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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it  | |||
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"Hi least I am honest and want to learn I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it " | |||
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"Suck a clit" if that's all you think it is "suck a clit" think you should follow this thread to you may learn something yourself  | |||
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"Ask ten guys what makes the perfect blow job and you’ll probably get ten different answers. The same for us females. One technique doesn’t suit everyone. I’d rather someone asked me what I enjoy. Good sex gets so much better when you know what your bedmate likes. Viv" 100% this no 2 women will be the same so theres no one way of doing it ... you need to be in tune with the woman your with and see how she reacts ... oh and ive had so so called super studs who claim they are so good at licking almost send me to sleep its about the conect get that right and you'll be a goodin ... ignore these lick for hours type you dont want to be like them they bore for hours | |||
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".. ignore these lick for hours type you dont want to be like them they bore for hours" Absolutely this. I pass by any profile that states “I love to lick a pussy for hours” It’s the last thing I want. If we’re staying in bed for hours you’d better have a few more tricks up your sleeve than that! Viv | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " Get down the butchers and buy 2 slithers ( good word ) of tripe, place them together and lick like your life depends on it  | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " | |||
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"Suck a clit" Ouch. | |||
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"Do you have old hessian door mat at home you could practice licking ? it will help condition your tongue muscles and build up endurance for hours (and hours) of real rug action. Good luck "Yeah thanks for that tip | |||
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"Sounds like a cunning plan. Have you had any offers of help yet?" No help yet.. I have write a letter to every agony aunt out there too! | |||
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"Suck a clit" Some women don’t like this being done | |||
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"Suck a clit Some women don’t like this being done" I have had guys think it's good to bite my clit  Had to stop them as incredibly painful! But horses for courses and who knows if they've been told a lady liked it | |||
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"If you get a practical lesson from this im starting a new thread: "Crap in bed, practical lessons needed" " | |||
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"Apparently it's best to tongue out the alphabet , Didn't work for me though My ex ran off with a Chinese fella "How can a guy compete with the Chinese alphabet? | |||
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"If you get a practical lesson from this im starting a new thread: "Crap in bed, practical lessons needed" "It's the audacity to say "practical and theory lessons needed", people watch too much porn | |||
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"Suck a clit if that's all you think it is "suck a clit" think you should follow this thread to you may learn something yourself "Thats a beginning... wanna find out?  | |||
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"Do you actually like doing it? The best oral I’ve had was from someone who just loves giving oral! It’s a whole other level from someone who just has technique but doesn’t really FEEL it! If you enjoy doing it, then asking or listening/watching for signs is best. If you don’t, then (for me) it doesn’t feel right so just enjoy different things. I don’t know how she said it, but it doesn’t sound very nice to tell someone they’re ‘bad’ "Yeah I love to do it. I asked her well what does she like and she said the moments gone now you can stop  | |||
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"Impossible to give positive advice because each female respond differently.what sends them wild , dripping turned on even so I'd take the opportunity to buy a ice lolly and have a licking session remember to explore the lolly as you lick "I bought a box to practice and they all bloody melted before I got them home.. | |||
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"Do you actually like doing it? The best oral I’ve had was from someone who just loves giving oral! It’s a whole other level from someone who just has technique but doesn’t really FEEL it! " Great advice, feeling the response is just so intimate and sensual.  | |||
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" I have had guys think it's good to bite my clit Had to stop them as incredibly painful! But horses for courses and who knows if they've been told a lady liked it " That made me squeeze my legs together!
Same as when they fingerblast or rub your clit like they’re sandpapering something.
No different I know to some women using their teeth when giving a blow job or tugging too hard.
Communication is key!
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"Impossible to give positive advice because each female respond differently.what sends them wild , dripping turned on even so I'd take the opportunity to buy a ice lolly and have a licking session remember to explore the lolly as you lick
I bought a box to practice and they all bloody melted before I got them home.. "Also each lolly will be a different experience.before you got home you say I would've ran back to the shop and started before you got home then followed what you learned at home | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it
"Admitting to something you are not good at or asking for advice is not a bad thing. I would say your advice is not good either. If you don't know what to do or someone has said it isn't good when you do it will never give you confidence. Just wanting to do something doesn't make a person good at it either | |||
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"I've only recently started to become sexually attracted to women. Always thought I was gay. I haven't been with one yet. This is completely new to me. Would love to lick pussy. Though it does seem a bit complicated lol." | |||
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"Do you actually like doing it? The best oral I’ve had was from someone who just loves giving oral! It’s a whole other level from someone who just has technique but doesn’t really FEEL it! If you enjoy doing it, then asking or listening/watching for signs is best. If you don’t, then (for me) it doesn’t feel right so just enjoy different things. I don’t know how she said it, but it doesn’t sound very nice to tell someone they’re ‘bad’
Yeah I love to do it. I asked her well what does she like and she said the moments gone now you can stop "Without the context, it’s hard to comment. It seems great that she was honest to say the moment’s gone, rather than just go through the motions. You haven’t really explained if it was a kind and thoughtful encounter, or blunt and hurtful. Maybe your enthusiasm was too much for her, physically or emotionally…I was kinda taken aback that someone loved oral so much the first time | |||
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"Suck a clit if that's all you think it is "suck a clit" think you should follow this thread to you may learn something yourself
Thats a beginning... wanna find out? "no thanks | |||
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"Suck a clit Some women don’t like this being done I have had guys think it's good to bite my clit Had to stop them as incredibly painful! But horses for courses and who knows if they've been told a lady liked it "I’ve had a woman bite my clit. Each to their own… | |||
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"Suck a clit if that's all you think it is "suck a clit" think you should follow this thread to you may learn something yourself
Thats a beginning... wanna find out? no thanks "This personally made my clit retract, also cross my legs at the thought.... Saying that though I was once with a MF couple and the guy whispered to me to bite down on the ladies clit, made my toes curl at the thought of it, still does | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it
Admitting to something you are not good at or asking for advice is not a bad thing. I would say your advice is not good either. If you don't know what to do or someone has said it isn't good when you do it will never give you confidence. Just wanting to do something doesn't make a person good at it either"Nah, I've never met a woman yet who would let you near them down there if you don't show that you're confident in your ability, or at least give off the impression you know what to do. It's all in the mind, if you put someone on edge they wouldn't enjoy anything you did. If you have to pretend you know then do it, but don't announce "oh by the way darling, I'm crap at this so tell me what you like and I'll try my best", that's awful advice.  | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it
Admitting to something you are not good at or asking for advice is not a bad thing. I would say your advice is not good either. If you don't know what to do or someone has said it isn't good when you do it will never give you confidence. Just wanting to do something doesn't make a person good at it either
Nah, I've never met a woman yet who would let you near them down there if you don't show that you're confident in your ability, or at least give off the impression you know what to do. It's all in the mind, if you put someone on edge they wouldn't enjoy anything you did. If you have to pretend you know then do it, but don't announce "oh by the way darling, I'm crap at this so tell me what you like and I'll try my best", that's awful advice. "I didn't give that advice. Being confident still wouldn't make you good at anything. Bordering on being over confident / cocky would put some women off altogether. Having said that, he didn't say he had no confidence in what he was doing, he said the woman didn't like it so told him he was no good. This is something I would never have done on a meet, I would have just moved myself in a better position so his tongue was working for me better or gave up and moved the atttention onto him instead | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx Mate I can't stress how much this is really bad to admit this From my point of view this is one of those things if you care enough to want to 'impress' a lady you will just do so quietly until you're confident enough you're 'up to standard' or however you're phrasing it
Admitting to something you are not good at or asking for advice is not a bad thing. I would say your advice is not good either. If you don't know what to do or someone has said it isn't good when you do it will never give you confidence. Just wanting to do something doesn't make a person good at it either
Nah, I've never met a woman yet who would let you near them down there if you don't show that you're confident in your ability, or at least give off the impression you know what to do. It's all in the mind, if you put someone on edge they wouldn't enjoy anything you did. If you have to pretend you know then do it, but don't announce "oh by the way darling, I'm crap at this so tell me what you like and I'll try my best", that's awful advice.
I didn't give that advice.
Being confident still wouldn't make you good at anything. Bordering on being over confident / cocky would put some women off altogether. Having said that, he didn't say he had no confidence in what he was doing, he said the woman didn't like it so told him he was no good.
This is something I would never have done on a meet, I would have just moved myself in a better position so his tongue was working for me better or gave up and moved the atttention onto him instead
"I'm not saying you did, I'm referring to my original statement which I said, in as many words; don't ever admit that to someone who is a prospective partner. Yeah, I never said go out with the bull in a chinashop mentality, cocky won't help you either no. I said to not give the impression you lack belief by admission, as you will undoubtedly put them on edge and that is only going to be a negative outcome. Some women(and men) find a bit of arrogance a turn on, it's completely situational. I'd say you can train your nerves in any situation. I would safely presume he lacks confidence, by the language used;"looking for help" and the fact it's written in this section... Every woman has their ways I'm sure, a more understanding partner, as you seem would always benefit someone who lacks experience. My original point is that from my finite experience, the worst thing to do is show you're lacking in ability or conviction. Id add; Always be 'enthusiastic' if a woman let's you get your head between her legs, I know I do as any man should | |||
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" I would safely presume he lacks confidence, by the language used;"looking for help" and the fact it's written in this section... " I would safely assume any confidence he may have had before got crushed when told he was not good. Then we come full circle...asking for advice or help is not a sign of weakness or lack of confidence | |||
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" I would safely presume he lacks confidence, by the language used;"looking for help" and the fact it's written in this section... I would safely assume any confidence he may have had before got crushed when told he was not good. Then we come full circle...asking for advice or help is not a sign of weakness or lack of confidence "Thank you it was crushed a little. Got to strive to improve and the rewards will come flooding in x x | |||
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"Mate, come on? Practical and theory lessons? A little simple roleplay: F - please lick my pussy M - sure which way do you like it? Then you listen and feel for her reaction. Snoring is bad. So go explore! She will soon respond for good or bad. Adapt. Try “Hey I want to do it just the way you like it” Listen to what she’s says and - golden rule - fucking do what she says! It’s not rocket science. And if all else fails, see if you can find an online resource so you wont need a practical. Porn is your backstop. Imagine you could find a hub with porn on it! You could then watch at your own leisure on your 55” screen. Hint - there are clips on line of women SHOWING you how to lick pussy. Lastly, if you are genuinely trying your best, and she says you are shit at licking pussy but won’t tell you why or what to, don’t lick her pussy. If a woman gave you a BJ and you told her she was shit at it, would you expect her to carry on? I was lucky enough to have a practical with two very good girlfriends who were married and it was part of our play. It wasn’t charity. And it wasn’t fucking easy. Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " This | |||
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"It was just this one woman the previous ones seemed to be ok. " So because one person didn't like what you did You didnt pick up her signals and change what you did You are not thinking you are rubbish Ok.. How about chatting to the others who didn't complain.. Live is always about learning but you have to communicate with the individual you are with at the moment not a generic group And if one person gets to you this much.. Grow a thicker skin because theres always gonna be comments | |||
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"Apparently it's best to tongue out the alphabet , Didn't work for me though My ex ran off with a Chinese fella
How can a guy compete with the Chinese alphabet? "I hear Koreans are better especially that athlete Kim Yoo Suk. ( Google him) | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " If you think books will help then go to zlib or other auch site and download a free one. Search for “ cunnilingus”. “ A friend told me” | |||
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"It was just this one woman the previous ones seemed to be ok. So because one person didn't like what you did You didnt pick up her signals and change what you did You are not thinking you are rubbish Ok.. How about chatting to the others who didn't complain.. Live is always about learning but you have to communicate with the individual you are with at the moment not a generic group And if one person gets to you this much.. Grow a thicker skin because theres always gonna be comments " Just like that.. | |||
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"Have a read of ' She Comes First ' By Ian Kerner This will give you much information for you to experiment with. " I just ordered the book. Thank you | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " It’s not really something you can ‘teach’ someone, as women can be so different in what they like/what flicks their switches? You just have to be sensitive to their reactions, take notice of her body movements, her sighs and moans etc, to see what works for her, then just go with that. Works for me  | |||
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"Hi I have been told recently that I was the worst at this. Not had that much experience so looking for help for this? Both practical and theory lessons are good for me xx " Maybe it’s not you the lady might just like it a different way. Next time just relax and and ask what she likes or try different techniques when she grabs your hair or moans you’ve got the right spot. Practice makes perfect | |||
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