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Cuckold couples - husbands fantasy/wants vs mine

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By *oobyHotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Id like some advice from other cuck couples, especially the female halves if your dynamic is similar to ours

My husband and I both swing, we have a couples and solo profiles, he's free to meet who he wants as am I but with me he has definite cuck tendancies ie he likes me going with bigger guys telling them & him how good they feel how much bigger and better they are than him etc

Now I love being with other guys and of course if I'm enjoying myself I let they guy know but I'm really not keen on the idea of belittling my husband & to be honest it's never been to much of an issue as he is shall we say blessed in the trouser department anyway so finding someone bigger is rare

During lockdown we discovered cocksleeves and I must admit although it only gives and extra inch in length & girth I can really feel the difference and enjoy it, as does my husband, so the talk comes back to me & bigger guys all the more often, especially if he wears the sleeve for a bit then takes it off and enters me again, he loves the feeling of me being looser but then I can barely feel him making the sex less enjoyable

So my question to cuck couples is if you meet bigger guys especially if meeting them regularly does your husband still satisfy you in the same way or is that the point the humiliation the cucks are after that only the other guy can satisfy his wife

I've never really felt apprehensive swinging as sex with my husband is always my preference everyone else is just my hobby a bit of fun but I know my personality I can see me becoming addicted to bigger guys and my husband no longer hitting the spot for me so to speak, he loves this idea yet I kinda feel it's not good ground to be on, as I know how I feel on meets when guys aren't as blessed as they claim to be so don't fill me the way I want to be filled the way my husband does so I go through the motions etc & don't cum until after they've left when my husband takes over & I don't want to end up in that situation with him where I can't cum unless il with someone else or he's wearing the sleeve

It's kind of an ironic situation to be in as other cuck couples meet him to be the bigger guy/bull

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

If you aren't sure, if you have those kind of doubts, you should probably hold off until you have gone through all these concerns with hubby properly.

Potentially spoiling the sex you enjoy with hubby is a big risk for a pay off that doesn't sound like you are into at all.

My Mrs gets bored I think with how often I keep reiterating to her that she shouldn't do anything she isn't completely comfortable with, I will never stop saying it though, because We are the most important part of any of this. I would give the same advice to anyone.

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By *oobyHotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Id never do anything I'm not happy with hence the question we've been swinging for 7yrs and this is the only thing we aren't really on the same wavelength over

I understand that for some they'd enjoy knowing they can't satisfy their partner (like I said my husband definitely finds the idea a turn on) but I can't help thinking if it become a reality he wouldn't be so happy, if he genuinely couldn't satisfy me any longer

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By *oobyHotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Id never do anything I'm not happy with hence the question we've been swinging for 7yrs and this is the only thing we aren't really on the same wavelength over

I understand that for some they'd enjoy knowing they can't satisfy their partner (like I said my husband definitely finds the idea a turn on) but I can't help thinking if it become a reality he wouldn't be so happy, if he genuinely couldn't satisfy me any longer "

Thinking about it more it reminds me of when we started swinging, we were both sure of how we'd feel with the other being with someone else, but we each had doubts on how the other would react, it took 3 years of discussions before we finally done anything I guess this is kinda the same I have to trust my husband will be ok knowing he'll never satisfy me, now I just have to work out if I'd be ok with that

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By *uckoldDesiresMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I think you need to ask him this question. If he cant satisfy you then its likely he cant satisfy other women (who you say he also plays with).

Size isnt everything when it comes to satisfaction.

I guess you and he need to decide if you want to take a certain pathway together which may result in his not just feeling inadequate but also being so at times.

For me personally Im quite well hung but Im inherently submissive and love the humiliation of the act rather than the size commentary but as you know everyone is different and no two situations are identical.

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales


"Id never do anything I'm not happy with hence the question we've been swinging for 7yrs and this is the only thing we aren't really on the same wavelength over

I understand that for some they'd enjoy knowing they can't satisfy their partner (like I said my husband definitely finds the idea a turn on) but I can't help thinking if it become a reality he wouldn't be so happy, if he genuinely couldn't satisfy me any longer "

Concentrate on how your husband not being able to please you would make you feel, there is no need to worry about how it would possibly make him feel if it isn't something you want.

If it is something you both want to try and it doesn't work out, from a physical point of view everything would go back to how it was soon enough anyway. Doesn't come across as what you want though.

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By *oobyHotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"I think you need to ask him this question. If he cant satisfy you then its likely he cant satisfy other women (who you say he also plays with).

Size isnt everything when it comes to satisfaction.

I guess you and he need to decide if you want to take a certain pathway together which may result in his not just feeling inadequate but also being so at times.

For me personally Im quite well hung but Im inherently submissive and love the humiliation of the act rather than the size commentary but as you know everyone is different and no two situations are identical."

To me size is important, probably because it's what I'm used to, he's big so smaller guys just don't hit the spot so to speak

He does satisfy me now that's the issue, I don't want to lose that, I enjoy bigger guys but don't want it to get to a point where I prefer them to him

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

We’ve been a cuckold couple for a good number of years now and over that time my wife has gotten used to playing with more well endowed guys. We are still in a very loving relationship and would never be apart from one another but she does love the intimacy of playing with ‘larger’ guys. I think as a couple it very much depends on your needs and wants and also if the cuck can handle his wife taking ultimate pleasure from other guys. It’s a difficult one but one you have to get your heads around to make it work.

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By *elanieforyouTV/TS
over a year ago

, Ashburton sometimes Penzance

Would love to find a Bi Cultured Bull in Devon, for myself and lady friend , but guys seem so shy

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By *niformed professionalMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Cultured Devon bull here

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By *imGimMan
over a year ago

london

Re: cuckold, is it the husband or wife who is the instigator?

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

Just a thought - how does he know the guys you have sex with are bigger than him? (Beyond you telling him…) Unless he sees photographic evidence, he doesn’t know…

So, sleep with guys who are smaller than he is but just tell him they were massive. You don’t have to worry about your husband no longer being big enough (which honestly I doubt would ever actually become a problem) and he gets the cuckold experience he’s looking for

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By *imGimMan
over a year ago

london

A lot of emphasis on the couple, but not the “guest”. There have been situations I’ve turned up where it’s like I’m providing a service, and you are can be seen like an unpaid escort service

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By *ixenCuriousWoman
over a year ago

Manchester region

We were in exactly the same situation, we predominantly swing, Cuckolding is an added perk!

We think of it like enjoying a massive steak, it’s amazing, but you wouldn’t want it every night else it wouldn’t be special. Hubby is my love and sex with him is still great, but we both enjoy me being used and stretched out occasionally x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"We were in exactly the same situation, we predominantly swing, Cuckolding is an added perk!

We think of it like enjoying a massive steak, it’s amazing, but you wouldn’t want it every night else it wouldn’t be special. Hubby is my love and sex with him is still great, but we both enjoy me being used and stretched out occasionally x"
That's a very good way of putting it. I like the steak analogy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find what works for you both , communication is your best friend xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not blessed neither am I small; for me it’s the watching and seeing her moans and cum completely different to what I do, I like a little verbal but not over the top, it’s more the excitement of watching her if that makes sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of emphasis on the couple, but not the “guest”. There have been situations I’ve turned up where it’s like I’m providing a service, and you are can be seen like an unpaid escort service "

Because this IS about the couple, she’s asking for advice re her relationship! FYI this isn’t about you, start your own thread if you have an issue!

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By *otwifecuckkCouple
over a year ago

chester

My mistress (wife) says size definitely matters and she loves big cock. Would love to get to the point where she is so stretched by fucking guys lot bigger than me that she tells me I do not satisfy her greedy pussy anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of emphasis on the couple, but not the “guest”. There have been situations I’ve turned up where it’s like I’m providing a service, and you are can be seen like an unpaid escort service "

if you dont like it then dont meet cuckold couples ??

everything about cuckolding is about us as a couple the 3rd person is just that a 3rd person ? we have regular guys we've know for years who ''get it'' they see how strong we are and why it works ... they are involved and when playing they are my main aim to please we have great sex but they will never get from it what we do ..we do this for us without that there no cuckold theres no us ... the 3rd guy will always be just the 3rd guy ...most get it and grab as much fun as they can those that dont get it dont get a second chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id like some advice from other cuck couples, especially the female halves if your dynamic is similar to ours

My husband and I both swing, we have a couples and solo profiles, he's free to meet who he wants as am I but with me he has definite cuck tendancies ie he likes me going with bigger guys telling them & him how good they feel how much bigger and better they are than him etc

Now I love being with other guys and of course if I'm enjoying myself I let they guy know but I'm really not keen on the idea of belittling my husband & to be honest it's never been to much of an issue as he is shall we say blessed in the trouser department anyway so finding someone bigger is rare

During lockdown we discovered cocksleeves and I must admit although it only gives and extra inch in length & girth I can really feel the difference and enjoy it, as does my husband, so the talk comes back to me & bigger guys all the more often, especially if he wears the sleeve for a bit then takes it off and enters me again, he loves the feeling of me being looser but then I can barely feel him making the sex less enjoyable

So my question to cuck couples is if you meet bigger guys especially if meeting them regularly does your husband still satisfy you in the same way or is that the point the humiliation the cucks are after that only the other guy can satisfy his wife

I've never really felt apprehensive swinging as sex with my husband is always my preference everyone else is just my hobby a bit of fun but I know my personality I can see me becoming addicted to bigger guys and my husband no longer hitting the spot for me so to speak, he loves this idea yet I kinda feel it's not good ground to be on, as I know how I feel on meets when guys aren't as blessed as they claim to be so don't fill me the way I want to be filled the way my husband does so I go through the motions etc & don't cum until after they've left when my husband takes over & I don't want to end up in that situation with him where I can't cum unless il with someone else or he's wearing the sleeve

It's kind of an ironic situation to be in as other cuck couples meet him to be the bigger guy/bull"

i dont think its a road you should take if your worried about the sex not being as good any more most wives who cuck there husbands know the sex with hubs/cuck is ''not'' as good as it is with others cuck knows wife knows hence being cuckold ....

maybe sit down a re talk things find out whats really wanted maybe steer more towards stag and vixen and / or hotwife because the cuckolding lifestyle is very different and needs to be spot on honest with each other and what you want cuckold couples are rock solid couples who know 100% what they want..

not saying your not a rock solid couple but you deffo need to sit down and talk you need to be very open very honest about what you want ... all cuckold couples are different no 2 will be the same its so personal between husband and wife so much so that its differcult to get the right advice for you ....

my paymates are always bigger than cuck (not hard as hes tiny now and getting smaller by the year since lost erection) and also some of them better than any sex ive ever had with hubs too lots more stamina lots more orgasms and i tell him so to hes my cuck he needs to know and i know its really gets to him cause more often than not hes cum in his boxers before even me telling him ...totally pathetic ... thats cuckolding

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By *imGimMan
over a year ago

london

If the poster wanted to answer then they could do, rather than someone jumping in to speak on their behalf, but your posts yet again serve as a reminder of whilst being bisexual I’d rather be with a black guy (like my bf) than a white woman, where there’s no fetishisation, none of the racism that you seem to enjoy expressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of emphasis on the couple, but not the “guest”. There have been situations I’ve turned up where it’s like I’m providing a service, and you are can be seen like an unpaid escort service "

In my view, we are the 3rd person, they are the couple in a strong relationship, we can be a friend to them but unless things take a different turn then we are a cock and nothing more.

Swinging is about what different people want, if you don't like what they offer don't meet them. If you need more from that situation then you should discuss your needs as well as theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the poster wanted to answer then they could do, rather than someone jumping in to speak on their behalf, but your posts yet again serve as a reminder of whilst being bisexual I’d rather be with a black guy (like my bf) than a white woman, where there’s no fetishisation, none of the racism that you seem to enjoy expressing "

Who exactly are you responding to and where’s the racism in the comments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of emphasis on the couple, but not the “guest”. There have been situations I’ve turned up where it’s like I’m providing a service, and you are can be seen like an unpaid escort service "

That's because it's a thread posted asking advice from the couple's point of view.

For once, the thread is pretty much sticking to it's topic.

Then there's your posts. (shrugs)

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