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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To each his or her own.

If he didn't find her physically appealing then he didn't. Nothing either he or she can do about that.

Nobody should be expected to have sex with someone they don't find attractive. Maybe she can't help the scars but he's entitled to his feelings about them.

Nobody is going to find everyone attractive. That's not shallow, it's how people are.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I see scars and stretch marks etc as a sign of 'character' - definitely not a turn off.

Once met someone who asked me (in all seriousness) whether I minded her gall bladder operation plaster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like just an excuse if he's already met her a few times. Hope it doesn't make her feel bad. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

She shouldn't feel bad about it if she knows that's the reason but neither should he. I have a large scar of which I'm mighty proud and would never hide it but someone else might find it unattractive. I wouldn't expect them to scream "you're hideous" or even to mention it but if they didn't like it they wouldn't be able to help that eithet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally it doesn't bother me at all , nobodys body is perfect. We are what we are. Having some fun and a laugh is more important for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met some body who had had a hip replacement , at first she was really embarrassed by it , it was a big scar but i assured her it was fine and it was

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I had surgery in march and i now have a very large scar on my tummy which i hate, i always try and cover up during meets but would be really upset if someone said they didnt want to meet me again because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??"

It wouldnt put me off, if I like the person then I like the person!

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

hmmm noticed he had to meet her several times before deciding! ...

personally i have huge scars which have never seemed to put anyone off and they certainly dont bother me..surely its the person not the scars ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It is the person not the scars in general but most of us want no strings attached sex so we have to accept a certain level of shallow behaviour. I hope he didn't tell her and I think he was wrong to tell her friend but maybe he just said the first thing that came into his head on being asked an awkward question.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Sounds a cowards way out to me I could understand him meeting her once seeing the scars and then pegging it. But you said theyd met a few times. Did she hide em from him?

Lots of people have got scars and theyre just part of our life.

A scar wouldnt put me off unless it was weeping and smelling

Hes had his fun and moved on and so should she..... As Oliver said warts an all...... I am who I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??"

I know its not nice for the girl but you cant expect a guy to fuck someone who he does not fancy??

iv got scars I was stabbed when I was a kid, if that put someone off it wouldnt bother me

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??

I know its not nice for the girl but you cant expect a guy to fuck someone who he does not fancy??

iv got scars I was stabbed when I was a kid, if that put someone off it wouldnt bother me"
He met her several times so must have fancied her enough then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??

I know its not nice for the girl but you cant expect a guy to fuck someone who he does not fancy??

iv got scars I was stabbed when I was a kid, if that put someone off it wouldnt bother meHe met her several times so must have fancied her enough then "

Did he see the scars tho? if so he should of said from the start.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I know I'm as guilty of this as anyone else but we can't possibly know why this guy was put off by the lady's scars and it isn't even the lady herself who made the original post.

If the point is "was the guy wrong to use her scars as an excuse after meeting her several times" then possibly yes.

If the question is "should scars put people off" then the answer is it depends on your individual taste. In my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

scars and marks wont put me off, they can be a sign of a life well lived.to be honest we all have blemishes somewhere, so i hope that he gets refused one day just to see how it feels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a massive scar on my left shin from 3rd degree burns and the surgery that followed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a large scare across my tummy from surgery last June. I was a bit worried at first that it might out off my playmates but so far not

Yes it is an individual choice and some will be put off. It's a scare im now proud of cause I survived a very terrible year and it reminds me how lucky I've been.

Hope your friend doesn't let it bother her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sorts of things put different people off.

Scars or marks wouldn't put me off, but I dare say there are things that the guy in question would overlook that would make me think twice about meeting.

Being on sites like this has made me more concious of certain things that I previously wasn't - so on the flip side, I can see how his comments might offend or upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a few years ago i was with a male, and he mentioned he had some scars, my response was 'i've scars in places i never knew i had when i was a teenager, its the person in the skin Im interested in' that's my pov of course but I've just had surgery so now have a scar in my belly button & a little 1 very low down (well will have when they've finished healing)

Id like to think they don't put someone off, if it did though then id have to accept that. Everyone has a history & scars don't bother me, more important is that they've healed well & don't have emotional scars that will cause real issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has a history & scars don't bother me, more important is that they've healed well & don't have emotional scars that will cause real issues"

Lovely ;)

Wolf

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Thats what I said.... Did she hide em from him? Lights out sexy gear on and distraction techniques

Have confidence in who and what you are

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I met this woman the day after she'd had her tits,tum and lipo done..... The only thing that was off putting was the smell from her tummy but it was just an infection. We soon sorted that out with anti biotics

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"All sorts of things put different people off.

Scars or marks wouldn't put me off, but I dare say there are things that the guy in question would overlook that would make me think twice about meeting.

Being on sites like this has made me more concious of certain things that I previously wasn't - so on the flip side, I can see how his comments might offend or upset."

Balanced and reasonable as always, what I was trying to say but put so much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs D has got numerous scars and stretch marks as we have three kids... she just dresses to disguise them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gorgeous man played rugby for 20 odd years

if all people did not like scars marks and funny ears we would never get a meet

hope you all have a fab filthy weekend x

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By *arkchestCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I might as well say bye bye now if its down to scars!!!! Never stops us from getting meets.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I might as well say bye bye now if its down to scars!!!! Never stops us from getting meets. "

But it isn't about scars for everyone, only this guy and we only have someone eldest word for that. I don't know anyone without scars of some sort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

it wasnt a case of him not fancying her, theyd met several times and hed seek every inch of her....he told me it made him think she was scummy, as they were around her privates. he gave her no explanation just ignored her for months before then texting out of the blue one day asking if she fancied a shag! needless to say she told him to jog on!

I have lots of scars and stretch marks myself, not put anyone off to my knowledge and certainly wouldnt make me think twice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By scars I presume he mean stretch marks which personally wouldn't put me off (I'd be a hypocrite if it did!) but if they were recent self harm scars then that'd put me off a little!

My ex self harmed and it was something he wasn't bothered about me seeing but would often cut his thighs as nobody else saw them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??"

i think its his rights to meet who he wants, not meeting someone for scares is no more shallow than not meeting big people, people for their colour etc

I more see it as a preference not shallow, just because we are swingers that does not mean we should shag anyone and be tared as shallow if we do not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lots of scars on my chest & abdomen.

The main scar is from the sternotomy I had following life saving heart surgery 3 years ago. Unfortunately this scar formed a keloid scar which looks ugly & is quite big.

I also have keloid scarring on my abdomen from drains & other surgeries as well as my elbow from a car crash.

I'm very self conscious about my scars & was anxious about how people would react to them. I'm very lucky as my partner doesn't mind them & actually likes the fact I tick!

Scars wouldn't put me off someone as I know without my scars I wouldn't be here. I think more people will be put off by me being fat/large than the fact I've got enough scars to look like an AA route map!

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"By scars I presume he mean stretch marks which personally wouldn't put me off (I'd be a hypocrite if it did!) but if they were recent self harm scars then that'd put me off a little!

My ex self harmed and it was something he wasn't bothered about me seeing but would often cut his thighs as nobody else saw them."

I was going to mention self-harm, but you beat me to it.

That's what came to mind when I read the original post, and it's the only kind of scar that would worry me. It's not the scars that are off-putting but what they may represent - someone who has difficulty handling their emotions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

they weren't scars from self harming... and my point wasn't that he was shallow for not fancying her as he clearly fancied her enough to shag her several times before, it was that he'd called her scummy for having marks on her body (yet not scummy enough to give her one) and that he'd ignored her instead of saying he was no longer interested before calling her out of the blue weeks later asking if she fancied a shag!

I'm picky myself and wouldn't call someone shallow for not being attracted to someone else, it was more about the way he conducted himself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He sounds like a tosser. Plain and simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He didn't necessarily 'fancy her' to begin, men fuck, that's what they want and that's what they do, if its easily accessible and handed on a plate they will take it unless they can get a better fuck elsewhere, women on the other hand involve emotion and that's where it goes wrong! We're here for sex not love and marriage!

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

I really think it depended what the marks were, for instance my lover recently left me covered d in love bites. I wouldn't meet anyone else until they went and I wouldn't want to meet anyone else with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He didn't necessarily 'fancy her' to begin, men fuck, that's what they want and that's what they do, if its easily accessible and handed on a plate they will take it unless they can get a better fuck elsewhere, women on the other hand involve emotion and that's where it goes wrong! We're here for sex not love and marriage! "

I'm not here for love and marriage. I'm not here for brainless emotionless will-screw-anything fucks either.

Hence I rarely bother meeting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose people can be put off by them but that is not my mindset as I am meeting the person not the scars so to speak, if they have them, what does it matter? Makes for fun tracing them with my tongue

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I was really concerned about having a scar on my breast but it is practically invisible now.

I do worry about the dent it has left dont like it at all ,makes me feel mishapen. I hope it wont be off putting when the time comes .

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

has a 17 inch tummy tuck scar and just had uplift and implants in my boobs so more scars, don't give a f--k if people dont like em, they are a part of me now so like me like my scars or jog on ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was really concerned about having a scar on my breast but it is practically invisible now.

I do worry about the dent it has left dont like it at all ,makes me feel mishapen. I hope it wont be off putting when the time comes . "

I just know that won't be the case Cinnamon

We have spoken enough for me to know that you would pick wisely and that it would not phase anyone who you invited to have the pleasure of your company x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"has a 17 inch tummy tuck scar and just had uplift and implants in my boobs so more scars, don't give a f--k if people dont like em, they are a part of me now so like me like my scars or jog on ...lol "

Hope you're happy with your new body! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have like a tramline scar on my tummy, where I had to have surgery twice, I hate them and they are still a little pink, but tbh, the guys don't seen to notice. Having body image issues is bad enough, without having a guy say he doesn't want to meet again because you have scars, sounds like a get out clause to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have various facial scars which I am conscious about but they are their so if people don't like it...... Bye.

They are part of me and they are due to being to dam enthusiastic in my job and being the best I can at it.

I ain't ever going to apologise for them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have various facial scars which I am conscious about but they are their so if people don't like it...... Bye.

They are part of me and they are due to being to dam enthusiastic in my job and being the best I can at it.

I ain't ever going to apologise for them!!!"

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington


"has a 17 inch tummy tuck scar and just had uplift and implants in my boobs so more scars, don't give a f--k if people dont like em, they are a part of me now so like me like my scars or jog on ...lol

Hope you're happy with your new body! Xx "

ooooh i sure am hun hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just see it as every scar has a story behind it. It's another way to learn about a person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just see it as every scar has a story behind it. It's another way to learn about a person. "

It's a pity not everyone thinks the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just see it as every scar has a story behind it. It's another way to learn about a person.

It's a pity not everyone thinks the same way."

I know, I'm covered in the dam things, some not visible now and some still their for all to see, but life is life and we all have them through some event in life.

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By *ardybumsCouple
over a year ago

peekin under duvet is it safe?

adore stretch marks not too sure why but there more of a turn on than a turn off thats for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bio oil is good for scars. I used it twice a day for 3 months after a big op and now the scar is just a thin white line.

I also have a scar on my leg that I had a tattoo done next to it to try and disguise it. It draws people's eyes to it instead. I'm ok with it now though.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"He didn't necessarily 'fancy her' to begin, men fuck, that's what they want and that's what they do, if its easily accessible and handed on a plate they will take it unless they can get a better fuck elsewhere, women on the other hand involve emotion and that's where it goes wrong! We're here for sex not love and marriage! "

Quite. Most guys I know will fuck anything with a pulse. The 'any hole's a goal, brigade' especially if handed to them on a plate. Most men are quite prepared to use their 'gentleman sausage', regardless of whether they fancy someone, or not.

I, on the other hand am slightly more selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bio oil is good for scars. I used it twice a day for 3 months after a big op and now the scar is just a thin white line.

I also have a scar on my leg that I had a tattoo done next to it to try and disguise it. It draws people's eyes to it instead. I'm ok with it now though. "

I might have to try some of that, because I have two scars very close together, it looks like a very thick scar, so that might help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"was chatting to a guy who had met a friend of mine several times for fun, he'd given her the cold shoulder after their last meet with no explanation...when I questioned him about it, he said it was because she had marks and scars around her thighs, pussy and breasts, that put him off, I thought that quite shallow myself and that alone put me off ever meeting him myself...what are people's views on this? would someone with scars, marks or whatever put you off??"

Assuming that they are both on here, I'd be put off by the fact that you and your friend were discussing him and that you felt it appropriate to take him to task over it.

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By *hmeohmyMan
over a year ago

UK


"I was really concerned about having a scar on my breast but it is practically invisible now.

I do worry about the dent it has left dont like it at all ,makes me feel mishapen. I hope it wont be off putting when the time comes . "

I have seen this scar in meeting and it's nothing to worry about. Still as beautiful and sexy as ever xxx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Beaten to it

Sounds more like she wants a relationship than NSA sex. Why would he need an 'excuse' for not seeing her again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bio oil is good for scars. I used it twice a day for 3 months after a big op and now the scar is just a thin white line.

I also have a scar on my leg that I had a tattoo done next to it to try and disguise it. It draws people's eyes to it instead. I'm ok with it now though.

I might have to try some of that, because I have two scars very close together, it looks like a very thick scar, so that might help."

A mate of mine ( rest his soul ) had a big op and was left with a scar from just below his neck right down to his belly button. He decided to get a tattoo of a zip around it. It looked great

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

she wasnt after a relationship, just some respect! tues been regular fuck buddies for a few months...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He sounds like a tosser. Plain and simple. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. If scars put some people off that's fair enough, who are we to judge what people should or shouldn't accept.

Personally we have never had a problem with it but there you go, as I said, each to their own

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sounds to me it was an excuse otherwise he wouldnt have met her several times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have various facial scars which I am conscious about but they are their so if people don't like it...... Bye.

They are part of me and they are due to being to dam enthusiastic in my job and being the best I can at it.

I ain't ever going to apologise for them!!!"

i have scares on my face

i have one where i had the top of my nose stitched up and one where i bit thro the skin under my lower lip and had to have it stiched back together

to be honest, tho they are visible, being a woman and wearing make up helps hide them and hardly anyone even mentions them, if anyone does its people who see me without nake up on as they are more visible and then its only to ask how they happened

Never really bothered me to be honest, im very self conscious about the stretch marks on my belly what only select people see but the ones on my face that anyone can look at i dont even think about 99% of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have quite a large scar on my stomach that I'm very conscious of, I do usually tell people on a social meet about it, or mention in when messaging before a meet. Never been turned down because of it, but do feel forewarned is forearmed.

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By *myboobsWoman
over a year ago

cleveland

isnt it whats on the inside that counts????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"isnt it whats on the inside that counts???? "

for just sex? nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have scar's and blemishes , in the last 8 yrs i have a syndrome that i didn't know even existed until i got it. anad it leaves me with scares that is out of my control. I wish everyday that i don't have have this. but because i know the area's that it hits.

I wear hold ups on my legs and crouthless knickers to try and disguise what i have wrong with me xx (Perky)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a scar from hip to hip and scars on my breast from re-constructive surgery.

I used to be self conscious of my scars initially, I guess I've been lucky in that it hasn't really bothered anyone but me so I've learned to forget about them being there and just enjoying getting naked with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds shallow to me... real beauty is within x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"sounds shallow to me... real beauty is within x"

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a good thread

I (N) have a massive scar from a serious operation and there's no way I would be able to hide it and I've never thought to mention it to anyone on here either. If a scar puts someone off meeting that's fair enough, I wouldn't meet anyone who I don't find a attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our scars remind us that the past is real".

Little Papa Roach quote for you.

I love them, they make a person unique, Plus there is normally a story behind them, I would never hide or want anyone to hide their scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have scars as previously mentioned in the thread from work related injuries but also scarring from self harming as a teen, I've always been open if anyone asks about them. There is more to people that just the visible, you need to see past that and find who the person is on the inside.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"sounds shallow to me... real beauty is within x"

very true but it's often pointed out on other threads that everyone has a right to preferences and to express those preferences. I endorse that point of view but if this guy was meeting the lady for a discussion on nuclear physics and refused to do so because she had scars I'd find that really offensive. I think it's all about context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds shallow to me... real beauty is within x"

Quite right

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By *ndy pandy and looby looCouple
over a year ago

YORK/LEEDS/HARROGATE/EAST COAST/NORTH WALES

This sound odd, he had happily played before...he was just looking for a get out excuse...he could hardly say to you...Ive found someone better! Might have been better if she had not found out it was body scars...Im littered with then....critical one along bikini line after removal ovarian cyst, breast reduction scars from 38HH to 38C/D, knee from motorcycle accident, tummy is like a join the dots book thanks to hormone implants every six months, various child hood scrapes/chicken pox.....I smile a lot, cum like a tsunami, and never give my body image a though during carefree fun sex/pleasure. Be nice if we were perfectly air brushed in real life....but the males and females we play with take me as I cum,so to speak....or not at all.Maybe our catchment area of Yorkshire is a bit blunt but tends to be down to earth folk who just carry on regardless. Watch the film 'Shirley Valentine" when she is with her Greek lover on the boat.....he says to be proud of your body any marks are proof you have lived and survived! Bad breath and poor hygiene - now that a whole new topic...that can ce addressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sound odd, he had happily played before...he was just looking for a get out excuse...he could hardly say to you...Ive found someone better! Might have been better if she had not found out it was body scars...Im littered with then....critical one along bikini line after removal ovarian cyst, breast reduction scars from 38HH to 38C/D, knee from motorcycle accident, tummy is like a join the dots book thanks to hormone implants every six months, various child hood scrapes/chicken pox.....I smile a lot, cum like a tsunami, and never give my body image a though during carefree fun sex/pleasure. Be nice if we were perfectly air brushed in real life....but the males and females we play with take me as I cum,so to speak....or not at all.Maybe our catchment area of Yorkshire is a bit blunt but tends to be down to earth folk who just carry on regardless. Watch the film 'Shirley Valentine" when she is with her Greek lover on the boat.....he says to be proud of your body any marks are proof you have lived and survived! Bad breath and poor hygiene - now that a whole new topic...that can ce addressed!"

Shirley Valentine is one of my favorite films of all time

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

Every scar is a story to be told from life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars are fine we all have them some more than others i have a few comes with job but what about tattoos lol one persona turn on another persons turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind scars as I got some myself it's called life and you get them

Xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Wouldn't phase me at all, natural stretch marks or scars.

I met a lovely lady off here once who had one boob smaller than the other due to breast cancer, she was quite shy about it but I can honestly say it didn't phase me and we shared a lovely night and morning together.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Every scar is a story to be told from life"

Agree. I like scars. I don't have any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lumps bumps scars and stretch marks make us who we are, sod everyone, id never meet anyone if it was down to the factor of whether i have marks and scars lol xxx rejoy and celebrate the skin ya in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of surgery scars and a few on my face (though those are now hidden by my eyebrows) and have never had a problem.

"Our scars remind us that the past is real"

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By *IANnG1Couple
over a year ago

local

and woz he gods gift himself??? some on here do expect to find posh n becks. dont judge a book by its cover coz on the inside they cud be "50 shades of grey"

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By *entkevMan
over a year ago

Dover

I have vitiligo (loss of skin colour), in patches all over my body. All my life i have hid away, ashamed of this look. More recently i decided enough was enough, ive since started visiting a nudist beach & naturist club. I know it has put some people off, i know some have made comments (one wife to her husband said "why would you be naked looking like that") she didnt realise i heard. But almost ALL have been positive and polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a scar from hip to hip and scars on my breast from re-constructive surgery.

I used to be self conscious of my scars initially, I guess I've been lucky in that it hasn't really bothered anyone but me so I've learned to forget about them being there and just enjoying getting naked with others. "

me too, now i look on them as battle honours, and nobody has ever mentioned them except in a posative and supportive manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am suprised he told you that I wouldnt discuss it I am always wary when people ask me about people I have met.

They can't be that bad if he went back for afters though

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I have a large operation scar on my abdomen which is not easy to see now its faded, and stretch marks from pregnancy. It's never bothered me and none of my meets have ever worried about it.

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