FabSwingers.com forum: Dilemma

By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

Be careful is all I'll say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 year age gap here and no issue

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

In what way?

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

That’s always good to know

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Who are you replying to OP?

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Who are you replying to OP?"

Apologies….. meant to reply to you and quote you

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

There was a 15yr age gap between me & an ex

& one of my best friends is 20yrs younger than her husband

As long as you both ok with it I don't see the issue, it's not like she's 17/18

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"There was a 15yr age gap between me & an ex

& one of my best friends is 20yrs younger than her husband

As long as you both ok with it I don't see the issue, it's not like she's 17/18 "

Thank you for the support/understanding, guess will see how it goes. I honestly thought she was 25/26 not that I can confess that too her

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Who are you replying to OP?

Apologies….. meant to reply to you and quote you "

The age gap is not an issue.

Someone lying that much about their age to get laid is the concern.

What other lies might she make up?

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Who are you replying to OP?

Apologies….. meant to reply to you and quote you

The age gap is not an issue.

Someone lying that much about their age to get laid is the concern.

What other lies might she make up?"

I don’t think she lied as such, more I misjudged her age until the next day

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Who said she lied?

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"Who are you replying to OP?

Apologies….. meant to reply to you and quote you

The age gap is not an issue.

Someone lying that much about their age to get laid is the concern.

What other lies might she make up?"

Has she lied? The op doesn't say so.

If she has, ditch her.

If she hasn't it's fine imo

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

I'm failing to find the problem.

I might not chose to actively look for a 22 year old if I were looking for a partner, but if I happened to find someone I liked and she turned out to be 22 that seems a daft reason to cut it off early.

Enjoy it while it lasts OP.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

If you are having fun you should go for it, age is only a number so enjoy.

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"I'm failing to find the problem.

Enjoy it while it lasts OP."

Thank you……. Have my reservations but may just stay with the extra large smiles for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you planning the marriage already?

If not then just be in the moment.

She’s an adult.

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"If you are having fun you should go for it, age is only a number so enjoy.

Thanks….. looks a very fun house you have there

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Are you planning the marriage already?

If not then just be in the moment.

She’s an adult. "

This is very true and I plan too

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"If you are having fun you should go for it, age is only a number so enjoy.

Thanks….. looks a very fun

house you have there

Our house is a very fun house indeed.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

If she’s ok with it, and you have no issue with it, enjoy it while it lasts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age gaps are sort of my specialty lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You say she 'confessed' to being 22 as if it's something to be ashamed of.

If it's a problem for you that's not a great start.

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By *klad84.37 OP Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"You say she 'confessed' to being 22 as if it's something to be ashamed of.

If it's a problem for you that's not a great start. "

It’s not a problem at all…… I think. She confessed in in that awkward kind of way that it maybe an issue for her too but none the less she is coming over later

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You say she 'confessed' to being 22 as if it's something to be ashamed of.

If it's a problem for you that's not a great start.

It’s not a problem at all…… I think. She confessed in in that awkward kind of way that it maybe an issue for her too but none the less she is coming over later "

Well my opinion is that life is a very brief affair, if some happiness and pleasure comes your way grab it with both hands

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Why, as long as it's mutually fun for both of you and you have no concerns about her stability and decision making? On the flip of that I had a causal arrangement with a woman I originally met in town and had a one night stand with. I was 20 and she was late 30s. We clicked, we were both consenting adults who knew our own minds and what we wanted. We both had no aim of it going anywhere just enjoying it and our time together for what it was. It was a lovely period of my life and there was completely nothing wrong in it.

Go for it. Just make sure if it's more than a one off you communicate clearly with her where you see things going and be sure she has the opportunity and ability to express herself back. You do want anyone to be messed aroun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is no dilemma if you know her true age and she knows yours, have fun with it, 15yrs isn't a huge gap really.

Enjoy

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I honestly don’t think it is that bad. As long as it’s consensual which I think it is. There shouldn’t be a problem. Simple really

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Personally I'd find it rather thrilling to have sex with someone that has probably never seen an episode of Bullseye. Just remember to keep out of the black and in the red, nothing in this game for two in a bed etc.

In all seriousness, if no one is getting hurt (RACK/PRICK aside) then enjoy it and each other.

Bon chance!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

Be honest and tell her your age. Then she can make an informed decision as to whether to carry on seeing you. If she has no problem with the age gap you then have to decide if you have a problem with the age gap.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

One thing to add though, If you start seeing each other at the moment age will not make a difference. You will be able to keep up with each other. However in 20 years' time if you are still together she will still be able to party hard. You will hs struggle. As you get older the age difference will make a difference.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"[b}Personally I'd find it rather thrilling to have sex with someone that has probably never seen an episode of Bullseye[/b]. Just remember to keep out of the black and in the red, nothing in this game for two in a bed etc.

In all seriousness, if no one is getting hurt (RACK/PRICK aside) then enjoy it and each other.

Bon chance!"

Who hasn't got a modern TV with channel 48 on it lol?

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Age is but a number if your both having fun and yes she is an adult what is the problem just look at some celebs they date a lot younger girls

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London

I was in a similar scenario a couple of months ago. A new barista came to my local coffee shop and my jaw dropped to the floor the very first time I saw her. I'm 41, and I thought she is around 24-25 so felt the difference too much, and decided to behave myself and not do anything.

Still, as the weeks have gone and we met multiple times in the coffee shop, I could not stop myself to flirt a bit and once I said okay, let's try and ask her out for a dinner. To my biggest surprise, she happily said yes. We were chatting in the restaurant when the age came up, she said she thought I am around 35-36... And she wasn't 25, but 21... These days the look of young girls can be tricky!

So I told her, thank God we haven't met last year, as I was more than double your age then, but not anymore!

But even worse, when she told me that she is the oldest of 3 siblings, and as I knew that she grew up in India, where people rarely start families in their late thirties, I had to ask how old are her parents. And... They were younger than me...

Even though nothing sexual happened between us, we went out a couple more times together and enjoyed our time a lot, I even felt the funny looks of the waiters on my back... In the end, we decided to stop, because of the age gap, and in our story, I think it was the right decision.

Contrary to one comment above, I think as the time goes on, if the older part of the couple takes care of himself and keeps fit, the 15-20 years age gap will be less of an issue when they are 35-55/45-65 then now when the girl is in her early 20s.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

You both enjoyed the time you shared together, and age wasn’t mentioned at the time, so what’s the problem? If you get on well, just go with the flow

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Don’t see the issue with it. I’ve been meeting older men ever since I started swinging at 23.

People always have their reservations about younger gals but the only drama I’ve ever seen on fab/ Kik and clubs is older couples ha.

If you have reservations then why waste yours/ her time?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Age gap relationships never work.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Age is but a number. Maturity is everything.

If you are both into each other go with the flow see where it takes you.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

I don't see that as being a bombshell, nothing wrong with that age gap at all. Embrace it and just have fun.

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"Who are you replying to OP?

Apologies….. meant to reply to you and quote you

The age gap is not an issue.

Someone lying that much about their age to get laid is the concern.

What other lies might she make up?"

Where did she lie. She was never asked, from what I can see?

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

A relationship (even with someone of a similar age) can sometimes be tricky, but I’d jump at the chance of a younger woman. Just be honest and see if you have some fun. Life’s too short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age difference is more of a stereotypical perception from people who haven't yet met many of the happy couples who have age gaps. My suggestion would be to not overthink or analyse too much. Just be yourself, relax and what will be will be. (good or bad - it is what it is as long as you're true to yourself)

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Age is less important than getting on, having a connection and fun times. Sometimes age can cause a generation gap, but it doesn’t have to. Enjoy it I say x

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just enjoy

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"So…… I met a very nice young lady when out with friends on Friday. No intentions of meeting anyone but that’s how these things always happen

Anyway she came back to mine and spent the night with me, was mind blowingly good and the repeat in the morning was equally good when both stone cold sober.

Then the bombshell came when I booked her a cab back to her parents and she confessed to being 22.

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

Does she know your age?

If you like each other I can’t see an issue. I was in a 20 year relationship and he was 18yrs my senior , it amazing and Im grateful we had the 30 years we did.

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By *iggstimpyCouple
over a year ago

South East

Met my wife at 40/25. Been together 8 years, married 2. No problem.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I really don't feel it is an issue unless you feel it is

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By *eau and ArrowCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

We met on here 3.5 years ago and there is 15 years between us…..we couldn’t be happier (of course there may be a subsequent post contradicting this from arrow)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

how did it go in the end??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP

My dilemma is that she is coming over tonight and do I politely end it because of the age gap or enjoy and see what happens noting I’m 37

how did it go in the end?? "

He's probably napping after she wore him out

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By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Realistically the age gap isn't that bad.

Your not breaking the law.

The only issue that exists is the life experience gap. Sometimes that can be hard work!

You just have to see where it goes. It can work it might fail but so can any relationship.

Just both if you enjoy yourselves and see where it goes. Worrying about it and over thinking it will only make it go one way.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Just enjoy the good sex and don’t breathe anything into it. Maybe you will just have a few Fucks and part ways over a month or two. Maybe you will date.

Just enjoy the time or make it clear age gap is a problem for anything serious

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