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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok I've posted this on another thread but that was a bit of a hijack, and I really should have started a new one, so here goes...

Like others who've posted on here I'm hoping for some genuine observations, suggestions, criticisms, thoughts on how my profile (and choice of pics) comes across. So, ladies, if you can spare a minute to check it out and let me know what you think I really would be grateful. I'm genuinely interested and open to all opinions, would just really like to know what I sound like to someone on the receiving end, so to speak(!). Help me out? thanks very much... xxx

john

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Only ladies???? Ok i will read their advises then

PS: i like your honesty about being married

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

haha yeah ok happy to receive reactions from couples/guys too - it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at..."
... and there's your first mistake.....

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Profile looks good to me,your honest maybe somemore pics.....not cock shots though.I'm sure some would say you should put more in about you and what you want and can offer but I prefer to find that out through chatting ....good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the response - but I'm not sure what you're saying my mistake is? (sorry, typical thick bloke, slow on the uptake!) x

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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Pretty boring profile it's 3 lines long, yes you admit your married you don't state what your looking for or what you have to offer.

Plus I can't see any pics apart from your profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Profile looks good to me,your honest maybe somemore pics.....not cock shots though.I'm sure some would say you should put more in about you and what you want and can offer but I prefer to find that out through chatting ....good luck "

Thanks! yes I take your point about more pics, I'm sure that would be an improvement. Interested that you say not cock shots though. for instance, I have one that shows me full frontal nude but it's a shot of my whole head/face/body, and so the 'naughty bits area is relatively small in the pic, and I'm not standing to attention, if you know what I mean - do you think I should avoid showing shots like that?

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I'm sure that would be ok lol I personally like good torso,bum n boxer pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure that would be ok lol I personally like good torso,bum n boxer pics "

well to save any confusion about my description of the pic, I could always send it to you....lol

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By *tra vidaCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at...... and there's your first mistake.....

"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at...... and there's your first mistake.....

Haha "

put me out of my misery! I don't get why saying that is a mistake?

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I'm sure that would be ok lol I personally like good torso,bum n boxer pics

well to save any confusion about my description of the pic, I could always send it to you....lol "

Feel free

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By *tra vidaCouple
over a year ago

Kettering


"it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at...... and there's your first mistake.....

Haha

put me out of my misery! I don't get why saying that is a mistake?"

Because you are making the common mistake of only addressing the female half of the couple. There are many couples, like us, where the male half deals with the bulk of the messages and studies the profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks for the response - but I'm not sure what you're saying my mistake is? (sorry, typical thick bloke, slow on the uptake!) x"
Other posters 'got' my point as you can see by some of the emoticons.

No 1 rule in Swinging is, as it is in many walks of life, is....

NEVER assume ANYTHING....

Why do you assume that men, couples or even - shock! horror! - TV's couldn't make HIGHLY relevant constructive comments about your profile..?? In fact, I would even go further on the TV's thing - there are some very eloquent TV's who post on these forums regularly and who will give you a very objective and constructive critique (seen it done quite a few times) and, strangely, they are often more accurate with any 'issues' you have written in.

As I can now feel the missiles coming at me from the ladies, I shall retire to my shelter.....

Pork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"am straight but not afraid!"... Afraid......? Of what...? Intriguing statement in a profile. One of the most intriguing I've seen in a long while..

Okay, this is my tuppenyworth.. You are openly cheating. This will not appeal to the majority of women and couples (may appeal to some, and some may not be bothered about it at all) but at least you have been honest and admitted it. This will have an influence on when you can meet (regardless of protestations to the contrary) and so it would be helpful to make clear when you can or can't.

However - it is the statement quoted at the start that is more 'worrying' ... and maybe you need to give the implications of such a statement a bit of thought...

Pork

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""am straight but not afraid!"... Afraid......? Of what...? Intriguing statement in a profile. One of the most intriguing I've seen in a long while..

Okay, this is my tuppenyworth.. You are openly cheating. This will not appeal to the majority of women and couples (may appeal to some, and some may not be bothered about it at all) but at least you have been honest and admitted it. This will have an influence on when you can meet (regardless of protestations to the contrary) and so it would be helpful to make clear when you can or can't.

However - it is the statement quoted at the start that is more 'worrying' ... and maybe you need to give the implications of such a statement a bit of thought...

Pork"

All thought-provoking and very useful comments, thanks for your input it's really appreciated. Yes I take your point about the fact that men/couples might have useful observations, and the 'not afraid' was meant to suggest that I'm not afraid of the inevitable close-ish contact between blokes that sometimes occurs in mmf settings - that is, while i'm not bi, I wouldn't freak out if a man accidentally touched me - or even deliberately touched me, in a non-sexual way, if that's any clearer? you're spot on though, I should explain that in the profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""am straight but not afraid!"... Afraid......? Of what...? Intriguing statement in a profile. One of the most intriguing I've seen in a long while..

Okay, this is my tuppenyworth.. You are openly cheating. This will not appeal to the majority of women and couples (may appeal to some, and some may not be bothered about it at all) but at least you have been honest and admitted it. This will have an influence on when you can meet (regardless of protestations to the contrary) and so it would be helpful to make clear when you can or can't.

However - it is the statement quoted at the start that is more 'worrying' ... and maybe you need to give the implications of such a statement a bit of thought...

Pork

All thought-provoking and very useful comments, thanks for your input it's really appreciated. Yes I take your point about the fact that men/couples might have useful observations, and the 'not afraid' was meant to suggest that I'm not afraid of the inevitable close-ish contact between blokes that sometimes occurs in mmf settings - that is, while i'm not bi, I wouldn't freak out if a man accidentally touched me - or even deliberately touched me, in a non-sexual way, if that's any clearer? you're spot on though, I should explain that in the profile x "

Right - good. NOW you're listening... If you make a statement in a profile - you invite the reader to question it. Fact. Now I could have read that statement as meaning 'I'm not afraid.... of my feelings'....

Now, as the 100% straight half of a couple, I would NEVER have you in close proximity to ME as I would not want someone who has got to your age and hasn't worked out if he bats for Middlesex or not!!!!

Be careful of making assumptions - but also be careful of making statements which could be taken in two (or sometimes more!) ways..... just lessens your chances of a meet that way....

Pork

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"it's just that ladies' reactions will be more relevant, as they're the ones I'm aiming at...... and there's your first mistake.....

Haha

put me out of my misery! I don't get why saying that is a mistake?

"

its not even that.... it that if he is wanting to meet couples there are TWO people to get to know..... even it is only on a friends basis..

it is a common mistake single guys also make in clubs... where they will talk to the man and ask permission without saying a word to woman......... or just talk to the woman and leave man out of conversation whatsoever....

if you want to play with couples they tend to come as a package...

if you were with your wife on here (which you are not, different discussion) wouldn't you want people to speak to you both.........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

again, thanks everyone for all your responses - some really interesting and valid points being raised and I'm grateful for all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A 4 line profile which ends in


"let me know if you'd like to hear more"

If you can't be arsed to say anymore about yourself why should any Women be arsed to ask you ?

A bit more info might go along way for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A 4 line profile which ends in

let me know if you'd like to hear more

If you can't be arsed to say anymore about yourself why should any Women be arsed to ask you ?

A bit more info might go along way for you "

Yeah I guess that's an obvious fault - I think at the time I just thought that summed up the important stuff but I know I should try to get a bit more of a flavour of my personality across - thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well, I tried to bear in mind all the helpful tips received above, and have given my prof a makeover - it's now much more detailed. Will probably frighten away even more people than before! xx

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