FabSwingers.com forum: Has anyone else taken a break from fab?

By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Just go to a club!

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

Maybe moaning about the size of your penis has put them off. No one likes a whiner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll answer this without any reference to any of your posts or comments you make on others

Yes I have taken a break. Many times. But never based on people available in my area. There will be others within your area but if you’re waiting for them here then the chances are small. Get yourself to a club it’s the best way

It’s nothing to do with looks, distance, one of fwb is 250 miles away and we meet half way in distance

Since coming back I look at someone’s photos, read their profile and now forum search and see how they come across

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey

" Maybe moaning about the size of your penis has put them off. No one likes a whiner.

The above is going to be the best advice you'll get if you decide to stay on Fab or if you return.

If I was trying to help you I'd advise you to try some other dating or hook up sites. There will be many horny girls in your area that are not on the swinging scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

Go to an organised group social. If there isn't one near you, organise one yourself.

Meet people. Real people. Network. Let people see the human behind the words on a screen.

There is so much more to Fab and swinging than sitting on a keyboard in a one dimensional world.

And yes, I've taken a break and hidden my profile. Didn't touch Fab for about 18 months at one point.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I think a break would benefit you massively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I feel myself starting to complain about the scene or start getting narked at rejections (which are of course part of the scene) I take a break for a while and concentrate on other areas of my life that my me happy.

Spend some time in nature, with friends then come back when I'm ready.

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve always always said that meets from fab should be a ghost in the background to ‘real life’.

The suggestions above of ‘do tinder’, ‘go to socials’, ‘try a club’ basically anything that gets you doing things in real life and just think of fab as a social network. If a meet comes from the back of that then so be it.

I have hundreds of meets and veris on my profile but honestly, they came mainly from social events or people I had met elsewhere who I found out was on here.

Taking a break would help if you’re feeling down about it but I think the opposite of ‘try harder and plan stuff for yourself’ is more likely the way to go.

The swinging world opened up for me when I got off my ass and went to some parties xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the story with me unfortunately, I give up all together, better off with escorts at this stage (hate going to them..fake robot sex) not great fun,your on timer and paying a fuck load for rubbish rushed fun, was on pof,tinder, and all the same

Better off the old school way..

Meet in nightout

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Look elsewhere?

Be prepared to travel?

Move?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

Maybe moaning about the size of your penis has put them off. No one likes a whiner.

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yes this is a major part you have made it so you are famous for your whining ......its a pity because outside of your whining your other forum contributions are not bad. They are now folk who religiously look for your whining on an cock related thread..I actually seen posts where ppl have said ' where is Cammo'... Its not a good look..definitely unappealing.

Take a break....or change your name, establish a different approach without the whining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I've taken a break for a week or two to re-focus after some letdowns on here.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

Maybe moaning about the size of your penis has put them off. No one likes a whiner.

yes this is a major part you have made it so you are famous for your whining ......its a pity because outside of your whining your other forum contributions are not bad. They are now folk who religiously look for your whining on an cock related thread..I actually seen posts where ppl have said ' where is Cammo'... Its not a good look..definitely unappealing.

Take a break....or change your name, establish a different approach without the whining.

The vast majority of users is not on forums though so they wouldn't know about his "special powers"

unless he mentioned on his profile (can't remember, now hidden)

Let's face it, if you have a penis/not open to men fabs is a hard punt! Posts above saying distance doesn't matter, or the scene came alive when I joined in -- yep these things happen when you're female/open to men! A man needs a pretty high level of social suave to get noticed (let alone become popular) on a social.

Anyway yes OP don't let lack of response get you down. Have a break, go try some more mainstream apps (esp. if you're mostly after straight 1-on-1), get some therapy for your penis issues

and come back when you've missed this place, it is what it is.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I’ve always always said that meets from fab should be a ghost in the background to ‘real life’.

I have hundreds of meets and veris on my profile but honestly, they came mainly from social events or people I had met elsewhere who I found out was on here.

Taking a break would help if you’re feeling down about it but I think the opposite of ‘try harder and plan stuff for yourself’ is more likely the way to go.

The swinging world opened up for me when I got off my ass and went to some parties xx"

Agree 100%.

Why not try a pub meet / social of your own.

Pick an easy to find pub, not too loud but not an old man's boozer and stick a post in the meet up section.

It will cause you no end of grief and loads and loads and loads of timewasters but in all that pile of time wasters you will find a couple of gold nuggets.

To prevent you getting too anxious work on a 90% timewaster ratio.

We organised socials some years ago, needs patience and lots of time but met some great people, some very strange people too and be prepared for strange requests, rude, needy and folks that constantly message you wanting to know every fine detail.

But FAB is a tiny sideline in our lives, nothing important, a bit of adult fun.

Give it a whirl or attend a social outside your area, book a hotel, make a weekend of it, most of all, have fun and a giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes have a break when things aren’t great on the home front.

For example, my photos been removed as I am feeling vulnerable in my relationship right now.

Swings and roundabouts.

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over a year ago

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Over time, the vast majority of couples and single women in my area (50-60 miles) have either deleted messages from me, or indicated I'm absolutely not their type.

Given that I've pretty much run out of local people to try and talk to, is it probably best to take a break from fab for a while? Has anyone else felt the benefit of this?

I look at so many amazing profiles on here, knowing that I don't have a single chance with them, and to be honest it kind of bums me out more and more as time goes on.

Cheers in advance for the advice

Maybe moaning about the size of your penis has put them off. No one likes a whiner.

Take a break....or change your name, establish a different approach without the whining.

I appreciate that

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By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Yes, I think a break would benefit you massively. "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

A break is always good to enjoy the other things away from social media and think about any social media as a bonus that doesn't accumulate constantly your social life think of social media as a perk so you can spread out the enjoyment of each day that life brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken many breaks from Fab.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Give yourself a break and work on your confidence. It’s the only thing that has ever been an issue with you, but your moaning puts people off.

And in your shoes, I’d give myself a new profile

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Yes I've taken a few breaks over the years. It's easy to get sulked into this place but it's not real life, sometimes you need to step away and focus on more important things.

If you're not feeling it at the moment then step away for a while until you feel you're ready to come back.

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