FabSwingers.com forum: how do u say thanks but no thanks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you have met someone a couple of times but have found them incompatible to you for whatever reason I mean what if they are generally lovely but ur just not quite getting that sexual spark??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be dead straight and tell them...better to be honest and easy going..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be dead straight and tell them...better to be honest and easy going.."

This.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Yeah definitely be up front and honest. I met a guy a couple of times who was a lovely guy, nice to chat to but had the smallest cock I've seen and didn't even make up for it with his fingers and tongue!! I didn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him he was crap in bed so i told him that we just weren't sexually compatible so wouldn't be catching up again!! This led to a few weeks of pleading and promising to be better till in the end I snapped and told I'm it weren't gonna grow a couple of inches so still wouldn't satisfy!! ( I will point out that I'm no size diva but 4" and thin just weren't cutting it).

I felt mean but realised I should have been upfront in the first place!! He still tries for a meet every now and again but it ain't happening!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah definitely be up front and honest. I met a guy a couple of times who was a lovely guy, nice to chat to but had the smallest cock I've seen and didn't even make up for it with his fingers and tongue!! I didn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him he was crap in bed so i told him that we just weren't sexually compatible so wouldn't be catching up again!! This led to a few weeks of pleading and promising to be better till in the end I snapped and told I'm it weren't gonna grow a couple of inches so still wouldn't satisfy!! ( I will point out that I'm no size diva but 4" and thin just weren't cutting it).

I felt mean but realised I should have been upfront in the first place!! He still tries for a meet every now and again but it ain't happening!!!"
I feel a bit bad cos they feel it the hubby feels it but the whole thing with them does nothing for me at all... I gave it a good try twice lol but nothing what so ever for me

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just be honest because in swinging the ability to say NO is hugely important.... and if you struggle in message, how will you be face to face

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying no in this scene is a huge must

It doesnt have to be a harse no though.

Ive used, Ive decided im trying new things, I have other fantasies I wish to explore right now, Id like to get to know new people to broaden my horizons and the old fallback I feel we've explored as much as we can

Or just tell them, sorry you dont feel the connection is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But sadly there are guys on here who just don't seem to get it!

According to a ladyfriend, they've never met but one guy keeps asking! In the case of another guy, they did meet but she decided he wasn't for her so she hasn't repeated it, but he keeps asking and asking, simply becoming a pest!

They don't seem to realise that it smacks of desperation too!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Ah my best friend - the block button.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"But sadly there are guys on here who just don't seem to get it!

They don't seem to realise that it smacks of desperation too!

i take it she has actually told number 1 she doesnt want to meet him and number 2 that she doesnt want a repeat...

if she has then more fool them, if she hasnt maybe she should.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get them to read this thread.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But sadly there are guys on here who just don't seem to get it!

They don't seem to realise that it smacks of desperation too!

i take it she has actually told number 1 she doesnt want to meet him and number 2 that she doesnt want a repeat...

if she has then more fool them, if she hasnt maybe she should."

Yes she has in both cases, but there are some ladies on here who are decent human beings and will bend over backwards(no sexual pun intended) to avoid being what they see as nasty.

I've told her that she should simply block them, end of story! Some guys don't deserve civility, imho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get them to read this thread....."

like it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and reply to all of the messages, first time.

When they then email again I delete and block.

If they send email after email I block

When they send me a rejection, when I havent even sent them an email, I tell them I respect their desicion and will block them so I dont come across them again, then I block and delete.

most routes lead to block the others well they get into my underwear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well......usually they just ignore me haha

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By *ittle Minx 73Woman
over a year ago

South Suffolk

"But sadly there are guys on here who just don't seem to get it!

They don't seem to realise that it smacks of desperation too!

i take it she has actually told number 1 she doesnt want to meet him and number 2 that she doesnt want a repeat...

if she has then more fool them, if she hasnt maybe she should."

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Just say, 'thanks, but no thanks'?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Be dead straight and tell them...better to be honest and easy going..

This.

Seconded

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By *H91Man
over a year ago

"Just say, 'thanks, but no thanks'?

This. Its how I would want to be told. Better getting straight to the point, so you aren't wasting your and their time.

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By *rightloonMan
over a year ago

Stafford

"Saying no in this scene is a huge must

It doesnt have to be a harse no though.

Or just tell them, sorry you dont feel the connection is right

This is a woman who knows her stuff. A little bit of grace goes a long way. Its just a pity that it has to get more graphical for those who are "less secure" about themselves.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I do think some forget the true meaning behind NSA

No strings, no commitment. Politeness yes, but the main ethos at the core should always be that this is fun for all those involved and no shouldn't cause offence.

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