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"Don't follow women and couples around wanking " this shouldn’t have to be said, but someone does need to say it hahaha | |||
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"Be friendly but not pushy, don’t touch anyone without permission, as above don’t walk around wanking. Most importantly don’t think that by paying to be there it entitles you to sex. " Thank you. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. " Talk… to…… people And basically don’t be a tit!!!! If you need more than that….. then no amount of advice can help you | |||
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"Most importantly don't go with any expectations just treat it like a night at the pub if something happens it's a bonus if nothing happens your not disappointed." This is 100% spot on. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. " Don’t be a dick. Dress smart. | |||
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"I’m going to tell you what random men have done to me that really pisses me off. Sit next to me and look at me intently but don’t speak. Sit next to me and start groping me Follow me round wanking Follow me round. Honestly it’s like the pied piper, if I walk out of the bar and go upstairs (chams) there is a long line behind me. Start touching without permission. Be too pushy. Look at my boobs when talking to me rather than my face. Tell someone that I’m with that when they’ve finished they will take me off their hands. Tell the person I’m with that they are next Ask the person I’m with whether they can fuck me. Hopefully that gives you a bit of an idea of what not to do" Agree. In short, don't be a c**t. | |||
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"I’m going to tell you what random men have done to me that really pisses me off. Sit next to me and look at me intently but don’t speak. Sit next to me and start groping me Follow me round wanking Follow me round. Honestly it’s like the pied piper, if I walk out of the bar and go upstairs (chams) there is a long line behind me. Start touching without permission. Be too pushy. Look at my boobs when talking to me rather than my face. Tell someone that I’m with that when they’ve finished they will take me off their hands. Tell the person I’m with that they are next Ask the person I’m with whether they can fuck me. Hopefully that gives you a bit of an idea of what not to do" We thought Chams was supposed to be the best club in the country and everything was brilliant! Anyone touching without permission should get a shove. Anyone groping without permission should get a slap. | |||
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"I’m going to tell you what random men have done to me that really pisses me off. Sit next to me and look at me intently but don’t speak. Sit next to me and start groping me Follow me round wanking Follow me round. Honestly it’s like the pied piper, if I walk out of the bar and go upstairs (chams) there is a long line behind me. Start touching without permission. Be too pushy. Look at my boobs when talking to me rather than my face. Tell someone that I’m with that when they’ve finished they will take me off their hands. Tell the person I’m with that they are next Ask the person I’m with whether they can fuck me. Hopefully that gives you a bit of an idea of what not to do We thought Chams was supposed to be the best club in the country and everything was brilliant! Anyone touching without permission should get a shove. Anyone groping without permission should get a slap." Don’t get me wrong I love chams it is the best club and these things have happened over years. And Im quite vocal and not shy in telling them when they behave like this. Don’t let me put you off going. | |||
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"I’m going to tell you what random men have done to me that really pisses me off. Sit next to me and look at me intently but don’t speak. Sit next to me and start groping me Follow me round wanking Follow me round. Honestly it’s like the pied piper, if I walk out of the bar and go upstairs (chams) there is a long line behind me. Start touching without permission. Be too pushy. Look at my boobs when talking to me rather than my face. Tell someone that I’m with that when they’ve finished they will take me off their hands. Tell the person I’m with that they are next Ask the person I’m with whether they can fuck me. Hopefully that gives you a bit of an idea of what not to do We thought Chams was supposed to be the best club in the country and everything was brilliant! Anyone touching without permission should get a shove. Anyone groping without permission should get a slap. Don’t get me wrong I love chams it is the best club and these things have happened over years. And Im quite vocal and not shy in telling them when they behave like this. Don’t let me put you off going. " Sorry to hear , I've been to chams a fair bit and in my experience most guys are polite and try and be sociable ...yes there is a bit of patrolling around ...which would be off putting, if I saw anyone behaving badly that would certainly get a polite suggestion from me ... I might still be enamoured by your boobs tho  | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. " First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck  | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. " Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club  | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club "So did you actually manage to get to a club or are you still trying to get over what you thought happened… to which you were told that wasn’t the case! | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club
So did you actually manage to get to a club or are you still trying to get over what you thought happened… to which you were told that wasn’t the case! "I'll be going to a club soon, but I know what will happen. So I'm happy to just chat to people in the general areas between them looking for other guys to play with | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck "Bad advice | |||
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"Be polite, friendly and sociable, don't just sit there expecting that people will come up to you, when you get chatting to people ask them what they are looking for and don't be offended if they say your not for them. Exactly that and remember people want to get to know you Most importantly don't go with any expectations just treat it like a night at the pub if something happens it's a bonus if nothing happens your not disappointed." | |||
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"Don't follow women and couples around wanking " Don't follow them full stop! | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
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Fact-based advice from someone who has actually been a single male in several clubs (me) "I've always gone as a single person, because I've been single so had no choice. I think you're very much wrong, that's fact based on the many clubs I've been to, and my observations too. Most times I've left with new friends, has great fun. Suppose the old saying goes here, "it can't be you, it must be everyone else!" | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
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Fact-based advice from someone who has actually been a single male in several clubs (me)
I've always gone as a single person, because I've been single so had no choice.
I think you're very much wrong, that's fact based on the many clubs I've been to, and my observations too. Most times I've left with new friends, has great fun.
Suppose the old saying goes here, "it can't be you, it must be everyone else!""Have you ever gone as a straight male, or did you always wear one of your cartoon girlie outfits? Perhaps I need a ‘prop’ to get noticed……? What is common to every club I went to is; once I had paid my entry fee, I was on my own. Sure, when I mentioned it was my first visit, I would be given a tour of the place, but that would be as far as it went from the staff/hosts. After that, it was see who is in, read body language to see who might be approachable, and go with the flow on the evening. There were times I met nice people, had some great chats, made friends, and even played on occasion. But it’s not a ‘given’, should not be expected, and generally, being rejected as a guy by himself was more usual. It is very easy to feel like a gatecrasher when you’re by yourself, know not a soul inside, and all you see when you look around, is groups of people having fun. But maybe it was ‘just me’…. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck "I don’t think this is necessarily good advice. Lots of people go through clubs looking for single guys, so there’s nothing wrong with going as a single. You just have to be good company and not afraid to talk to people. It’s fun going with a friend, if you have one, not not essential. I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
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I've always gone as a single person, because I've been single so had no choice.
I think you're very much wrong, that's fact based on the many clubs I've been to, and my observations too. Most times I've left with new friends, has great fun.
Suppose the old saying goes here, "it can't be you, it must be everyone else!"
Have you ever gone as a straight male, or did you always wear one of your cartoon girlie outfits? Perhaps I need a ‘prop’ to get noticed……?
What is common to every club I went to is; once I had paid my entry fee, I was on my own. Sure, when I mentioned it was my first visit, I would be given a tour of the place, but that would be as far as it went from the staff/hosts. After that, it was see who is in, read body language to see who might be approachable, and go with the flow on the evening.
There were times I met nice people, had some great chats, made friends, and even played on occasion. But it’s not a ‘given’, should not be expected, and generally, being rejected as a guy by himself was more usual. It is very easy to feel like a gatecrasher when you’re by yourself, know not a soul inside, and all you see when you look around, is groups of people having fun.
But maybe it was ‘just me’…."I've gone as both to be fair and going as a straight TV's is a lot tougher. It's all down to my personality and the approach to make friends. It is all down to you, how you come across, approach, interact.... People can judge within the first few minutes. "You said you've had some great chats, made friends and even played on occasion but it's not a 'given' should not be expected". It never is expected and you won't always come out feeling on top of the world. That's same with anything | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club
So did you actually manage to get to a club or are you still trying to get over what you thought happened… to which you were told that wasn’t the case!
I'll be going to a club soon, but I know what will happen. So I'm happy to just chat to people in the general areas between them looking for other guys to play with "So…. You are making general assumptions on a presumption of something that actually hasn’t happened………. And that is helpful how?…………. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club "You know what I have never looked at the size of a guys cock before playing with him. I decide to play based on whether they are polite friendly and respectful. I wouldn’t play if they were fat and old. But the size of their cock doesn’t come into it. If they were tiny I wouldn’t play with them again but I would never be so rude to make it obvious. All your posts seem to be the same I suggest you get some help as your defeatist attitude will get you nowhere | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck "Sorry if that has been your experience but mine has been very different. I talk to the guys who are on their own, I talk to the ones That are chatty and friendly. I’m would suggest you try a different club where people are a bit more friendly. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. Are you over 7 inches and girthy? That will help your success rate massively in a club
So did you actually manage to get to a club or are you still trying to get over what you thought happened… to which you were told that wasn’t the case!
I'll be going to a club soon, but I know what will happen. So I'm happy to just chat to people in the general areas between them looking for other guys to play with
So…. You are making general assumptions on a presumption of something that actually hasn’t happened……….
And that is helpful how?…………."It's like Inception at this point, struggling to penetrate the multiple layers of abstaction | |||
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"....but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club" Not always true. On our first visit to VA, we were at the bar getting our first drink and a guy on the stool next to us just said how nice Char's dress was. It was pleasant and it was enough to start a chat. Turns out he wasn't on Fab, had been divorced a few years and this was his first venture into swinging and first club visit. He was interested in the scene and what we did and was keen to know how best to approach people. After fifteen minutes or so, he asked how he should ask us if we wanted to play. Char said "just ask" and off we went. He was nervous, a bit out of by sone of the guys seeming quite envious that he'd "pulled" within half an hour, but he and Char had a very pleasant time. We go to clubs specifically FOR single guys, so they're always welcome and needed. (Bry) | |||
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"....but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club Not always true. On our first visit to VA, we were at the bar getting our first drink and a guy on the stool next to us just said how nice Char's dress was. It was pleasant and it was enough to start a chat. Turns out he wasn't on Fab, had been divorced a few years and this was his first venture into swinging and first club visit. He was interested in the scene and what we did and was keen to know how best to approach people. After fifteen minutes or so, he asked how he should ask us if we wanted to play. Char said "just ask" and off we went. He was nervous, a bit out of by sone of the guys seeming quite envious that he'd "pulled" within half an hour, but he and Char had a very pleasant time. We go to clubs specifically FOR single guys, so they're always welcome and needed. (Bry)" You are exactly the kind of people I like at a club, where you can just have a good natter about stuff and if the mood takes you then maybe it can lead to play, but if not then you still got to spend time talking to really good people. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
Sorry if that has been your experience but mine has been very different.
I talk to the guys who are on their own, I talk to the ones that are chatty and friendly.
I would suggest you try a different club where people are a bit more friendly. "I appreciate your sympathy, and wish I had met more single ladies like yourself in the clubs I went to. You and I share a mutual veri, and I hope that person can vouch for my being a decent, friendly, chatty guy.  | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. " you. Don’t turn the conversation sexual immediately, chat about anything and everything! Read the dress code and rules etc. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
I don’t think this is necessarily good advice. Lots of people go through clubs looking for single guys, so there’s nothing wrong with going as a single. You just have to be good company and not afraid to talk to people.
It’s fun going with a friend, if you have one, not not essential. I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time. "We're not all black guys with big cocks though (where's Cammo gone?  )..... | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
I don’t think this is necessarily good advice. Lots of people go through clubs looking for single guys, so there’s nothing wrong with going as a single. You just have to be good company and not afraid to talk to people.
It’s fun going with a friend, if you have one, not not essential. I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time.
We're not all black guys with big cocks though (where's Cammo gone? )....."Your skin colour and cock size have nothing to do with it. If you’re a dickhead, you’re a dickhead and no one will want to play with you. | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
I don’t think this is necessarily good advice. Lots of people go through clubs looking for single guys, so there’s nothing wrong with going as a single. You just have to be good company and not afraid to talk to people.
It’s fun going with a friend, if you have one, not not essential. I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time.
We're not all black guys with big cocks though (where's Cammo gone? ).....
Your skin colour and cock size have nothing to do with it. If you’re a dickhead, you’re a dickhead and no one will want to play with you. "Plenty of nice guys have massive cocks. Double win for women | |||
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"What advice would you give a man who has never been. going to a club on his own for the first time. First rule of being a solo guy in a club; Go with a female friend. All of the above advice is useful, but you have no idea how unwanted you will feel as a solo guy in a club, not knowing a soul inside, until you go, and then it will be too late. Once you have paid your money, that’s it, you are on your own, make no mistake about that. You now have to navigate your way around the cliques (apologies; established groups of friends), and hope you can draw some conversation to feel welcome. If you are in the company of a female though, you will be noticed, and people will be inclined to want to get to know you. Good luck
I don’t think this is necessarily good advice. Lots of people go through clubs looking for single guys, so there’s nothing wrong with going as a single. You just have to be good company and not afraid to talk to people.
It’s fun going with a friend, if you have one, not not essential. I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time.
We're not all black guys with big cocks though (where's Cammo gone? ).....
Your skin colour and cock size have nothing to do with it. If you’re a dickhead, you’re a dickhead and no one will want to play with you. "I meant no offence, please accept my apology 
However; you did say "I know lots of single guys who go to clubs alone and have a great time".......and your profile is entirely focused on meeting black guys with big cocks in clubs... | |||
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