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By *atherine Dawn OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Dublin

How do you know if someone is serious or a timewaster? From experience on here it’s people who ask one question after another without offer any info about themselves. I get the gist and always disengage.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

You seem to already know the secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know if someone is serious or a timewaster? From experience on here it’s people who ask one question after another without offer any info about themselves. I get the gist and always disengage. "

It's the people who ask questions that can be answered by just reading our bio. They get ignored.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They often want to get into graphic chat v quickly ,so don't engage in it .once they've had a wank ,they won't need to meet.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

You send a paragraph in a message and they reply with a sentence or just a few words.

They don’t actually ever commit to a meet, it’s always in the future when they have time.

They contact you after a month or two with a basic ‘Hi’ or ‘Remember me we chatted a month ago ?’. The want another conversation of paragraph from me, sentence from them.

But the biggest is check out their profile, no effort means there’ll never be any effort, from conversation to meets.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I did this post last week and got some interesting info...but basically it's 99% of my messages I get from single male.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I find the ones that beg to meet you, are almost always a no show

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I generally tend to trust my gut, based on many years in the lifestyle.

When dealing with couples, if i’m only able/ allowed to chat with one half of the couple, with no input from the partner, that is *usually* a red flag. I understand that not every couple manages their profiles on here the same, so it isn’t a blanket approach.

When dealing with single women, it is much easier to spot men pretending to be women, and pic collectors, just from the flow of conversation.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Find a way to get a second verification from them ask for a pictures holding up an object or a sign with something your specific about or organize a social if they are serious they will not have a problem with either of these

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just last week I had two nightmares encounter. I gave 2 different individuals my address and I can tell from their profiles that they are 3-5 miles away. They both came to my address (separately on different days) and says they are here. I can also tell from their distance that they are near me. Guess what, I waited for them to buzz me and one blocked me and the other disappeared and message me the next day says his battery died....like wtf...it worried and scared the shit out of me

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

A decline when offered cake

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Very hard to tell sometimes. Find introductions from contacts and friends already know better. Mind you had some very good meets when I was doubting real. One recent one very good fun. Guess a lottery

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just have 1 speed which is slow. They don't have the patience

I invest no more than they do. I don't send any more pics and make it clear I've no others anywhere. If they get demanding, I know they are not matched. Block if it's wrong.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Find a way to get a second verification from them ask for a pictures holding up an object or a sign with something your specific about or organize a social if they are serious they will not have a problem with either of these"

Can't they just use telegram and do video call?

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted


"How do you know if someone is serious or a timewaster? From experience on here it’s people who ask one question after another without offer any info about themselves. I get the gist and always disengage. "

As per a few others threads here biggest factor is veris especially if been here a while. If no veris or very few then we are naturally wary. It's not a deal breaker but we are on guard and won't spend much time chatting if doesn't feel right.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Look for those with actual meet verifications and click on the veri to see if it's come from a genuine profile. Many on here aren't swingers and are just here for a bit of titillation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a paragraph in a message and they reply with a sentence or just a few words. "

I get this a lot when I send messages, its not that I think they are timewasters .. but when I get the few words reply I know that I'm wasting my time.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"They often want to get into graphic chat v quickly ,so don't engage in it .once they've had a wank ,they won't need to meet."

Totally this. You can literally spot the moment they cum. Lucky to get another message after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find that short and sharp responses aren't going to go anywhere. I want people to take an interest in me as I would them. Responses that ask questions are usually a good sign, even though this may mean to you not have any common ground to move it forward. Whilst disappointing, at least you won't be wasting each others time.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Not a lot on their profiles no actual meet verifications , we do get it some have to be careful as arranging meets as we do , but you can normally tell after a few messages , we arrange most our meets at the club , so if we get a no show we have others around who may be interested , if we looking for fun alone we will consider out of club play , as not to disappointed if only yourself stood up , wife will play with her fB alone or if convenient guys she has had previous fun with , at least we know they not fakes , I prefer meeting couples alone as mfm fun is our main turn on

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

People have different levels of commitment and interest and mentality... each have a different perspective depending if they are single or couple ....

you will get hundred different answers.. meet in clubs or speak on the phone the best answer ...

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Look for those with actual meet verifications and click on the veri to see if it's come from a genuine profile. Many on here aren't swingers and are just here for a bit of titillation. "

this spot on ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know if someone is serious or a timewaster? From experience on here it’s people who ask one question after another without offer any info about themselves. I get the gist and always disengage. "

Thats the question everyone wants to know.

Everyone is different in their ways of going about their meets, if you ask for phone number pictures times location as soon as interest is made i personally find thats the best way of getting time wasters to expose them selfs.. on other hand sometimes it scars people of sometimes.. just trust your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know if someone is serious or a timewaster? From experience on here it’s people who ask one question after another without offer any info about themselves. I get the gist and always disengage. "

Yes exactly that. Just wanking to the responses I think.

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