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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have a meet planned for tomorrow(sat) arranged a time,place etc. have dropped a message to ask if still ok , she read it but not replied.

just sent another message to say that if i dont get a reply by certain time, an hour before meet, i wont turn up.

but i dont want to go and not have her not turn up, as it 25 miles from me.so advice please

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

seems fair enough to me ... x

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

She may not have had time to reply to the first message she may even now be a little miffed at being given an ultimatum in your second message,just wait to see if she gets back to you,if she does then have a grat time,if she does'nt then get making new plans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she is obs not gonna show save yourself the journey

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She may not have had time to reply to the first message she may even now be a little miffed at being given an ultimatum in your second message,just wait to see if she gets back to you,if she does then have a grat time,if she does'nt then get making new plans

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just sent another message i know she goes on at odd times, so there could be a reply later, fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So a day before a meet you've sent a pushy email because they've not replied to a message an hour ago. To be honest I'd personally say that the second message was sent way to early and if we were the recipient it would put us off.

There a host of reasons why someone might not reply immediately and few why you can't wait till tonight or tomorrow for a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"she is obs not gonna show save yourself the journey"

Or it's Friday afternoon, she's busy and will reply later...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She may not have had time to reply to the first message she may even now be a little miffed at being given an ultimatum in your second message,just wait to see if she gets back to you,if she does then have a grat time,if she does'nt then get making new plans

just sent another message i know she goes on at odd times, so there could be a reply later, fingers crossed "
have you spoken to her on the phone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a bit dodgy mate. Don't waste you're petrol. If she read you're message she should have the decency to reply even if she has had second thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So a day before a meet you've sent a pushy email because they've not replied to a message an hour ago. To be honest I'd personally say that the second message was sent way to early and if we were the recipient it would put us off.

There a host of reasons why someone might not reply immediately and few why you can't wait till tonight or tomorrow for a reply"
im in work tonight until 6am, so wont see a reply until i get up about 11 am tomorrow morning

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"She may not have had time to reply to the first message she may even now be a little miffed at being given an ultimatum in your second message,just wait to see if she gets back to you,if she does then have a grat time,if she does'nt then get making new plans

just sent another message i know she goes on at odd times, so there could be a reply later, fingers crossed "

three messages in a short space of time is extreme, you are appearing a bit desperate IMO x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She may not have had time to reply to the first message she may even now be a little miffed at being given an ultimatum in your second message,just wait to see if she gets back to you,if she does then have a grat time,if she does'nt then get making new plans

just sent another message i know she goes on at odd times, so there could be a reply later, fingers crossed

three messages in a short space of time is extreme, you are appearing a bit desperate IMO x"
1 today others were 2 days ago, finalising details,she has set time place etc

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Personally I would have got a phone number and sent a text. Someone may not be able to reply to a message on here but would be able to reply to a text. And you would be able to speak to her tomorrow to confirm meet details.

I have a feeling you might have put her off now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't seem desperate if she has agreed and all was going well,Myb she has just gone off the idea,it does get flustraiting when folk do this,just see if she replies and if not just cut your loses and move on,it does happen from time to time dude

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Have you spoken on the phone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you spoken on the phone?"
no but i know she is genuine as she met some one i know

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By *gt bobMan
over a year ago

sandwell

if she can,t be bothered to reply,,she def won,t turn up,,arrange to meet sum 1 else

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

calling it a day on this thread now, thank you for advice, my mind is made up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if she can,t be bothered to reply,,she def won,t turn up,,arrange to meet sum 1 else"

Sometimes I log in read emails and don't reply to one of us get in from work,sometimes we read emails and one of kids walk in so can't reply till much later when they not around... Does not mean we can't be bothered.

Maybe she hasn't had time to reply x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ill decide at 1pm tomorrow as will have to get ready for meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually send a message and a text to make sure there's no crossed wires or network problems as it's rare for both networks to be out of action at once. If no reply on either at the due hour then it's mission aborted.

Wolf

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i do sometimes read mail on phone but its a bit tricky to reply on phone so will wait until im home to reply .. doesnt mean i cant be bothered just find it easier to reply on laptop

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Maybe send her another mail in case she forgot to reply to the other three

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

its ok she replied, its off as she cant make it,

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do recall only 2 weeks ago a female slating a guy for not turning up to a meet, 34 minutes later, he did and they had fun

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"its ok she replied, its off as she cant make it, "

maybe she read this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually send a message and a text to make sure there's no crossed wires or network problems as it's rare for both networks to be out of action at once. If no reply on either at the due hour then it's mission aborted.

Wolf

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We would never arrange a meet with someone if we didn't have a phone number for. She may be genuine but without a number we find it difficult to finalise plans and I like to txt as we get closer to time and give an idea of when we will arrive.

For what it's worth I think you did right thing send message about cancelling if you haven't heard from her. I personally wouldn't get upset if I received a message like that. There are allot of time wasters out there and I think making sure you have contact this close to a meet is very important. If she dumps you now overcrhe message it probably was never going to happen snd she will use it as an excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit if it was a day before a meet I was having and I saw the person I was meeting making a post moaning about me not replying to a message I would cancel, even if I had intended meeting in the first place.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

shes waste of time dont go found another one to meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if she can,t be bothered to reply,,she def won,t turn up,,arrange to meet sum 1 else

Sometimes I log in read emails and don't reply to one of us get in from work,sometimes we read emails and one of kids walk in so can't reply till much later when they not around... Does not mean we can't be bothered.

Maybe she hasn't had time to reply x"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

all cancelled she got in touch about 2 hour ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aww... well dust yourself down and shout 'Next!'

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"calling it a day on this thread now, thank you for advice, my mind is made up "

to be fair, if she did read this, it looks like you may be cancelling.

it is down to interpretation but I would have read it that way

all the best

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"its ok she replied, its off as she cant make it,

maybe she read this "

heh, that's what crossed my mind too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"aww... well dust yourself down and shout 'Next!'"
wait bout 6 months...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I arrange meets at weekends well in advance, and usually request for confirmation if it is still going ahead by Wed evening before the meet.

This way, I still have time to make alternative arrangements if it falls through.

The day before the meet, I would ask again if the meet is going ahead.

On the day of the meet itself, I would normally request for text confirmation when the gent is about to set off before I would set off. If I don't hear anything, then I would presume the meet is off, and would delete and block to prevent further contacts.

I don't usually give second chances. Peeps mess me about at their perils.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"aww... well dust yourself down and shout 'Next!'wait bout 6 months...lol"

To be honest from your profile you haven't been doing too bad

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I have learned through bitter experience over the years to require a mobile number before i'll even consider meeting. And if i dont get a reply on the day of the meeting - I won't bother to travel.

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