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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

Might be a good idea to have a couples profile??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

If in doubt do nowt

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

You may need to ask her first....

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??

You may need to ask her first...."

He's obviously already asked her if she minds a pic of her having sex being on the Internet, so I'm sure it's fine.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you already found the third person ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah we got another guy that she knows

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By *annaPlayABCCouple
over a year ago

Bacup

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

Had several MMF over my lifetime and 99% have been amazing for all concerned.

The goal now is to find a female for a change,maybe even a couple (m/f).

Just relax and you'll all enjoy I'm sure

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Yes totally amazing with the right gent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's the right man then he will understand the wife being nervous and not be pushy. Should there be no playing then he should also be ok with the situation. After all its you 2 that have to live by your choices he can go home and look for a different cpl. Good luck with the situation and please post to say how you got on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you!!! I’m so nervous too. My wife and I both know the guy. I just hope none of us bottle it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about a random guy from fab instead so there's no awkwardness after. Maybe try the guy you know for round 2 if you enjoy your first time and the morning after. Just a thought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She def wants this guy. We have known him for years. We all walk away after it. We don’t live in the UK normally and only here until end of month.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you both want it and have discussed things. I'd say to relax, kiss your wife before he turns up and go with the flow. I've experienced this many times as the 3rd and can honestly say it's the biggest thrill being with a couple in love. Hope it's everything you want and more. Please let me know how it goes xxx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

This would have more impact of it was posted from a couple's account.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??

You may need to ask her first....

He's obviously already asked her if she minds a pic of her having sex being on the Internet, so I'm sure it's fine."

Erm....do you really believe that? That guys on single profiles where they have picd including women have all asked them firs

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

"Yeah we got another guy that she knows"
better that way as she will be more relaxed , we started that way too and wife still has sex with him every now and again , we want to keep it random as if it happens too much with same guy , it may get heavy , we keep to the rules we started with , she likes sex with him and have managed to spread fun over 12 years ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??

If in doubt do nowt "

This ^^^^^^^^^^ is the best advice if you value your wife and marriage

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By *ilberto42Man
over a year ago

north wales

I had a mmmf with 3 of my mates in kavos with a girl think we were about 21 she loved it and it was a good one to tick off my list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She picked him as she trusts him and we both know him. I think we will have a few drinks and start a bit of foreplay. I don’t want to push her and we will def establish some rules beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is fairly natural.

Start off slowly and build up to it.

Obviously it goes without saying, meet any potential third, first and chat about what you expect. set limits. With your partner, set a safe word (so if she feels so uncomfortable and can't go on, you back away).

Perhaps try a video call?

Then a voyeur meeting. You two with the other watching (and perhaps playing)

If thats a success, then move up to including the third.

Perhaps some touching etc. Then depending how that goes step it up to the next stage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for their messages of advice and support. I’ll let you know how it all went. I’m actually worried about cummin waaay too early as I’ll be nervous/excited and mega turned on. Will a cock ring help me out with this you reckon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't u set up a few silly games to touch or kiss so ur breaking the ice & taking it slowly to back out x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

My advice is don't go into it unless you are sure. It's not fair to mess people around.

We have had one and we were itching for it to happen. It was a great experience and will be repeating it next month. We're very clear in what we want and who we like. If you are umm-ing and ahh-ing you might just not be ready.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

"Thanks everyone for their messages of advice and support. I’ll let you know how it all went. I’m actually worried about cummin waaay too early as I’ll be nervous/excited and mega turned on. Will a cock ring help me out with this you reckon?"
a cock ring just makes me more sensitive and cum even quicker

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

If you don't try it you will regret it for ever and the 'what if' thoughts will keep returning.

You have clearly thought it through, are turned on by the idea so go for it.

My only reservation is that the man you have in mind is known to you or at least to your wife.

That has the potential to lead to complications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again everyone for all the support/advice/tips. I’ll let you know if it happens and what it was like.

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By *ancs married coupleCouple
over a year ago

Silverdale

We were exactly the same for ages! We finally agreed on yes and we are both looking forward to it! Having said that, it's harder than we thought to find a suitable Male to join us! Weve chosen 3 guys in total over the past few weeks but when we start talking about getting a date in the diary they cool off. I'm surprised at that tbh. Anyway the hunt continues lol! Good luck and wishing you both the best of times!

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

"We were exactly the same for ages! We finally agreed on yes and we are both looking forward to it! Having said that, it's harder than we thought to find a suitable Male to join us! Weve chosen 3 guys in total over the past few weeks but when we start talking about getting a date in the diary they cool off. I'm surprised at that tbh. Anyway the hunt continues lol! Good luck and wishing you both the best of times!"

Are they mad at going cold on you I would love the chance

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By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago

Green Cove Springs

You have mentioned several times she has picked him. Sounds like she is all for it and you might be the one holding a fantastic night from happening.

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By *hesecretdocMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

Me neither!

And I'm just a couple of junctions down the M6!

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

Here’s my advice, for what it’s worth.

Stay away from anyone you know for the first time. There is a chance that you don’t enjoy it, regret it, feel embarrassed about it, jealous and having somebody that you know involved won’t let you escape those feelings easily. For the first time at least chose someone random, potentially out of town and treat it like a hot date together. That way you can leave it all behind if you find it wasn’t for you.

Once you have a really good understanding of how you both feel about it you can progress and become friends with people you play with but you need to be sure how these friendships will affect your own relationships first.

The first time we did it we paid for it. We picked an Escort online and enjoyed a great hour. In fact we did it twice if not three times with different girls. After that we started going to clubs with a real confidence in what each other wanted and needed and we were sure that there was no miscommunication.

There’s no stopping us now!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

As long as you've talked things through including your plans if it goes wrong of one or both of you, you need to try it. It's always going to be a leap into the unknown to some extent. But as long as you are united as a couple then it's a leap to make. We did and we still make new leaps forward as a couple as our boundaries expand.

Personally we would say try a club. It's a less pressured and less personal environment. Just a care free dedicated space to explore your desires and leave once you've finished. Helps to keep things more causal and compartmentalised until you've discovered if you like it as an aspect of your relationship.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It may take the pressure out of it, if it's not someone you know, as well as if you haven't got a big build up, where nerves and expectations may get a little unthrottled.

A club visit could mean you go without any of that. You could socialise and let your hair down. If it seems right, you could dabble and break it off, after a couple of minutes if too much, in a way that you might feel under more pressure at home, for example.

If you visited a club many times before you got to do anything, it wouldn't matter, ss you'll be there for the facilities, vibe etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The wife and I are on the verge on having our first threeway. She’s so nervous, we both are!! We keep saying yes then no! Any one else have these swaying thoughts going on their first threesum??"

Your first threesome will be very memorable. Mine was.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys… threesome didn’t happen. The guy bottled it

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hi guys… threesome didn’t happen. The guy bottled it"

Did he meet you for a social or not at all ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys… threesome didn’t happen. The guy bottled it"

get someone you don't know

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Hi guys… threesome didn’t happen. The guy bottled it"

Was this his first threesome as well? My advice would be to find someone who you know has experience (ie they are verified in meets) as they will be (a) more likely to actually turn up and (b) more understanding of your nerves and concerns and will fit in around you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this very interesting cause I'm in similar position with my wife we are both excited to experience this soon and she's looking for the right mix, yes I'm nervous as it's new for both of us but we feel it will be an experience that will bring us closer on other levels.

For those who have experienced with their partners the first time how did ye feel after, I understand everyone is different I'm just curious to know different opinions and experiences

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

I'd say, and this is me speaking from my own experience, why don't you have someone come over and just watch to begin with, just infind your feet no pressure to play, and who doesn't like being watched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The build up to our first threesome together went a little like this ........

Mrs A .... I'm so excited, I can't wait to have two together. Are you sure about this?

Mr M .... Yes I'm sure, I've done this before, I know my comfort zone.

5 mins later

Mrs .... I'm so nervous, I don't think I can do this.

Mr .... Listen, I'm sure you'll enjoy this but it's not too late to back out.

You can back out at any moment at all, just let me know and it'll stop.

Mrs .... We're not cancelling, no way am I missing out on this.

It pretty much went around in circles.

Then it happened and we loved it.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I was nervous on my first one, chatting to a lovely couple in a club who suggested it...they were so lovely and it was just so nice,very sensual and sexy , I gave the Mr a hug afterwards ..must have thought I was mad ...

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