FabSwingers.com forum: Why can’t I get meets?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its the flowery bedding?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op your status would put me straight off I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably lots of things, probably mostly related to you.

Search the forums, covered to death in here.

Very quickly though, better pics, better profile, maybe don't refer to women as older or having a sweet tooth, suspect that'll draw out the ick rather quick.

Go to clubs, socials, realise that you're at a huge disadvantage by virtue of the numbers and not being owed a damn thing.

So reflect honestly, improve your approach and chances.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Just hang on in there! Nothing wrong with u ! X

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s 1000:1 on here

What sets you apart from tne other 999

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

Not enough willy pictures

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

More men than women on here o/p. Join in with forum/cam room chat and treat fab like a social club. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status and lack of effort on your profile would put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who feel the breath of sadness

Sit down next to me

Those who find they're touched by madness

Sit down next to me

Those who find themselves ridiculous

Sit down next to me

I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.

Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s 1000:1 on here

What sets you apart from tne other 999"

My love for statistics.

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

You've only been on 8 weeks, what we're you expecting? I was on for months and months on my old profile before I got a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.

Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light. "

Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset!

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Stand out from the "Crowd" and try regarding this site as a "Social Site" more than a "Hook Up/Easy Sex " site ???

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

You are not what the people you interact with are looking for?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.

Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light.

Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset! "

Yeah, but that's advice benefiting women, not men.

(You'll notice I'm not saying anything specific - that's deliberate. "Women don't like X" means people might get rid of X. Whereas "display yourself in your best light" could be "my X is amazing, I love my X, I'll display it more". Could only highlight themselves as they are)

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Not getting meets is not just a male thing.

As a couple we have been let down twice trying to get a second M for an MMF n twice arranged via message n phone n they still haven't turned up.

Got one more meet arranged n if same happens then that will be it for us.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.

Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light.

Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset!

Yeah, but that's advice benefiting women, not men.

Good point given.

So if I was a salesman, (woman who’s trying to share my body with someone I like)

I do t want to hear them walk into my showroom saying ‘I can’t find good sex’. Because I’d need to ask ‘what are you looking for?’

But if a customer walked in and I over heard them (or read their profile) say ‘ I’d love a woman that’s was into hard fucking and loved a big cock, because that’s what I’d give her!

I’d step in and say ‘dude, I’m the girl for you!!

I went to a weird place for a moment there.

Op. My point is, tell people what you want and who you are somehow, maybe that might work, maybe it won’t, as I’m a single guy to, and I know jack sh*t apparently.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Also, get yourself verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to pick the one you want, double click on their username and select 'Add to Basket'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key

That is good

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Everyone comes to FAB thinking it'll be an easy fuck

The reality is it's the total opposite, 1000 guys for every woman or couple means every lady would need to be meeting 3x a week for every guy to get just 1 meet a year

There's probably a better chance of you winning the lottery than getting a meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone comes to FAB thinking it'll be an easy fuck

The reality is it's the total opposite, 1000 guys for every woman or couple means every lady would need to be meeting 3x a week for every guy to get just 1 meet a year

There's probably a better chance of you winning the lottery than getting a meet on here

Guess I should by a ticket then

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

So you think you can create a profile, chose a mature woman and off you go?

Get rid of the cock pics

Update your profile with a little more content

Be patient and polite

Lower your expectation

And just for the record, even mature women have age ranges! Not all mature women seek a much younger guy

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Try Facebook dating if you want older woman it’s like fish in a barrel on there

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Keep going nipper, you will get there eventually. Takes years for some people to find someone to shag

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By *ornym66Man
over a year ago

Col /ips

Every one likes different things about a profile but it's hard for a single guy on hate some just like the fantasy of it I'm not holding out if I meet someone at all I ve been there on a mfm was very good but you have to connect that what's hard for a couple to find good luck ??

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By *ndyPandyLoopyLouCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Those who feel the breath of sadness

Sit down next to me

Those who find they're touched by madness

Sit down next to me

Those who find themselves ridiculous

Sit down next to me

I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.

?? that song!!!

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By *ndyPandyLoopyLouCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Those who feel the breath of sadness

Sit down next to me

Those who find they're touched by madness

Sit down next to me

Those who find themselves ridiculous

Sit down next to me

I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.

Love that song!!!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

Hi OP,

It's worth saying from the outset that there probably isn't anything wrong with you, it's just for one reason or another people haven't been interested. That's no different to the realisation that not every person you pass on the street wants to have sex with you.

The forums are full of advice for people in the same position as you and the vast majority of it is generic. Just have a look around and see what you think applies to you.

To be more specific though, it would be hard to know why you cant arrange any meets without knowing what you do to try and get one. For example someone spending 12 hours a day reading profiles and sending thoughtful messages is probably going to have more success than a person that logs in for five minutes every two days and floods the Internet with winks, friends requests and copy and paste 'Hi, HRU?' type messages.

To be even more specific again we'll share a few thoughts with you. What you do with those thoughts is up to you. Your profile consists of less than 30 words and pretty much repaeats what is already written on your profile in the 'looking for' section. Three of your five pics are dick pics, which not everyone wants to see. You cannot accomodate which will indicate to many people that you are either living at home or with someone and playing away. Couple that with the flowery bedspread and can of Silvikrin hair spray visible in one pic and it's probably a fair assumption that there is a woman living in the same place in some capacity. What you do is up to you, but people will make assumptions and swiftly move on.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No punctuation on your profile to speak off.

Saying you have a sweet tooth for older women. They aren't chocolate cake.

Better pictures.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I wouldn't meet you, OP, as short men are not my thing. Nothing you can do about your height though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many cock pictures for us and a pretty minimal bio.

Stick with the older women thing though they all love being referred to as that.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

There’s nothing wrong with you, there is however 12 million single guys on here (slight exaggeration) looking for a quick fuck and it doesn’t work like that.

Head to a club chat to people who will verify you or arrange a social drink get verified so people know your genuine. Like anything this isn’t as easy as everyone seems to think it is when they sign up.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Lots of good advice above BUT you've only been here 8 weeks which is nothing. It takes time and effort and lots of patience. Or go to an organised social/party or club.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Maybe because there aren't any 99 year olds on here.....

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

5'3" women are horrible pal.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Unfortunately it's not a very well written profile. Looks as if almost no effort has been put into it. So you have a sweet tooth for older women. We're not gobstoppers.

What can you offer other people, aside from the obvious, that's what I would want to know.

You've been here for 8 weeks. It's not pick and mix and off you go. Some effort, care and attention is needed to stand out from the crowd. Good luck.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"Maybe because there aren't any 99 year olds on here....."

They probably feel uncomfortable when the huge crowd of 18 year olds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

socks shorts and training shoes and flowery bedspread.... do you still live with your mum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those who feel the breath of sadness

Sit down next to me

Those who find they're touched by madness

Sit down next to me

Those who find themselves ridiculous

Sit down next to me

I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.

Love that song!!!"

Same.

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By *I TwoCouple
over a year ago

PDI 12-26th Nov 24

"what’s wrong with me?

Impatience amongst other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

There is nothing wrong with you. What you have to remember is

For every single guy like you there is thousands of single women and couples.

Your profile says nothing about what you are looking for or what you offer to people if they meet you.

If you want to meet stand out against the thousands of other single guys.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Their is plenty of helpful advice among the pile of threads from previous folk whom asked similar would be a great place to start search via profile help/advice it's a great useful tool for you to create something that fits around you personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Probably lots of things, probably mostly related to you.

Search the forums, covered to death in here.

Very quickly though, better pics, better profile, maybe don't refer to women as older or having a sweet tooth, suspect that'll draw out the ick rather quick.

Go to clubs, socials, realise that you're at a huge disadvantage by virtue of the numbers and not being owed a damn thing.

So reflect honestly, improve your approach and chances. "

The forums have a search option to see if a topic has been discussed before? Every day is a school day lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Write a completely truthful profile about yourself. Forget about what you think people might want to hear or see. Share who you really are and trust me there’s weirdos out there for all of us! Even us vanilla fuckers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?

There is nothing wrong with you. What you have to remember is

For every single guy like you there is thousands of single women and couples.

I’ve read this twice now….and oh the dream? If only?

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