FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meet etiquette

By *ice_couple2012 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

How do all you couples & single guys arrange your hotel meets?

Who makes the booking? Who arrives & leaves first? Drinks in the bar first? Any other tips

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Don't over plan it, recipe for disaster.

If we book a hotel we do so for our use, should we meet someone and all go back great, if not we've had a nice evening.

We usually say we've booked a hotel at the start of the evening, don't make a big issue about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't over plan it, recipe for disaster.

If we book a hotel we do so for our use, should we meet someone and all go back great, if not we've had a nice evening.

We usually say we've booked a hotel at the start of the evening, don't make a big issue about it."

Very good advice

expectations and reality are often different

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By *ice_couple2012 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

And if booking a hotel for an arranged meet?

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"And if booking a hotel for an arranged meet?"

whoever books the room is best placed to check in & get the key, you can then text room number or arrange to meet in the bar or foyer. don't book to far in advance or too expensive an hotel as things often don't go to plan

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We have had some lovely hotel hook ups ... met in the bar for drinks and slipped into the bedroom later on ... living in Blackpool lots of hotels .. & swingers. Lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I meet with single ladies mostly, and share the cost between us. Depending who I’m with, I take turns to make the booking, or one of us books and the other one pays half in cash.

I’ve never met a couple in a hotel, but I have done fmf, and we split the bill 3 ways

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I meet with single ladies mostly, and share the cost between us. Depending who I’m with, I take turns to make the booking, or one of us books and the other one pays half in cash.

I’ve never met a couple in a hotel, but I have done fmf, and we split the bill 3 ways

Just to add; I’ll meet a lady friend in the carpark, so we sign in together. For the threesomes the person who makes the booking checks in, gets two keys, then will put second key on tyre of car in carpark. There’s always a way lol

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

The ones who book the hotel should check in and get settled (unpack all the toys!) then meet the other party in the bar (or local pub) and go back to the room. Depending upon the hotel and number of people you might need to go in separately.

Lou x

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By *sforfabfunCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

When we’ve done this, she normally checks in and meets myself and other party in the hotel bar. Although we are a couple we usually go in separate cars - not sure why but it adds to the occasion for us. She then disappears up to the room and sends us a pic when she’s ready for us along with the room number. I always feel so paranoid that the hotel staff know what we’re up to but in reality, if they even did they would not give a hoot. I guess these sort of bookings help bring the revenue in

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We normally have already booked the room and tend to arrive early, shower etc then meet at the bar, we've not booked one specifically for a meet just meets have happened while we had a rare night off.

Mrs

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"How do all you couples & single guys arrange your hotel meets?

Who makes the booking? Who arrives & leaves first? Drinks in the bar first? Any other tips

Either can book though it depends on who's seeking who. If I make the first I might book the hotel unless she/they accommodate. I usually ask before had if she/they would like me to bring anything too, gets it all out of the way. Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's cheaper to meet in a club in our experience plus if one party doesn't show then the evening and ££ isnt wasted.

If we do go the hotel route we would not book in advance we would just ensure rooms are available that day / evening. We would then meet in the bar for a few drinks / social.

Only if all parties decide to move the meet to play would we then open the hotel app on our phone and book the room as its literally a 2 minute process. By the time you walk to reception they have your booking confirm and key card ready.

It's insane how many people book the room in advance before the meet and then due to no shows, time wasters and Incels on a wind up end up throwing both time and money down the drain. The above process protects against that happening.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

I see lots talking about the social meet for a drink etc first. We've done that but also just gone to a room. Single guy staying nearby we've just gone straight to the room and down to action. Also booked room ourself and somebody come straight to it. It helps to find a hotel that doesn't have key cards required for lifts etc. and also one with decent sized lobby with staff not checking everybody who comes and goes. Near us there are one or two hotels that work very well for swinging for these reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been lucky enough to have been invited to a hotel meeting…. Most of my meetings have either been at clubs.

I think club meets seem to suit people better due to the risk of people bottling out and the cost of booking rooms at short notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The times that I've used a hotel, I book the room and text/call when to meet. I get there first obviously, at least and hour beforehand and make myself a tea/coffee and find this time is useful to relax and gather my thoughts. I expect its also a bit nerve wracking for them, so when they arrive we chat, tea/coffee (or whatever) to give them time.

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We only meet in hotels or clubs. Only twice we met at someone's place.

Hotel - go check-in and get ready

Then we meet people in the hotel bar or pub nearby.

From that point, you decide if you want to take it further or not.

Money? We had people that split the cost but in most meetings, the cost was on us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Book a room. Tell her where it is. Hope she turns up.

That’s it in a nutshell.

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By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

Depends on where you are with the lady or couple.

If say you have already had a social and you know things are going to progress then if I have booked the room I arrive early to make sure the room is good and put out things like bottles or water and condoms so they are within east reach ….nothing worse than running around a room with a hard cock searching for condoms!!.

If it’s a first meet and you don’t know how things are going to progress I try to arrange meeting in a hotel bar and check before they have room available so if things go well we can take things further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we would book and pay, as we would be staying there afterwards.

Then it's either meet outside or the bar for a drink and chat, then make our way to the room.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I always let the receptionist know that the room is for a Fab Swingers meet and hope to get an upgrade / complementary bottle of bubbly…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I book the hotel somewhere local and then we meet our guest in the bar.

We will have had a short social fairly recently sometime beforehand and a drink in the bar ensures everyone is still on the same page.

If all is good then off to the room.

Once the fun is over we never stay the night.

We just tell the desk that we have a babysitter problem so won’t be staying after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only met in a hotel once, we were visiting the area and so already had a hotel room booked.

They visited and left us with the room when we were all finished.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip. Book in as Mr and Mrs Smith.

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