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"2 3 and 4 have happened to me. Try not to over think it. Mental is asvkey as physical " I think it's all mental as I've never had this before | |||
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"Strange question for the men. I've recently started having sex with a new partner but am struggling to cum irrespective of what I try? This has never happened before. Last night we were at it for nearly 2 hours but still no release anyone else had this? How do you mend it? I know a lot of men would probably be happy lasting longer but this ia ridiculous!" I've been like that since I was 18. | |||
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"Is your partner concerned " Not in the slightest! Can't imagine why Oh well, saves on gym membership fees | |||
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"When I first met my current partner he struggled to cum for the first 2 weeks. We'd fuck for hours but nothing. For him it started because he enjoyed fucking me that much that he mentally held off cumming, so he could prolong the pleasure for us both. But because he was doing that he then found it difficult to cum. And yes, because we both were aware of his difficulties in cumming he then began to suffer anxiety about cumming which made this worse. Over time though we both learnt to just enjoy sex and trust each other. He now hits the spot every time and cums on demand lol. My advice, just enjoy sex and don't see cumming as your goal. Oh, also make sure she knows that she's hot as f**k and provides you great sex. I say this as my first thoughts were doubting myself, she'll need a little reassurance thats all. This probably won't help your anxieties though I get that. But its important she knows. And as others have said, avoid anti-depressants if safe to do so or maybe speak to your Dr about changing the one your on. Specifically Sertraline. My partner went on this for a month and for a whole month he couldn't cum, he was rock hard. But the drug always prevented him from reaching orgasm. I think part of it is that Sertraline prevented him from feeling his full emotions and orgasm is mostly a state of mind" Yes all sounds about right ! No antidepressants here so can rule that out! I've never know anything like it ? Oh well, more practice required | |||
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"When I first met my current partner he struggled to cum for the first 2 weeks. We'd fuck for hours but nothing. For him it started because he enjoyed fucking me that much that he mentally held off cumming, so he could prolong the pleasure for us both. But because he was doing that he then found it difficult to cum. And yes, because we both were aware of his difficulties in cumming he then began to suffer anxiety about cumming which made this worse. Over time though we both learnt to just enjoy sex and trust each other. He now hits the spot every time and cums on demand lol. My advice, just enjoy sex and don't see cumming as your goal. Oh, also make sure she knows that she's hot as f**k and provides you great sex. I say this as my first thoughts were doubting myself, she'll need a little reassurance thats all. This probably won't help your anxieties though I get that. But its important she knows. And as others have said, avoid anti-depressants if safe to do so or maybe speak to your Dr about changing the one your on. Specifically Sertraline. My partner went on this for a month and for a whole month he couldn't cum, he was rock hard. But the drug always prevented him from reaching orgasm. I think part of it is that Sertraline prevented him from feeling his full emotions and orgasm is mostly a state of mind" Know all about sertraline! Will never take that again ever! | |||
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"The most common reasons are. 1. You've become too used to the masterbation death grip of your cock. Try going without for a week, see how that changes it. 2. If you're on antidepressants they can stop you being able to cum. 3. You're too in your head, anxious or worrying about things during. 4. The annoyance and anxiety about not being able to cum can cause you to not be able to cum. Definitely agree with the 4th point" Yes to the above. Lube is brilliant for her, but too much can be bad for him: we need friction and pressure as well as a faster rhythm. Men have two places that send back signals to the brain, the penis and the eyes, never under estimate how much us males are very visual creatures. Also, check your T-levels as this is very important. | |||
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""Know all about sertraline! Will never take that again ever!" He found it great for his depression, really helped him overcome some difficult times. The only negative we found was it affecting his ability to reach orgasm. Other than that small issue it was perfect " This is so true. Supportive partners: we salute you. x | |||
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