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By *lirtyAndFun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rushden

I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unrealistic we would say!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Well.

Definitely not an unrealistic fantasy, although I did end up marrying mine.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anticipating you receiving Loads & loads of replies from people saying they've met many FWB through this site.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I had not expected this post to be from a couple.

If you look for it, you’ll be disappointed. Go looking for friends you can fuck, then keep being friends and fucking. Simple. And THEN stay friends even when you’re not fucking.

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By *lirtyAndFun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?

Well.

Definitely not an unrealistic fantasy, although I did end up marrying mine.

A"

Wow congratulations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we both have in the past. It happens, don't give up

Pxx

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By *ysteriousgirl97Woman
over a year ago

Coventry


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Yes, Ive had many. Currently have this arrangement with a couple not on fab and it works super well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found a fwb on fab the benefits did eventually stop but we are still friends. So its definitely achievable.

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By *lirtyAndFun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?

Yes, Ive had many. Currently have this arrangement with a couple not on fab and it works super well"

Yay, fingers crossed

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I am living with my current fwb, we have been seeing each other for almost 6 years

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's yet to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still looking. It has worked for me in the past so I'm hopefully. Can't belive how hard it is this time round lol.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Nobody knows what, or whom, is around the corner, just go with the flow. One of my friends I’ve been seeing for over 7 years now, another 4 years. Others I’ve seen a couple of times, and others for a few months. It is what it is, and life rolls on. When you click with someone, it will happen when you least expect it. Enjoy

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm bi & have a male FWB, we see each other every 3 - 4 weeks or so.

Works well for us.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I've had many of my fwb for years... although currently not really active with any of them due to circumstances. However I didn't use Fab to find them. They are a mix of my normal life and from clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to happen for me. Mostly it seems to be one off play that is wanted, or a suggestion that there is an interest in FWB which then turns out not to be so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a like minded couple we click with as fwb is proving a challenge though

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By *lirtyAndFun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Yet to happen for me. Mostly it seems to be one off play that is wanted, or a suggestion that there is an interest in FWB which then turns out not to be so true. "

This is our experience so far, at least getting something is better than nothing I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so.much FWBs but definitely FBs

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

We would like to find a couple similar to ourselves

That we can socialise with added bonus

No blurred lines

Meet up,nights away, eventually hols

So you are not alone

Just finding the right people

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I found a FWB from here.. Close to me & Sexy as F***... Only thing is I ended up getting too attracted to him..

The more time I spend with a FWB the closer I get, the sex gets even better and feelings get involved... :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had two long term fwb since being on here and both lasting a year.

The build up of trust and connections is wonderful and it makes for very enjoyable sessions, however not so good when it ends. You lose a strong friendship and memories and then you have to find yourself again before moving on.

One fwb I have lost purely down to a disagreement where we didn’t see eye to eye on something minor and they decided they didn’t want to see me anymore.

The other was purely based on them moving hours and hours away to the other end of the country due to their work. I would spend one night a week away at their place chilling out, having sex, watching movies etc.

To be honest though the endings both came at a really good time because I’m now in a different place in my life with different things going on in my life with new people and a new job etc meaning I’m really busy these days.

I think it will be more suitable for me to have one off meets at the moment as apposed to regular fwb style as can’t commit at the moment.

I think there are pros and cons to both.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Possible but challenging

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I found two on here. One for two and a half years. Both amazing relationships while they lasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier to find as single female than a couple but if you meet & get on, then the hope is you could meet again. I had a fwb I met on fwb for years, parted amicably when I moved, met a fwb in the new place...ended up married! Trying to meet initially never mind regularly as a couple; much harder but here's hoping.

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By *aughty2yorksCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Had a couple over the years but don’t seem to be able to find a reliable fwb often x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

It’s definitely possible. I did have one guy that I used to meet up with regularly and I’m still friends with him. I have a few guys that I’ve known for years that I meet on a less regular basis but we have gone out socially and I have had couple profiles with some of them as well.

I also had a guy and a female that we would socialise together, go for meals, shows, etc and then spend the night together.

These friendships seem to fall in to place, they can’t really be arranged as such.

Good luck with your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not found the elusive FWB yet on here. I have a couple of FBs but they are flakey as fuck.

Need to find an "occasional afternoon boyfriend" to chill with over the summer.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I don't think it's unrealistic. Anecdotal evidence would seem to suggest otherwise.

If I can help out give me a shout, if we were then to meet again you'd be on your way. Everything starts somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not found anyone .it's so hard to even get a response back let alone a fwb .suppose there's to much choice for all the lady's they haver there pick

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

It's not unrealistic but it is hard work to find the right people

I have to admit I've been fortunate over the past few years to find folks that I've had regular meets,however I only ever manage to have one fwb at a time

My current FWB though is in a different league than most I've played with we've even set up a couples profile

All I can say is don't give up your search if you really want to find what your after

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I have an fwb, but met through a popular app, not here.

We don't do too many social things though, as time is limited and I'd rather spend it with Alice.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Had over 4 years with a lovely lady who we enjoyed each other’s company as well as having great sex and fun with other couples!

So yes it can be done it’s all about being lucky I guess

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Yes it’s possible, 4 years I’m still going strong. We often go to the cinema and don’t have sex

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By *iobhan123Woman
over a year ago

Deal

Had one for 13 years, met on another well known swinging site, we did lots of nights away, meals, days out etc with the added bonus of the most amazing sex...ended last year sadly

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By *arco_pMan
over a year ago

Hednesford


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

ive been searching for a fwb for a while now in midlands and yet to find one to suit,

but hopefully you will as very sexy lady

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Got a regular fb from here, who I would also consider a friend. We don't have the social side, there are many reasons for that though and I would mainly rather do that stuff with my friends because I have limited free time so this arrangement is ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had one for 13 years, met on another well known swinging site, we did lots of nights away, meals, days out etc with the added bonus of the most amazing sex...ended last year sadly"

Have similar still

Going well

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

It’s what I am looking for but very difficult to find on here or outside of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Into month 5 with my fwb.

We meet 3 times a week and it suits us, hope it continues as we really do click. Have done many first together for each of us as the trust we have built in that time has allowed us to be comfortable with each other.

No subject is off the table and the communication and openness we have is second to none, many more plans made and we are both still exploring new things together.

Hope everyone here looking for the same finds it and fingers crossed that my journey with this woman continues for a very long time. You never know but I hope so

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I hope it is not unrealistic. I would love to see somebody regularly.

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
over a year ago

grangemouth

I don't agree

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

I’m still looking for a regular fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Myself and chesty are polyamorous so rather have regular play partners instead of 1 time deals. We're more into having our primary relationship, but also having other people join us regularly to build up the trust and connection to make it a more enjoyable experience for us

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If you set impossible expectations of what you want your fwb to be in looks body colour ect I would sat unrealistic.

I wiukd love rhis but long realised I do not fit into what people want and woykd never be considered

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By *arkjackMan
over a year ago

West Cork


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Definitely not an unrealistic fantasy, although I did end up marrying mine.

A"

Nice...

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

FWB/FB is my preferred style, I don't enjoy one offs as much as I enjoy meeting someone I already know.

I've found it incredibly difficult to find on here, and none of my current partners have been from this site.

Good luck to you, I hope you find what you're looking for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I did but both have retired to the coast infact ones not been on the site 6 months think the other half (bi couple) isn't or hasn't been too well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unrealistic we would say! "

Why is it unrealistic its supposed to be a sex site?

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

Had a couple of FWB type relationships but can be tricky, a relationship where you could go out, socialise clubs but keep it not too heavy is the ideal but life can have a funny way of dictating the reality from the fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky with the fwb I've had i take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would like to find a couple similar to ourselves

That we can socialise with added bonus

No blurred lines

Meet up,nights away, eventually hols

So you are not alone

Just finding the right people "

You seem very like us - wanting to meet people for the social side of things as much as the fun…

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find they last for a handful of meets and then you dont see them for dust.

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

I met a mine on a dating site, we saw each other for 10 months til he found a gf, was great fun..

Would like to find a replacement...

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By *zy88Man
over a year ago

leeds/ manchester

Im looking for a fwb around yorkshire if anyones interested

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By *lknhungMan
over a year ago

Luton

I don’t think it’s unrealistic I think it’s just hard finding someone that lives close enough to do it with.

I chat with people all the time that are looking for the same thing it’s just they live up north most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

28 years nearly 29 years in all those years we have only had 5 regulars depite always looking for regulars ... they are indeed very hard to find and even harder to get right

lots of factors to get right but often go wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you set impossible expectations of what you want your fwb to be in looks body colour ect I would sat unrealistic.

I wiukd love rhis but long realised I do not fit into what people want and woykd never be considered "

so people should not look for what they want ? just so people like you get a chance ?? we'd rather go without than drop our preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you set impossible expectations of what you want your fwb to be in looks body colour ect I would sat unrealistic.

I wiukd love rhis but long realised I do not fit into what people want and woykd never be considered

so people should not look for what they want ? just so people like you get a chance ?? we'd rather go without than drop our preference"

We would never drop our preferences and doubt any self-respecting person would either. Unless they just wanted a high body count

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By *ietsenmakerMan
over a year ago

Hartford

Regular FB/FWB are nice, I find better than one off's...had a few from here, then for work/moving they ended ..all married ladies( don't judge) and it was social and sex...not always both..It can work if both parties are flexible and understanding. I'm looking again just now for another friend

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman
over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Definitely possible, the friendship, and the benefits get better the more often you meet, that's what I've found anyway. One offs have their place but I much prefer regular

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Im interested in following this thats sort thing i want to find and hopefully the lady can help me choose clothes and give me tips on make up etc

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

It's tricky, ultimately I'm looking for a mature couple with benefits, ideally new and nervous swingers like me who I can form a friendship with with and have a bit of naughty fun with. My wife would know that I'n not with 'another woman' and maybe even meet socially one day. It's not happening but I'll keep searching.

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By *inky lady777Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

I've tried to have FWB but it didn't work out, you both need to be honest, mine wasn't,I don't want to meet lots of people, I think if he had been honest things would have worked out, because I am very open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Virtually impossible on here as a single guy. I'd love any kind of mix of FB Fwb at the moment it would suit me fine. Women mostly are looking for relationships though dressed up as Fwb and exclusivity too, which is unrealistic for me as I don't have much time for the couple things but really really miss intimacy and sex with a nice woman. Certainly Local to me there's very very little ladies that seem to want this.

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By *uddleWithCraigMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton or Travels

You have more luck finding Nessie or Big Foot ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not impossible but to find a FWB you need to meet and this is the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting to read the responses, I have a FWB which I prior to joining the forum, she is married with a hubby who works away a lot she is not interest in an affair and/or don’t want to leave her hubby, but does need attention, affection and a good hard fuck without complications every now and again !!

I’ve been her FWB for 6 years and it seems to work well for both of us, so to answer the initial question yes it can work but both of you need your eyes wide open before embarking on the FWB Journey

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I really didn't think having a regular or a couple of regulars could happen until just last week. I joined over a year ago just wanting to make and build trust with a few friends, couples mainly but was open to single females. It kind of happened when I quickly gained a couples trust and we had a few meets over a short space of time but then life gets in the way so regular didn't continue. Just last week after on and off occasional messages over a lot of months I met an amazing couple had an amazing time and quickly recieved a welcome message afterwards saying they would like me to be a regular, we just clicked, they had spent over a year between meets finding more idiots and chancers than people they were willing to chance meeting so when it happens it feels quite good. I've not met many people but been very lucky and met some amazing and realistic sexy people, this feels better knowing it could be regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really didn't think having a regular or a couple of regulars could happen until just last week. I joined over a year ago just wanting to make and build trust with a few friends, couples mainly but was open to single females. It kind of happened when I quickly gained a couples trust and we had a few meets over a short space of time but then life gets in the way so regular didn't continue. Just last week after on and off occasional messages over a lot of months I met an amazing couple had an amazing time and quickly recieved a welcome message afterwards saying they would like me to be a regular, we just clicked, they had spent over a year between meets finding more idiots and chancers than people they were willing to chance meeting so when it happens it feels quite good. I've not met many people but been very lucky and met some amazing and realistic sexy people, this feels better knowing it could be regular."

Sounds ideal. Hence what I often search for couples to see if that might work for me.. but I'm not interested in the bloke.. very straight so just depends on the dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a FWB last year which lasted around 6 months, but eventually it fizzled out as we both wanted different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really didn't think having a regular or a couple of regulars could happen until just last week. I joined over a year ago just wanting to make and build trust with a few friends, couples mainly but was open to single females. It kind of happened when I quickly gained a couples trust and we had a few meets over a short space of time but then life gets in the way so regular didn't continue. Just last week after on and off occasional messages over a lot of months I met an amazing couple had an amazing time and quickly recieved a welcome message afterwards saying they would like me to be a regular, we just clicked, they had spent over a year between meets finding more idiots and chancers than people they were willing to chance meeting so when it happens it feels quite good. I've not met many people but been very lucky and met some amazing and realistic sexy people, this feels better knowing it could be regular.

Sounds ideal. Hence what I often search for couples to see if that might work for me.. but I'm not interested in the bloke.. very straight so just depends on the dynamic. "

From a couples point of view, J (Mr) would love to watch me get fucked by another man. Not join in, just watch. Then fuck me himself afterwards…from my point of view, it would be quite nice if it was someone regular - and there’s ways of me helping both guys enjoy themselves without the guys ‘crossing swords’ so to speak lol

F (Mrs)

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Didn’t find them here but absolutely. Had a fabulous time with a lovely girl for a prolonged period of time. We’re still friends now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, still unrealistic

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By *iking_WitchWoman
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Into month 5 with my fwb.

We meet 3 times a week and it suits us, hope it continues as we really do click. Have done many first together for each of us as the trust we have built in that time has allowed us to be comfortable with each other.

No subject is off the table and the communication and openness we have is second to none, many more plans made and we are both still exploring new things together.

Hope everyone here looking for the same finds it and fingers crossed that my journey with this woman continues for a very long time. You never know but I hope so "

The best post I read today. Wishing you many more happy months and years to come.

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By *exyhotwife78Woman
over a year ago

Wrexham

Would love to find FWB who can accommodate locally to me in the evening

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By *annydevonMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Two couples I've met through fab have developed into fwb type thing with the wife / gf coming to see me and stay the night without her other half.

Both times the other half started to feel a bit jealous so we agreed to stop meeting.

To have a proper friend, with benefits would be the perfect situation for me and I'm sure a lot of others

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over a year ago


"I really didn't think having a regular or a couple of regulars could happen until just last week. I joined over a year ago just wanting to make and build trust with a few friends, couples mainly but was open to single females. It kind of happened when I quickly gained a couples trust and we had a few meets over a short space of time but then life gets in the way so regular didn't continue. Just last week after on and off occasional messages over a lot of months I met an amazing couple had an amazing time and quickly recieved a welcome message afterwards saying they would like me to be a regular, we just clicked, they had spent over a year between meets finding more idiots and chancers than people they were willing to chance meeting so when it happens it feels quite good. I've not met many people but been very lucky and met some amazing and realistic sexy people, this feels better knowing it could be regular.

Sounds ideal. Hence what I often search for couples to see if that might work for me.. but I'm not interested in the bloke.. very straight so just depends on the dynamic.

From a couples point of view, J (Mr) would love to watch me get fucked by another man. Not join in, just watch. Then fuck me himself afterwards…from my point of view, it would be quite nice if it was someone regular - and there’s ways of me helping both guys enjoy themselves without the guys ‘crossing swords’ so to speak lol

F (Mrs)"

Sounds fab .. id go for that.. xx

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By *obster_loveMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Which other site is it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one for five years

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

I found a long-term fwb during a previous Fab incarnation who I still see years later. It took a lot of meets to find someone that I clicked with though as the friendship is just as important as the benefits to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few longer-term fwb in the past. It's definitely doable, but it can be a challenge to find someone else who can meet at similar times to you on a regular basis. Takes some commitment, but definitely worth the effort if you find someone you click with. Previously was a bull for a cuckold couple for over 4 years, so can definitely happen in the right circumstances and situation.

Don't give up hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple of amazing male FWBs that I met through here.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I can imagine its harder to find a fwb if you are part of a couple, but it clearly is possible from some of these posts.

I've had a couple of fwbs over the years, longish term, no big feelings involved we just enjoyed our time together.

Unfortunately I haven't met anyone for ages who fits the bill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really didn't think having a regular or a couple of regulars could happen until just last week. I joined over a year ago just wanting to make and build trust with a few friends, couples mainly but was open to single females. It kind of happened when I quickly gained a couples trust and we had a few meets over a short space of time but then life gets in the way so regular didn't continue. Just last week after on and off occasional messages over a lot of months I met an amazing couple had an amazing time and quickly recieved a welcome message afterwards saying they would like me to be a regular, we just clicked, they had spent over a year between meets finding more idiots and chancers than people they were willing to chance meeting so when it happens it feels quite good. I've not met many people but been very lucky and met some amazing and realistic sexy people, this feels better knowing it could be regular.

Sounds ideal. Hence what I often search for couples to see if that might work for me.. but I'm not interested in the bloke.. very straight so just depends on the dynamic.

From a couples point of view, J (Mr) would love to watch me get fucked by another man. Not join in, just watch. Then fuck me himself afterwards…from my point of view, it would be quite nice if it was someone regular - and there’s ways of me helping both guys enjoy themselves without the guys ‘crossing swords’ so to speak lol

F (Mrs)

Sounds fab .. id go for that.. xx

"

I think there are lots of guys who would go for it, but it’s finding someone who is on the same wavelength, discreet, that you click with and trust…and that’s the challenge lol

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're in a very crowded boat

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

Id love the same, regular is definitely better

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Not unrealistic but as others have said wouldn't go searching as such. We met via Fab and have become a proper couple. Know others who have to and plenty of more casual FWB met via Fab couples. If you are looking for a regular FWB as a couple why not? We've got single friends who will play with more than one. Not everybody here just wants a quick shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I’d found two FWB but sadly it’s not working out due to work patterns etc but I know it is possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something we have considered but finding it a little difficult to find what we're looking for.

The search continues

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

At a point I had 3 FWBs at a time. Whoa, life was good. I am extremely fond of them… one I just don’t see anymore because life got in the way but we chat once in a while, the other two I see infrequently. I met them on here and I owe that to Fab. we saw one another frequently for about 2 years.

So it can happen. I am hoping to find at least one more FWB like that, but I am now aware that I was very lucky and I struck gold not just once or twice, but three times!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We seem to hook up with more fwb than actual married couples , I think quite a lot pair up just to get in club as couples

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By *ommy GentMan
over a year ago

Howden

From my experience it is like fantasy island.

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By *lirtingentMan
over a year ago

Stroud


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I have had a couple on here before...my most recent moved to Switzerland last year, so I find myself looking for a new one again. We still chat on WhatsApp and we met for a country walk followed by a great sex session when I was over there skiing in January.

I hope you find someone suitable soon. Its a great relationship to have

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Seems unrealistic, but maybe it’s just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s possible believe me

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It’s hard but possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hooked up with couples but I just wanna fwb localish to me but I seems impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB situation is ideal for me, whether that's with a cool couple or woman.

While sleeping with new people is fun, there's a lot to be said about getting to know some one sexually. Even though there's no more chase, the sex is often better as you find out what each other likes. It's also nice to make friends

So yes, very possible. And if you know anyone with the same mind set send them my way

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I can imagine its harder to find a fwb if you are part of a couple, but it clearly is possible from some of these posts."

I guess that makes sense. However, it was one of the things that attracted my fwb. I think she liked the fact that I was possibly less likely to develop feelings, as I already had Alice.

- Jack

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By *hoenix_1Man
over a year ago

richmond


"I had not expected this post to be from a couple.

If you look for it, you’ll be disappointed. Go looking for friends you can fuck, then keep being friends and fucking. Simple. And THEN stay friends even when you’re not fucking. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found it difficult. That said, I've met a few couples who met thru here X

It can work out for some. It's one of those X

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Unrealistic through site only I’d say despite majority claims this is what is being looked for.

However, few club visits followed by few chats after makes it possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldnt mind a nice fwb

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Have met a couple through here we are good freinds with that we meet regularly. Beyond that no, not for lack of trying. I (male).started seeing a lady with that intent but distance and life made it tough.

Had a few regular fwbs I met on other sites though. Pof for example back in the day. Knew about and met my wife before hand. Only ended because they found boyfreinds (which is fair enough).

Would.like to find a other regular lady but given up hope on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still hoping that I can find a reliable one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its absolutely real. I found one here and we talk all the time like mates. Have dinner together etc but spend entire nights fucking each other to bits. Dont give in just be patient

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

Still looking - too many men and not enough women to go around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few fwb on here over the years and even met my last dominant on here about 3 years ago! It does happen but I think it's more difficult to come by than 1 time things. Xx

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Thought I'd found one, but misunderstanding online put stop to that sadly.

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By *ellaluaWoman
over a year ago

Camberley

Harder than you'd think x

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By *acheal_30sTV/TS
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I've been looking for this for quite some time, there are two categories it seams, those who just want a casual quickie and those who want a proper relationship.... The middle ground is almost impossible to find x

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By *arco_pMan
over a year ago

Hednesford


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Noone knows whats round the. Orner, every scenario is different for the next person, couple etc.

I wish you both luck though.

But on a personal note i am yet to find that

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

Still looking for local fwb/FB with f or mf/ff couple

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

I would love a local fuck buddy

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I would love a local fuck buddy"

A fuck buddy and fwb are different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love a local fuck buddy

A fuck buddy and fwb are different "

How are they different I’ve never had either I thought they were the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen. I had 2 until the end of last year. Found both through Fab x

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

Of course they are the same. Some people just like to be clever when it just doesn’t matter as we all know what is meant

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

Lots of people have found a FWB on here. I myself was with a woman from here for 2 years with her husband's consent.

State clearly on your profile what you are looking for. Make people get to know you online for a while before you meet. That should hopefully get rid of the chancers looking for another notch on the bedpost and looking for a one-off meet.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Although we've not had proper play meets with couples yet, we have made firm friends with a few - and one or two singles also!

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

It is perfectly possible we are a FWB couple ...in fact were probably little bit more than that now,we met each other through fab and after 18 months of chatting ( covid stopped us meeting) and 6 months of meeting and playing were still going strong

We had both tried to find regular play partners before with varying degrees of success but when we finally met each other we new we'd hit the jackpot.

There is somebody for everybody just keep searching and you will find them

Miss P x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unrealistic I was one for ten years only just finished because of her health but still friends and talk most days biggest problem is meeting someone never mind more than once

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By *atisfiedSighWoman
over a year ago

NW Wiltshire

I rarely meet new people, and prefer to have a selected few Fab friends that I'll see occasionally. I feel safer with people I've got to know, and I find that repeat meets lead to better sex.

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Starting to think that me getting an FWB must be jinxed.

2 I thought would work out long term have now sadly gone wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love what most women seem to outwardly want too but it just doesn't seem to get off the ground on here and it's genuinely not anything to do with what I'm doing . . Every box of theirs USD tucked and I am genuinely seeking the same but the motivation for them to meet just disappears.. aka friend zone.. when it comes down to it most women don't have the balls (lol) to make it happen, they settle for the chase being enough it would appear.. I've been more successful at finding a fwb in the pub .. xx

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

It's not impossible, the ones "successful" enough to get a meet may just get a different meet every week, whilst Mr Perfect McFuckbuddy is sat on a shitload of unreplied messages.

Maybe see if you can get a couple to share their Mr with you, or even join in, as a regular thing. Plenty of couples in clubs are looking for someone they can trust instead of random.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’ve got a couple of friends that we enjoy socials with as well as play sessions.

They don’t live local but we go over to their area every so often and they come to stay with us.

They are our type of meets.

We’d love some local connections too.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to have a fwb, as rare as rocking horse shit on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of single guys and perhaps even more so on Fab have difficulty forming relationships for one reason or another and I know we’ve had a few that become touchy and try to get possessive dangerously quickly.

For this reason I think it may be unlikely but it does work for some.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I would love one

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By *nebworthMan
over a year ago

Knebworth

I have found friends with benefits on here, but usually lose them when they find boyfriends. Would love to offer to be a FWB for you both.

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By *arco_pMan
over a year ago

Hednesford


"I would love one "

me too

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I found my one and only fwb on here 7 years ago and we are still seeing each other now. We are good friends as well as lovers, and either meet alone or recently we've started meeting for mfm. So yes, it's possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to be easier to develop fwb connections on here but most guys that I come into contact with lately just want to shag as many women as possible

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By *heAddamsCouple
over a year ago

corbridge

It is perfectly possible.

We met a couple whilst on the beach at Cap, who turned out to live only 30 miles from us.

Met up on our return from France, and the relationship continued for about 5 years, meeting as a foursome and also on occasions going away seperately with the other male / female.

I (Jack) can remember going away to an hotel for a weekend with the other female, and whilst we were checking in she said "you should ring your wife and tell her we are here", in a voice that the receptionist was bound to hear! Fun times.

On reflection it appears that a relationship like this is exceedingly rare, where everyone gets on with everyone else, but it was immense fun!

Far better than a one off meet, as over time you learn what turns the other person on.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We’d love to find another couple or a single female/male who lived more local to us and we can hang out with as friends as well as have some fun with.

We’ve got two FWB’s who we do all kinds of things with and the sex has reached levels that we didn’t think imaginable, due to the trust we have between us. The problem is they live too far.

Some local people to Leeds/Lincolnshire would be perfect

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"It used to be easier to develop fwb connections on here but most guys that I come into contact with lately just want to shag as many women as possible"

Totally the opposite, looking for a very small number or even a single woman that can join our bi throuple. Quality over quantity.

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By *lue NoteMan
over a year ago

Chertsey


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

When my ex girlfriend/ fab partner were together, our intension was to find a couple or singles we could hang out and be friends with, not just to fuck. In our experience - and in spite of making our intensions clear, the people we met turned out to be quite disingenuous and only after the novelty of fucking a new couple. My recent experience of being single has not prove n to be much different.

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

I’m still looking for the elusive fwb

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Yes I've found a few on here

One we were meeting regularly for 8months then he got a girlfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to help out, pop a hello in my inbox

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

Mine was not from fab, but I would say the odds are higher here than anywhere else I have seen.

Three years of mutual sporadic fun and frolics and we both totally got each other but without the emotional involvement.

Lots of genuinely interested people here so hopefully finding somebody that clicks will happen. Best thing is not to stress over it and what will be, will be.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’m still looking too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im looking for reg chatting to a few

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By *ietsenmakerMan
over a year ago

Hartford

Had a few over the years on here.... one for 2 years until her and hubby moved to Norfolk...another for 10 months until she met up with an old flame...then another for 18 months but that was long distant so a wee but tricky to keep up with.... still looking...even though I am getting older...lol

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Absolutely nothing wrong with a regular FWB, in fact it helps if you get to know the person better and can do that thing they like, help them explore things that are more adventurous and push boundaries. Nothing to stop you seeing new people on a night out, but piling into a room with a group of your favourite people is truly magical.

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By *renchy19Man
over a year ago

Heathrow

Perfectly possible to find a FWB.

I had a FWB for nearly 6 years. Since that ended I have met another lady. Admittedly both I met elsewhere ( one from another site and one at a club) but you just have to have the luck to meet someone looking for the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just not happening on here these days. Despite many profiles claiming to want this and you meeting their description of what they are looking for, they aren't prepared to chat or meet. Particularly in Scotland it's just a non starter. It's more the failing of online as opposed to people but we are all victims of this modernist way of cultivating relationships.. back to the pub .. plant the pampas grass ..

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Definitely possible I have had one before , currently a vacancy if any ladies would like to submit their CVs...

Harry

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By *hogun300Man
over a year ago

Dundee


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

It's difficult but realistic, iv met both my gf and a regular on here.

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

It's not unrealistic, as long as everyone understands it's just FWB and nothing more

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I had a couple where I wad fwb but after we lost contact never since. Its incredibly rare.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I don’t think this is rare or unrealistic.

This is what most men in my inbox want (unfortunately I don’t!).

Loads have FwB of sorts- depends on what rules/ boundaries you want. What I see as a fwb others don’t x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think this is rare or unrealistic.

This is what most men in my inbox want (unfortunately I don’t!).

Loads have FwB of sorts- depends on what rules/ boundaries you want. What I see as a fwb others don’t x"

Are you not just over complicating things .. another common thing on here .. as if there's this huge grey area around each of the many phrases and words folk use to describe their 'sexuality' .. all very modern...

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I don’t think this is rare or unrealistic.

This is what most men in my inbox want (unfortunately I don’t!).

Loads have FwB of sorts- depends on what rules/ boundaries you want. What I see as a fwb others don’t x

Are you not just over complicating things .. another common thing on here .. as if there's this huge grey area around each of the many phrases and words folk use to describe their 'sexuality' .. all very modern... "

There is a massive grey area around the title “FWB”. I think if your clear about your wants and boundaries there is no grey area.

Completely the opposite of what you said.

If someone’s happy with how they describe themselves sexually then that’s fine

Some modern things are good

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By *eregrinosCouple
over a year ago

chorley

My FWB of 7 years became my significant other, and that has been the case for the last 7 years, so 14 years all told.

So I'd say a regular FWB is unlikely in the long term. It'll either become more? or less?

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By *opscaff8Man
over a year ago

royston

I’ve had a couple of fwb but they got to heavy but I think it’s brilliant as you get to enjoy it more and no arguing

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By *ister1Man
over a year ago

north west

I’m still looking for one x

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By *lirtyAndFun OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rushden


"My FWB of 7 years became my significant other, and that has been the case for the last 7 years, so 14 years all told.

So I'd say a regular FWB is unlikely in the long term. It'll either become more? or less? "

Its a shame though.

It would become less if that were the case, me & V are amazing together.

I just like having more sex & fun, if it was with a regular guy that would be perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, unrealistic fantasy.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

We started out as FWB

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I have a couple and a female FWB they are 1st amazing friends and great company. They are very local which is nice the couple moved this way after spending time here.

It's not unrealistic just something that can be hard to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two FWBs, both of almost a year. I agree they’re hard to find and you NEED to regularly communicate and have an agreement on what “FWB” means *for you*. There is no one definition.

Personally I have feelings for both of my FWBs but that doesn’t mean we have to stop being FWBs or that we need to escalate the relationship to partners. It just means we need to be open, honest, communicate clearly and keep checking in with each other.

I think people assume being FWBs is “easier” than being partners but IMHO it takes just as much work, especially since you didn’t have the same standard “framework” that being boyfriend/girlfriend has.

Both my FWBs fulfil different needs for me. FWB #1, I message every day and FaceTime maybe once a week, but we hardly ever see each other irl because of his circumstances. FWB #2 I see about every 2 weeks and we visit clubs etc together, but we communicate less often. I feel very emotionally close to #1 because we communicate so much. I feel less emotionally close to #2 but obviously we are physical more often.

So I get my needs met between the two - emotional intimacy and physical intimacy.

They’re FWBs not my boyfriends because we are very much “enjoying this for what it is” and not planning any long-term commitments. If we stay together long term then great, but we’re not planning any of the standard “escalator relationship” stuff (date exclusively, move in, get engaged, get married).

We are all free to date other people, as long as we keep each other vaguely informed of any developments. Both my FWBs know of each other’s existence but haven’t met (we don’t plan for that to happen).

The advice I’d give to anyone who wants an FWB is to be clear about your expectations (there are NO set rules for FWBs), COMMUNICATE, respect the other person and their needs, don’t be afraid of “feelings” or think you “have” to do something if you develop them, work on the relationship like you would any other and keep checking in on each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading some of the messages on this thread I’m guessing I’m going to get replies saying this is too complex or “modern” etc. But what’s more complicated, two people negotiating an FWB situation that meets both their needs/expectations and leads to respectful, mutual fun; or just jumping into an FWB situation with no agreements or communication, which can lead to mismatched expectations, hurt and drama.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We have a small circle of friends for our meets. Some new ones join our circle while others dwindle and move on. It’s a constantly evolving thing.

Sometimes old friends contact us after an amount of time, and as long as they haven’t done anything shitty, we generally welcome them back.

Works for all of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

The first person I ever mnet on Fab became a regular FWB for quite a while, so it can definitely happen.

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By *iam3434Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Had one before from on here we used to go to clubs quite a bit but then she started to get too attached so unfortunately it had to end. Was fun whilst it lasted though

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've found an amazing FWB on here. Neither of us went looking for one or tried ticking any boxes but we found after a while that we enjoyed being friends as much as we enjoyed having sex.

I've seen lots of threads with people listing what they are looking for and hoping that will be enough. It rarely is.

You either have to be on the same wavelength or it's not going to last very long.

The best way I describe it is when you are able to be completely raw and naked with someone while still fully dressed then you know it's going to work.

Others may have different suggestions as I haven't read much of this thread but it's definitely not a fantasy.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

This is exactly what I have with mine

And we've gone beyond FWB status

To those that seek it all I can say is be patient don't lose hope and keep trying

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By *hrobinhoodMan
over a year ago

arnold, Nottingham

I’m still looking for one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to have a couple of FWB's to go on socials with that end in naughty fun or just to have regular fuck sessions with but 99% of the time people rather just have 1 time things (which is absolutely fine), i enjoy sex.

Has anyone actually found a FWB on here & it worked out or is it an unrealistic fantasy?"

I was a bull for a cuckold couple and met with them regularly for 4 years, before they stopped playing due to the wife's personal family issues.

So I think you can have regular friends with benefits. But it's not an easy thing to find.

I think most people enjoy the thrill, build up, anticipation and sexual excitement of meeting someone new.

The initial connection is full of potential and sexual promise.

I think the reality is that sometimes once we've had what we first wanted so badly before we had it, the desire naturally ebbs.

Perhaps why we want the forbidden fruit. But once tasted the appeal is lessened.

It could be just a plain fact that for most people once they've done the deed with someone a few times, that thrill is diminished, and it's more thrilling to once again initiate the thrill of the unknown, the thrill of the chase, and the mysterious excitement of pastures new.

Also in this modern fast paced technological world fomo is ramped up to the extremes, when you have a potential new penis or vagina to try out only a few flirty messages away.

Saying all that, I do think that having a regular friend with benefits can be fantastic, and I hope to find some similar kind of arrangement again someday with a woman or couple.

Here's hoping

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By *uscle88Man
over a year ago

Potters Bar

I’m looking for a FWB myself. I want an older women, MILF/ COUGER early 40s - late 50s but trying to build momentum in conversation is non existent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had two over 10 years. It can happen but mostly people just want random hookups even if they say something else.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Hope everyone looking will find one (or two)

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