FabSwingers.com forum: Single guy needs your help.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on fab for a few weeks now and I'm really struggling to strike up a conversation with anyone. Bar the bloody timewasters.

I'm becoming utterly disheartened and am considering closing my account.

Can anyone give me a little advice please.

Thanks ever so much.

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By *umplay1969Man
over a year ago

Coggeshall

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By *umplay1969Man
over a year ago

Coggeshall

I've been on 3 months now and only just started to get chatting with a few. Talking in the forum is a good way to get your name/profile out there.

Consider being a site supporter, £5 for 60 days. It's well worth it and easy to do. Your be able to use more of the site and people will see your more serious about meeting, rather than being someone who makes a profile up just to look in the goes. Think about more photos, and face pics are good. There are loads of cock pics on here but there will only be one of your face pics.

Be honest with people and have fun. It will happen, just hang on in there.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get in the chat room and get ur face on cam. Just chat normal and people will start to talk to you . Go to socials and make contacts . Also good pics on your profile help no willy shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just close it then,no good posting in forum for sympathy it never helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not posting for sympathy.

I'm merely requesting the help of people who know the site better than I do.

So please. Unless you have something constructive to say I'd much rather you didn't say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not posting for sympathy.

I'm merely requesting the help of people who know the site better than I do.

So please. Unless you have something constructive to say I'd much rather you didn't say anything. "

Your profile says one week and you have a veri so what you moaning about lol and forums open for anybody to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as above comments say.

u really arent standing out..one cock shot...not much else.

I'd also lose the boasting part about being a freak cos u make women cum really hard..(well thats the implication I'm reading)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not posting for sympathy.

I'm merely requesting the help of people who know the site better than I do.

So please. Unless you have something constructive to say I'd much rather you didn't say anything.

Your profile says one week and you have a veri so what you moaning about lol and forums open for anybody to reply

Verification was from well before I joined fab. An old fb.

And yes you're right forum is for everyone to reply.

I guess I just hoped that I'd maybe get a little more support rather than being accused of attention seeking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as above comments say.

u really arent standing out..one cock shot...not much else.

I'd also lose the boasting part about being a freak cos u make women cum really hard..(well thats the implication I'm reading)"

He don't want to be a freak but he can't help himself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good point.

You kind of forget that the written word is the only view people get of you. Apart from the pics.

Point very much taken.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not posting for sympathy.

I'm merely requesting the help of people who know the site better than I do.

So please. Unless you have something constructive to say I'd much rather you didn't say anything.

Your profile says one week and you have a veri so what you moaning about lol and forums open for anybody to reply

Verification was from well before I joined fab. An old fb.

And yes you're right forum is for everyone to reply.

I guess I just hoped that I'd maybe get a little more support rather than being accused of attention seeking. "

dont worry..I say the same thing to couples and fems.

basically get off ur arse is my usual statement lol-some unfortunately think FAB;s handed them a plate full of fuck as soon as they join lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"as above comments say.

u really arent standing out..one cock shot...not much else.

I'd also lose the boasting part about being a freak cos u make women cum really hard..(well thats the implication I'm reading)

He don't want to be a freak but he can't help himself

Catnip I honestly don't know what your problem is but I am only trying to gain some advice from people far more experienced than I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as above comments say.

u really arent standing out..one cock shot...not much else.

I'd also lose the boasting part about being a freak cos u make women cum really hard..(well thats the implication I'm reading)

He don't want to be a freak but he can't help himself

ur comments are a bit nasty..but cos uve hot tits...I'm ignoring the comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been on 3 months now and only just started to get chatting with a few. Talking in the forum is a good way to get your name/profile out there.

Be honest with people and have fun. It will happen, just hang on in there.

Good luck.

Cheers man.

Guess the theme for tonight is "must try harder" lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on 3 months now and only just started to get chatting with a few. Talking in the forum is a good way to get your name/profile out there.

Be honest with people and have fun. It will happen, just hang on in there.

Good luck.

Cheers man.

Guess the theme for tonight is "must try harder" lol.

more advice...dont get stroppy, even in the face of comments etc...(not saying u have lol), but remember at the end of the day..this site is mainly about nsa meetings...or in simpler terms, a shag.Its nothing to get worked up about...and if u ever do...just understand it happens alot and its not just u in particular finding it difficult starting off.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"as above comments say.

u really arent standing out..one cock shot...not much else.

I'd also lose the boasting part about being a freak cos u make women cum really hard..(well thats the implication I'm reading)

He don't want to be a freak but he can't help himself

ur comments are a bit nasty..but cos uve hot tits...I'm ignoring the comments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a woman's point of view, you have 1 pic of a cock (like I don't know what one of them looks like), your profile pic is a silhouette, and your text doesn't really inspire me. You've only been on a week so you are a newbie, you need to stand out from all the other men, and there are hundreds of them...

So, what I would do is add more pics, even get a photo verify, get on cam and start chatting to get some veris, put your name down for socials (there's loads at Christmas), don't take it serious, and have patience. Most people won't meet people that have been on less than a month or 2, as they have a tendancy to 'bugger off'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From a woman's point of view, you have 1 pic of a cock (like I don't know what one of them looks like), your profile pic is a silhouette, and your text doesn't really inspire me. You've only been on a week so you are a newbie, you need to stand out from all the other men, and there are hundreds of them...

To be honest hun getting pics is not that easy.

I am always so very self conscious.

Having had a quick spy at your pics which may I say are very very nice, I'm worried that my pics will put people off.

I probably sound like a bit of pussy but I guess it's just me trying to get my head around the fact that the people on here are far more open.

Thank you so much for all your help. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get good pics, try a camera with black and white setting (failing that use a free editing programme like picassa), get a tripod, use timer setting and have patience! Black and white is more forgiving I find, that's why I use it. And if you think your pics will put people off, then you must think that of yourself, as your pics are going to be of yourself! Believe me, there is someone for everyone here, but not showing any other part of your body but your cock is not going to do you any favours. Try a butt shot, a torso shot, anything, and have a face pic in private you can send people if they ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To get good pics, try a camera with black and white setting (failing that use a free editing programme like picassa), get a tripod, use timer setting and have patience! Black and white is more forgiving I find, that's why I use it. And if you think your pics will put people off, then you must think that of yourself, as your pics are going to be of yourself! Believe me, there is someone for everyone here, but not showing any other part of your body but your cock is not going to do you any favours. Try a butt shot, a torso shot, anything, and have a face pic in private you can send people if they ask."

No I have organized there. Hee hee.

I do have a face pic ready to send.

My other issue is that all my use of fab is done via my phone. Laptop has gone to the big comet in the sky. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep - I agree - get some tasteful photos rather than a cock pic - personally that puts me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been on here a year and only had ine meet... Theres loads if single guys on here and its a big compation... What makez you stand out?.. How would you improve your chances.. These are the 2 things you gotta loook at... Go to clubs and prove your not a time waster.. Only thing i can give you advise on... Id go to clubs if i lived close enough to one... Unfortunayely there isnt one in my area and id have to travel a fair distance.. Dont moan on the forum.. I send like 20 emails a week with no replay. Just keep trying and dont be pushy.. Best advise i can give at the moment...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep - I agree - get some tasteful photos rather than a cock pic - personally that puts me off!"

See.

This I'd why I asked.

Thank you very much for your input.

I shall spend some time revamping my profile pics.

Cheers for all your help. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I been on here a year and only had ine meet... Theres loads if single guys on here and its a big compation... What makez you stand out?.. How would you improve your chances.. These are the 2 things you gotta loook at... Go to clubs and prove your not a time waster.. Only thing i can give you advise on... Id go to clubs if i lived close enough to one... Unfortunayely there isnt one in my area and id have to travel a fair distance.. Dont moan on the forum.. I send like 20 emails a week with no replay. Just keep trying and dont be pushy.. Best advise i can give at the moment... "

I don't mean to come across as moaning.

I apologize if I did.

I don't know if there are any clubs near me.

I better investigate that one.

Cheers for the help.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't mean to come across as moaning.

I apologize if I did.

I don't know if there are any clubs near me.

I better investigate that one.

Cheers for the help. "

Well I chucked you when you called a female poster 'hun' and quite a few women will.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

If you look under the advice forum you ll find lots of threads that give positive suggestions regarding profile hints and tips,..

The site gives you the tools , its upto you how you use them.

If you re still disheartened, its time to go, this is for fun with a capital F..

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've been on fab for a few weeks now and I'm really struggling to strike up a conversation with anyone. Bar the bloody timewasters.

I'm becoming utterly disheartened and am considering closing my account.

Can anyone give me a little advice please.

Thanks ever so much.

You've been here a week. It's a swinging site, not insta-shag. You need patience. If you joined thinking you'd just get instant meets then it's unlikely to happen.

Your profile is your shop window / advert on here. If it doesn't stand out from all the other profiles that are contacting the same people you are then you're probably not going to get much of a response. Do you think it stands out as it is now??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on fab for a few weeks now and I'm really struggling to strike up a conversation with anyone. Bar the bloody timewasters.

I'm becoming utterly disheartened and am considering closing my account.

Can anyone give me a little advice please.

Thanks ever so much.

Your profile comes across as arrogant, you picture looks like the million others on here, there's no details really about you, your likes and dislikes, what kind of women do you prefer?

As has been stated above, work on what you have done already, be a bit more specific and don't be so quick to 'snap' if someone writes something you don't like. Join in the forums, go on chat and upload pictures of you, not just your cock.

Good luck

Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have got club f and secrets on your doorstep maybe give them ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what she said

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By *anda man.Man
over a year ago

Stockport

The Dreaded Single Male eh?

I've been on Fab for over a year now and i'm twenty years older than you..i get loads of pussy via Fab.

If you're not the shy type?

Look on Fab for Couples..GangBangs.

For the first 6/7 months on Fab i "fished" for single women..

Doesn't matter mate if you've got a 15" cock and can eat pussy for two hours without coming up for air..for every woman on Fab who's single or playing as a couple there's 20/30 single Guys to one of them..

Once you've eleminated all those with 18crt fannies you've cut the odds down but it's still a grind to get some feed back..

I tried the Swingers Clubs with a little success in as i got a few contacts,but very little Fanny opportunities there (unless you count the subtle Brass that frequent these Clubs)

If you don't mind a Hubby/Fuckbuddy/Partner watching you fuck his Mrs then try the Cuck scenario's.

I opened my profile to allow single guys to contact me..99% of the people who Host GangBangs/Housepartys are Guys..simple enough to delete and block the cranks and undesireables.

Good luck,you'll find your niche'.

Dennis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip?

If you're looking for feedback and advice - post in the relevant forum section.

A lot of people do - and that's where you can also check out previous posts to see feedback and suggestions given to others. In general - the advice will be much the same!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on fab for a few weeks now and I'm really struggling to strike up a conversation with anyone. Bar the bloody timewasters.

Well you have come to the right place at last! you say on your only other post you are good at striking up conversations off the site, so do it here on the forums where people are chatting, then once known your private messages may get more response.

Signing up and randomly sending PM's is about equivalent to standing in the street flogging utilities to busy shoppers, you are unknown and in the way of the destination.

Use the forums, chat rooms, socials but get known so you are perhaps a little more welcome when you strike up a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you very much all.

Your help has been amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you very much all.

Your help has been amazing. "

did ya get a shag from it?? hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been on here a couple of months mate. Have met and obviously played with 4 ladies. Have also had a lot of messages ignored and deleted. It's a bit like being in a nightclub as a teenager, you just take the knockbacks and move on. I got another lady visiting on Tues and another wants to come down in near future. I always send a reasonably long and tentative message, a face and a cock shot, above all, be polite, honest and respectful, you'll get there eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on 3 months now and only just started to get chatting with a few. Talking in the forum is a good way to get your name/profile out there.

Be honest with people and have fun. It will happen, just hang on in there.

Good luck.

I don't agree that paying a fiver shows you are more serious as not everyone can afford it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you very much all.

Your help has been amazing.

did ya get a shag from it?? hehe"

Not yet buddy.

Still trying. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are frustrated after a week then just wait till you get to 3 months and nothings changed.

Just don't take it seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider being a site supporter, £5 for 60 days. It's well worth it and easy to do. "

Sorry but I disagree. It makes noooooooooo difference paying the fiver. The only advantage is that you may or may not be able to see who has viewed you're profile

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By *umplay1969Man
over a year ago

Coggeshall

Consider being a site supporter, £5 for 60 days. It's well worth it and easy to do.

Sorry but I disagree. It makes noooooooooo difference paying the fiver. The only advantage is that you may or may not be able to see who has viewed you're profile"

Maybe that's why you've had no luck in 3 months ? Shows a bit of commitment I think. I've done ok by it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Ensure your profile stands out, and really describes you well, especially if you don't have a range of photos on it.

Single guys really need patience, if they're not going to get disheartened. You'll also benefit from being flexible, letting others know what areas you're prepared to meet in, how much travel etc - even down to when you have availability.

Don't assume that you can only get to know people on here as potential future fb's, as many of us are here for each other in very supportive ways. There are some real stars amongst fab members, and my life's the richer for it.

Above all, assume it could take months to get things flowing, and any more is a bonus. Take responsibilty for how things work, as you seem to be starting now, and don't solely rely on Fab for swinging, as there are clubs and socials etc.

Good luck!!

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