FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging club as voyeurs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are interested in going to visit a swinging club but no intention of swinging just as voyeurs.

Is this acceptable and will we be welcomed or really not the thing to do?

TIA

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

You can do what you feel comfortable with but may want to check the rules at your chosen club. If you are in a play area do you need to dress down for example and are you comfortable with that? Some people may not enjoy being watched so always ask. Some clubs have viewing windows for voyeurs.

As long as everyone is happy then it's all good.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Please dress down at least a little even when watching? It’s different headspaces when your audience is fully clothed or dressed down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please dress down at least a little even when watching? It’s different headspaces when your audience is fully clothed or dressed down. "

For us there's nothing worse than fully clothed people coming into a play area just to observe tbh.

It's why at our local club newbie tours of the play areas are not done after 10pm.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly

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By *olo911Couple
over a year ago

wigan

I don’t know of a club that let’s fully dressed into play area’s, some nice underwear won’t go amiss!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don’t know of a club that let’s fully dressed into play area’s, some nice underwear won’t go amiss!"

There is a current thread called "non dress down clubs" which lists ten where you can stay fully clothed in playrooms

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

"We are interested in going to visit a swinging club but no intention of swinging just as voyeurs.

Is this acceptable and will we be welcomed or really not the thing to do?

TIA

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as long as you get the peoples permission , we play in open areas in club and are quite happy for people to enjoy , just be respectable do not touch unless invited ,we have had people dressed watching ,and undressed we are ok with guys wanking , some couples may be different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly "

OMG YOU'RE SO RIGHT!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the advice and support.

It never occurred to me to be "dressed" we would be suitably dressed down According to our modesty

I wouldn't mind being naked but my dear would probably go with nice sexy underwear.

Definitely wouldn't be touching and who does that without permission?? The mind boggles at some people.

As for the "wanking zombies" I am too considerate to be so crude lol.

So suitably dressed down and no touching would be the way we would go

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thank you for the advice and support.

It never occurred to me to be "dressed" we would be suitably dressed down According to our modesty

I wouldn't mind being naked but my dear would probably go with nice sexy underwear.

Definitely wouldn't be touching and who does that without permission?? The mind boggles at some people.

As for the "wanking zombies" I am too considerate to be so crude lol.

So suitably dressed down and no touching would be the way we would go

Clubs are full of voyeurs and exhibitionists.

8 or 9 times out of 10 when we used to go we'd only play with eachother, but would have no issues being watched or watching others.

You'd be welcome at pretty much any club so long as (as others have said) you stick to any dress codes, so a dry club may be better option than a wet one if you intend just to watch.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly "

Absolutely...this kills play more than anything.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly

Absolutely...this kills play more than anything."

It's also a bit off putting when someone is shouting "faster", "can you move your arm out of the way as I can't see her tits" or "that looks just like a penis, only smaller".

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

We tried to play in a cinema roo one night a month or so ago, while to people in front were have a full blown conversation about taking kids to school, cooking and God knows what else. Wasn't quite as sexy as we hoped

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"We are interested in going to visit a swinging club but no intention of swinging just as voyeurs.

Is this acceptable and will we be welcomed or really not the thing to do?

TIA

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I often just watch

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By *teve321Man
over a year ago

Waltham cross

I know of people who go with the intention of just looking, but get turned on and play anyway...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly "

That would be rude and IMHO disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for the advice and support.

It never occurred to me to be "dressed" we would be suitably dressed down According to our modesty

I wouldn't mind being naked but my dear would probably go with nice sexy underwear.

Definitely wouldn't be touching and who does that without permission?? The mind boggles at some people.

As for the "wanking zombies" I am too considerate to be so crude lol.

So suitably dressed down and no touching would be the way we would go

Clubs are full of voyeurs and exhibitionists.

8 or 9 times out of 10 when we used to go we'd only play with eachother, but would have no issues being watched or watching others.

You'd be welcome at pretty much any club so long as (as others have said) you stick to any dress codes, so a dry club may be better option than a wet one if you intend just to watch.

Wet club? Dry club?

Do you refer to jacuzzi?

Forgive my ignorance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know of people who go with the intention of just looking, but get turned on and play anyway..."

Thats their perogative

We aren't "lots of people"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly "

Absolutely this!

We were having a nice public play on a club recently and some girl was just loudly asking all the guys watching questions.

She literally couldn’t stand not being the centre of attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Perfectly acceptable. Also perfectly acceptable to just go enjoy the ambience and/or social side without getting active. Sometimes Myself and/or My girl go to our local club to unwind without a sexual objective as such. It's a nice just a place to be and we be comfortable and strip down. Sometimes I will go in on an afternoon and take my news paper in with me and have a cup of tea or an ale.

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile "

Getting that more and more now, trying to be nice to them and advising if they are a couple then a couples profile would better suit, and filters stopping them meeting potential suiters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile "

Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile

Getting that more and more now, trying to be nice to them and advising if they are a couple then a couples profile would better suit, and filters stopping them meeting potential suiters"

Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

With respect x

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By *ex-BombsCouple
over a year ago

Flitwick

Whatever you do please don’t be fully dressed! Gives us the absolute ick and would have me (Mrs) moving immediately, anyone standing there watching whilst fully clothed is an absolute turn off but that’s just us. Enjoy yourselves and relax

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By *orny DeucesCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

"Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

With respect x "

You situation and circumstances do not concern us, and with respect our post was in response to fooker and the puddleduck's post which is why we quoted and replied to their post. It was no more than an observation of what is becoming a trend for us and our reaction to it. The advise we have given out was not sent directly to/at you. Just a response to somebody's post in a forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

With respect x

No offence meant and I realised after.

New to this forum

I apologise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Whatever you do please don’t be fully dressed! Gives us the absolute ick and would have me (Mrs) moving immediately, anyone standing there watching whilst fully clothed is an absolute turn off but that’s just us. Enjoy yourselves and relax

Definitely not dressed that would be very wrong in my opinion

Tastefully dressed down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile

Getting that more and more now, trying to be nice to them and advising if they are a couple then a couples profile would better suit, and filters stopping them meeting potential suiters

Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

With respect x "
but your profile has no mention of a female partner in any respect. Sounds numerous alarm bells to us. But no issue

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Definitely not dressed that would be very wrong in my opinion

Tastefully dressed down "

If you're just being voyeurs, you'll find many exhibitionists won't mind if you're dressed or not, they'll be concentrating on putting on a show. It's very common for naked swingers to be watched by clothed voyeurs. Many clubs even have voyeur rooms with a one way window, so you can watch people have sex though the window but they can't see you. The exhibitionists putting on a show have no idea what the voyeurs are wearing, or even doing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly

Absolutely...this kills play more than anything.

It's also a bit off putting when someone is shouting "faster", "can you move your arm out of the way as I can't see her tits" or "that looks just like a penis, only smaller".

LMFAO.. The people that say that must be such morons..

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thank you for the advice and support.

It never occurred to me to be "dressed" we would be suitably dressed down According to our modesty

I wouldn't mind being naked but my dear would probably go with nice sexy underwear.

Definitely wouldn't be touching and who does that without permission?? The mind boggles at some people.

As for the "wanking zombies" I am too considerate to be so crude lol.

So suitably dressed down and no touching would be the way we would go

Clubs are full of voyeurs and exhibitionists.

8 or 9 times out of 10 when we used to go we'd only play with eachother, but would have no issues being watched or watching others.

You'd be welcome at pretty much any club so long as (as others have said) you stick to any dress codes, so a dry club may be better option than a wet one if you intend just to watch.

Wet club? Dry club?

Do you refer to jacuzzi?

Forgive my ignorance

Sorry for the delayed reply - been a long day!

Wet clubs = dress down. Towels or underwear/lingerie as soon as you enter. You arrive clothed and get changed in locker rooms and aren't allowed in clothed. e.g. Chams in Birmingham & Cupids in Manchester

Dry Clubs = smart casual. You can remain fully clothed generally although there may be areas you'll be expected to wear lingerie/towels or underwear. Xtasia in Birmingham for example is much like a nightclub in that you can stay clothed all night if you wish.

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is a real insight into this as we've not been to one yet. Undecided if we even want to.. Especially now

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile

Getting that more and more now, trying to be nice to them and advising if they are a couple then a couples profile would better suit, and filters stopping them meeting potential suiters

Why should that concern you

I understand a single guy posing as a couple

But I have no intention as playing as a couple amd neither does she.

However we as a couple would love to visit a swinging club.

No cross play.

With respect x "

So just based on your profile do you play a solo male (or are hoping to) looking to meet couples and / or single ladies with your partners consent?

Obviously you state if you both go together to a cluvlb then there's no cross play (I assume for either of you) which suggests her sharing you with others is a stage she hadn't reached yet?

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile "

We have a couples profile, but also single profiles. He is active on the forum, so am I, and sometimes we have different opinions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our first concern would be ‘we’ on a single guys profile

We have a couples profile, but also single profiles. He is active on the forum, so am I, and sometimes we have different opinions. "

Thank you x

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

"If you are voyeurs please don't chat loudly "

Nothing worse as a playing couple to hear people talking loudly about what they had for dinner tonight....

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Dressing down seems to be a bigger issue in England than it is in Scotland. We go to CJs in Glasgow, I've also attended After8 and the Aberdeen club when it was open and up here no one gives two shits if you're fully clothed or not whilst watching, we're too busy paying attention to other things!

I queried non dress down clubs earlier in the week and it seems to vary from club to club so check the rules of the club you're attending.

Other than that, yes make sure you're not talking loudly, don't crowd people playing as there's nothing worse than someone standing right next to your head just watching, be respectful of them etc. Just common sense things

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

I don’t see an issue with watching at all, we do all the time.

The simple rule we follow is that if the layroom door is left open it’s pretty much an invite to watch. But agree on the chatter, keep it down.

In terms of dress I personally find it a turn on if people are fully clothed, makes me feel a little more naughty being undressed, exhibitionist maybe!

Maybe you should try The Attic in Derby as there are several rooms with peep holes and one with a sizeable 2 way mirror. We got it on with another couple in there and I am sure there were plenty watching us behind the glass

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Layroom" is an appropriate description !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don’t see an issue with watching at all, we do all the time.

The simple rule we follow is that if the layroom door is left open it’s pretty much an invite to watch. But agree on the chatter, keep it down.

In terms of dress I personally find it a turn on if people are fully clothed, makes me feel a little more naughty being undressed, exhibitionist maybe!

Great thanks sounds very exiting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dressing down seems to be a bigger issue in England than it is in Scotland. We go to CJs in Glasgow, I've also attended After8 and the Aberdeen club when it was open and up here no one gives two shits if you're fully clothed or not whilst watching, we're too busy paying attention to other things!

I queried non dress down clubs earlier in the week and it seems to vary from club to club so check the rules of the club you're attending.

Common sense and respect. We wouldn't be nattering away lol and wouldn't get too close just respectful distance and enjoy the action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

intresting thread will be following this, as it's something we wish to try, when we get the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only a voyeur op, and have never had anyone have issue with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm only a voyeur op, and have never had anyone have issue with it."

Thank you ??

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Cupid’s swinton has a very good viewing room to watch the couple’s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, with my fwb, it’s much better on a couples only night. We enjoy knowing that there are people around us, especially if they are playing too rather than an audience which is what tends to occur when there are single men who just watch like zombies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Out tomorrow and visiting swing as a couple of voyeurs on Wednesday

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