hard to get meets. Last one being April. The best way to swing is to just turn up at a club (as a member if course) and have fun that way because if your on this site you are doing it the very hard way. Iv been looking for meets since April now I'm a good looking guy not being big headed. But i no i can get women.For instance I went dogging couple Friday and seen a foursum and only managed to join in. That's what most the guys want on here not just endless messaging and spending days after days looking for a meet. Does anyone else find it hard on here to get fun? "

see... i think the last bit is the giveaway....

i am a great believer in that you do get out what you put it... and if you think that messaging people is too much of a hassle for you, then you are getting out what you are putting in.... nowt!

the site does give you the tools to make it work... but for example it is as much as personality and attitude as is about "looking good"... it is about standing out!

if you want a guarenteed thing... i'll show you a phone box with lots of telephone numbers in it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am a great believer in that you do get out what you put it... and if you think that messaging people is too much of a hassle for you, then you are getting out what you are putting in.... nowt!

the site does give you the tools to make it work... but for example it is as much as personality and attitude as is about "looking good"... it is about standing out!

if you want a guarenteed thing... i'll show you a phone box with lots of telephone numbers in it....

"

Got to agree with you there. I've been a member of a few sites and it's always the guys who know how to push certain buttons with the written word that get my attention. Chatted to one guy last year who was so unbelievable charming from the word go, we've been swing buddies for a year now ....

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

go to clubs date girls don't stress yourself or make Fab the be and end all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

I have totally took your point in.dont get what I said in the post wrong or cocky but I do get a lot of attention in wine bars etc, I'm not sure why i get drawn into swinging think its the fact it's a thrill love to watch sex push boundaries etc, not on here to shag the whole site. Clubs are just expensive for single males 50 60 even 70 quid for a night, "
So are you saying you wouldn't expect to go through £50, £60 or £70 on a 'normal' night out then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

I have totally took your point in.dont get what I said in the post wrong or cocky but I do get a lot of attention in wine bars etc, I'm not sure why i get drawn into swinging think its the fact it's a thrill love to watch sex push boundaries etc, not on here to shag the whole site. Clubs are just expensive for single males 50 60 even 70 quid for a night, So are you saying you wouldn't expect to go through £50, £60 or £70 on a 'normal' night out then?

"

Ps - if you think clubs are 'expensive' for single guys in this country, I would invite you to look at a few of the websites for European ones....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

I have totally took your point in.dont get what I said in the post wrong or cocky but I do get a lot of attention in wine bars etc, I'm not sure why i get drawn into swinging think its the fact it's a thrill love to watch sex push boundaries etc, not on here to shag the whole site. Clubs are just expensive for single males 50 60 even 70 quid for a night, So are you saying you wouldn't expect to go through £50, £60 or £70 on a 'normal' night out then?

Ps - if you think clubs are 'expensive' for single guys in this country, I would invite you to look at a few of the websites for European ones....

"
yeah Iv spent wayyyy more than that on a regular night out but it's a tad different and I don't mind. You are with your good mates having a good time. To be fair I have no mates off fab. Spending that money I may get some fun but alot of guys cramped into one place seeing there cocks everywhere is not ideal for me. Yes I do like group play etc but also need a break sometimes in clubs without seeing cocks everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't mind me saying so (well I'm going to anyway..) the rather sweeping generalisations and assumptions in your post, OP, are the clue to where you may be going wrong and why it's not happening for you in the way you imagined/hoped it might.

You're only in your mid 20's. At your age I would be using clubs as my mainstay, and building what I do on Fabs around it. You need to remember something:- there are some very mature 25/26yr olds, but there are some equally immature ones too. By making yourself a regular at one or two clubs, you'll get known and people can judge you for how you come across. Then you can build on your circle of swinging friends.

Also at your age, you ought to be having just as much success in a wine bar to be honest! A lot of people don't want to be labelled as swingers, even though their lifestyles/sex lives would lead you to believe otherwise, and you're more likely to meet them in more 'vanilla ways'.

I have totally took your point in.dont get what I said in the post wrong or cocky but I do get a lot of attention in wine bars etc, I'm not sure why i get drawn into swinging think its the fact it's a thrill love to watch sex push boundaries etc, not on here to shag the whole site. Clubs are just expensive for single males 50 60 even 70 quid for a night, So are you saying you wouldn't expect to go through £50, £60 or £70 on a 'normal' night out then?

Ps - if you think clubs are 'expensive' for single guys in this country, I would invite you to look at a few of the websites for European ones....

yeah Iv spent wayyyy more than that on a regular night out but it's a tad different and I don't mind. You are with your good mates having a good time. To be fair I have no mates off fab. Spending that money I may get some fun but alot of guys cramped into one place seeing there cocks everywhere is not ideal for me. Yes I do like group play etc but also need a break sometimes in clubs without seeing cocks everywhere "

Ah! So what you really mean is its ok for you to go to clubs - as long as other single guys don't?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I don't do clubs.

I can't complain about any of the people I've met or the fun I've had via Fab.

Generalisations are never a good idea!"

Well, generally speaking anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wish that could happen me and loads if women, that ain't happening though

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