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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a couple on here with my boyfriend of 9 years and are new to swinging but I (f) get really turned on watching my boyfriend with other women weather it's a bj or full on sex but I'm finding it so hard to find a female willing any advice or anyone else finding same

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Try a club. Quest or Pandoras

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By *anadeaCouple
over a year ago

Highbridge


"I'm a couple on here with my boyfriend of 9 years and are new to swinging but I (f) get really turned on watching my boyfriend with other women weather it's a bj or full on sex but I'm finding it so hard to find a female willing any advice or anyone else finding same

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Shame you aren't closer..

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

I enjoy watching Paul too and would agree that getting along to a club would be a good idea.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

What are some of their objections

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Clubs are your best option

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

Def agree with clubs also maybe a couple where the husband/boyfriend is happy to watch his wife/gf with your boyfriend while u watch too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not been to a club before so might have to take the plunge and try them out

Most of the girls say they don't do girls even tho I explained I don't have to get involved I'll just watch and some just say they'd rather do my boyfriend alone completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to sit back with another partner (female) whilst our partners get it on together.

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By *ew Adventures 75Couple
over a year ago

croydon

Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same ….. "

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I was asked by a couple for the same scenario. As a single straight female why would I want to play with a gent and have his partner watch? It would be for her pleasure, but wouldn't do anything extra for me. The dynamic would be odd as I wouldn't want her to join in, I'm straight and if I'm pleasuring a fella, I don't need any help .

The idea of meeting at their house didn't put me at ease, regarding safety, I could be overpowered by two people if that was their kink. They suggested a social first, but I wasn't interested.

I can understand for the female partner it might turn her on, but then if the couple wanted sex after, would I just see myself out of the house?

There could be a possibility in a club as the open play areas might lend itself to this scenario better, but I can't see a lady going to a couples house, specifically to fulfill a fantasy for the female partner appealing to many.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have had sex on a stage in front of about a hundred people and absolutely loved it but somehow I would feel self concious having sex with someone's partner as they watched me. I would feel I was being critiqued.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like watching Mr too, but I absolutely hate being watched myself so I can completely understand why it's difficult to find.

Mrs

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I was asked by a couple for the same scenario. As a single straight female why would I want to play with a gent and have his partner watch? It would be for her pleasure, but wouldn't do anything extra for me. The dynamic would be odd as I wouldn't want her to join in, I'm straight and if I'm pleasuring a fella, I don't need any help .

The idea of meeting at their house didn't put me at ease, regarding safety, I could be overpowered by two people if that was their kink. They suggested a social first, but I wasn't interested.

I can understand for the female partner it might turn her on, but then if the couple wanted sex after, would I just see myself out of the house?

There could be a possibility in a club as the open play areas might lend itself to this scenario better, but I can't see a lady going to a couples house, specifically to fulfill a fantasy for the female partner appealing to many. "

Well women who are into playing the cuckcake role in a cuckquean scenario would enjoy playing with the gent while his partner watched very much, for all sorts of reasons. So it would be appealing to and fulfilling her fantasy, as well as the female partner’s fantasy (and presumably the males partner too).

But it is quite niche, and there are lots of reasons why a woman wouldn’t feel comfortable doing this on a first meet, and why it’s difficult to find here. But it certainly happens.

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield


"Def agree with clubs also maybe a couple where the husband/boyfriend is happy to watch his wife/gf with your boyfriend while u watch too! "

That would be us!

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I absolutely adore watching my hubby with another woman. Clubs are definitely easiest plus it’s a safe environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was asked by a couple for the same scenario. As a single straight female why would I want to play with a gent and have his partner watch? It would be for her pleasure, but wouldn't do anything extra for me. The dynamic would be odd as I wouldn't want her to join in, I'm straight and if I'm pleasuring a fella, I don't need any help .

The idea of meeting at their house didn't put me at ease, regarding safety, I could be overpowered by two people if that was their kink. They suggested a social first, but I wasn't interested.

I can understand for the female partner it might turn her on, but then if the couple wanted sex after, would I just see myself out of the house?

There could be a possibility in a club as the open play areas might lend itself to this scenario better, but I can't see a lady going to a couples house, specifically to fulfill a fantasy for the female partner appealing to many. "

It's not for you then?.

Thing is, you kind of describe a scenario that many Men are faced with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other. "

Genuine curious question meant with respect. Is that rule down to what the Mr wants or is it because the female of the couple doesn't want / allow it?

Asking cos we spoke to a similar couple on our last visit Mr didn't play only watches whilst the Mrs could fuck men and women. When the Mrs went to the toilet the Mr Confessed to us he was desperate to play but his wife wouldn't allow it due to her jealousy so he accepted it as it was the only way he could get to the clubs. Made us both feel pretty sorry for him. In no way are we saying that's yourselves just interested in why couples have a 1 person plays only dynamic.

KJ x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other.

Genuine curious question meant with respect. Is that rule down to what the Mr wants or is it because the female of the couple doesn't want / allow it?

Asking cos we spoke to a similar couple on our last visit Mr didn't play only watches whilst the Mrs could fuck men and women. When the Mrs went to the toilet the Mr Confessed to us he was desperate to play but his wife wouldn't allow it due to her jealousy so he accepted it as it was the only way he could get to the clubs. Made us both feel pretty sorry for him. In no way are we saying that's yourselves just interested in why couples have a 1 person plays only dynamic.

KJ x"

That's one couple. Unfortunetly there are some like that on the scene where only one plays because of jealousy and it never ends well. Usually attached to a relationship that's on the rocks in one way or another.

If we have a woman join us, we both play though wife is happy to watch. It's as much her thing as a 3 sum is. She favours the ladies anyway.

You just got to use common sense. If a party isn't happy, don't get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other.

Genuine curious question meant with respect. Is that rule down to what the Mr wants or is it because the female of the couple doesn't want / allow it?

Asking cos we spoke to a similar couple on our last visit Mr didn't play only watches whilst the Mrs could fuck men and women. When the Mrs went to the toilet the Mr Confessed to us he was desperate to play but his wife wouldn't allow it due to her jealousy so he accepted it as it was the only way he could get to the clubs. Made us both feel pretty sorry for him. In no way are we saying that's yourselves just interested in why couples have a 1 person plays only dynamic.

KJ x"

Completely My (Mr) choice.

In short, I've been in and out of this scene pretty much my entire adult life.

Kind of just fell into it.

Mrs is relatively new, and so not entirely sure of her comfort zone seeing/knowing her partner with another.

Mrs has set her boundaries she feels she will be comfortable with, quite high to be honest, but I'm hesitant.

Without going too much into it, she had little say in her previous relationship, he was very toxic, highly narcissistic and so I need to feel totally at ease to venture this way myself.

I'm not missing out, like I say I've been in and out of this scene for some time.

It's like I've done all my fantasies, to a point and now I'm getting the biggest enjoyment watching Mrs with each of her first times.

I'm free to join in, even free to meet alone when I'm away with work, or like now we're apart whilst visiting our families.

I don't want to do.

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Wow! If a man made some of the judgmental comments ladies are making on this thread he’d be lynched!

What a couple does and enjoys is entirely up to them: kinks are about fantasies, not making sure everything is fair and equal

HW x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Wow! If a man made some of the judgmental comments ladies are making on this thread he’d be lynched!

What a couple does and enjoys is entirely up to them: kinks are about fantasies, not making sure everything is fair and equal

HW x"

Happens every time the whole hothusband / cuckqean kink is brought up. No one bats an eyelid at the whole hotwife / cuckold dynamic (or any variation of). Someone posts about it and its a thread full.of fellas saying how hot it is. But gender swap it and there's always a few ladies with a list of reasons why not to get involved or why they wont do it because of some perceived issue or a past negative experiance.

Just how fab is. Not a judgement on anyone, just an observation of how things go on here.

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

When we first got into this I wasn’t sure how I’d feel seeing Mr with another woman, well after a night with friends I discovered I am totally the opposite! However I don’t think I’d want to completely sit out and watch. I think it’s very much each to their own in this life, I’m sure you’ll find someone that’s interested

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Someone recently told me that we have to remember that we're all here trying to put ourselves and our needs first and get our rocks off. (Be that as a single or couple)

So.... like someone else posted .... some women may not be comfy with fucking a fella in front of his mrs in a private setting.

BUT..... some may!

It takes time and perseverance to get boxes ticked but I'm sure you will!

I think you're more likely to tick them quicker at a club tho.

Enjoy x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

This is something I really enjoy too, and it's even better when I share a BJ with the other woman. As many have already said, we have found that clubs are the best and easiest place to fulfill this fantasy.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Someone recently told me that we have to remember that we're all here trying to put ourselves and our needs first and get our rocks off. (Be that as a single or couple)

So.... like someone else posted .... some women may not be comfy with fucking a fella in front of his mrs in a private setting.

BUT..... some may!

It takes time and perseverance to get boxes ticked but I'm sure you will!

I think you're more likely to tick them quicker at a club tho.

Enjoy x"

Yes…these threads do suffer from people thinking ‘I don’t like this means others don’t like this’…but kinks are often incomprehensible to people who don’t share them. Suppose if they weren’t, they wouldn’t be kinks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other.

Genuine curious question meant with respect. Is that rule down to what the Mr wants or is it because the female of the couple doesn't want / allow it?

Asking cos we spoke to a similar couple on our last visit Mr didn't play only watches whilst the Mrs could fuck men and women. When the Mrs went to the toilet the Mr Confessed to us he was desperate to play but his wife wouldn't allow it due to her jealousy so he accepted it as it was the only way he could get to the clubs. Made us both feel pretty sorry for him. In no way are we saying that's yourselves just interested in why couples have a 1 person plays only dynamic.

KJ x

Completely My (Mr) choice.

In short, I've been in and out of this scene pretty much my entire adult life.

Kind of just fell into it.

Mrs is relatively new, and so not entirely sure of her comfort zone seeing/knowing her partner with another.

Mrs has set her boundaries she feels she will be comfortable with, quite high to be honest, but I'm hesitant.

Without going too much into it, she had little say in her previous relationship, he was very toxic, highly narcissistic and so I need to feel totally at ease to venture this way myself.

I'm not missing out, like I say I've been in and out of this scene for some time.

It's like I've done all my fantasies, to a point and now I'm getting the biggest enjoyment watching Mrs with each of her first times.

I'm free to join in, even free to meet alone when I'm away with work, or like now we're apart whilst visiting our families.

I don't want to do. "

Thank you for sharing that insight is sounds like your partner finally has a decent fella in you who puts her needs and wellbeing first.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would going for a couple full swop be easier to find ? Can still watch each other !!

Well this is what I am thinking and I want the same …..

I can't speak for the OP, but not for us, Mr wants no involvement with any other.

Genuine curious question meant with respect. Is that rule down to what the Mr wants or is it because the female of the couple doesn't want / allow it?

Asking cos we spoke to a similar couple on our last visit Mr didn't play only watches whilst the Mrs could fuck men and women. When the Mrs went to the toilet the Mr Confessed to us he was desperate to play but his wife wouldn't allow it due to her jealousy so he accepted it as it was the only way he could get to the clubs. Made us both feel pretty sorry for him. In no way are we saying that's yourselves just interested in why couples have a 1 person plays only dynamic.

KJ x

Completely My (Mr) choice.

In short, I've been in and out of this scene pretty much my entire adult life.

Kind of just fell into it.

Mrs is relatively new, and so not entirely sure of her comfort zone seeing/knowing her partner with another.

Mrs has set her boundaries she feels she will be comfortable with, quite high to be honest, but I'm hesitant.

Without going too much into it, she had little say in her previous relationship, he was very toxic, highly narcissistic and so I need to feel totally at ease to venture this way myself.

I'm not missing out, like I say I've been in and out of this scene for some time.

It's like I've done all my fantasies, to a point and now I'm getting the biggest enjoyment watching Mrs with each of her first times.

I'm free to join in, even free to meet alone when I'm away with work, or like now we're apart whilst visiting our families.

I don't want to do.

Thank you for sharing that insight is sounds like your partner finally has a decent fella in you who puts her needs and wellbeing first.

KJ"

We work well together.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"I'm a couple on here with my boyfriend of 9 years and are new to swinging but I (f) get really turned on watching my boyfriend with other women weather it's a bj or full on sex but I'm finding it so hard to find a female willing any advice or anyone else finding same

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Welcome to swinging

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By *oldie100Woman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm a single F and I love it! Only been with a few couples, one in particular was amazing (repeated performances). I like boys and girls so wouldn't be an issue if you wanted to join in or not. Turns me on being watched too. I can't be the only one, hope you find the

right person.

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

This is a really interesting thread. And one that we can really relate to. Ella really wants to watch me play with another woman at a party but I really struggle with that sense that we're there together and don't want to lose connection with her. We talk about it a lot beforehand but when we get to that space I struggle with it a lot!

What I would say is that communication before, during and after is really important, regardless of what happens. I have an incredible amount of faith in Ella and our relationship and I have no doubt that when we explore new experiences they really strengthen our closeness

G

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

This is similar to us as Mrs realised she liked watching during a meet. We haven't been to a club but Met a cuck hotwife couple where the man also liked his partner being with a woman as well as a man.

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton


"I'm a couple on here with my boyfriend of 9 years and are new to swinging but I (f) get really turned on watching my boyfriend with other women weather it's a bj or full on sex but I'm finding it so hard to find a female willing any advice or anyone else finding same

"

Don't give up hope OP we match what you are looking for, sadly your description of your male half is outside our preferences so not a perfect fit for us, but certainly their are couples out there who will be, just as we hope there is another couple like yourselves for us. Good luck OP.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s definitely those of us out there that are into this kind of play. I love the idea of another woman entrusting me to play with her partner whilst she watches/joins in.

The two things that I find happen though that put me off are that the male wants an aspect of humiliation thrown in which is definitely not for me or that the male wants to meet alone and send pics/tell her about it afterwards. Well that’s just meeting a single guy for me, sorry not my thing.

Hope you find someone soon OP

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