FabSwingers.com forum: First meet location...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, sorry if the subject has been discussed before I did have a quick search but couldn't find something on the subject.

Is it weird to want the first meet to happen in a pub? there's a quiet one just down my street, perfect for first meet to check out whether there's chemistry before going back to mine, however a few guys just won't meet there - is that too much to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they won't meet there then move on to someone that will

It's a safe and sensible thing to do

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks Cali, re-assuring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we use pubs, seems the best place but just watch out for earwiggers

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Only meet where you want as that will make you feel safe relaxed and comfortable.

If a man doesn't like it then that's his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet at a pub, like to see if we click first. Had a guy msg yest an he didnt want to meet for a drink just get straight dwn to it, we told him bye an good luck

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

"We meet at a pub, like to see if we click first. Had a guy msg yest an he didnt want to meet for a drink just get straight dwn to it, we told him bye an good luck

Good on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We meet at a pub, like to see if we click first. Had a guy msg yest an he didnt want to meet for a drink just get straight dwn to it, we told him bye an good luck

Good on you

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pub or coffee shop for me, that wayif you get a long meet you can have something to eat,lol

be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy wont meet in a pub and help put you at ease then tell them to get lost.

The only problem I see is the landlord might gossip about you always having a different fella ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to much to ask and very sensible. We always arrange a social meet in a pub before a play meet.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Pub is fine...is the "rights of man " still open?..used to got to thetford very very often ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pub first then if we click back to ours or thers if we dont then they will not know were we live or us them safty first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pub... coffee shop.... McDonald's.... My first meets are always somewhere public. You just never know. Got to be safe.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I meet wherever we both feel comfortable. Whether that is a local coffee house, Tesco's or back at her/their place.

We usually know a fair amount about each other before we meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a guy wont meet in a pub and help put you at ease then tell them to get lost.

The only problem I see is the landlord might gossip about you always having a different fella ha ha"

told the landlord i was internet dating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pub is fine...is the "rights of man " still open?..used to got to thetford very very often ....

never heard of that place no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - as a woman meeting on her own, unless you love living dangerously, just make sure it's somewhere public with other people around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP - as a woman meeting on her own, unless you love living dangerously, just make sure it's somewhere public with other people around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a sensible idea, and dont feel u cant say, im sorry i dont think this is right for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the idea of meeting in a pub, preferably a crowded one for Bev to chat to guys little inuendo before telling bthem she has stockings on and would they like to investiagte..oh yes pure fantasy x

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"If they won't meet there then move on to someone that will

It's a safe and sensible thing to do

Cali

What cali said, most of my best meets have started in a pub. It's a good way to relax and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what reason did the guys give ?? Definitely agree if they arent happy with it do not meet them..seems very suspicious to me!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

first meet is always in a pub or some other neutral location for us, it reduces the possibility of hooking up with a psycho but doesn't rule it out because some psychos hide it well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had my first meet last week and after getting to know them via text etc I agreed to meet them

My choice was a pub 15 mins away from$ my house and they didn't have a problem driving over 30 miles to do so

Safety first is a big must for me being a singleton

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what reason did the guys give ?? Definitely agree if they arent happy with it do not meet them..seems very suspicious to me!!"

they don t drink!!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what reason did the guys give ?? Definitely agree if they arent happy with it do not meet them..seems very suspicious to me!!

they don t drink!!??

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thats no excuse to not meet in a pub as we have never been in a pub yet that doesnt sell soft drinks and most now sell tea or coffee to cater for the driver

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

Always meet in a pub or somewhere public. Safety

Safety

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

My faves are some of the chain coffee shops.

They're usually busy but have sofas so you can have a close and private chat and the staff are not trying to make friends with the customers.

I have had more than one meet in a day at one at a big shopping centre near me and no-one looked twice!

As others have said if someone is not happy to meet in a public place then wish them well and move on - safety first! I even ask people staying in hotels to meet me in the bar first - in one day I met two guys with totally fake pics and one with out of date ones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet somewhere neutral first. Normally a pub coz I love me cider . But have met at a cinema , bowling alley , golf club , restaurant , milkshake shop , ice rink , football match (Lincoln I know but still there was a Football there) and going to meet at a zoo today .

Never never go straight for the sex it makes it dull and meaningless .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a first meet it's perfect and it's a great way to make sure there is chemistry between you both and if they don't want to meet there then they were probably not going to meet you anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet should be where ever you feel most comfortable, if they are unhappy with your option which is perfectly reasonable it's their loss babe don't meet them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they won't meet there then move on to someone that will

It's a safe and sensible thing to do

Cali "

Sound advice

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

we always meet a pub first to see if we get on, always hotel room first meet too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

pub it shall continue to be then

have a meet today..can t wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck, and be safe!

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I don't drink but always arrange a meet for a chat in a pub. It's good to know a few that have quiet corners lol

If someone won't meet you at a pub, suggest your local club, it'll cost them a lot more to gain entry than you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met some in bars etc.

Best though was going for a walk as random as that sounds in a Yorkshire village.

Public but discrete.

We still pop out now to meet for a walk get some fresh air.

No dogging nonsense..far too cold brr.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

Surely the whole thing about swinging is making new friends with a shared interest - I always meet at a public place, or failing that invite couples to my flat and sit and have a drink first, getting to know people and showing an interest in them is all part of it - The "ring the bell n fuck" scene just seems tacky & dis-respectful and i avoid it like tha plague.

Thankfully all the couples who i am close to are like me and enjoy a natter and drink etc beforehand, so if a guy can't show you the respect of meeting in a public place you feel safe in, thats his loss and he doesnt deserve to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the whole thing about swinging is making new friends with a shared interest - I always meet at a public place, or failing that invite couples to my flat and sit and have a drink first, getting to know people and showing an interest in them is all part of it - The "ring the bell n fuck" scene just seems tacky & dis-respectful and i avoid it like tha plague.

The whole thing about is swinging is that everybody is DIFFERENT. We are very much fuck and go merchants. Sorry if that seems tacky to you but it's what we get off on and it works for us. We aren't here to find friends to do basket weaving with, we are here for sex

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

For safety and sanity I would only ever have a first meeting in a public place, pub, cafe etc.

I have also stated before that I would meet socially to begin with to see if there is enough common ground as I really like the social side of things and if I cant talk to, laugh or communicate with the person(s) then I would not enjoy sex with them. Different strokes for different folks I guess

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