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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just want to rant really!!

I kept getting messages from a single guy, and being polite, I sent messages back saying ''no thank you''

I thought that he had got the message as I didnt hear from him for a while, then tonight, I got another message from him, so I sent one back saying I still wasn't interested. He obviously didnt like that so he sent me several rude messages back, using swear words, daring me to block him, and saying that I was too old for him, and then of course the cutting final comment was that he ''didn't meet fat birds anyhow''

Bless him, being desperate obviously made him rude, why dont the single men on here learn that just coz its a swinging site, it doesn't mean that all us single women are slappers, or desperate.

The only time anyone has the right to treat me like a slapper is when I know them really well, have amazing sex with them and of course I want them to!!

Thanks for listening!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

block them straightaway and don't react

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By *rbadguy64Couple
over a year ago

bangor

Name and shame the obnoxious wee shit , so everybody can block him

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

and because of men like that we all get tarred wth the same brush and some of us are actualy quite nice nt me im a rude one bt some of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and because of men like that we all get tarred wth the same brush and some of us are actualy quite nice nt me im a rude one bt some of us "
why oh why do some men do it, im married but treat people with respect and courtesy, and like to think i get treated the same

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

we have one side to a story so naming and shaming never really works.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and because of men like that we all get tarred wth the same brush and some of us are actualy quite nice nt me im a rude one bt some of us "

He probably had an incredibly small penis to go with his even tinier brain cell!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sadly there are rude people in all categories on here, always best to report abuse and rise above it.

name calling them really does nothing but take people to the same level as the person being highlighted in the OP's thread.

if a female slags guys off, hordes of 'great' guys come forth and say how outraged they are.

if a guy opens a thread slagging off a lady, the opposite happens

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

No one should ever *dare* another person to block them...

...but the beauty of the button is that rude and plainly absurd utterances that are spat out like the proverbial dummy suddenly meet a brickwall of silence, and the problem is immediately removed, and breathe

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I did report him, only thing to do, and try to rise above it, just cheeses me off that there are still guys on here like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people cant accept rejection once you have replied once being polite. Best to block or ignore save the situation getting to that stage you should not have to but that seems to be the best way.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I had exactly the same last year after hurlin insults at me he blocked me lol. I just went to my status left a message there namin him and said I may be fat but I can lose weight your ugly can I suggest a plastic bag. It was quite funny lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did report him, only thing to do, and try to rise above it, just cheeses me off that there are still guys on here like that"

Can I also add rudeness is not just an issue for single guys I have spoken to single ladies and couples that are rude. But they are so far up their own ass they don't even realise.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Tell him to fuck off then block him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True enough,, works all ways I guess, I just expect everyone to be like me and be ''normal'' with manners,,, perhaps expecting too much on a swining site?

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

im the same like to be polite bt mst say ur prob in the minority as u actualy answerd wth a polite no thanks alot dont bother answering at all which i find v rude x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!"

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had such meesages many times from guys ive said no to, i find them quite amusing so carry on mailing them to see what desperate measures they will go to to show they 'arnt bothered anyway'

i usually finish it with a message along the lines of...wow you must have really liked me to be this upset i said no

just turn it back on them they soon bugger off

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

im sure half the guys on here dont norm look at other guys, yet half of who looks at me are blokes explain that one??

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"sadly there are rude people in all categories on here, always best to report abuse and rise above it.

name calling them really does nothing but take people to the same level as the person being highlighted in the OP's thread.

if a female slags guys off, hordes of 'great' guys come forth and say how outraged they are.

if a guy opens a thread slagging off a lady, the opposite happens"

Well said

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Ive had such meesages many times from guys ive said no to, i find them quite amusing so carry on mailing them to see what desperate measures they will go to to show they 'arnt bothered anyway'

i usually finish it with a message along the lines of...wow you must have really liked me to be this upset i said no

just turn it back on them they soon bugger off"

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!"

it is possible that women you wouldnt look twice at actually wouldnt look twice at you either and just because they turn you down for a meet does not mean they think they are better than you it just means they also have preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?"

because they think 'ugly' women are desperate and will be a easy shag and thats why they get angry and abusive when the women turn them down

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

maybe ur rite, i never said i get abusive im always polite wen i get turned down,and i always make sure im punching way below my weight, wen i get knocked back aswell its good 4 the soul....

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!"

Ooooh what a charmer!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

Ooooh what a charmer!"
im actualy joking but wen u get treated like i have on here wen ive been nothing bt polite to people who i message its enough to annoy u a little and pos make u rude!! and a charmer i agree in def not ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just want to rant really!!

I kept getting messages from a single guy, and being polite, I sent messages back saying ''no thank you''

I thought that he had got the message as I didnt hear from him for a while, then tonight, I got another message from him, so I sent one back saying I still wasn't interested. He obviously didnt like that so he sent me several rude messages back, using swear words, daring me to block him, and saying that I was too old for him, and then of course the cutting final comment was that he ''didn't meet fat birds anyhow''

Bless him, being desperate obviously made him rude, why dont the single men on here learn that just coz its a swinging site, it doesn't mean that all us single women are slappers, or desperate.

The only time anyone has the right to treat me like a slapper is when I know them really well, have amazing sex with them and of course I want them to!!

Thanks for listening!! "

Sounds absolutely familiar. We reporrted the guy in our case for doing this....but still notice he's around on this site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just block them and remember that other guys are respectful of your wishes.

and if he makes up another profile just to contact you again go to admin with it.

sorry youve had this problem,manners cost nothing and as i said not all are the same.

hope it doesnt change your _iew on us singles.

take care.x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I find posts like this somewhat annoying as people upset themselves.

If someone contacts you outwith your criteria and you choose to communicate with them then don't complain when they become rude and a pest.

I'm not condoning their behaviour, but isn't no, block, concentrating on those you're interested in a better use of your time and less bother?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Some people cant accept rejection once you have replied once being polite. Best to block or ignore save the situation getting to that stage you should not have to but that seems to be the best way."

My point exactly...hardly rocket science.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"im the same like to be polite bt mst say ur prob in the minority as u actualy answerd wth a polite no thanks alot dont bother answering at all which i find v rude x"

...and what did she get for her efforts?!! Rudeness...oh the irony!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im the same like to be polite bt mst say ur prob in the minority as u actualy answerd wth a polite no thanks alot dont bother answering at all which i find v rude x

...and what did she get for her efforts?!! Rudeness...oh the irony!"

Exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single or couple - a message that doesn't interest you should be ignored, deleted or responded to with a polite no thanks if you choose.

An abusive message should be reported and the user blocked.

What else would you need to do? Nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block and delete after receiving the first unsolicited first message if I have no interest in knowing the person to prevent any comeback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did report him, only thing to do, and try to rise above it, just cheeses me off that there are still guys on here like that

Can I also add rudeness is not just an issue for single guys I have spoken to single ladies and couples that are rude. But they are so far up their own ass they don't even realise."

I COULDN'T AGREE MORE ! Some couples and ladies, well quite a few really think they really are special when in fact they are not and they are dreamers. I could name but I won't. Can't see the point to be honest but hey what ever rocks their boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!"
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Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far, I haven't had any rude messages, most don't bother to reply which is kinda rude, I guess if you think how many messages some folk get, they can't really be expected to reply to every single one. As long as when you do reply, you aren't nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!.

Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles. "

Perhaps they are on here for the same as the rest of us NSA sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!.

Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles. "

One mans meat is another mans poison!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So far, I haven't had any rude messages, most don't bother to reply which is kinda rude, I guess if you think how many messages some folk get, they can't really be expected to reply to every single one. As long as when you do reply, you aren't nasty. "

The op is a prime example why for some, not responding to people you have no interest in is the best option. The op responded with a no thanks to be met by rudeness from a petulant man with a sense if entitlement.

Who wants to be insulted when you're only looking for fun?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"So far, I haven't had any rude messages, most don't bother to reply which is kinda rude, I guess if you think how many messages some folk get, they can't really be expected to reply to every single one. As long as when you do reply, you aren't nasty.

The op is a prime example why for some, not responding to people you have no interest in is the best option. The op responded with a no thanks to be met by rudeness from a petulant man with a sense if entitlement.

Who wants to be insulted when you're only looking for fun?"

and even the OP confessed on another thread to sending rude messages to some guys who send cock pics...

it is a strange old world this swinging malarky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested"

How is it rude?

We send messages that get ignored or deleted, we just move on and don't get our knickers in a twist over it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested"

When I'm meeting my profile is very specific: absolutely no ambiguity with regard to the type of man I'm looking for: tall, straight, single, white, local sub men.

I also have I won't respond to anyone outwith my criteria.

Therefore, I think it VERY RUDE if a short, black, married, bi Dom from Glasgow writes to me when they're the antithesis of what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol my knickers are not in a twist about it at all but in my opinion its just rude, end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested

When I'm meeting my profile is very specific: absolutely no ambiguity with regard to the type of man I'm looking for: tall, straight, single, white, local sub men.

I also have I won't respond to anyone outwith my criteria.

Therefore, I think it VERY RUDE if a short, black, married, bi Dom from Glasgow writes to me when they're the antithesis of what I want.

"

WELL OBVIOUSLY I WOULD READ YOU'RE PROFILE AND NOT MESSAGE YOU , some of us men can read

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


"Name and shame the obnoxious wee shit , so everybody can block him "
bad advice , no name and shame on site and its dropping to there gutter, report block move on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We also only reply to messages of people that interest us, we don't care if we are considered rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also only reply to messages of people that interest us, we don't care if we are considered rude.

"

Well that's what you are, and that's what ruins this site, just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also only reply to messages of people that interest us, we don't care if we are considered rude.

"

Well that's what you are, and that's what ruins this site, just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also only reply to messages of people that interest us, we don't care if we are considered rude.

Well that's what you are, and that's what ruins this site, just saying "

Swinging is something we do for fun, not to get wound up over messages of people we don't know and will proberly will never meet.

I work 12 hour shifts sometimes, then have kids to get home to homework housework ect so have absolutely no intention of replying to people who we don't want to meet.

When we have adds on for group meets we will get a lot of messages and replying to them all would take up some of the very little spare time I get.

We used to reply to messages thanks but no thanks but got fed up of the abusive messages we got back.

If someone doesn't reply or deletes message it's not rocket science to realise that they are not interested in meeting.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

an arse.... is an arse..... is an arse..

regardless of it being a single man.... a couple ... or heaven forbid a single lady...

I can show you some messages from couples and single ladies I have said no thank you to.... so I hate it when titles like the above come up.....

it makes it seem as if it a single guy problem when it is not an exclusive issue...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?"

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested"

So you're saying that because someone didn't reply to your message you're entitled to send them an abusive message? Is that right?

I used to find it frustrating to not get replies but I never thought I'd be justified in sending someone a shitty message because of that. I don't go in for the whole "no reply is just like dealing with junk mail through your letterbox" which is often spouted, but I'd not consider a lack of reply as an invitation to insult someone.

I'd really be interested to hear your reasoning behind your approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We also only reply to messages of people that interest us, we don't care if we are considered rude.

Well that's what you are, and that's what ruins this site, just saying

Swinging is something we do for fun, not to get wound up over messages of people we don't know and will proberly will never meet.

I work 12 hour shifts sometimes, then have kids to get home to homework housework ect so have absolutely no intention of replying to people who we don't want to meet.

When we have adds on for group meets we will get a lot of messages and replying to them all would take up some of the very little spare time I get.

We used to reply to messages thanks but no thanks but got fed up of the abusive messages we got back.

If someone doesn't reply or deletes message it's not rocket science to realise that they are not interested in meeting."

It may be rocket science to some because they still message me after i have deleted their message, or not replyied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that."

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested

So you're saying that because someone didn't reply to your message you're entitled to send them an abusive message? Is that right?

I used to find it frustrating to not get replies but I never thought I'd be justified in sending someone a shitty message because of that. I don't go in for the whole "no reply is just like dealing with junk mail through your letterbox" which is often spouted, but I'd not consider a lack of reply as an invitation to insult someone.

I'd really be interested to hear your reasoning behind your approach."

No of course I don't send shitty messages, just saying I consider it rude if I have sent a nice message and its ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me! "

Yawn! I'm sure you've scored some brownie points with lots of people you'll never meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me! "

They lower their standards because they have too.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that."

Talk for yourself....not ours!

Would rather not bother than meet someone just for the sake of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me!

Yawn! I'm sure you've scored some brownie points with lots of people you'll never meet."

Sorry - are we keeping you up?

As for the brownie points - you keep em. I'll just stick to what I'm doing now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and because of men like that we all get tarred wth the same brush and some of us are actualy quite nice nt me im a rude one bt some of us why oh why do some men do it, im married but treat people with respect and courtesy, and like to think i get treated the same"
. I'm not rude either so many people are on here tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me!

Yawn! I'm sure you've scored some brownie points with lots of people you'll never meet.

Sorry - are we keeping you up?

As for the brownie points - you keep em. I'll just stick to what I'm doing now! "

Not keeping me up. Just boring me.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"If I have taken the time to send a nice message to somebody then the least you can do is reply even if its "a thanks but no thanks" . To just ignore it is in my opinion VERY RUDE. I would much prefer that , you wouldn't get a nasty message from me and I would no you are not interested"

in the real world whats the difference between someone saying no.... and someone not replying....

aren't they in effect the same outcome...

the only difference in them that I see if that of ego bruising...

maybe i should now send back messages saying "no thanks, but hey.. you go and keep on trying out there!!! "

if the ego is that fragile then I would suggest swinging is not really for you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the message is unsolicited, I do not feel obliged to respond, no matter how well it is written.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats 4 sure even the single ladys , because they hold the monopoly on this site, they can think they are better than u even if u wouldnt norm look twice at them!

if you wouldn't normally look at them, why do so on here ?

Because with nsa sex, the bar is set lower. You know that.

Your bar maybe!!

Mines actually a lot higher than it was when I was 'straight dating' - I expect nothing but good sex and good company from my meets, as that is what I offer!

Why anyone would choose to lower their standards is beyond me!

Yawn! I'm sure you've scored some brownie points with lots of people you'll never meet.

Sorry - are we keeping you up?

As for the brownie points - you keep em. I'll just stick to what I'm doing now!

Not keeping me up. Just boring me."

There's some good stuff on the telly later!

Just a thought!!

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By *orset manMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Of course this guy is a disrespectful toe rag- but many , many couples and single ladies are sometimes rude on their profiles- treating us single chaps as all the same and having a long list of dos and dont's including a 'code' to type in before the recipient of the message will claim look at it.

I often look at a profile and disgusted by this attitude

If anyone pisses you off- just block- no drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did report him, only thing to do, and try to rise above it, just cheeses me off that there are still guys on here like that

Can I also add rudeness is not just an issue for single guys I have spoken to single ladies and couples that are rude. But they are so far up their own ass they don't even realise.

I COULDN'T AGREE MORE ! Some couples and ladies, well quite a few really think they really are special when in fact they are not and they are dreamers. I could name but I won't. Can't see the point to be honest but hey what ever rocks their boat"
now this is the issue i have i no longer get messages from guys (i love filters) i am ony looking for girls i know shock hard to believe but its been on our profile rite from the start and fliters were added about two weeks in when guys still messaged asking me to either meet behind partners back or telling me what i was missing. that is why single ladies and couples got cross cause most of the message they recieve r from people they don't want harsh but true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately there are a great deal of single men who are rude who do nothing to enhance the chances of the genuine people on here. This is equally true at clubs we have noticed.

As we're not looking for men, we've applied a filter for mail but still get pestered by men (some, not all) in chat.

If this site is as typical as non sexual dating sites, then invariably men outnumber women by some margin and must remember that for every initial mail they might receive from a woman, that woman has probablt received 10 mails and simply doesn't have time to reply at length, if at all.

Rudeness is part of life and all we can do is take the rough with the smooth, and try to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not some men are very genuine and very real and very nice

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Yes they are - but they often get lost amongst the terminally stupid and rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they are - but they often get lost amongst the terminally stupid and rude."

Exactly , and that's not right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another day another single guy post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single gents gems are about, just need to be very patient in order to find them, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they are - but they often get lost amongst the terminally stupid and rude.

Exactly , and that's not right"

Then I think the key is to try your best to differentiate yourself from those kinds of people - be they singles, couples, male or female!

Portray yourself well via your profile content - text and pics, your status updates and profile headers, messages and forum posts!

Getting stroppy, whiny and coming across in a negative manner (and this is not directed specifically at anyone!) or adopting the techniques used by so many - and regularly commented on in a negative way by couples and singles - one liner messages/cut and paste, expectancy of replies or meets, no pics/cock pics only and not reading profiles before attempting contact!

There's no 'magic formula' to getting things right - but there seems to be a general consensus of opinion on the ways that more often than not get things wrong!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

These threads are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day I know I have never been rude , I am very genuine and real and I don't care what anybody else thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im the same like to be polite bt mst say ur prob in the minority as u actualy answerd wth a polite no thanks alot dont bother answering at all which i find v rude x

...and what did she get for her efforts?!! Rudeness...oh the irony!

Exactly!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe it or not some men are very genuine and very real and very nice

"

How you can describe yourself as 'very nice' after saying 'Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles' just beggars belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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How you can describe yourself as 'very nice' after saying 'Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles' just beggars belief."

just saying some ladies don't live in the real world that's all and think they are something they definitely are not which then results in them thinking they can be rude and abusive to men when all they have been is nice.

For me personality is the most important thing when im looking for me, shape and size is not important at all.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Believe it or not some men are very genuine and very real and very nice

How you can describe yourself as 'very nice' after saying 'Lets face it some ladies are only on here because to get sex this site is there only hope , this is very obvious by the pics they post on their profiles' just beggars belief."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's meant to say "looking for a meet"

I know I can never win , what ever I say :D . So will leave it at that. Just think single blokes get a very raw deal on here, and take a lot of shit they definitely don't deserve. No offence intended whatsoever :D. Goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's meant to say "looking for a meet"

I know I can never win , what ever I say :D . So will leave it at that. Just think single blokes get a very raw deal on here, and take a lot of shit they definitely don't deserve. No offence intended whatsoever :D. Goodbye"

I can assure you that any lady who has met you would be highly offended if they read that comment. Luckily for you not many people read forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's meant to say "looking for a meet"

I know I can never win , what ever I say :D . So will leave it at that. Just think single blokes get a very raw deal on here, and take a lot of shit they definitely don't deserve. No offence intended whatsoever :D. Goodbye

I can assure you that any lady who has met you would be highly offended if they read that comment. Luckily for you not many people read forums."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I can assure you that any lady who has met you would be highly offended if they read that comment. Luckily for you not many people read forums."

No they wouldn't , the ladies / couples i have met have all been very nice and GENUINE and down to earth and don't pretend to be something they are not. I don't meet. just anybody. like i said shape and size does not matter to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above posts aside I do think single men get a bit of a hard time on here in respect to them being rude, sending friend invites without message first and not reading profile etc. ....Whilst it does only take a few to spoil it for the rest being that they are a minority group compared to couples this is easily done. But we get just as many if not more random friend invites from couples more often than not with no pics at all. And a lots of messages with a profile reading " fill in later or looking for fun" you know the usual to lazy to fill in despite being a member for 6 months. It seams some couples feel because they are a couple this Is somehow acceptable but it the boot were on the other foot and a male did it to them they would be taking to the streets with pitch forks in hand. We received a message the other day asking if we "wanted to meet tonight for bareback fun" we kindly replied that it was a kind offer but our profile does state we can't meet at short notice and we only played safe do we would not be taking them up on thier offer and hoped they found some fun. The reply was " yea we did see that but thought we would ask anyway " !!! Now if that was a single male ????? Right who wants to give me a hand down off my soap box ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the above posts aside I do think single men get a bit of a hard time on here in respect to them being rude, sending friend invites without message first and not reading profile etc. ....Whilst it does only take a few to spoil it for the rest being that they are a minority group compared to couples this is easily done. But we get just as many if not more random friend invites from couples more often than not with no pics at all. And a lots of messages with a profile reading " fill in later or looking for fun" you know the usual to lazy to fill in despite being a member for 6 months. It seams some couples feel because they are a couple this Is somehow acceptable but it the boot were on the other foot and a male did it to them they would be taking to the streets with pitch forks in hand. We received a message the other day asking if we "wanted to meet tonight for bareback fun" we kindly replied that it was a kind offer but our profile does state we can't meet at short notice and we only played safe do we would not be taking them up on thier offer and hoped they found some fun. The reply was " yea we did see that but thought we would ask anyway " !!! Now if that was a single male ????? Right who wants to give me a hand down off my soap box ? "

Completly agree. Are you off you're soap box ? :D I'm off mine :D . Going to bed

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I personally haven't come across a person that has been rude to me after rejection.

I guess the person doing it has low self esteem, do they really think they would have a chance in hell of ever getting a meet with a woman after that!...I see it as a case of treat the mean keep them keen gone badly wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him to fuck off then block him"

That's not a good idea to do as its tit for tat and Admin may consider it pointless doing anything against him then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the above posts aside I do think single men get a bit of a hard time on here in respect to them being rude, sending friend invites without message first and not reading profile etc. ....Whilst it does only take a few to spoil it for the rest being that they are a minority group compared to couples this is easily done. But we get just as many if not more random friend invites from couples more often than not with no pics at all. And a lots of messages with a profile reading " fill in later or looking for fun" you know the usual to lazy to fill in despite being a member for 6 months. It seams some couples feel because they are a couple this Is somehow acceptable but it the boot were on the other foot and a male did it to them they would be taking to the streets with pitch forks in hand. We received a message the other day asking if we "wanted to meet tonight for bareback fun" we kindly replied that it was a kind offer but our profile does state we can't meet at short notice and we only played safe do we would not be taking them up on thier offer and hoped they found some fun. The reply was " yea we did see that but thought we would ask anyway " !!! Now if that was a single male ????? Right who wants to give me a hand down off my soap box ? "

I get quite a few, mostly those that are cheating that think I will change my mind for them, as you say thought they would ask anyway as they are in a hotel near me and wife is the other end of the country so she is not going to know along with single guys who are down this way in a hotel and looking for fun ie something to pass the time away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Believe it or not some men are very genuine and very real and very nice

"

Yes some of them are, it's just a shame that in that group, some don't read profiles first before they send a message though I suspect, given I get an influx into my inbox on a Saturday morning that most are looking for something to do at the weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well apparently as I am 41 and overweight it's compulsory for me to meet any man who is kind enough not to vomit over my pics, I should be happy that they can still get it up despite me being as attractive as a decomposing hippo lol, luckily as a hippo I'm pretty thick skinned and let it just wash over me, however that applies to a tiny minority of men on here and I've been lucky enough to make some really great friends and had some amazing meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It boggles my mind each time I see guys being stupidly hypocritical like that. Some girls i've got on well with have shown me how some guys can turn in messages.

One minute they are saying how great the pics are and what they'd like to do. Then after rejection they suddenly insult and make out that they didn't want it anyway when they clearly did. I honestly couldn't believe what i'd been shown.

Are these guys like 5 years old or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you kept getting messages before despite saying no thanks maybe you should have already blocked him

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