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Reality unfulfilling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For years I, like many I'm sure, fantasised about going to a sex club

In october 2019 I went to the Bi party in Eureka...i happened to be working in the area and needed to stay somewhere!

I met some great people and enjoyed the nudity, the chatand seeing boobs bob about in the hot tub

After chatting to a (good looking) couple for a while they invited me to play

I watched for a few mins then the man invited me to join.

I couldn't get it up

Never happened before

But the whole thing felt like an out of body experience. I felt detached.

The woman coaxed me to an orgasm but it was unfulfilling...for her I'm sure but certainly for me.

Anyone else found reality didn't do what you expected..??

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Possibly because it was new to you and nerves got in the way?

Have you been to another club since?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Went a week later...kareoke party!

Sang 'la bamba'....which went down well...but turnout was low so aside from a singsong and a flirt with the barmaid not much going on...

...then c19 came along

Had plenty of 1-1 meets which have gone well

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

My very first time swinging as a couple with another couple - my partner was giving the other guy a blowjob and he was HUGE!

I was not *consciously* threatened by that at all. In fact, I was thrilled for my partner. However, clearly something was going on in my mind, as I couldn't get it up.

That happened again for the next few meets, but eventually I settled into it and the issue resolved on its own.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"My very first time swinging as a couple with another couple - my partner was giving the other guy a blowjob and he was HUGE! "

To be fair, that's the only occasion where I'd really struggle. No way I'm going to be able to please a woman compared to a monster cock. Haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Reality in general is often a let down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had experiences the other way around. I’m naturally a bit queeny and “hard work” so struggle to drop my guard with strangers. But there been some CNC borderline times which..we’re amazing and I kinda hate myself for saying that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Reality in general is often a let down "

The voice of realism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For years I, like many I'm sure, fantasised about going to a sex club

"

maybe had you thought of it as a swingers club rather than a sex club ... sex is not on a plate in a swingers club big difference to sex club and swingers club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For years I, like many I'm sure, fantasised about going to a sex club

maybe had you thought of it as a swingers club rather than a sex club ... sex is not on a plate in a swingers club big difference to sex club and swingers club"

That's a good point

And i cottoned onto that

But i was offered sex....

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"My very first time swinging as a couple with another couple - my partner was giving the other guy a blowjob and he was HUGE!

To be fair, that's the only occasion where I'd really struggle. No way I'm going to be able to please a woman compared to a monster cock. Haha "

Well, that's simply not true. However, I know from other threads of yours how much of an issue this is for you and how many people have told you it needn't be.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If it's only happened once I wouldn't worry mate. If it happens regularly in group situations then maybe you just have to accept that group fun isn't for you.

No shame in that

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