FabSwingers.com forum: Abusive members

By *ingly_minx1 OP Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I've been back on the site after a couple of months away and I have received a few abusive and disgusting messages this week.

Obviously I have reported them to the admins but I wondered if there has been an overall attitude shift among single males to women setting boundaries and demanding basic decency and respect i.e. no dick pics in messages?

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By *hitehunter4bbcMan
over a year ago

Bristol

No we have always been rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think rudeness is a sex thing! I just think it’s a people thing. I have had rudeness from all sexes. It’s just some people are rude some people are not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The internet has caused people to become accustomed to being rude with no come back. That's why reporting is important

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think there's always been idiots who are rude online ,it's easy to be anonymous behind a screen

Half of them wouldn't dare say the things they do online in real life.

Definitely report them op and remember if says more about them than you .

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

In my limited experience I find that it is too much testosterone which often predicates rude messages.

I have on occasion, in the past, been childishly draw I to tit for tat remarks which on reflection are ridiculous.

I have recently been studying Buddhism and I find that this has had a profound effect on my demeanour.

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

Yes.

Too many guys think by being a member here they are entitled to what ever they want.

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By *ittle-black-dressWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I find that a lot of single men are rude and abusive. They think this website is like t*nd*r and other dating apps and it's exhausting at times. So I totally sympathise with you. I can't imagine anyone laying on their back with their legs open waiting for the message "are you free now?" I'm not going into the details of what they dream of doing to me....

If i don't answer to a message the guy would call me a time waster and even worse. I ignore the negativity but it's disheartening, are there nice people left to play with?!

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s got worse over the last year or so.

Manners, entitlement, abuse etc….

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By *iking_WitchWoman
over a year ago

Hinckley

I think for the most part people are generally polite. Trouble only seems to occur when boundaries are set/pointed out/reinforced.

I have a very detailed bio and explain both who I am and what I'm looking for but some people still choose to ignore this.

You reporting and blocking is the best way forward. Men not being able to control their mouth/temper/opinion is a huge red flag. It's a shame that some people ruin things. But never feel pressured or that you have to lower your standards. I don't know what the figures are but it feels like there's 5000 men to every woman. ??

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

These guys spoil it for the rest of us pity the one who abuse don’t get banned

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

The number of abusive replies or nasty messages has increased since lockdown I’ve found.

I think generally people are more rude since then and Fab is an example of that.

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