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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! " Record him with your phone, then tell him you are going to report him for sexual harassment or actually report him. That should solve it. | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! " sexual harrassment sweets..threaten him with it and watch him squirm....what you do in your private life with anyone is your business...and he has no right to try to belittle you because of it.... | |||
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" sexual harrassment sweets..threaten him with it and watch him squirm....what you do in your private life with anyone is your business...and he has no right to try to belittle you because of it...." | |||
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"Ahhhh thanks for replys feel much better - hubby knows and is not happy we have a works do sat so that shud be interesting - told hubby we both rise above him " This person either wants you to cave in, or go quietly into the night. Trying to make you feel awkward about something that is beyond the scope of your work is neither clever nor mature, and I think with the up and coming event on Saturday you'd be well both enjoying the evening and demonstrating that he is not getting the effect that he wants from waving this fact in front of your face. If he sees that relatively few others are that put-out by such a revelation, then I'm sure in time the novelty will wear off and he will desist. If not go down the official channels, but do it oh so quietly that it comes down upon him like a ton of bricks come the time Good luck and don't let one pathetic wimp spoil your life. Wolf | |||
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"he does sound either like a bully or very immature ??? cant make my mind up " Totally me and a very close work friend think he is a total bully -more than one way to skin a cat though ! | |||
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"There is no way I would put up with that. A couple of people I work with know and there is some friendly but discreet ribbing goes on, but mostly 'cos they are fascinated. Anything more is not on. Make it clear it is unacceptable and if he carries on then as said above make it official. It would probably get fairly serious fairly quickly for him. Some people really should not be let out of the house in the mornings " | |||
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"If l were your hubby this guy wouldn't be in fit state for a works do " it's all I cud do to stop hubby from killing him tonight ! | |||
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"he does sound either like a bully or very immature ??? cant make my mind up Totally me and a very close work friend think he is a total bully -more than one way to skin a cat though ! " . Good Luck and i Hope you really put this bastard in his place.. | |||
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"Tell him this site is for over 18's and he should not be looking at sexually explicit material at his agr! Or you should ask him and his G/F over for dinner.....oh yeh I bet he don't have one! Bigots like this should be made to feel out of the norm, rather than normal folk who enjoy sex. Christ, I bet he believes that women should not be Bishops either!! Happy swinging guys, long live the revolution! " your right no GF lol you lot are making perfect sence now ! | |||
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"But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making" Even so it still does not excuse it and there is no reason to put up with it. It is beyond inappropriate and personally I would see the little toerag out of the door with P45 in hand for it. | |||
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"As your colleagues know, then it's out in the open so inform him that you will report him for work place bullying and sexual harassment. If you can try to get a witness or a recording although the recording will not be allowed in any official process be cause you recorded it without his consents. But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making" Mmmmmm he doesn't know I'm on here but I'm not worried bt what me and hubby do just don't want to be called a prositute | |||
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"But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making Even so it still does not excuse it and there is no reason to put up with it. It is beyond inappropriate and personally I would see the little toerag out of the door with P45 in hand for it. " That's my aim | |||
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"he does sound either like a bully or very immature ??? cant make my mind up Totally me and a very close work friend think he is a total bully -more than one way to skin a cat though ! . Good Luck and i Hope you really put this bastard in his place.. " | |||
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"But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making Even so it still does not excuse it and there is no reason to put up with it. It is beyond inappropriate and personally I would see the little toerag out of the door with P45 in hand for it. That's my aim " Well stay calm, Report it, make a record of everything that happens next and keep reporting it, Tell him clearly it is unacceptable when others are there, don't be alone with him, don't retaliate and keep your hubby away from him. Take it slowly and you will get him. Lose your rag or rush it and he may squeeze out the net | |||
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"As your colleagues know, then it's out in the open so inform him that you will report him for work place bullying and sexual harassment. If you can try to get a witness or a recording although the recording will not be allowed in any official process be cause you recorded it without his consents. But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making Mmmmmm he doesn't know I'm on here but I'm not worried bt what me and hubby do just don't want to be called a prositute " Quite rightly so. You aren't a prostitute and even if you were its none of his business, narrow minded little low life that he is. | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! sexual harrassment sweets..threaten him with it and watch him squirm....what you do in your private life with anyone is your business...and he has no right to try to belittle you because of it...." | |||
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" Well stay calm, Report it, make a record of everything that happens next and keep reporting it, Tell him clearly it is unacceptable when others are there, don't be alone with him, don't retaliate and keep your hubby away from him. Take it slowly and you will get him. Lose your rag or rush it and he may squeeze out the net " This! | |||
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"That is harassment - even though he's not asking for sex himself - he is making your life a misery just because of your preference - would that type of behaviour be tolerated if you were gay and he was making comments about that choice? Even though you are in a small environment, he needs to be told that either he stops or you report him. Whether that is to higher management or, if necessary, the police - it will be reported if he doesn't stop with his insults, and insinuations -oooooohhh it makes my blood boil " | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! " I told my oldest and best friend, she really didn't understand. She said I was cheapening myself and I was worth more than that. He's maybe not being horrible some people just genuinely don't understand | |||
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"This is why we decided to keep our private life '- private' It is nobodies business what we do in our spare time. We would never tell friends, how ever close we may be, family or work colleagues, a recipie for disaster !! " . . | |||
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"This is why we decided to keep our private life '- private' It is nobodies business what we do in our spare time. We would never tell friends, how ever close we may be, family or work colleagues, a recipie for disaster !! . . " i agree if you tell people about your private life they will have an opinion and your not always going to like it in my opinion your private life is best kept just that | |||
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"Just tell him you have a 60 year old mate who wants to roger him senseless and see how he likes that idea. Infringement of your personal life? Yes, possibly. Sexual harassment? Yes, definitely. A case of an immature runt who needs to get laid at home before he ventures out into the real world? Yes, absolutely. I will happily pay him a visit on your behalf so you and your fella can have a good time on Saturday. Just forget about him and his sexual inferiority complex. If he is not man enough to admit that he enjoys sex then he should not be permitted to breathe (or breed) IMHO.... " Do NOT engage in any form of banter other than to advise if he doesn't stop you'll report him, do NOT be alone with him if at all possible! Forget all this twat him shit as its you who'll end up in deep do do! | |||
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"Ahhhh thanks for replys feel much better - hubby knows and is not happy we have a works do sat so that shud be interesting - told hubby we both rise above him " Remember a works do is just like being at work so behave responsibly, you're a representative of the company when out and about at work related functions. Just hope this individual fucks up and then you have him by the short and curlys | |||
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"If he's very new at your company then he's invariably going to be under scrutiny as part of his probabtionary period. Have a quiet word with one of your bosses and simply explain he's overstepping the mark with inappropriate comments. You have no need to explain further, especially if you have indeed recorded a comment by then. In the meantime, get your friends also to report him for the inappropriate remarks he has made to you - again there is no need for them to be specific: it should suffice that they found the comments in bad taste and upsetting. Your company is obliged by law to take this very seriously and should take this further. Above all, say nothing to him about this either at work or at the works party, other than explaining you find his comments inappropriate and you'd like him to stop. Having trained people in dignity and diversity at work, I know only too well from experience how upsetting these people are but that same experience has invariably seen swift disciplinary action, particularly at my company. It simply isn't tolerated. Good luck (tell hubby to keep his hands by his side )" It simply isn't enough to say inappropriate behavior as you will have to qualify the comments otherwise how do they decide if it is inappropriate. If he's new he'll probably be in a probationary/trial period so he's unlikely to want to be reported. To be honest only you can know if he's being malicious as he may think his comments are funny, it's a difficult situation but just saying STOP enough is enough or I'll report you may have the desired effect. | |||
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"How does he know you are a swinger...is he on here himself??????" No people gossip at work it's come out which I'm not fussed about to me it's no big deal but to some I Spose it is ! | |||
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"This is why we decided to keep our private life '- private' It is nobodies business what we do in our spare time. We would never tell friends, how ever close we may be, family or work colleagues, a recipie for disaster !! " You think?!! Whilst I don't agree with harrassment of any kind, when you don't keep your private life private what do you expect?!! | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest " Dont get anything off your chest whilst at work.... It will make it worse as nice as your chest is you must keep it covered at work or all hell will let loose.... laughter is the best medicine | |||
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"How does he know you are a swinger...is he on here himself?????? No people gossip at work it's come out which I'm not fussed about to me it's no big deal but to some I Spose it is ! " I feel for you, after what's happened. With hindsight though, it's a lesson learnt in keeping your personal life, private. | |||
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"If he's very new at your company then he's invariably going to be under scrutiny as part of his probabtionary period. Have a quiet word with one of your bosses and simply explain he's overstepping the mark with inappropriate comments. You have no need to explain further, especially if you have indeed recorded a comment by then. In the meantime, get your friends also to report him for the inappropriate remarks he has made to you - again there is no need for them to be specific: it should suffice that they found the comments in bad taste and upsetting. Your company is obliged by law to take this very seriously and should take this further. Above all, say nothing to him about this either at work or at the works party, other than explaining you find his comments inappropriate and you'd like him to stop. Having trained people in dignity and diversity at work, I know only too well from experience how upsetting these people are but that same experience has invariably seen swift disciplinary action, particularly at my company. It simply isn't tolerated. Good luck (tell hubby to keep his hands by his side )" As a shop steward this advice is spot on | |||
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"If he's very new at your company then he's invariably going to be under scrutiny as part of his probabtionary period. Have a quiet word with one of your bosses and simply explain he's overstepping the mark with inappropriate comments. You have no need to explain further, especially if you have indeed recorded a comment by then. In the meantime, get your friends also to report him for the inappropriate remarks he has made to you - again there is no need for them to be specific: it should suffice that they found the comments in bad taste and upsetting. Your company is obliged by law to take this very seriously and should take this further. Above all, say nothing to him about this either at work or at the works party, other than explaining you find his comments inappropriate and you'd like him to stop. Having trained people in dignity and diversity at work, I know only too well from experience how upsetting these people are but that same experience has invariably seen swift disciplinary action, particularly at my company. It simply isn't tolerated. Good luck (tell hubby to keep his hands by his side ) As a shop steward this advice is spot on" I'd do exactly what the OP says. Great advice, this! | |||
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"If he's very new at your company then he's invariably going to be under scrutiny as part of his probabtionary period. Have a quiet word with one of your bosses and simply explain he's overstepping the mark with inappropriate comments. You have no need to explain further, especially if you have indeed recorded a comment by then. In the meantime, get your friends also to report him for the inappropriate remarks he has made to you - again there is no need for them to be specific: it should suffice that they found the comments in bad taste and upsetting. Your company is obliged by law to take this very seriously and should take this further. Above all, say nothing to him about this either at work or at the works party, other than explaining you find his comments inappropriate and you'd like him to stop. Having trained people in dignity and diversity at work, I know only too well from experience how upsetting these people are but that same experience has invariably seen swift disciplinary action, particularly at my company. It simply isn't tolerated. Good luck (tell hubby to keep his hands by his side ) As a shop steward this advice is spot on I'd do exactly what the OP says. Great advice, this! " Again great advice. A similar thing happened to a female work colleague around this time of year a couple of years ago. She consulted the HR people and our boss.They hauled the guy in and gave him a warning. At the Christmas 'do' he approached her and made some more inappropriate remarks. This was expected as he hadn't really fully backed off after the warning. The lady had been expecting this, and she secretly recorded their verbal exchanges. The next day she went to the HR & boss again, played them the recording and the guy was called in - then fired on the spot for gross misconduct. Job done. May be worth your while doing the same? | |||
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"But if you do put face pic's on your public profile then this was a problem in the making Even so it still does not excuse it and there is no reason to put up with it. It is beyond inappropriate and personally I would see the little toerag out of the door with P45 in hand for it. That's my aim " You've definitely got a case as far as harassment is concerned. As others have stated get tangible, presentable evidence. But to be sure of it going through, surely this thread needs to be stopped- publicising it won't help your cause. And as lots of people have said already, your husband needs to keeps his cool, braying the idiot wont help your cause Oeither. As for the idiot himself, he clearly is a very narrow minded immature individual, who probably has very limited sexual experience. Good luck with it xx | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! " sexual harrasment, criminal offence, duty of care from your employer, so i would report him. If he mentions the swinging, just ddeny it | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! sexual harrasment, criminal offence, duty of care from your employer, so i would report him. If he mentions the swinging, just ddeny it " but why should she deny it, it isn't illegal but harrassing someone for following a legal lifestyle choice is. I don't publicise my sex life but I'm not ashamed of it safe, consensual recreational sex is an enjoyable thing and it's uptight people like this guy that tie us all in knots over sexuality | |||
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"If l were your hubby this guy wouldn't be in fit state for a works do " | |||
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"I'm afraid I'd be going for option 1. It's dark when you leave work....... "Take that, you little bastard!" Get hubby to put the little fucker in A&E for a few hours. Even better, make sure hubby wears a balaclava with 2 eye holes and doesn't say a word. Then when he turns up for work looking the worse for wear, just smile knowingly........" I don't believe I just read this .....are you really serious? | |||
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"That is harassment - even though he's not asking for sex himself - he is making your life a misery just because of your preference - would that type of behaviour be tolerated if you were gay and he was making comments about that choice? Even though you are in a small environment, he needs to be told that either he stops or you report him. Whether that is to higher management or, if necessary, the police - it will be reported if he doesn't stop with his insults, and insinuations -oooooohhh it makes my blood boil " | |||
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"Next time he starts tell him loudly that he's just jealous that you have a much better, more exciting sex life than he does and point out he could get laid more often if he wasn't an obnoxious, gobby little twat." Yeah, and then report him for sexual harassment if he does it again. | |||
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"Record him on your phone, have him for sexual harrassment. Do it quietly and officially. Be civil at work, and professional. Then when it comes to pass that they are questioning him, he will shit his pants!" | |||
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"This guys actions are wrong and impossible to condone. But not as wrong and impossible to condone as all those keyboard warriors saying that giving him a good kicking is the obvious solution. Truly shocking." | |||
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"I presume the keyboard warriors here do know that recording someone without their permission leaves you totally open for being sued by him for breaching His rights and will get u in trouble from work regardless of what he has done? " Not if its in a public place where legitimately other people could overhear it. In the same way as people can film in the street and there is no grounds for stopping them. | |||
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"Sounds to me like he is a) jealous b) fancies you c) somehow thinking his strategy is going to end up with him getting his leg over with you. " Yep Personally, my strategy for dealing with him would involve a lure, a Transit van, a baseball bat and a piece of wasteland (You're in Benfleet - there's loads there! Lol!) Seriously, the 'moral' of this story is...... DON'T EVER tell workmates what you do in your private life!!!!! This is NOT this young guys fault (although he is an immature little wanker) - this is the fault of YOUR workmates who YOU trusted with personal information and who betrayed that trust. He got it from somewhere and by your own admission, your workmates know..... And don't bank on him NOT being on here. Not with your face pics on show, anyway..... | |||
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"if not we will all meet him after hours joke btw" Yes let's all meet him after hours abuse him haha - not really thanks thou xx | |||
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"This guys actions are wrong and impossible to condone. But not as wrong and impossible to condone as all those keyboard warriors saying that giving him a good kicking is the obvious solution. Truly shocking." +1 As I said earlier any violence will lead to far greater issues! | |||
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"OP document everything he does in a diary with dates and times,go to your nearest CAB show them/tell them and get them to stamp your diary. This nasty piece of work will think twice if he messes with you again because you have a neutral witness which can be validated if and when you report this matter to HR " All they are validating is what's written in the diary! | |||
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"Wow thankyou for all ur replies well let me tell u what happened I told my boss who might add is a very close friend of mine and he made him apologies to me face to face - since then he has moved on to bullying other staff - no body likes him and I think he might be looking for a new job come January " Be very glad in the way this was resolved, I would seriously think about who your 'friends' are at work as someone has been muck raking! Remember it only takes one person to be offended by something to generate a complaint and this pass time for some is morally offensive. It doesn't matter how much you believe its ok to talk openly about your sex life because some will have issues and those may be deep seated and find what you do abhorrent. Maybe they've swung and had a break up because of swinging, could be religious reasons. The point being work is not the place for this level of private life to be discussed, you must understand that if you do you can't expect everyone one to understand or agree with you and you should be prepared for the fall out. He sounds like some one with 'issues' and I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't make it through probation! Tread carefully, you do not wont this going down official routes because there is every chance the possible repercussions won't just effect you. Bullying it may be, sexual harassment not sure but we all need to hear both sides of any allegations. It sounds as if this manager has his head screwed on as he knows just how difficult this could become. | |||
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"Wow thankyou for all ur replies well let me tell u what happened I told my boss who might add is a very close friend of mine and he made him apologies to me face to face - since then he has moved on to bullying other staff - no body likes him and I think he might be looking for a new job come January " Just how close a friend is this manager? Don't tell me you're swinging with a work colleague! | |||
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"Wow thankyou for all ur replies well let me tell u what happened I told my boss who might add is a very close friend of mine and he made him apologies to me face to face - since then he has moved on to bullying other staff - no body likes him and I think he might be looking for a new job come January Be very glad in the way this was resolved, I would seriously think about who your 'friends' are at work as someone has been muck raking! Remember it only takes one person to be offended by something to generate a complaint and this pass time for some is morally offensive. It doesn't matter how much you believe its ok to talk openly about your sex life because some will have issues and those may be deep seated and find what you do abhorrent. Maybe they've swung and had a break up because of swinging, could be religious reasons. The point being work is not the place for this level of private life to be discussed, you must understand that if you do you can't expect everyone one to understand or agree with you and you should be prepared for the fall out. He sounds like some one with 'issues' and I wouldn't be surprised if he doesn't make it through probation! Tread carefully, you do not wont this going down official routes because there is every chance the possible repercussions won't just effect you. Bullying it may be, sexual harassment not sure but we all need to hear both sides of any allegations. It sounds as if this manager has his head screwed on as he knows just how difficult this could become. I will never discuss my pvt life with wrk colleagues again we have know each other for like 15 years we all socialise together so to me they are my mates but unfortunatley my secret got bk to this guy and shit happened but lesson well and truly learnt now x " | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! " Can't the boss just sack him, he's new so he must be on trial, your work mates know you swing and don't say anything but I bet that'll have this dude out the door if they knew what he is saying to you. Failing that you could just walk up behind him a "trip" with a very large very hot cup of coffee. An extra hot latte with 5 or 6 sugars will really stick and burn. Accidents happen especially early in the morning, burn burn LOL | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME" Well dude I'll face those flames with you because you are completely right. People give it mouth because they don't get a slap anymore for doing so, and if they do they run to the police. They could follow you down the road saying all sorts to bait you but the police don't listen to that they'll bang you up while mouthy sod sits at home laughing. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME Well dude I'll face those flames with you because you are completely right. People give it mouth because they don't get a slap anymore for doing so, and if they do they run to the police. They could follow you down the road saying all sorts to bait you but the police don't listen to that they'll bang you up while mouthy sod sits at home laughing." Good luck to them if they report you if you have evidence of abuse or blackmail on their part. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME" Violence is never the answer. It has no place in a civilized society. Most civilized people accept that which is why your post is likely to shot down. I suspect you think we are all supposed to be in awe of the macho hardman that you are desperately trying to portray yourself as. It is beyond me why anyone would want to present themselves as a violent thugs, but you don't even manage that, you just sound like an immature little boy who really needs to grow up. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME" Someone I used to know threatened a guy with violence who just looked at his girlfriend (this was way back in the 80's). Big BIG mistake. He was found behind a parade of shops with serious head injuries and, the last I heard, was practically incapable of doing anything for himself and living in a care home. BEWARE who you go around 'threatening'... It never solves anything and, as in this guys case, can get YOU in a lot of 'bother'... | |||
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"Excuse the bad language but need to get this off my chest I work in a very close environment by that I mean there is only 5 of us and we work in the same same room - the new boy at work has found out I swing with hubby and whilst this is no big deal with my colleagues it seems to be a huge deal with him to the point were he had cornerd me in the staff room and said " I know a swinger he is 60 do u wanna fuck him " that overlooked - today he continually called me a prositute and says I should charge for what me and hubby do - now I'm cool with opinions but this had totally got my goat !!!!! Record him with your phone, then tell him you are going to report him for sexual harassment or actually report him. That should solve it." I completely agree, this is harassment. He should be dismissed. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME Violence is never the answer. It has no place in a civilized society. Most civilized people accept that which is why your post is likely to shot down. I suspect you think we are all supposed to be in awe of the macho hardman that you are desperately trying to portray yourself as. It is beyond me why anyone would want to present themselves as a violent thugs, but you don't even manage that, you just sound like an immature little boy who really needs to grow up." I would add though this guy is completely right. Lmfbo That's why every "civilised" county trains an army of killers and produces weapons that can level whole towns and buildings, To "protect" us. Or is it just to put on a show of force? Or just to pull someone out off power because they don't like the way they run their country, or want more land. Our Government preach violence solves nothing, I beg to differ. If two countries don't agree they start killing each other. Don't tell me violence solves nothing, because it can. If we got invaded what you gonna do stand their and say don't shoot let settle this over a game of chest. Or say someone broke into your home in the middle of the night, you gonna hide under the bed? Or grab a bat or your crossbow and protect your family and belonging? Violence solves nothing, yea right. | |||
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"War between countries is somewhat different to having an annoying arrogant prick causing you an issue in the office. Violence is not the answer, I would rather work with a hungrey lion than those berks that TALK about being violent all the time, it is so boring." Your right but he said "violence solves nothing" when the proof is there that quite often violence can solve problems. Violence may not solve the ops issue but the saying "violence solves nothing" is completely wrong. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME Violence is never the answer. It has no place in a civilized society. Most civilized people accept that which is why your post is likely to shot down. I suspect you think we are all supposed to be in awe of the macho hardman that you are desperately trying to portray yourself as. It is beyond me why anyone would want to present themselves as a violent thugs, but you don't even manage that, you just sound like an immature little boy who really needs to grow up. I would add though this guy is completely right. Lmfbo That's why every "civilised" county trains an army of killers and produces weapons that can level whole towns and buildings, To "protect" us. Or is it just to put on a show of force? Or just to pull someone out off power because they don't like the way they run their country, or want more land. Our Government preach violence solves nothing, I beg to differ. If two countries don't agree they start killing each other. Don't tell me violence solves nothing, because it can. If we got invaded what you gonna do stand their and say don't shoot let settle this over a game of chest. Or say someone broke into your home in the middle of the night, you gonna hide under the bed? Or grab a bat or your crossbow and protect your family and belonging? Violence solves nothing, yea right." Not getting in to q debate about the rights or wrongs of any of the scenarios you quote, but how do they even compare to the post I was responding to which was basically advocating a good kicking as the optimum solution to someone pissing off his girlfriend? | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME Violence is never the answer. It has no place in a civilized society. Most civilized people accept that which is why your post is likely to shot down. I suspect you think we are all supposed to be in awe of the macho hardman that you are desperately trying to portray yourself as. It is beyond me why anyone would want to present themselves as a violent thugs, but you don't even manage that, you just sound like an immature little boy who really needs to grow up. I would add though this guy is completely right. Lmfbo That's why every "civilised" county trains an army of killers and produces weapons that can level whole towns and buildings, To "protect" us. Or is it just to put on a show of force? Or just to pull someone out off power because they don't like the way they run their country, or want more land. Our Government preach violence solves nothing, I beg to differ. If two countries don't agree they start killing each other. Don't tell me violence solves nothing, because it can. If we got invaded what you gonna do stand their and say don't shoot let settle this over a game of chest. Or say someone broke into your home in the middle of the night, you gonna hide under the bed? Or grab a bat or your crossbow and protect your family and belonging? Violence solves nothing, yea right. Not getting in to q debate about the rights or wrongs of any of the scenarios you quote, but how do they even compare to the post I was responding to which was basically advocating a good kicking as the optimum solution to someone pissing off his girlfriend?" Read my reply above, you said "violence is never the answer" when the proof is there that it can often solve problems, maybe not the ops but violence can sometimes be the answer or only option. That's what I was picking at, one of the most retarded sayings of the modern man. | |||
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"I threatened to shag a guy when he wouldnt shut up about it (andy here) He leaves me alone now. Well alone. The quickest and easiest route in my opinion, and i will get flak for this, is the threat of violence. Seriously if your husband threatens him he will stop. Amy was gettin hassle off a single guy i threatened with violence he will stop Sometimes violence is the answer and the wee shit wont abuse you if he thinks your husband will hit him with a car for doing so. Im now ready to get flames COME AT ME Violence is never the answer. It has no place in a civilized society. Most civilized people accept that which is why your post is likely to shot down. I suspect you think we are all supposed to be in awe of the macho hardman that you are desperately trying to portray yourself as. It is beyond me why anyone would want to present themselves as a violent thugs, but you don't even manage that, you just sound like an immature little boy who really needs to grow up." Violence is quite often the answer its all around us. The police frequenty have to use violence to resolve matters. The more shady member of society use violence to get what they want and often do. Billions is spent a year on military Im sorry if the notion of violence offends you but its everywhere in nature and humanity. Violence solves alot of issues i have found that out myself through personal experiance for instance growin up in school i was heavily bullied. I was always fed the line violence solves nothing tell the teachers and nothing happened, to the point i was assaultes by 14 boys when i was only 11 years old One day i cracked and started smacking anyone who tried to bully me, and it stopped. Completely. Anyome that tried in high school i would fight with and wether i won the fight or lost the bullying would stop. Also the threat of violence has resoved issues with threatening behaviour, and with threatening males on here towards me or amy. Saying violence is never the answer is thinking in a utopian fairy happy world and is far removed from reality and your attempts to paint me out as an immature boy and/or thug is down to your fear of violence or ignorance to the fact violence plays a part in human culture. I have faced violence growing up and through my work its a part of life Deal with it and stop flinging insults my way | |||
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" Also the threat of violence has resoved issues with threatening behaviour, and with threatening males on here towards me or amy." I'm not sure what shocks me more, that you admit to threatening people on here, or that you think there is an online scenario where responding with threats of violence is the best way to go? | |||
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" Also the threat of violence has resoved issues with threatening behaviour, and with threatening males on here towards me or amy. I'm not sure what shocks me more, that you admit to threatening people on here, or that you think there is an online scenario where responding with threats of violence is the best way to go?" the notion that amy may have met someone, and the meet may have not gone as planned, and he may have hassled or tried to blackmail her into sex and me responding with potential violence shocks you? | |||
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"It's so refreshing to see that the majority of comments are shocked and horrified at the comments regarding violence. We realty all do have our moral compass pointed in the right direction *satisfied expression* " you wouldnt defend and protect those you loved from people who are acting like predators? ok then | |||
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"For the past 5 weeks I've read this post as 'Making me feel like a coat'....." Lol yes it does look like that it shud have been " C#&T " ! | |||
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"For the past 5 weeks I've read this post as 'Making me feel like a coat'..... Lol yes it does look like that it shud have been " C#&T " ! " Grrrre now that looks Like ChaT FFS ! | |||
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