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By *annyjones1204 OP   Man
over a year ago

by the seaside

Ok so I wanted to get everyone’s opinion and to validate my thought process and if I’m approaching this right.

I’m a single guy looking for a bit of anything so my search is broad and open to most.

I find a profile of a couple who had a relatively big age gap with the f not yet 20.

She is hot as balls and wants a g-bang. Profile states not long term partner or something on those lines.

Mobile online 1800miles away but within 10 to profile.. they say m on holiday f at home.

They want to talk on what’s app but haven’t given names, just sent a phone number. Face pics exchanged but some are screenshots.

Now, I say before we do what’s app, can you send me a photo of you holding a spoon or a toothbrush, which in my head was reasonable (and it worked with my first meet, she sent a fork and received her own forking a bit later) and they decline.

Say they don’t need to, I’m in not position to ask for stuff (I have meet verification) (they say the admin green tick is plenty) and say take it or leave it. So I say coffee first and they don’t reply.

So my question is this, am I being too cautious when faced with a great offer, asking for extra proof checks, or is my request(which I 100% reciprocate) reasonable and justified given the info?

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

It sounds like absolute horse poop to me - I would steer clear

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

It’s not a great offer. A great offer is someone who is as enthusiastic about meeting you as you are them, who will work with you to make it happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run a million miles away from this and don’t stop running until your feet get wet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d stay clear

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If a friend told you what you've told us what would you say?

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

You've been reasonable with them, and they act very suspicious. I'd stay well away

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

Think your being cautious and that's good cause they or he sounds suspicious they can get pics from anywhere on the Internet I always suggest a short video to say hi we're such and such and we're pleased to meet you!sounds to me a guy trying to push his luck! Just remember you don't know these ppl from Adam! And it's always good to be cautious...if they can't do the simplest things! Then I'd take that as a red flag...and cut your losses x cjx

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Stay clear

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Whether they're legit or not, I certainly wouldn't be giving them my phone number.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

More red flags than a Liverpool v Man Utd match!

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

I think you have answered your own question really,as they declined everything you asked for.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

M1 J22


"Ok so I wanted to get everyone’s opinion and to validate my thought process and if I’m approaching this right.

I’m a single guy looking for a bit of anything so my search is broad and open to most.

I find a profile of a couple who had a relatively big age gap with the f not yet 20.

She is hot as balls and wants a g-bang. Profile states not long term partner or something on those lines.

Mobile online 1800miles away but within 10 to profile.. they say m on holiday f at home.

They want to talk on what’s app but haven’t given names, just sent a phone number. Face pics exchanged but some are screenshots.

Now, I say before we do what’s app, can you send me a photo of you holding a spoon or a toothbrush, which in my head was reasonable (and it worked with my first meet, she sent a fork and received her own forking a bit later) and they decline.

Say they don’t need to, I’m in not position to ask for stuff (I have meet verification) (they say the admin green tick is plenty) and say take it or leave it. So I say coffee first and they don’t reply.

So my question is this, am I being too cautious when faced with a great offer, asking for extra proof checks, or is my request(which I 100% reciprocate) reasonable and justified given the info?

"

the mobile thing being 1800 miles away is a massive red flag. Run, run a bit more and then when you feel like you’ve run far enough, go a bit further. This is gonna end badly if you give them any info about you.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Sounds dodgy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you are being messed around.

That is my (owl's) opinion.

Moreover it is your choice and you take responsibility for your own choices. If you decide to not go on my advice and you find out later it would have been for real then that is your choice. If you do go and it is a mess around that is also down to you. Predators prey upon the vulnerable and desperate people become sexually vulnerable and are open to being treated badly.

I feel that your request for a picture holding a spoon was a good option by the way.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

They sound like they are not a rgenuine profile to me. I would steer clear

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Run a million miles away from this and don’t stop running until your feet get wet "

Then dive in and swim.

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By *ithintemptationsCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

jump in head first,book out a hotel and everything ,max out the credit cards

nah,something dodgy there

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Ask if she'll show you her cock.

If she says no it's definitely dodgy.

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

UK

does the green tick actually prove anything ? i think not..

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

Sharing a screenshot instead of face pic is RED RED flag. I wouldn’t bother to talk after it at all.

Firstly: Stupidity is a huge turn off and person who can’t trim screenshot properly before sending is not the wisest one

Secondly: there million of ways to get a proper photo within second this days. If people can’t do it - they most likely have no intention to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As has already been said sounds very suspect to me now i get little or no action of here but even i would steer well clear of these to be honest.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Ask if she'll show you her cock.

If she says no it's definitely dodgy."

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I never send pics online. Ever. So I wouldn't do as you asked

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Your not in a position to ask for stuff?

Sus or not

I try to avoid meeting anyone that thinks I’m a piece of dirt on their shoe because I’m a single guy on here.

Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it sounds dodgy it probably is.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

All the nope

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By *annyjones1204 OP   Man
over a year ago

by the seaside


"Ok so I wanted to get everyone’s opinion and to validate my thought process and if I’m approaching this right.

I’m a single guy looking for a bit of anything so my search is broad and open to most.

I find a profile of a couple who had a relatively big age gap with the f not yet 20.

She is hot as balls and wants a g-bang. Profile states not long term partner or something on those lines.

Mobile online 1800miles away but within 10 to profile.. they say m on holiday f at home.

They want to talk on what’s app but haven’t given names, just sent a phone number. Face pics exchanged but some are screenshots.

Now, I say before we do what’s app, can you send me a photo of you holding a spoon or a toothbrush, which in my head was reasonable (and it worked with my first meet, she sent a fork and received her own forking a bit later) and they decline.

Say they don’t need to, I’m in not position to ask for stuff (I have meet verification) (they say the admin green tick is plenty) and say take it or leave it. So I say coffee first and they don’t reply.

So my question is this, am I being too cautious when faced with a great offer, asking for extra proof checks, or is my request(which I 100% reciprocate) reasonable and justified given the info?

"

UPDATE——————————————————

First off, thanks to everyone who replied, took me ages but I think I’ve read everyone’s messages and I’m happy that I’m not alone in my view.

For anyone interested, when I offered to go for a day time coffee, non committed, the reply was “no we don’t do that, just send her a Whats app and she’ll probably send the picture you want” so that was the final red flag as if I needed anymore.

Won’t be replying to that one

Happy fabbing xXx

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Cautious isn't the first word I thought of when I read this

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By *ongueTwistererMan
over a year ago

telford/ shrewsbury/ bridgnorth/ wolverhampton

When i first joined and a little wet between the ears and eager to start meeting i got suckered into the same sort of thing as you've mentioned i arranged to meet a couple and when arriving at the address given there was a guy on a computer in the window grinning from ear to ear and another guy answered the door. Not knowing anything about this couple i was meant to meet so i left and noticed the guy in the window smirking at me as i exited the garden. I learnt from that first mistake and wont make the same again. Lessons to be learnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I wanted to get everyone’s opinion and to validate my thought process and if I’m approaching this right.

I’m a single guy looking for a bit of anything so my search is broad and open to most.

I find a profile of a couple who had a relatively big age gap with the f not yet 20.

She is hot as balls and wants a g-bang. Profile states not long term partner or something on those lines.

Mobile online 1800miles away but within 10 to profile.. they say m on holiday f at home.

They want to talk on what’s app but haven’t given names, just sent a phone number. Face pics exchanged but some are screenshots.

Now, I say before we do what’s app, can you send me a photo of you holding a spoon or a toothbrush, which in my head was reasonable (and it worked with my first meet, she sent a fork and received her own forking a bit later) and they decline.

Say they don’t need to, I’m in not position to ask for stuff (I have meet verification) (they say the admin green tick is plenty) and say take it or leave it. So I say coffee first and they don’t reply.

So my question is this, am I being too cautious when faced with a great offer, asking for extra proof checks, or is my request(which I 100% reciprocate) reasonable and justified given the info?

"

You can never be too cautious imo whether you're male or female

Everyone on here is a complete stranger and has the potential to be an axe murderer

Most guys would of still just gone along with it so it's good that you acknowledged something is wrong and stopped communication

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say you had a gut feeling and listened to it and they proved you right.

Males need to be careful on here too with all the scammers and people asking for cash to meet etc.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

Sounds like a complete scam. Avoid.

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