FabSwingers.com forum: Distance

By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I keep getting interest from people who live over 100 miles away. Due to cost of petrol cost, I just not prepared anymore to travel so far to meet people. What's your experience of this?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I prefer mainly local,but if the connection is unreal think it's worth the journey

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I prefer mainly local,but if the connection is unreal think it's worth the journey "

How can you really tell by exchanging messages on fab? I understand from using video messaging. I did alot of that during lockdown but also found out there was no attraction when I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather travel some distance for someone who physically and mentally attracts me than meet someone local who doesn’t.

I also don’t meet overly local as I would fear they’d pop around unannounced or say something to their friends.

You can always meet half way if there’s distance

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"I keep getting interest from people who live over 100 miles away. Due to cost of petrol cost, I just not prepared anymore to travel so far to meet people. What's your experience of this?"

There's 160 miles between me and Lady Astor.

We talked for a year before finally meeting, so had a pretty good idea around the chemistry.

We use the train rather than drive, book tickets in advance, split tickets and use the Seat Frog app for first class upgrades.

Journey time is roughly the same, but stress free and often cheaper than a tank of fuel.

And if we manage a first class upgrade we get fed too.

Works for us, won't work for everyone.

Winston

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Our experience is we get many winks and some messages from people 200+ miles away and we've no idea why.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I think it’s down to posting in the forums, that’s how people from miles away get to see your profile. I’m similar, in that I get winks and messages from non-locals, but have met as a result, and don’t mind travelling, if the connection is strong

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I love travel but it needs to be worth it. I used to travel 350+ miles one way. But that was more of a good pen pal relationship that developed a fwb aspect. It was always worth the trip but it was more than just going for sex, I really enjoyed her company and I would stay with her. I would need all the ground work in place and know the chances of it working really well are good.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I keep getting interest from people who live over 100 miles away. Due to cost of petrol cost, I just not prepared anymore to travel so far to meet people. What's your experience of this?"

Used to combine with a weekend trip to somewhere of interest to me.. That way it wasn't wasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s down to posting in the forums, that’s how people from miles away get to see your profile. I’m similar, in that I get winks and messages from non-locals, but have met as a result, and don’t mind travelling, if the connection is strong

Yep, I got to know someone from the forums who is 150miles away. Once we got flirty the connection was very strong and when we met halfway for a night together it was super-sparky.

Weeeelllll worth the trip!!!

So much so that we are in a relationship now and see each other every other weekend

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It varies why people get in touch. For wank fodder harvesters, distance is no object

Others travel, so scout an area beforehand, to see potential partners.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yep, I got to know someone from the forums who is 150miles away. Once we got flirty the connection was very strong and when we met halfway for a night together it was super-sparky.

Weeeelllll worth the trip!!!

So much so that we are in a relationship now and see each other every other weekend

That’s awesome! Congrats to you both!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm happy to travel all round the country for someone I meet and get on well with (and frequently do!), but I'm not going to drive for hours for a 1:1 social (different for a group social!).

I always know if a guy tells me he's prepared to travel over 70 miles for a coffee that he either thinks he's entitled to sex in return or he actually has no intention of following through.

Case in point: I was chatting to a guy in Leeds who assured me several times he'd come to Wirral for a coffee. We both knew he was going to stand me up, but the easiest way to prove my point was to say "ok then, are you free Thursday at 6?". To nobody's surprise he said yes but didn't show and hasn't messaged since

I wouldn't expect anyone to make a journey I wouldn't be willing to make. If I'm not prepared to travel a hundred miles for a coffee I wouldn't expect anyone else to.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I keep getting interest from people who live over 100 miles away. Due to cost of petrol cost, I just not prepared anymore to travel so far to meet people. What's your experience of this?"

Furthest I've gone to meet someone was 80 miles. It was a lot of fun. I got all excited on the journey up, and had a nice chilled drive home listening to music. If it's overnight, then all thr better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drive so that does factor in as to how far I would travel. But if it's something I could do easily by train or coach and the connection was there then yeah I'd travel.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I'm happy to travel all round the country for someone I meet and get on well with (and frequently do!), but I'm not going to drive for hours for a 1:1 social (different for a group social!).

I always know if a guy tells me he's prepared to travel over 70 miles for a coffee that he either thinks he's entitled to sex in return or he actually has no intention of following through.

I wouldn't expect anyone to make a journey I wouldn't be willing to make. If I'm not prepared to travel a hundred miles for a coffee I wouldn't expect anyone else to."

I get it all the time. I tell a guy were just friends and don't mind socialising. But they all end up trying to get sex off me, thinking I change my mind about them. Instead of doing coffee, I just do web cam chats which save me alot of precious time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet someone who’s travelled a long way. I’d feel pressured and obligated. I wouldn’t feel that I could walk away after a few minutes if I didn’t like them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if there not local ish then we aint meeting

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By *owhambamMan
over a year ago

clacton

"I wouldn’t meet someone who’s travelled a long way. I’d feel pressured and obligated. I wouldn’t feel that I could walk away after a few minutes if I didn’t like them in person."

I feel sorry for you that it makes you feel pressured and obligated, surely a social visit is where you’re supposed to see if the chemistry clicks or not. If you meet the right person they don’t expect anything from the initial contact, it’s purely too find out if you’re compatible for further adventures. I never go too a social expecting, sometimes we have left together other times it’s gone no further. But never is either under pressure, it’s all about respect and boundaries.

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By *akequeen90Couple
over a year ago

Sydney

Our only fab hookup was with a guy who traveled 2600km to us. But he was also on official business

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Never say never.if we get along and we get along well through chatting, messaging, video calling whenever you called it.

If the lust and the attractiveness is there. Than why not. You only live once

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