FabSwingers.com forum: Opinions on looks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all

This is one of those threads. I'd really appreciate some tips regarding my pics, or my profile text even.

I've been trying to make it concise, so that it's easy to read.

My second question is about my looks. You can see that I like to keep a smooth shaved body and face, and also love my long hair. I'm also in decent shape, I think.

I realize that for some this might give off bottom boy vibes.

But I'm not into Men or the macho aesthetic in general. I'd only consider bottoming for fem folks/ladies etc.

Is my style and preference combo too niche for anyone to find attractive or be interested in?

Any help is much appreciated x

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Many people will slag this off as a 'fishing for praise' thread.

But you're cute as. I would...

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By *ysteriousgirl97Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"Hey all

This is one of those threads. I'd really appreciate some tips regarding my pics, or my profile text even.

I've been trying to make it concise, so that it's easy to read.

My second question is about my looks. You can see that I like to keep a smooth shaved body and face, and also love my long hair. I'm also in decent shape, I think.

I realize that for some this might give off bottom boy vibes.

But I'm not into Men or the macho aesthetic in general. I'd only consider bottoming for fem folks/ladies etc.

Is my style and preference combo too niche for anyone to find attractive or be interested in?

Any help is much appreciated x"

Realistically it's a niche combo. But there will always be people interested. Are you sending the right types of messages?

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey

In your question above you have been more precise in clarifying your preferences than you are in your profile.

If your experience is that people are confused by the combination of your looks and what you are seeking then add some more words to your profile to make it more clear

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I wonder if using "boi" in your name is also sending out a "no girls" vibe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for the input.

Seems a username change and description update are in order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has someone out there that finds them hot - just be authentically yourself and the right people will self select!

One of my favourite quotes that makes me feel better about being fat and naked on the internet - ‘you can be the sweetest, most juiciest peach but there’s always people out there who don’t like peaches’

I personally love a guy with femme traits.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"In your question above you have been more precise in clarifying your preferences than you are in your profile.

If your experience is that people are confused by the combination of your looks and what you are seeking then add some more words to your profile to make it more clear"

Spot on! Keeping a profile concise is good but this is some vital info, which I believe most of the people you're looking for would gladly scan through, (and for the rest maybe some educational reading lolol)

I adore your looks, and attitude! (pretty allergic to machismo). Yes your combo of looks/orientation is pretty niche, you knew that already though. But you probably also know you're very attractive so I'm sure you can generate some interest ha.

Apropos my boyfriend who is cishet often worries that some of our pics (not currently shown) make him look emasculated, and that they put straight folk off him&us. So for his sake we vary approaches - and sure enough when we dial down the queerdo element and play to stereotypes we get much more response and attention, it's a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To repeat the famous quote - ‘Be yourself; everyone else is already taken’.

Don’t worry about potentially being niche, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. You’ll potentially avoid a lot of unworthy attention and for the people who do ‘stick’ to you, you’ll most likely be exactly what they want given those specific qualities.

Don’t compromise your individuality for popularity, especially not for this place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is the response you get. If you’re attracting what you’re into leave it as is. If not change it. But don’t change yourself.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I get what your saying about the assumptions people make on sexual preference based on your looks. To some extent I'd be guilty of making the same. However people are the best and sexiest when they are comfortable in their own skin and just do them. So be yourself, don't be someone your not. I'd say that yes your probably a bit niche and that is a downer to opportunity. But imagine the chemistry when you do find people who are right for you? Too many people try to fit a mold that isn't them and eventually if you do this it all comes apart.

Also do you attend clubs or socials? The reason I ask is it's hard to put across who we are or our nature on line. In the physical world it's much easier for people to get a feel for how awesome we are. Often leading to us liking people we wouldn't have looked twice at from their profile (taken from experience as a single and part of a couple in the club scene).

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

You have given more information in your op than you have in your bio. Maybe add to it and be clear what you want and looking for. Good luck

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hey all

This is one of those threads. I'd really appreciate some tips regarding my pics, or my profile text even.

I've been trying to make it concise, so that it's easy to read.

My second question is about my looks. You can see that I like to keep a smooth shaved body and face, and also love my long hair. I'm also in decent shape, I think.

I realize that for some this might give off bottom boy vibes.

But I'm not into Men or the macho aesthetic in general. I'd only consider bottoming for fem folks/ladies etc.

Is my style and preference combo too niche for anyone to find attractive or be interested in?

Any help is much appreciated x"

It’s the username mainly for me, I read it as you’re looking for cute guys not feminine people.

Pictures are fine and I suspect you get a lot of interest on the site. But to narrow down to those you’re actually want to meet or engage with, I’d add more to the text and change the username.

Good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I wouldn't be interested because of your age. Cute and boi also reinforce that age divide.

I also like hairy dad bod types.

But, not being my taste doesn't mean you're not the next ones taste.

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