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Help!! First time single male with a couple

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By *iggus_dikkus OP   Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Hi Fabbers

Im really keen to meet with a couple but as a single male i find it a bit daunting.

Can anybody offer some good advice for a MMF virgin??? x

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It will be an uphill battle to stand out theres probably plenty advice already on forums about being courteous, polite, attractive in conversations.

From my experience I would say - think not too much on what what you want, but think and and act on how you want it and go with a flow.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Adding couples to your 'looking to meet' options is always a good idea.

Otherwise they'll just assume you're only after a couple due to lack of success finding a single female.

Because that happens a lot, trust me.

A

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

If you can find a couple where the guy just likes to watch (There are more than you'd think) this will be a good starting point. It will get you used to performing with another male present.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted


"Adding couples to your 'looking to meet' options is always a good idea.

Otherwise they'll just assume you're only after a couple due to lack of success finding a single female.

Because that happens a lot, trust me.

A"

Yep totally agree. I would say pretty much essential on here. Apart from anything else you won't show up on local searches/updates if don't.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Hi Fabbers

Im really keen to meet with a couple but as a single male i find it a bit daunting.

Can anybody offer some good advice for a MMF virgin??? x"

Just treat it like any first time meet; be yourself, go with the flow, and let whatever happens, happen. You’ll be fine mate, just enjoy the experience at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Fabbers

Im really keen to meet with a couple but as a single male i find it a bit daunting.

Can anybody offer some good advice for a MMF virgin??? x"

I would politely try and find out what turns them on and off sexually. Ask what their boundaries are. Then you know what not to do to piss them off. Then you can concentrate on doing things they enjoy sexually.

I shouldn't have to say this but as I have read the forums for years I will. Make sure you have had a shower, your cock is very clean, and you have brushed your teeth.

Never forget they are a couple and they have invited you into their relationship. Don't ignore the guy. Also when emailing them. Remember they are a couple and don't ignore the guy.

If they are experienced let them take the lead.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think there's a problem if couples see you as someone who is experimenting or lacking experience. Simply because they are out their for their own enjoyment and want to be someone who they suspect a good chance of success or working. Naturally a bit of experience with the dynamic helps.

But naturally we all have our firsts and we can't get better in that dynamic without experience. So I would say when you go about engaging with a couple don't make a thing of your inexperience, just let everything flow naturally like it's ment to be. Naturally if they ask about your experience of other couples tell the truth, be honest. Likewise never roll with something your uncomfortable with and be confident to say if your slightly out of your depth. It's just not helpful if you make a big thing of being your first time.

Also don't go with any couple just to tick a box. Your enjoyment and fulfilment is just as important as theirs. Your not a sex toy and your needs are valuable to. So don't give in to desperation or being used. If the chemistry with a couple isn't right or what they propose doesn't work for you simple don't go there. Surely you want your first and everytime to be hot and mutually fulfilling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think there's a problem if couples see you as someone who is experimenting or lacking experience. Simply because they are out their for their own enjoyment and want to be someone who they suspect a good chance of success or working. Naturally a bit of experience with the dynamic helps.

But naturally we all have our firsts and we can't get better in that dynamic without experience. So I would say when you go about engaging with a couple don't make a thing of your inexperience, just let everything flow naturally like it's ment to be. Naturally if they ask about your experience of other couples tell the truth, be honest. Likewise never roll with something your uncomfortable with and be confident to say if your slightly out of your depth. It's just not helpful if you make a big thing of being your first time.

Also don't go with any couple just to tick a box. Your enjoyment and fulfilment is just as important as theirs. Your not a sex toy and your needs are valuable to. So don't give in to desperation or being used. If the chemistry with a couple isn't right or what they propose doesn't work for you simple don't go there. Surely you want your first and everytime to be hot and mutually fulfilling?"

Love this advice.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Insist that the male refrains from any direct eye contact with yourself and stands in the corner of the room facing the wall during the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Fabbers

Im really keen to meet with a couple but as a single male i find it a bit daunting.

Can anybody offer some good advice for a MMF virgin??? x"

Just relax, dont be too pushy, unless its been agreed beforehand and its what they want... make sure you smell good, and talk to them both not just the female. Sure, you want to get laid, but the hubby will let you know what she likes, and enjoys. Once your all warmed up, you can then experiment and push the boundaries a little... And remember little respect goes a long way, good luck

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By *rliasonMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I’ve met a few couples over the years for MMF. I’ve always made the effort initially with the male to reassure him and that you are on the same wave length and have a connection to ensure he’s going to enjoy it as much as the lady and look after her.

Ultimately he’s putting his partner in a position to be shared mainly and in fairness that deserves a lot of respect and compassion. It can be just as daunting for them especially if new.

I always make good trustworthy eye contact with both and appear relaxed. Just talking and having a nice three way conversation helps. It’s a three way respect trail imho. It’s worked for me. The partners male either wants to watch or join in once you get going.

To initiate with the female, be well dressed, smell nice, smile and overall spotless hygiene. Just my view but I’ve never had an issue. The moral is respect imho.

I hope this helps someone.

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bucks/London/Oxford


"Hi Fabbers

Im really keen to meet with a couple but as a single male i find it a bit daunting.

Can anybody offer some good advice for a MMF virgin??? x"

Assuming you get a meet, relax and go with the flow. If you find her attractive then you will find your male brain will kick in (if you don’t why are you meeting?)

Her pleasure and arousal will please you and her partner too - concentrate on making that happen and everyone will relax into the situation and enjoy it, including you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for the same...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great advice

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