FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice please

By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

I updated it but still no meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re married and she doesn’t know. Will put some off

You say you’re not bothered if you get meets!! So for me I’d be like then I can’t be bothered either

Try some line breaks and punctuation, the little that’s there is a hard read

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"You’re married and she doesn’t know. Will put some off

You say you’re not bothered if you get meets!! So for me I’d be like then I can’t be bothered either

Try some line breaks and punctuation, the little that’s there is a hard read "

Thanx

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By *uffolk25Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich

Your lower age range will put people off.

Honestly it's the fact you're married that puts a lot of people off.

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By *uffolk25Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Your lower age range will put people off.

Honestly it's the fact you're married that puts a lot of people off.

Thought I had set lower age thanx for pointing it out and yes I agree being married may not help but must be honest on here

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

All your profile tells me is that you're a married HGV driver - It doesn't give me anything to build a conversation on. What do you like? What can you offer? Why should I want to talk to you.

Also your photos are really uninspired - all mirror selfies standing in the same stiff position. Use the timer on your camera to take some more interesting pics. In the only pic that isn't a mirror selfie you look bloody miserable - Have you considered smiling?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Agree that being married will put people off but you say you are here for chatting and the forums and then going to socials. Search out the socials and enjoy your time there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your photos are dreadful.

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Your photos are dreadful. "

Not good at pics

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"All your profile tells me is that you're a married HGV driver - It doesn't give me anything to build a conversation on. What do you like? What can you offer? Why should I want to talk to you.

Thanx will have a go at sorting it

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"I updated it but still no meets?"

Profiles don't really get you meets as a single man. They just hopefully allow a conversation to start but even then odds are against. You are doing the right thing going to socials. That is a far better way to get to know people and when we've run socials amazingly relatively few single men seem to attend. Mostly all talk (or busy with wives on Saturday evenings

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Pics could be better, maybe try a tripod and Bluetooth clicker there only a couple of pound.

The married thing is a huge no for us.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused"

Had a few blokes message saying am I a cross dresser because I like it

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Your lower age range will put people off.

Honestly it's the fact you're married that puts a lot of people off.

Agree totally.

The ladies and couples have the pick of the crop, so anything else gets lost.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused"

Liking Rocky Horror clearly show hidden gay potential

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused

Liking Rocky Horror clearly show hidden gay potential

It’s a good laugh

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt."

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused

Had a few blokes message saying am I a cross dresser because I like it"

And do you really care what a random on the internet thinks about you watching a movie?

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Whats being straight but liking the rocky horror show got to do with it, im confused

Had a few blokes message saying am I a cross dresser because I like it

And do you really care what a random on the internet thinks about you watching a movie?"

That is true but it’s the stage show

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt."

Never asked for your horrible remarks

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt.

Never asked for your horrible remarks"

But let's be fair now.

It is the truth isn't it?

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt.

Never asked for your horrible remarks

But let's be fair now.

It is the truth isn't it?

May we’ll be but name calling happened at school grow up

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt.

Never asked for your horrible remarks"

Just being honest, something you clearly aren't.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt.

Never asked for your horrible remarks

But let's be fair now.

It is the truth isn't it?

May we’ll be but name calling happened at school grow up"

Didn't cheating happen at school as well??

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"You’re married and she doesn’t know. Will put some off

You say you’re not bothered if you get meets!! So for me I’d be like then I can’t be bothered either

Try some line breaks and punctuation, the little that’s there is a hard read "

Punctuation is important indeed.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Nobody is interested in getting involved in you dirt."

Was meant to say "your dirt".

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

There is nothing exciting about your profile that would stand out against the thousands of other profiles

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Its not your profile, the messages you send are not appealing in the slightest. (You've messaged us loads of times)

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Its not your profile, the messages you send are not appealing in the slightest. (You've messaged us loads of times)"

Ok I agree I’m not good at writing stuff easier talking

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

You need a different approach.

Messaging - Messaging is a very small part of the FAB and swinging culture. So is the meets section...

The FAB guidance states no reply - not interested - move on.

"Improve your presence improves your chances"

Offline - attend organised socials, events and clubs. Network. Be seen by others swingers

Online - be active in forums, chat discussions. Have a good profile with good images. Network. Be seen by other swingers.

If you network with active swingers and are accepted into their social groups. You can be invited to more intimate private gatherings.

Do the work. Reap the rewards..

Your welcome.

End of discussion.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

You need to realise people are here for their own pleasures. It's not about giving you a chance.

It doesn't matter what your profile states if there is no attraction or you can't at least strike up some sort of conversation.

Being married puts the majority of people off as they don't want embroiled in drama if your other half finds out.

Lastly there are just some people on here who will never get a meet. When all the odds are stacked against you then you have to decide if this is the right place for you. Or whether another site will suit your needs better

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says you are both 50 and 51.

Personally I wouldn't mention being Billy no mates

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Your profile says you are both 50 and 51.

Personally I wouldn't mention being Billy no mates"

Yea it says that because I set my birthday to different month but same year so can’t be used on scams

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

OP why have you asked for help to then not take any of it onboard and to then just defend your profile / attitude?

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"OP why have you asked for help to then not take any of it onboard and to then just defend your profile / attitude? "

I have taken stuff on board have altered my details only defended it to them that always just send abuse

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"OP why have you asked for help to then not take any of it onboard and to then just defend your profile / attitude?

I have taken stuff on board have altered my details only defended it to them that always just send abuse "

Can't see any abuse on this thread.

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"OP why have you asked for help to then not take any of it onboard and to then just defend your profile / attitude?

I have taken stuff on board have altered my details only defended it to them that always just send abuse

Can't see any abuse on this thread."

Not on this one no but others

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By *ickomxxxMan
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Take a look at your profile and ask yourself if it is likely to catch anybodys interest? We guys number in our thousands on here so we need to stand out ..TBH your pics really do nothing to tempt anybody. Suggest you maybe check out some profiles of guys who have been verified from meets .. look at the types of pics AND content of profile. Good luck!

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