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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have been on this site for few weeks nows and seems like no one wants to meet me or talk why what am i doing wrong or am i just ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its cold innit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join in the banter on the forums - can u also fab my pics please .............. thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your only looking for women...... Since a lot of the women on here are looking for couples or other women your very limited.... Plus your joining the other 1500+ men looking for women, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your use of lower case i for I and referring to yourself as cat food several iams don't help

Seriously your profile is not that good, go and read several single guy profiles and learn the best bit's, then start your again.

As for the warning "No Timewasters" seriously? in three weeks you have enough problem with them to make a negative comment on a profile that is supposed to be positive and selling your personality.

Clubs and socials are the way into this world,you have to be out there to get noticed, but as a backup a great profile never hurt anyone's chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can u also fab my pics please .............. thank u "

Done that, both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join in the banter on the forums - can u also fab my pics please .............. thank u "

I've done it love the holly leaves xx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what do you think you may be doing wrong OP, what do you think may need changed

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"i have been on this site for few weeks nows and seems like no one wants to meet me or talk why what am i doing wrong or am i just ugly lol"

Leaving your looks to one side, theres someone for everyone on here..

Only you can figure put what you re doing wrong, you need to find the bit that makes you stand out , once you ve found that you ll still find things tough, you re not going to be every ones cup of tea,..

Your profile is nt great, if yoou look in the advice forum there will be many threads giving suggestions and tips, .. look at yours and if you were a lady would it stand out amongst many..???

My three rules ( the three h's) for single guys...

Humour

Honesty

Hung like a horse*

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*The last one is nt important..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"i have been on this site for few weeks nows and seems like no one wants to meet me or talk why what am i doing wrong or am i just ugly lol"

3 weeks... is that all...

here is a phrase for you...

"rome wasn't built in a day".....

if you are looking for instashag... it doesn't tend to happen here....

as much as it is about the end product, it can be a lot about building up a social network and that can take Time and patience....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insta shag.... Love it

isnt that for women only

I know, I know, I'll go sit on the nawty step,

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Your only looking for women...... Since a lot of the women on here are looking for couples or other women your very limited.... Plus your joining the other 1500+ men looking for women, good luck"

1500+!!!

that's just in Canning Town!

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


" ....

My three rules ( the three h's) for single guys...

Humour

Honesty

Hung like a horse*

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*The last one is nt important..

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errm... that's 4 H's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1500+ only looking for F's

Most men on here include Couples in their searches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry OP, but 3 weeks on here without a meet is nothing!

You need to learn the 3 "P"s; patience, patience, patience.

You might have thought or been told differently, but there are few women around here lying back with their legs open, just waiting for you to call!

Sorry, but life can be a bitch at times, can't it?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

3 weeks is nothing!

More pics, better profile, more patience.

Months could pass before you get a meet. Like the others say just because your here doesn't mean your guaranteed to get meets at all let alone straight away !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not another one of these threads... isnt that meant be the response

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"not another one of these threads... isnt that meant be the response "

Yeah usually. I could cut and paste my replies coz its normally the same advice lol x

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


" ....

My three rules ( the three h's) for single guys...

Humour

Honesty

Hung like a horse*

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*The last one is nt important..

errm... that's 4 H's "

Feck,.. i should have said donkey...

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By *iganflirtMan
over a year ago

wigan

only been a member myself for a few weeks but had 2 great meets.

maybe i fell lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv not had any meets on here but talking to some nice people.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"i have been on this site for few weeks nows and seems like no one wants to meet me or talk why what am i doing wrong or am i just ugly lol"

Trouble is, you've put this post up. It will impress even less people than your profile alone.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Insta shag.... Love it

isnt that for women only

I know, I know, I'll go sit on the nawty step, "

We seem to be spending a lot of time together sitting on steps

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"i have been on this site for few weeks nows and seems like no one wants to meet me or talk why what am i doing wrong or am i just ugly lol"

Righto, let's get down to a few basics here.

Firstly, as outlined by others, this is not an Instant-Fix Sex site; the ladies are not waiting drooling at the prospect of lads like you cropping up to meet their needs. If you thought otherwise, you are mistaken.

Secondly, you're competing against so many other guys, so it is a case of "selling" yourself so that your Profile stands out. At the moment is is one very long sentence, with an occasional full stop.

You have to expand your Profile. Use separate sentences, and use a capital I where necessary.

Get into the Forums and get to clubs or socials. It is a case of being "NOTICED" so that your personality shows through and people accept you for what you are.

You've only been on here 3 weeks; you are a mere beginner. It takes time, and a hell of a lot of patience.

It takes Patience! It does get better!

Good Luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here 3 weeks and not had a shag?! My god what is the world coming to Not instag, profile poor, too young, 18-99 means shag anything and desperate, seriously would you shag a 99 yr old? You need patience, picture is nice, not a bad looking lad but you need to sell yourself and you are not really doing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The really funny thing is that the origional poster of this thread hasn't added anything or commented.....I think you have answered your own question....

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Your profile reads like you feel you are doing the women a favour! We look for single men and the ones who take a bit of time to introduce themselves and connect with our profile stand out from the other 100 whose message is just 'crap'!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"The really funny thing is that the origional poster of this thread hasn't added anything or commented.....I think you have answered your own question....

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Well said that man!

He's probably sitting somewhere sulking, that no-one of the female persuasion has contacted him as a result of his pleading!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The really funny thing is that the origional poster of this thread hasn't added anything or commented.....I think you have answered your own question....

Well said that man!

He's probably sitting somewhere sulking, that no-one of the female persuasion has contacted him as a result of his pleading! "

This does seem to crop up on a extremely regular basis doesn't it?

It's a shame but if people just put alittle effort into the messages and profiles I'm sure they'd get a better response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will get used to it , just like the rest of us have had to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The really funny thing is that the origional poster of this thread hasn't added anything or commented.....I think you have answered your own question....

Well said that man!

He's probably sitting somewhere sulking, that no-one of the female persuasion has contacted him as a result of his pleading!

This does seem to crop up on a extremely regular basis doesn't it?

It's a shame but if people just put alittle effort into the messages and profiles I'm sure they'd get a better response "

Exactly....if you put the effort in you will reap the rewards, I love this site I have met some realy great people who are now very regular friends....however we must remember that there are no strangers here....only friends that we haven't met yet...hehehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The really funny thing is that the origional poster of this thread hasn't added anything or commented.....I think you have answered your own question....

Well said that man!

He's probably sitting somewhere sulking, that no-one of the female persuasion has contacted him as a result of his pleading!

This does seem to crop up on a extremely regular basis doesn't it?

It's a shame but if people just put alittle effort into the messages and profiles I'm sure they'd get a better response

Exactly....if you put the effort in you will reap the rewards, I love this site I have met some realy great people who are now very regular friends....however we must remember that there are no strangers here....only friends that we haven't met yet...hehehehe

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I will let you off that really bad saying as its xmas but if you start using "pro active " and glass is half full remarks I'm outta here

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By *andCCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We both think that the "No time wasters" comment on a profile is too confrontational ...so we'd pass you by even if you were in our age range.

The "Dont mind older women and i dont mind any race of women" comments sound condescending ...as if you'd just be making do with an older women, if there was nothing younger/better on offer. I have a thing for, or I quite like older women, would be a much more positive way of selling yourself. Lastly, we're not too hung-up on spelling and punctuation, but yours could definitely be improved upon ...to your advantage, I suspect.

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

Here we go again

This is NOT and never will be an instant brothel full of loose, will shag anything, anytime people

Your profile, quite frankly is Shite, with a capital S

You are one of millions of identical men on here

try plenty of fish if you want frequent dates

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By *mileyBWoman
over a year ago

Northwood

gently gently catchy monkey

I think lots of people expect to use the site like a take away menu i.e. feeling hungry, pick up the phone and your order is with you in ten minutes .... it just doesn't work that way .. have patience .. lay your groundwork, have fun and enjoy the banter, and good things will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have one pic and your profile doesn't grab my attention.

I also dislike the "iam", it's very lazy.

Delete the wording, start again, add a few more pictures, wait a few months and you MAY get lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure his status is doing him any favours either !

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