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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester

I’m looking to update profile and pics (it’s been a while).

I would welcome any feedback on the current profile and pics…

Be constructive please.

Thanks

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Think your bio needs updating. Sounds like a trip advisor review. Recents meets? Your last one was years ago. Shows not much effort really

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Your verifications make no sense. Your verifcation summary say's you have been verified by one man and one woman, the latest of which was 3 years ago and neith is published.

But your profile appears to show three 'recent' verifications from women, that are not backed up by the site verification summary and you have decided to type them in yourself.

If they are genuine then surely they would appear in the verification summary and you would have the option to publish them, therefore making them more reliable evidence that you are who you say you are?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

The self typed verifications would put me off.

I'd think they are either made up or copied from someone else's profile.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Keep it exactly as it is. It tells people all they need to know about you. So it's perfect.

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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester

Thanks for the feedback.

It does need updating as I said.

Appreciate your views.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Thanks for the feedback.

It does need updating as I said.

Appreciate your views."

It’s still the same

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

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"I’m looking to update profile and pics (it’s been a while).

I would welcome any feedback on the current profile and pics…

Be constructive please.

Thanks "

Two things we noticed.

Firstly, why aren't all those comments actually verifications?

And secondly, in among your bio you say that you are attached. It will be an awful shame if she doesn't know.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

We know you are called Chris so why write C***s in your "verification" ? On first read I thought it stood for'cocks'

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By *oney orchidWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Include pictures with clothes on of you doing normal everyday things too. Sometimes clothes say alot about a person. Use the timer on your phone - then just crop or edit if you don't want your face showing.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think you only need one or two naked chest pics

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Sorry very suspicious on those typed veris. Why not display the two you have? Apart from anything else it is hard for a single man to meet one much younger lady never mind three who are 23, 25 and 34 unless they are veris from a certain adult working site whose name cannot mention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry very suspicious on those typed veris. Why not display the two you have? Apart from anything else it is hard for a single man to meet one much younger lady never mind three who are 23, 25 and 34 unless they are veris from a certain adult working site whose name cannot mention "

Its a huge red flag and probably an instant no for the majority of people tbh.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keep it exactly as it is. It tells people all they need to know about you. So it's perfect. "

Definitely the most pertinent advice in the thread

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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester

Indeed, waiting on more feedback before a re write.

To answer a few questions.

Yes I’m attached. She has no libido due to a medical condition and is happy for me to play, just doesn’t want to be involved or affected by it (the agreement we have is I play when she’s away or when I’m away). We’ve been together for 14+ years and I don’t want that to change. I have needs, and that’s where I was hoping Fab would help me find open minded NSA fun people.

The comments are from 3 genuine meets, only one of which was through Fab, and she left the site shortly after, as her other half found out about her profile. None of the meets I’ve had involve payment, unless you’re including treating someone to dinner or a couple of drinks, or helping with travel costs.

I’ve had a number of meets with younger women who like older men, and I’m no George Clooney or Brad Pitt, so I’m guessing that happens because of the rapport established on a face to face basis. The latest with a 28 yr old Maltese Mechanical Engineer, who was on my table at a dinner in Gloucester and joined me at the hotel later.

I need to take some more up to date pics, add some recent pics, and agree with the comments about normal pics so thanks for that.

Appreciate your honesty, and even the sarcasm, it’s an essential part of English humour.

Thanks

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Sorry I don't like it

Your photos are lazy and you mention nothing of what you can bring to a situation. Also the comment 'just be honest....' it gets my back up.

IMO just another generic uninspiring profile.

That said, one mans trash is another mans treasure! But personally I'd add some clothed pics, be honest and what you're looking for and what you can other, and try get your personality come through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best feedback you can get on your profile will be through the interest it generates and the number of contacts you make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed, waiting on more feedback before a re write.

To answer a few questions.

Yes I’m attached. She has no libido due to a medical condition and is happy for me to play, just doesn’t want to be involved or affected by it (the agreement we have is I play when she’s away or when I’m away). We’ve been together for 14+ years and I don’t want that to change. I have needs, and that’s where I was hoping Fab would help me find open minded NSA fun people.

The comments are from 3 genuine meets, only one of which was through Fab, and she left the site shortly after, as her other half found out about her profile. None of the meets I’ve had involve payment, unless you’re including treating someone to dinner or a couple of drinks, or helping with travel costs.

I’ve had a number of meets with younger women who like older men, and I’m no George Clooney or Brad Pitt, so I’m guessing that happens because of the rapport established on a face to face basis. The latest with a 28 yr old Maltese Mechanical Engineer, who was on my table at a dinner in Gloucester and joined me at the hotel later.

I need to take some more up to date pics, add some recent pics, and agree with the comments about normal pics so thanks for that.

Appreciate your honesty, and even the sarcasm, it’s an essential part of English humour.

Thanks

"

The detail and effort in this response is what I'd be aiming for regarding your profile.

It sounds like your looking to play with permission which is swinging and not cheating so like your reply above I'd make that clear in your profile as it would go a long way with a lot of people

Regarding your none fab meets I'd remove them as most have advised. If something is putting the majority of your target audience off it doesn't make sense to not take that onboard.

KJ

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Still confused - so of the three meet veris that you typed two were not from Fab and just real life hook-ups. So why did you have a written style Fab veri? Did you ask them to write you a few bullet points after?

Anyway they have gone but till your two veris not displayed as well. Sorry that is warning sign to us. What are you hiding? Maybe noting of note I know but so many others out there with veris on display and if we have to choose would go with them.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Fair play to you OP, it seems like you’ve actually taken on board the advice given to you regarding your profile, something many who come on here asking for advice fail to do.

Hope you find more success on the back of this. Good luck to you

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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester

Afternoon, so it turns out as the verifications are from people that have now left Fab, I can’t publish them as they no longer appear under Manage Verifications. I’m advised they were published until the user left.

I’ll tweak the profile again later as suggested, including more of the detail I gave in my answers to questions.

Pics will have to wait, it’s so hot at the moment I’m trying not to wear too many clothes at all!

Have a good day everyone.

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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester


"Still confused - so of the three meet veris that you typed two were not from Fab and just real life hook-ups. So why did you have a written style Fab veri? Did you ask them to write you a few bullet points after?

Anyway they have gone but till your two veris not displayed as well. Sorry that is warning sign to us. What are you hiding? Maybe noting of note I know but so many others out there with veris on display and if we have to choose would go with them. "

The comments were from the women themselves, one in a WhatsApp message that she simply sent, the other a copy of a message she sent a friend who was keen on some NSA fun, and then the Fab meet, Nat, did a veri as usual. See my post just now.

I completely understand your approach. There are thousands of guys on Fab, and you need some way of finding out the good ones.

Thanks again for the feedback.

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By *unseeker63 OP   Man
over a year ago

Newent, Bristol, Manchester


"Indeed, waiting on more feedback before a re write.

To answer a few questions.

Yes I’m attached. She has no libido due to a medical condition and is happy for me to play, just doesn’t want to be involved or affected by it (the agreement we have is I play when she’s away or when I’m away). We’ve been together for 14+ years and I don’t want that to change. I have needs, and that’s where I was hoping Fab would help me find open minded NSA fun people.

The comments are from 3 genuine meets, only one of which was through Fab, and she left the site shortly after, as her other half found out about her profile. None of the meets I’ve had involve payment, unless you’re including treating someone to dinner or a couple of drinks, or helping with travel costs.

I’ve had a number of meets with younger women who like older men, and I’m no George Clooney or Brad Pitt, so I’m guessing that happens because of the rapport established on a face to face basis. The latest with a 28 yr old Maltese Mechanical Engineer, who was on my table at a dinner in Gloucester and joined me at the hotel later.

I need to take some more up to date pics, add some recent pics, and agree with the comments about normal pics so thanks for that.

Appreciate your honesty, and even the sarcasm, it’s an essential part of English humour.

Thanks

The detail and effort in this response is what I'd be aiming for regarding your profile.

It sounds like your looking to play with permission which is swinging and not cheating so like your reply above I'd make that clear in your profile as it would go a long way with a lot of people

Regarding your none fab meets I'd remove them as most have advised. If something is putting the majority of your target audience off it doesn't make sense to not take that onboard.

KJ"

Thanks KJ, I’ll have another look at the profile wording later this evening. I am indeed playing with permission, so don’t feel it’s cheating, but I understand others may feel differently about it and that’s fine.

Appreciate you taking the time to feedback.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Seems fine to me. You can’t please everyone here. As long as you are happy with it and whatever works for you.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Afternoon, so it turns out as the verifications are from people that have now left Fab, I can’t publish them as they no longer appear under Manage Verifications. I’m advised they were published until the user left."

Verifications from people still show in the verifications summary, even if that person had left the site. For example if we left a verification for you tonight, and deleted our profile tomorrow, the verification summary would still show a MF couple had verified you, even if you couldn't show the wording of the verification summary.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Fair play to you OP, it seems like you’ve actually taken on board the advice given to you regarding your profile, something many who come on here asking for advice fail to do.

Hope you find more success on the back of this. Good luck to you "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed, waiting on more feedback before a re write.

To answer a few questions.

Yes I’m attached. She has no libido due to a medical condition and is happy for me to play, just doesn’t want to be involved or affected by it (the agreement we have is I play when she’s away or when I’m away). We’ve been together for 14+ years and I don’t want that to change. I have needs, and that’s where I was hoping Fab would help me find open minded NSA fun people.

The comments are from 3 genuine meets, only one of which was through Fab, and she left the site shortly after, as her other half found out about her profile. None of the meets I’ve had involve payment, unless you’re including treating someone to dinner or a couple of drinks, or helping with travel costs.

I’ve had a number of meets with younger women who like older men, and I’m no George Clooney or Brad Pitt, so I’m guessing that happens because of the rapport established on a face to face basis. The latest with a 28 yr old Maltese Mechanical Engineer, who was on my table at a dinner in Gloucester and joined me at the hotel later.

I need to take some more up to date pics, add some recent pics, and agree with the comments about normal pics so thanks for that.

Appreciate your honesty, and even the sarcasm, it’s an essential part of English humour.

Thanks

The detail and effort in this response is what I'd be aiming for regarding your profile.

It sounds like your looking to play with permission which is swinging and not cheating so like your reply above I'd make that clear in your profile as it would go a long way with a lot of people

Regarding your none fab meets I'd remove them as most have advised. If something is putting the majority of your target audience off it doesn't make sense to not take that onboard.

KJ

Thanks KJ, I’ll have another look at the profile wording later this evening. I am indeed playing with permission, so don’t feel it’s cheating, but I understand others may feel differently about it and that’s fine.

Appreciate you taking the time to feedback."

It's not cheating at all buddy.

Those again cheaters are in almost all cases fine with somebody who is playing with permission. Some may want to confirm that though with a quick lady to lady telephone call.

Refreshing to see someone taking constructive advice the right way and making the changes

KJ

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