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New to the scene, finding it difficult to arrange meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been here a little while, had one meet last year. We chat to lots of couples and some dingles females but nothing seems to lead anywhere recently. Any advice?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Hey OP..

Maybe try going to organised socials or a club..a great way to get going.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You look a very attractive couple. Wishing you success

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Keep putting up social meets via the meet section, then via that find those who you feel attracted to and comfortable with or Go to as mentioned above clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couples night at a club would probably be your best bet.

If you’re only wanting to meet from here try to avoid talking about sex and camming with other couples as they might just want to have a wank and be done.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Your profile looks fine so perhaps something to do with now you are chatting? It is hard to know. Yes organised socials or clubs but no reason why you shouldn’t be able to meet couples without doing that. Are you being proactive suggesting dates to meet with people who interest you? Lots of chats fade because both sides a bit passive sometimes.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

*how not now

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We've found the same. A lot of people just seem here to chat and not meet.

It's difficult to meet on here.

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By *illybob12Man
over a year ago

Sunderland

Ditch the tash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept the reality that the vast majority on here have no real intention of meeting anyone. For most it’s all about fantasising, looking at pictures and wanking.

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Clubs are your best bet. Try going to a range of different clubs. They're all different and attract different people. Perhaps the ones you've been to already just aren't for you?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've found the best way to use Fab is almost as a blog of your swinging journey. Post photos, videos, fantasies and experiences for others to follow but don't use it directly to meet people.

Post up when you're looking to visit clubs or socials and see who shows up. You'll soon start making a network of in-person friends who are more likely to show up and who may well hook you up with private parties

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted


"We've found the same. A lot of people just seem here to chat and not meet.

It's difficult to meet on here. "

Genuinely don’t understand this. There are so many couples that do meet. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Our only constraint is having time to meet. Of course lots of couples don’t meet but if focus on chatting to people with veris or the odd newbie who seems genuine it works for us. We’ve met quite a few people and all via Fab. As I said before think a problem for many is just not being good at chatting and not being proactive in suggesting dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've found the same. A lot of people just seem here to chat and not meet.

It's difficult to meet on here.

Genuinely don’t understand this. There are so many couples that do meet. It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. Our only constraint is having time to meet. Of course lots of couples don’t meet but if focus on chatting to people with veris or the odd newbie who seems genuine it works for us. We’ve met quite a few people and all via Fab. As I said before think a problem for many is just not being good at chatting and not being proactive in suggesting dates "

I think that’s one of the main reasons for some people - Not being proactive in arranging something. I used to chat to people and nothing materialised, until I realised I had to be more proactive in throwing a date out and for me it has worked.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Don’t be scared to ask a couple your interested in for a no strings drink see where it goes the worst they can do is say no. You get stuck in an endless cycle of chat here sometimes so we prefer to get straight to the point “we’d love to get to know you over a drink rather than on here” or something along those lines. Best of luck in your search

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"We've been here a little while, had one meet last year. We chat to lots of couples and some dingles females but nothing seems to lead anywhere recently. Any advice?"

Lovely pics... If you guys can't get meets what hope the rest of us!

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted


"Don’t be scared to ask a couple your interested in for a no strings drink see where it goes the worst they can do is say no. You get stuck in an endless cycle of chat here sometimes so we prefer to get straight to the point “we’d love to get to know you over a drink rather than on here” or something along those lines. Best of luck in your search "

Yep spot on. Well happy to chat for a while but at some point it just goes in circles. And so often discussion over meeting for a drink leads to discussing to meet for more than a drink pretty quickly Sometimes people are genuinely busy and have no time for a month or two but if try this 2 or maybe 3 times and nothing happens you have your answer.

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